Speaking tongues during sex sounds like a terrifying experience for everyone involved. I would need 6 solid months of twice weekly therapy to sort that out. Growing up Pentecostal was traumatizing enough 😂
They’re idolizing marriage and marital sex. Marital sex is a lovely thing, but the act itself doesn’t increase one’s holiness. A single person is equally close to God as a married person. Purity culture has cultivated this damaging idea that marriage is the ultimate expression of Christianity. They’ve turned sex into a spiritual rite. It’s gross.
That chorus of "yaaas, yaaas" tho.... My win: I'm now officially credit card debt and unnecessary-loan free! My last debt is my car loan, which is totally acceptable 😊
@@JulieAVLthanks! I'm basically broke for this month because I had to empty out my envelopes and accounts, but it's worth it to wipe that skate clean!
I truly feel like these ladies are all using each other to gain followers on social media. I don’t see this as a genuine group, especially becoming best friends within weeks of knowing each other.
I wear the label introvert proudly and do not find shame in it. The problem is BDong and her crew are recommending to people who are struggling with that part of their identity to change. Introverts do not need to change! The world tends to be extroverted and needs to be accommodating to us.
Yaaas!!! I got so sick of always seeing “get over your introverted tendencies” in a lot of different magazines! Where are the articles extolling the virtues of being able to observe, take the time to process and internalize information before making a statement? You hardly see those articles anywhere.
She's also confusing introversion (which is essentially just a lower need for social interaction) with being socially awkward and even unlikeable. I am very introverted, and I need a lot of alone time, but I also enjoy social interactions and I'll even cheerfully chat to people on buses or in supermarket queues. I'm not unlikeable and I don't need fixing!
So when the lady first mentioned having pieces of her heart given away I was like, "Well, at least she didn't bring up soul ties." And then they did a few minutes later. 😑 So I'm in my early 30's, grew up in church and went to a Christian school that was heavily steeped in purity culture, and I had never heard of soul ties until I was 29 and a coworker brought it up. I just remember thinking, "What on earth are you talking about? I've read the entire Bible and that is not in there." And then to hear them think you can catch anxiety or depression from someone that you have sex with? No. Just no. Mental health diagnoses are not STI's. They're not a germ. They're not contagious. The closest you can get to "catching" a mental health condition is if you inherit a genetic predisposition from a parent. Them telling others you can spread anxiety and depression through premarital/extramarital sex absolutely disgusts me as a licensed therapist.
I had heard of 'soul ties' but never to the extent that people believe in the 'inheritance' of depression and anxiety from a sexual partner. So ridiculous and wrong!
Purity doctrine has definitely evolved from the “duct tape” sermon days. I was always suspicious of Christianity’s restrictions of sex and relationships(big surprise I’m queer LOL) I can’t imagine what my mindset would have been being taught about “soul ties” as a consequence of being intimate with a partner.
These were my thoughts exactly - it sounds like people who are really wanting an explanation for something they believe they have no other answer for/solution for...Which is sad and understandable - but this kind of messaging is super toxic and unsafe for people actually suffering.
What’s interesting is the people I have heard about soul ties from are people who are more new age, how energy from sex is transferred and can affect mental health. That’s interesting because Brittany is very against anything even close to new age. Not saying I agree or disagree on new age practices, just thought it was interesting
@@sarahyount9927 Well the thing is, when you start to look closely, you will find that 'new age' and 'christianity' have a LOT of overlap, and that you can kind of justify new age beliefs with fundamentalism and vice versa - because we aren't all that creative when coming up with rules about the universe as a species ;) There is a lot of overlap and just changing of the words even though the concepts at their core are the same.
I have a serious problem with the fundamentalist opinion on porn & masturbation. They think if someone views porn a handful of times, it’s an addiction. If a person masturbates occasionally, it’s an addiction and you’re dirty, shameful and broken. It’s just such an extreme and sad way to look at an aspect of sexual health. I shudder to think just how many people are ashamed, self loathing and depressed because of that messaging.
My win for the week: reaching out and setting up an appt with a new psychiatrist and scheduling with a new therapist. My mental health has been taking a toll and finally mustered up the courage to reach out.
I’d bet money that none of them actually know the definition of addiction. We’re they addicted to porn or did they get really into bc it was new and forbidden? Did it change their brain chemistry? Did they skip obligations to watch porn? We’re they unable to have sex or masturbate without it?
Did they continue to watch porn despite negative, harmful consequences? Because THAT is the definition of addiction. These hags know NOTHING about ANYTHING.
My win for the week is getting a random burst of energy and finally moving the random furniture sitting in the middle of my living space into somewhere I don’t have to walk around it. Seriously, they’ve been out of place for over a month
My win for the week is I started my Master's classes and I got a 97.5% on a quiz for my Analytical Chem class! I am super happy and proud of it because I typically struggle with online classes so to get that made me very very happy
I had a courthouse wedding…8 mos pregnant…with our second child. But I do believe we have a beautiful relationship and family. We just went through life in a different order 😅 But I loved my ceremony and wouldn’t change it for anything.
A loss of libido is also super common if youre on antidepressants. And LOTS of people are on antidepressants. Or other meds. Also age and health situation. And how is your relationship? Is it safe? Happy? New? Old? Those are the first things id ask that person who had libido problems. These ladies are oddly preformative. Its kinda funny 😂
See… I think exploring my own body at a young aged is what SAVED me from just giving myself away to anybody as a minor. I waited until I was 19 and it was with someone super special and I do not regret it ❤
my win for the week is that i started college, it was a bit tough bc i’m introverted but i made friends and found out i’m not the only one who’s feeling like making friends in college is hard
My dad is divorced and many Christians in our life would openly say that every negative thing in our family’s life was due to my dads divorce. I don’t know if it was ever specifically said that my dad was living in sin for remarrying my mom…. but it would not at all surprise me if it was.
My boyfriend and I had to say goodbye to our beloved dog this Wednesday and we are both just heartbroken and devastated that she is no longer here… So, this week has been the hardest one I ever had to go through, but I think my win for the week is that I am finding some kind of comfort knowing that she is at peace now, she died as peacefully as she could in my boyfriend’s arms, and knowing that the gut wrenching, painful grief I am feeling right now is the immense love I have for her with nowhere to go.❤️ Thank you for this video. I always enjoy your commentary and the distraction is greatly appreciated this week ❤
I am very sorry for your loss. I went through the same thing last year with my dog. She was my best friend for 18 years. I was with her at the end and it was incredibly painful. I have not cried that much for many years. Like you, I felt better that it was peaceful and I know that she now makes a good angel looking down on me.
Something that really bothers me is how much they are building up that moment of first sex. What happens when it's not that beautiful, magical, moment? Sex isn't enjoyable to everyone. What then ladies?
The introvert thing cracked me UP! First, Jesus absolutely was an introvert. Dude had to have 40 days / nights in the WILD by himself when he found out what he was going to have to do; he asked for time away from the disciples before he was arrested; and he constantly just up and disappeared from the disciples lol. Anyways, back to the whole introvert “speaking death over yourself” thing. My parents raised me in the same toxic thinking (I believe it’s something in these “spiritual healer” circles) and boy, was it ANNOYING! Its such a low-level, low-effort way of thinking and being; and it ultimately doesn’t allow anyone the space to express *a n y t h i n g* or ever truly feel like they’re being heard. It’s the thought that your words hold all this power and you’re speaking things over yourself that A. God hasn’t spoken over you (??) B. The Bible doesn’t speak over you (_obviously… as societies develop & discover things over time and language has to adapt therefore we can’t expect a some-odd thousand year old book to mention specific things._) It’s often to the point that you can’t even share physical ailments or conditions because, “you shouldn’t speak that over yourself and be healed in Jesus’s name!” Yuuuck. My sister and I both are so triggered by that last phrase lol.
I was thinking the same thing when it came to Jesus and the introvert thing too 😄 man also needed a lot of time alone to recharge from being around people, like, you know, a classic introvert.
I don't want to sound flippant, but it feels like every other person thinks they were addicted to masturbation or p*rn when they were probably experiencing normal feelings and doing normal things at an average frequency.
My win: i finally did my nails for the first time in ages and got our new puppy to associate pooping outside with treats he actually likes so potty training is going great
B, I'm going through a tough time at the moment and I don't have family or many close friends nearby, and watching your videos feels like I have a friend in the room, so thank you ❤
Holy O_O! Barely six minutes in, but I've got to ask... Do these people seriously believe that introversion is a bad thing? That it's something which needs to be 'fixed' or even deserves to be worried about? Seriously, what is wrong with these people?
I would argue there’s a decent probability that Jesus WAS an introvert. How many times in the Bible has he been like yo I need some alone time and just disappears 😅
But the cost of a wedding isn't the only financial consideration? For low income people receiving social safety net services- TAXES! If you file jointly, you risk pricing yourself out of qualifying ranges, especially in states like Texas that don't expand eligibility. Many services not directly linked to government programs still use those eligibility requirements. Sure, you can file separately, but then you bar yourself from claiming certain deductions (like student loan interest iirc). Taxes are just one of many things. When you're walking that very thin line at poverty between too poor to afford to live but not poor enough for help, every decision is impacted by finances.
49:51 😡 asking God to give the man who was cheated on “grace” and just trample over his right to decide what is best for him…. These ladies are something else
This was really interesting. I’m still not going to be a Brittany follower anytime soon but her religious takes here were more nuanced and showed more actual biblical knowledge than I’ve seen from her before. It was at least a bit less Christian influencer buzz-wordy and that combined with the lack of Jordan made this a whole lot more listenable. Re “Jesus wasn’t an introvert(so you shouldn’t be either)” 🙄 there’s obviously lots of personal interpretation/see your own experience there but I 100% see Jesus as an introvert and the story of the woman at the well (which started with him choosing not to go into town with his disciples) referenced later in the episode is one of many incidents that makes me read him this way.
"I keep hearing" is definitely in the Pentecostal/charismatic lexicon, meaning they are hearing from God directly and not just thinking of a verse or word. I don't think this a healthy line of thinking, but it's one I've personally experienced and I do feel some sympathy for them because it's really hard to live your life when your thoughts and God's voice are all jumbled together, especially if you don't speak to yourself very kindly (which many folks don't).
My win for the week is that my fiancé and I successfully hosted a wonderful engagement party with our parents and close friends. 🎉 we are getting more excited to start our lives together!
I can't believe I'm about to say this, but compared to these ladies, I appreciate the way Bethany Beale has been talking about sex in her somewhat scammy sex course that someone reviewed on here. She is realistic that it might not be amazing, and emphasizes the potential need for lube, etc. While these ladies and Bethany all talked about the importance of talking more in the church about sex and what to expect, she has a much more realistic view than Brittany, I think. Rather than being taught that it's going to be perfect, people need to be taught all aspects: consent, proper names of body parts, mutual pleasure, etc.
I was already getting the vibe of "extroverts who can't understand introverts" but the "speaking death"... oh man. LOL. But really, are we not allowed to call ourselves something that (probably) didn't apply to Jesus...? I... that's such a strange thing to say. Edit: I've heard about soul ties from tradcons and manosphere folk, but the idea that you'll take on any depression / anxiety / etc from someone you've slept with... that's new. And what on Earth?? That doesn't make any sense.
52:30 she admitted openly in a video once that the reason her and Zach got divorced was because she “emotionally cheated” on him for months. So I’m not sure when the narrative changed that he abused her. Does anyone else remember her saying this? And then when she was dating that Niko guy at the same time she had the pit bull named Niko he did the same thing to her on Instagram and then everyone was ripping her to shreds for having double standards after doing the same thing to Zach.
I havent even finished the ep, but I can't help but people say if sex is that great the first time that they're speaking in tongues, I have a feeling they might possibly be lying to you to keep you "pure".
30:24 I get really irritated when people talk as if every time a husband and wife has sex for the first time it’s this magical spiritual experience when a lot of the times that’s not the case.
So I will say that I do agree with renewing of the vows. I’ve been married for 10 months But my husband and I have talked about renewing our vows at our one year mark. After living together and just experiencing this first year, it makes us think deeper into what our vows for each other are.
The venn diagram of introvert/neurodivergent could almost be a circle and these people remind me of all those that called me weird at school and bullied me.
Even though they "encourage" the one person to go to the courthouse to get married , I have a feeling they would be the same people judging them for going that route because Ive seen that many times
I’m glad it is starting to heal! Don’t get too ambitious with how much you can walk now that you’re feeling better no matter how tempted you are 😂 keep resting the foot as long as you can lol.
I do think Jesus sounds like he was an introvert by todays terms. He took time to himself. Spent time with a small group before he did larger speeches. Was open about when he felt energy leaving him. Was open about needing time alone to recharge. Why is that a bad thing? Has nothing to do about your care for people. 🤷♀️. (And. Neither introvert nor extrovert is a bad thing.
23:21-that’s just bananas! That’s not how it works. So glad I found your channel B! I went to catholic school for half of my childhood. Luckily they never taught sex is shameful. My heart goes out to you and others who were taught conflicting ideas and struggle with how to reconcile not being what the church calls pure. 💙
Tomorrow is my last paid day off of a random vacation week. My babies (last set of twins) started their last first day of school (Seniors) and I always take the first week of school off for 19 years. I napped soo much this week and have my grandbabies for the night (my oldest sons 2 kids)
They should call this podcast "A million "mmms" and "Yes" podcast" lol. It was so annoying! Also they spent a lot of time laughing at things that weren't at all funny to me. I guess we have different sense of humors because I wasn't laughing. One of the big issues with purity culture is that it pushes the idea that if you save sex for marriage, sex is going to amazing and magical and that's exactly what they were pushing....and for tons and tons of people that is NOT the case at all. That's not realistic and is exactly what people don't need to be telling people...especially young people. I mean even if she doesn't want to admit it, Bethany from Girl Defined has created an entire sex course(not a good one from what I've seen and heard) because of the damage that narrative and the lack of education has done to her. Also soul ties truly makes me roll my eyes. I'm an Athiest now but I was raised Southern Baptist and they are very very against speaking in tongues...I mean I've heard people say it's a sin. It's a massive no no for them. So the idea of someone speaking in tongues when having sex for some reason really made me laugh!
There is an argument to be made for Jesus being an introvert. Introverts can make some of the best leaders Andean be very sociable and outgoing, they're not necessarily socially awkward, anti-social or have social anxiety or are shy, extroverts can be these things as well, they're not one and the same thing, it's not a symptom of one or the other is what I'm trying to say. Introverts more than likely like spending time alone and thrive doing so, that's how they recharge, so they tend to be more introspective because they're in their head so much and like thinking about things that they are more likely to be able to solve their problems whereas extroverts are so antsy and uncomfortable when they are alone with their thoughts that they are more likely to externalised their problems and don't spend a lot of time in their heads thinking of thing's and solving their problems internally instead at least that's what the extroverts in my life are like. I know not all introverts and extroverts are like this, but the ones in my life are so I'm speaking from personal experience so if extroverts feel differently please do tell, if you want to. Suffice it to say, introverts can make great leaders because they listen well and can be good problem solvers.
Introvert = batteries recharged during alone time Extrovert = batteries recharged when around others. Heard this a little while back and it made so much sense. I like being around friends and family and being out but my batteries are recharged during alone time.
My win for the week was my sister and I saw Wicked for the first time. It was a lot of fun. The only unfortunate thing was they didn’t have the audio description. They only had the device for the hard of hearing.
So for the speaking in tongues thing… that rule of not speaking in tongues without someone there to translate is speaking specifically to meeting as a church or congregation. Which is a good rule bc as you said typically it’s done more and abused when there is no one to translate. But if you speak in tongues or in the spirit on your own- it’s not an issue. I don’t speak in tongues but I’m just explaining.
WFTW: Got to go to a comics show to table there. Sales could have been better, but got to see and meet new people and a few familiar faces. As a fellow introvert, I’m quite insulted by Brittany’s casual dismissal of the term. Again, judging and using Scripture to defend her specious claim. The emergency of more “Purity Culture” is no surprise. You are quite right, she has gathered up her Echo Chamber to blindly agree everything she says. Yes, I am a Christian, but I don’t believe in this idea of “soul-ties”. I had never heard the term until I was exposed to these Conservative Christian “Influencers”. I found the idea a bit silly, and ripe for these folks to weaponize it in order to promote their ideals. Interesting addition to the whole “speaking in tongues” thing. I wasn’t aware that an interpreter was needed. Every time I see it in some footage of it happening, I never see anyone interpreting.
The conversation with the woman and her affair really ticked me off. Of course the woman who had an affair knows she messed up and wants to be that Godly wife to her husband now. I can’t believe they even suggested the husband needs to be merciful when the wife completely blames herself. Ugh Also. Why is legal marriage the ONLY line for marriage? Legal marriage does not equate to biblical marriage.
Glad to see you keep covering Brittany and her new minions. I’m taking bets on how long these sissy girlies last. (None of them were in her wedding party….. 🙄)
“Sorry babe, can’t come over. New B Haney just dropped.”
Ditto 😂
Speaking tongues during sex sounds like a terrifying experience for everyone involved. I would need 6 solid months of twice weekly therapy to sort that out. Growing up Pentecostal was traumatizing enough 😂
That....well, it's just really weird, huh? 😂
Speaking in tongues…..during??? I’m sorry I am absolutely dying rn 😂
“Jesus wasn’t an introvert” ummm excuse me? He was constantly fleeing crowds and hiding to recharge. He absolutely was an introvert 😂
They’re idolizing marriage and marital sex. Marital sex is a lovely thing, but the act itself doesn’t increase one’s holiness. A single person is equally close to God as a married person. Purity culture has cultivated this damaging idea that marriage is the ultimate expression of Christianity. They’ve turned sex into a spiritual rite. It’s gross.
It’s weird they talk about soul ties but the one girls husband slept with a few women or many, then she’s like, but it’s all good . Weird?!
@@evelynmatt2000Double standard.
Why does them saying “the enemy” make me think that they’re soldiers sitting around plotting a strategic attack
SOUL TIES ARENT IN THE BIBLEEEEEEE. This makes me so ragey. God’s design for marriage =\= soul ties.
That chorus of "yaaas, yaaas" tho....
My win: I'm now officially credit card debt and unnecessary-loan free! My last debt is my car loan, which is totally acceptable 😊
Congrats!! That is a fantastic accomplishment, especially now. Well done!
@@JulieAVLthanks! I'm basically broke for this month because I had to empty out my envelopes and accounts, but it's worth it to wipe that skate clean!
That's awesome! So rare these days, too!
Reading this brought me joy. Thanks for sharing!
Oh my God, the overwhelming "mhm"s and "yes"s are driving me nuts
If I wasn't so interested in B's perspective I wouldn't be able to finish this 😆
@@carriepinkduck lool honestly!!
I truly feel like these ladies are all using each other to gain followers on social media. I don’t see this as a genuine group, especially becoming best friends within weeks of knowing each other.
I wear the label introvert proudly and do not find shame in it. The problem is BDong and her crew are recommending to people who are struggling with that part of their identity to change. Introverts do not need to change! The world tends to be extroverted and needs to be accommodating to us.
Yaaas!!! I got so sick of always seeing “get over your introverted tendencies” in a lot of different magazines! Where are the articles extolling the virtues of being able to observe, take the time to process and internalize information before making a statement? You hardly see those articles anywhere.
She's also confusing introversion (which is essentially just a lower need for social interaction) with being socially awkward and even unlikeable. I am very introverted, and I need a lot of alone time, but I also enjoy social interactions and I'll even cheerfully chat to people on buses or in supermarket queues. I'm not unlikeable and I don't need fixing!
therapist here 👋 re the nonsense at 23:00... NOPE! that's, that's just NOT how mental illness works 🤦♀ thanks for going on this ride with us 🤣
I’m of the belief that purity culture is nonsense. Rushing into marriage or carrying guilt if you didn’t wait is even worse. Just my opinion.
Sorry you got ran thru.
Soul ties meaning that depression and other mental illness is contagious is so harmful. It’s so damaging and adds to mental illness stigma :(
My win: husband got a job after three months of looking!
Also you look especially beautiful today 😊
What an incredible win!! 🎉 I hope this job is a great fit for him.
And thank you ☺️
So when the lady first mentioned having pieces of her heart given away I was like, "Well, at least she didn't bring up soul ties." And then they did a few minutes later. 😑
So I'm in my early 30's, grew up in church and went to a Christian school that was heavily steeped in purity culture, and I had never heard of soul ties until I was 29 and a coworker brought it up. I just remember thinking, "What on earth are you talking about? I've read the entire Bible and that is not in there." And then to hear them think you can catch anxiety or depression from someone that you have sex with? No. Just no. Mental health diagnoses are not STI's. They're not a germ. They're not contagious. The closest you can get to "catching" a mental health condition is if you inherit a genetic predisposition from a parent. Them telling others you can spread anxiety and depression through premarital/extramarital sex absolutely disgusts me as a licensed therapist.
I had heard of 'soul ties' but never to the extent that people believe in the 'inheritance' of depression and anxiety from a sexual partner. So ridiculous and wrong!
Purity doctrine has definitely evolved from the “duct tape” sermon days. I was always suspicious of Christianity’s restrictions of sex and relationships(big surprise I’m queer LOL) I can’t imagine what my mindset would have been being taught about “soul ties” as a consequence of being intimate with a partner.
These were my thoughts exactly - it sounds like people who are really wanting an explanation for something they believe they have no other answer for/solution for...Which is sad and understandable - but this kind of messaging is super toxic and unsafe for people actually suffering.
What’s interesting is the people I have heard about soul ties from are people who are more new age, how energy from sex is transferred and can affect mental health. That’s interesting because Brittany is very against anything even close to new age. Not saying I agree or disagree on new age practices, just thought it was interesting
@@sarahyount9927 Well the thing is, when you start to look closely, you will find that 'new age' and 'christianity' have a LOT of overlap, and that you can kind of justify new age beliefs with fundamentalism and vice versa - because we aren't all that creative when coming up with rules about the universe as a species ;) There is a lot of overlap and just changing of the words even though the concepts at their core are the same.
I have a serious problem with the fundamentalist opinion on porn & masturbation. They think if someone views porn a handful of times, it’s an addiction. If a person masturbates occasionally, it’s an addiction and you’re dirty, shameful and broken. It’s just such an extreme and sad way to look at an aspect of sexual health. I shudder to think just how many people are ashamed, self loathing and depressed because of that messaging.
And it’s ironic because their conversation near the beginning (speaking in tongues. We were made totally pure. Etc) seemed…masturbatory.
My win for the week: reaching out and setting up an appt with a new psychiatrist and scheduling with a new therapist. My mental health has been taking a toll and finally mustered up the courage to reach out.
I’d bet money that none of them actually know the definition of addiction. We’re they addicted to porn or did they get really into bc it was new and forbidden? Did it change their brain chemistry? Did they skip obligations to watch porn? We’re they unable to have sex or masturbate without it?
They don’t know anything about anything and it shows
YeH also watching porn once a week really cannot be considered an addiction. Like come on.
Did they continue to watch porn despite negative, harmful consequences? Because THAT is the definition of addiction. These hags know NOTHING about ANYTHING.
I'm always extremely wary when fundie influencers talk about porn addiction for this exact reason
this comment is GOLD
They’ve made purity an idol.
They absolutely have!
55:47 I have a huge problem with "if you are supposed to leave you'll feel at peace with it". Leaving - even or especially abuse - is HARD.
I’m probably gonna be saying “Omg yessss” for the rest of the day 😂😂
My win for the week is getting a random burst of energy and finally moving the random furniture sitting in the middle of my living space into somewhere I don’t have to walk around it. Seriously, they’ve been out of place for over a month
My win for the week is I started my Master's classes and I got a 97.5% on a quiz for my Analytical Chem class! I am super happy and proud of it because I typically struggle with online classes so to get that made me very very happy
I had a courthouse wedding…8 mos pregnant…with our second child.
But I do believe we have a beautiful relationship and family. We just went through life in a different order 😅
But I loved my ceremony and wouldn’t change it for anything.
We got married through the JOP too. Coming up on 24 years!
A loss of libido is also super common if youre on antidepressants. And LOTS of people are on antidepressants. Or other meds. Also age and health situation. And how is your relationship? Is it safe? Happy? New? Old?
Those are the first things id ask that person who had libido problems.
These ladies are oddly preformative. Its kinda funny 😂
My win for the week is that I got through it. Mental health at a low and I’m looking forward to getting a bit of sleep this weekend.
See… I think exploring my own body at a young aged is what SAVED me from just giving myself away to anybody as a minor. I waited until I was 19 and it was with someone super special and I do not regret it ❤
“Hey I’m an introvert” means “I’m not ready to socialize before church with you, Fallon”
My win for the week was that I went to an LGBT choir for the first time on Thursday night and it was amazing
I love that you photoshopped yourself onto the pic of britt and her girlfriends 😂😂😂😂😂
my win for the week is that i started college, it was a bit tough bc i’m introverted but i made friends and found out i’m not the only one who’s feeling like making friends in college is hard
The first week of college is intimidating for almost everyone so you’re definitely not alone 💛 I’m glad you were able to make some friends already!!
My dad is divorced and many Christians in our life would openly say that every negative thing in our family’s life was due to my dads divorce. I don’t know if it was ever specifically said that my dad was living in sin for remarrying my mom…. but it would not at all surprise me if it was.
My boyfriend and I had to say goodbye to our beloved dog this Wednesday and we are both just heartbroken and devastated that she is no longer here… So, this week has been the hardest one I ever had to go through, but I think my win for the week is that I am finding some kind of comfort knowing that she is at peace now, she died as peacefully as she could in my boyfriend’s arms, and knowing that the gut wrenching, painful grief I am feeling right now is the immense love I have for her with nowhere to go.❤️
Thank you for this video. I always enjoy your commentary and the distraction is greatly appreciated this week ❤
I am very sorry for your loss. I went through the same thing last year with my dog. She was my best friend for 18 years. I was with her at the end and it was incredibly painful. I have not cried that much for many years. Like you, I felt better that it was peaceful and I know that she now makes a good angel looking down on me.
@@62beachbum thank you for your kind words 💖 the love we have for our fur babies 💖💛
THE THUMBNAIL 😂😂😂😂❤️❤️❤️❤️
Something that really bothers me is how much they are building up that moment of first sex. What happens when it's not that beautiful, magical, moment? Sex isn't enjoyable to everyone. What then ladies?
The introvert thing cracked me UP! First, Jesus absolutely was an introvert. Dude had to have 40 days / nights in the WILD by himself when he found out what he was going to have to do; he asked for time away from the disciples before he was arrested; and he constantly just up and disappeared from the disciples lol.
Anyways, back to the whole introvert “speaking death over yourself” thing. My parents raised me in the same toxic thinking (I believe it’s something in these “spiritual healer” circles) and boy, was it ANNOYING! Its such a low-level, low-effort way of thinking and being; and it ultimately doesn’t allow anyone the space to express *a n y t h i n g* or ever truly feel like they’re being heard. It’s the thought that your words hold all this power and you’re speaking things over yourself that A. God hasn’t spoken over you (??) B. The Bible doesn’t speak over you (_obviously… as societies develop & discover things over time and language has to adapt therefore we can’t expect a some-odd thousand year old book to mention specific things._) It’s often to the point that you can’t even share physical ailments or conditions because, “you shouldn’t speak that over yourself and be healed in Jesus’s name!” Yuuuck. My sister and I both are so triggered by that last phrase lol.
I was thinking the same thing when it came to Jesus and the introvert thing too 😄 man also needed a lot of time alone to recharge from being around people, like, you know, a classic introvert.
I thought this as well. Jesus sought solitude A LOT.
I don't want to sound flippant, but it feels like every other person thinks they were addicted to masturbation or p*rn when they were probably experiencing normal feelings and doing normal things at an average frequency.
My win: i finally did my nails for the first time in ages and got our new puppy to associate pooping outside with treats he actually likes so potty training is going great
Ooh fun! Freshly done nails are the best.
And that’s awesome you got a puppy! 😍 I’m glad to hear potty training is going well!
B, I'm going through a tough time at the moment and I don't have family or many close friends nearby, and watching your videos feels like I have a friend in the room, so thank you ❤
“It was interesting because it wasn’t interesting” lol 😂
31:20 it’s just prosperity gospel applied to sex
This!
Holy O_O! Barely six minutes in, but I've got to ask... Do these people seriously believe that introversion is a bad thing? That it's something which needs to be 'fixed' or even deserves to be worried about? Seriously, what is wrong with these people?
Stupid people believe. They confuse misanthrope, social anxiety, or social awkwardness for “introversion
Speaking in tounges while having sex… what
That would freak me out more than baby talk during sex! Just no.
Win for the week is we got our family pictures back and they are amazing!
I would argue there’s a decent probability that Jesus WAS an introvert. How many times in the Bible has he been like yo I need some alone time and just disappears 😅
But the cost of a wedding isn't the only financial consideration? For low income people receiving social safety net services- TAXES! If you file jointly, you risk pricing yourself out of qualifying ranges, especially in states like Texas that don't expand eligibility. Many services not directly linked to government programs still use those eligibility requirements. Sure, you can file separately, but then you bar yourself from claiming certain deductions (like student loan interest iirc). Taxes are just one of many things. When you're walking that very thin line at poverty between too poor to afford to live but not poor enough for help, every decision is impacted by finances.
49:51 😡 asking God to give the man who was cheated on “grace” and just trample over his right to decide what is best for him…. These ladies are something else
My win: I started my final year of my undergrad, AND finally started working on my Honours thesis!
This was really interesting. I’m still not going to be a Brittany follower anytime soon but her religious takes here were more nuanced and showed more actual biblical knowledge than I’ve seen from her before. It was at least a bit less Christian influencer buzz-wordy and that combined with the lack of Jordan made this a whole lot more listenable.
Re “Jesus wasn’t an introvert(so you shouldn’t be either)” 🙄 there’s obviously lots of personal interpretation/see your own experience there but I 100% see Jesus as an introvert and the story of the woman at the well (which started with him choosing not to go into town with his disciples) referenced later in the episode is one of many incidents that makes me read him this way.
"I keep hearing" is definitely in the Pentecostal/charismatic lexicon, meaning they are hearing from God directly and not just thinking of a verse or word. I don't think this a healthy line of thinking, but it's one I've personally experienced and I do feel some sympathy for them because it's really hard to live your life when your thoughts and God's voice are all jumbled together, especially if you don't speak to yourself very kindly (which many folks don't).
My win for the week is that my fiancé and I successfully hosted a wonderful engagement party with our parents and close friends. 🎉 we are getting more excited to start our lives together!
I can't believe I'm about to say this, but compared to these ladies, I appreciate the way Bethany Beale has been talking about sex in her somewhat scammy sex course that someone reviewed on here. She is realistic that it might not be amazing, and emphasizes the potential need for lube, etc. While these ladies and Bethany all talked about the importance of talking more in the church about sex and what to expect, she has a much more realistic view than Brittany, I think. Rather than being taught that it's going to be perfect, people need to be taught all aspects: consent, proper names of body parts, mutual pleasure, etc.
I was already getting the vibe of "extroverts who can't understand introverts" but the "speaking death"... oh man. LOL.
But really, are we not allowed to call ourselves something that (probably) didn't apply to Jesus...? I... that's such a strange thing to say.
Edit: I've heard about soul ties from tradcons and manosphere folk, but the idea that you'll take on any depression / anxiety / etc from someone you've slept with... that's new. And what on Earth?? That doesn't make any sense.
And what if all of your partners are super well adjusted and mentally healthy? Will sleeping with them cure your depression and anxiety??
I never heard of speaking in tongues while doing the deed but that actually sounds really hot and passionate 😂
My most exciting win for the week is my hubby bought us tickets to Billy Joel/Stevie Nicks concert in December!
I get so excited for your videos! My win is a little silly..but my husband bought me my first Stanley and it made my day!😊
52:30 she admitted openly in a video once that the reason her and Zach got divorced was because she “emotionally cheated” on him for months. So I’m not sure when the narrative changed that he abused her. Does anyone else remember her saying this? And then when she was dating that Niko guy at the same time she had the pit bull named Niko he did the same thing to her on Instagram and then everyone was ripping her to shreds for having double standards after doing the same thing to Zach.
I havent even finished the ep, but I can't help but people say if sex is that great the first time that they're speaking in tongues, I have a feeling they might possibly be lying to you to keep you "pure".
My win for the week was setting healthy boundaries with a friend!
Boundaries are so important, it’s great you were able to initiate those with your friend! 💛
30:24 I get really irritated when people talk as if every time a husband and wife has sex for the first time it’s this magical spiritual experience when a lot of the times that’s not the case.
So I will say that I do agree with renewing of the vows.
I’ve been married for 10 months
But my husband and I have talked about renewing our vows at our one year mark. After living together and just experiencing this first year, it makes us think deeper into what our vows for each other are.
"Bold move, Cotton. Let's see if it pays off." 😆😆
The venn diagram of introvert/neurodivergent could almost be a circle and these people remind me of all those that called me weird at school and bullied me.
Even though they "encourage" the one person to go to the courthouse to get married , I have a feeling they would be the same people judging them for going that route because Ive seen that many times
That's a little over simplistic. I think a lot of us with adhd are extroverted.
You are projecting too hard.
I’ve never clicked so fast 😂 my win for the week is that my sprained foot is finally starting to heal!
I’m glad it is starting to heal! Don’t get too ambitious with how much you can walk now that you’re feeling better no matter how tempted you are 😂 keep resting the foot as long as you can lol.
Definitely do part 3. Great episode as usual
I do think Jesus sounds like he was an introvert by todays terms. He took time to himself. Spent time with a small group before he did larger speeches. Was open about when he felt energy leaving him. Was open about needing time alone to recharge. Why is that a bad thing? Has nothing to do about your care for people. 🤷♀️.
(And. Neither introvert nor extrovert is a bad thing.
Love u B!! It took me several days to get through this episode because these ladies are just crazy
My win for the week is it's currently 66 degrees and cloudy! I'm loving it!
Oh I’m jealous, that weather sounds incredible!
23:21-that’s just bananas! That’s not how it works. So glad I found your channel B!
I went to catholic school for half of my childhood. Luckily they never taught sex is shameful. My heart goes out to you and others who were taught conflicting ideas and struggle with how to reconcile not being what the church calls pure. 💙
Yayyyy oh love these videos they’re part of my friday routine now
It took me a second to realize you edited yourself into the group picture - dying 😂
Lol the thumbnail 🤣 love how you photoshopped yourself in!
Haha glad you enjoyed that!
B, you’re such a breath of fresh air. 🥰
Watched this the other day but dropped by to say how amazing the thumbnail is!
I’m only 22 minutes in but the other women constantly agreeing and saying yes and stuff over the person talking is so incredibly distracting to me.
Just found your channel! Finally someone speaking about these things that I can relate to! ❤
I’m glad to have you here! 💛
I love it every time you tell the story of the woman at the well!!!
Tomorrow is my last paid day off of a random vacation week. My babies (last set of twins) started their last first day of school (Seniors) and I always take the first week of school off for 19 years. I napped soo much this week and have my grandbabies for the night (my oldest sons 2 kids)
🤭It's the thumbnail for me!🤣love it
They should call this podcast "A million "mmms" and "Yes" podcast" lol. It was so annoying! Also they spent a lot of time laughing at things that weren't at all funny to me. I guess we have different sense of humors because I wasn't laughing. One of the big issues with purity culture is that it pushes the idea that if you save sex for marriage, sex is going to amazing and magical and that's exactly what they were pushing....and for tons and tons of people that is NOT the case at all. That's not realistic and is exactly what people don't need to be telling people...especially young people. I mean even if she doesn't want to admit it, Bethany from Girl Defined has created an entire sex course(not a good one from what I've seen and heard) because of the damage that narrative and the lack of education has done to her. Also soul ties truly makes me roll my eyes. I'm an Athiest now but I was raised Southern Baptist and they are very very against speaking in tongues...I mean I've heard people say it's a sin. It's a massive no no for them. So the idea of someone speaking in tongues when having sex for some reason really made me laugh!
I just started watching the vid, but I needed to say you're makeup looks beautiful!!!!
Thank you 💛 I hope you enjoyed the video!
@@BHaney i most certainly did
100% agree with your stance on speaking in tongues
There is an argument to be made for Jesus being an introvert. Introverts can make some of the best leaders Andean be very sociable and outgoing, they're not necessarily socially awkward, anti-social or have social anxiety or are shy, extroverts can be these things as well, they're not one and the same thing, it's not a symptom of one or the other is what I'm trying to say. Introverts more than likely like spending time alone and thrive doing so, that's how they recharge, so they tend to be more introspective because they're in their head so much and like thinking about things that they are more likely to be able to solve their problems whereas extroverts are so antsy and uncomfortable when they are alone with their thoughts that they are more likely to externalised their problems and don't spend a lot of time in their heads thinking of thing's and solving their problems internally instead at least that's what the extroverts in my life are like. I know not all introverts and extroverts are like this, but the ones in my life are so I'm speaking from personal experience so if extroverts feel differently please do tell, if you want to.
Suffice it to say, introverts can make great leaders because they listen well and can be good problem solvers.
My ex that I lost my virginity to had really bad ocd just because I had sex with him doesn’t mean I have ocd…
Thanks for doing a new Brittany Dawn podcast reaction. I do enjoy these videos a lot!
Oh my goodness, the thumbnail made me laugh so much. I had to click on this.
Introvert = batteries recharged during alone time
Extrovert = batteries recharged when around others.
Heard this a little while back and it made so much sense. I like being around friends and family and being out but my batteries are recharged during alone time.
Not me getting a lil serotonin boost from having more followers than one of Dong’s girlie pops.
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@@BHaney I’ll take this as my win 😁
Thanks!
B you are glowing!
Thank you ☺️
My win for the week was my sister and I saw Wicked for the first time. It was a lot of fun. The only unfortunate thing was they didn’t have the audio description. They only had the device for the hard of hearing.
So for the speaking in tongues thing… that rule of not speaking in tongues without someone there to translate is speaking specifically to meeting as a church or congregation. Which is a good rule bc as you said typically it’s done more and abused when there is no one to translate. But if you speak in tongues or in the spirit on your own- it’s not an issue. I don’t speak in tongues but I’m just explaining.
WFTW: Got to go to a comics show to table there. Sales could have been better, but got to see and meet new people and a few familiar faces.
As a fellow introvert, I’m quite insulted by Brittany’s casual dismissal of the term. Again, judging and using Scripture to defend her specious claim.
The emergency of more “Purity Culture” is no surprise. You are quite right, she has gathered up her Echo Chamber to blindly agree everything she says.
Yes, I am a Christian, but I don’t believe in this idea of “soul-ties”. I had never heard the term until I was exposed to these Conservative Christian “Influencers”. I found the idea a bit silly, and ripe for these folks to weaponize it in order to promote their ideals.
Interesting addition to the whole “speaking in tongues” thing. I wasn’t aware that an interpreter was needed. Every time I see it in some footage of it happening, I never see anyone interpreting.
The conversation with the woman and her affair really ticked me off. Of course the woman who had an affair knows she messed up and wants to be that Godly wife to her husband now. I can’t believe they even suggested the husband needs to be merciful when the wife completely blames herself. Ugh
Also. Why is legal marriage the ONLY line for marriage? Legal marriage does not equate to biblical marriage.
We neeeed part 3
I’m on it! ✔️
They were so unexpectedly kind and non-shamey for the adultery question. Porgan could never.
Glad to see you keep covering Brittany and her new minions. I’m taking bets on how long these sissy girlies last. (None of them were in her wedding party….. 🙄)
I totally agree with your comments about their comments on getting married just because they are having sex!
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