I love these conversations between men and women! Very much needed, please keep them coming. You and Red should do these with different couples of all ages to get a perspective from different generations.
Whoever’s reading this, I pray that whatever you’re going through gets better and whatever you’re struggling with or worrying about is going to be fine and that everyone has a fantastic day! Amen
Everyone’s perception is their reality. It’s all in the wording! I agree with Toya, if someone feels a way (regardless if it’s right or wrong) acknowledging their feelings is the first step towards resolution. Once you acknowledge that and validate a persons feelings you can then work towards separating and removing emotions to address FACTS.
Choose your battles wisely. Don’t sweat the small stuff. At some point in time, we all can be WRONG, in our feelings. At some point we all can be RIGHT, in our feelings.
I agree with the guy and your sister, it’s best to talk it out and get an understanding of your feelings instead of just assuming! Your feelings are valid, but you need to know from that person is what you’re feeling true, or just an assumption; then let them explain so you can have some clarity. Great vlog ♥️
I had a dream that my I suprised my ex and he was not happy to see me. Another dream that I saw him with another girl(her face was blotted out) and they walked right past me. I bought it up one time and he said just my imagination. Found out later he was cheating. Pay attention to yiur dreams...sometimes literal and sometimes symbolic.
As men when a woman says “I feel” and what you are feeling does not line up with our “Logic” we will dismiss it asap.. So Toya saying You can tell me how to Feel that’s because she is speaking from emotions - where as Redd is coming from a logical sense.
That "if you need me, im fcked up" made me laugh so hard. Listen, men and women just think so differently. My husband hate hearing about my feelings 😒 but he has too 🤷🏾♀️
You can never invalidate someone feelings because we all interpret things differently! It may not have been your intentions to make me feel that way but this is the reason I feel that way & this is what I feel you did to make me feel that way! Simple!
last time a person suggested how I should feel I let them see how much my rent and water bill was and suggested they pay it in exchange for me feeling the way they suggested😂😂😂😂
He’s so real and not performative. He is so calm and stands on what he says. I don’t know him personally but that kind of man is steady and that’s a good thing.
Toya, I think you and Red should make this a regular thing and speak on different topics which allow a male perspective and woman perspective. Good dialogue.
Red say he will kill a whole zip code about you girl 🤣🤣 Toya I think it’s just the way Red is wording it. I completely understand both sides.This was a funny debate lol.
I love the conversations. IN MY OPINION....Feelings are variables, which changes all the time. We have to check our own emotions. They are (YOUR, not your partners) human feelings for a reason. Your partner can not make you feel any type of way. If this is the case, our partners can control or dictate our moods by pulling our strings whenever they want, or walk on egg shells, because of how you may react, which means the partner can not be free, but is bound to your emotions, which may change from minute to minute. (roller coaster) Uneasy feelings can come from trauma, hurt, insecurities from relationships from (parents, ex's, etc...) You have to be willing to take accountability and realize those are your own emotions (healthy or unhealthy) that comes from within, and if you feel uneasy or have an unhealthy feeling (rejection, abandoned, etc..), because you have been triggered based on past situation from past experiences. Our partners, can not be our therapist. Emotional trauma is a lot of weight, and that's why it is important to be healed from previous issues before entering into relationships, marriages.. Its unhealthy baggage that's not needed and will bring about issues in the current relationships. Validation doesn't come from your partner that is something that comes from God, and your parents. If two individuals are healed then they are going to know how to treat one another and if patterns get off, they would know how to sit down and have an healthy discussion to lead them back in the direction they are trying to go. To be fair to the other party, you have to not point fingers, move pride out of the way, ANALZYE and HUMBLE "YOURSELF" and be willing to do the work. If not, it will always be an issue and it will surface again, rather you want to admit it or not.
This conversation/debate had so many important topics and touched on a lot of problematic areas that people struggle with in everyday life, I wish I was apart of the discussion 😅 I was talking to y’all through the screen like I was there 😂😂 it’s definitely a wide ranged, diverse amount of opinions and point of views
Nooo its your delivery ❤Red you can't tell someone how to feel its a reason that person feel that way and if they re telling YOU what it is its up to you to make them NOT feel that way
Yes this is true, but sometimes how you feel maybe wrong. That person may have a wrong perspective or it being misunderstanding or as Toya said “not correct”
One thing bout Red he ain’t letting nobody sway his thoughts when he’s Right! Red needs a podcast at this point 😅love y’all and these real discussions ❤
Man i love Red and Toya ENERGY! This man said dont ever come at me about my phone. Right because toya youre phone is like this🤳. I love it.."Red so damn funny girl if you leave me im fucked up"🤣🤣🤣🤣. Toya don' t even play. This particular conversation gets everyone going.
your feelings is your feelings. you are entitled to feel how ever you choose. you are also responsible for addressing those feelings to your partner. it's your partners responsibility to give you clarity of those feelings. it can be by change of actions or simply a needed conversation.
Toya , I love yall conversations yall are telling it how you feel, but guys can have a straight face and be lying the whole time. That's right tell it like your heart tells you Thanks for sharing with us Love you guys ❤❤🎉
It's not bad Toya, it can come across as bossy or talking to an adult like a kid. Even though, they may need to be reminded. It's not what you say, it's how you say it. Like your friend said, "say it once and then let it go.
He is so funny..he know how to get under your skin..he is so cool..wait til you get in your 5o and 60..feelings are out the window..❤ he Love you to the Moon and Back.
Such a beautiful queen in love how she talks so amazing inspiring to see a young queen who motivate women like me to keep on shining and down let nothing get you down ❤️
😂 idk how the debate actually started but Red saying what he said in this video, that you can’t tell a person that their feelings don’t matter, I agree. That’s essentially what the other guy was saying about your feelings being valid. I think you took what he said as him saying you’re wrong for feeling what you felt and you’re not. But just because you’re entitled to feel how you feel, it doesn’t make it correct/right. Lol, I have had conversations like this with my husband as well
No one can tell you how to feel, but you have to accept that your feelings can be wrong.
I love these conversations between men and women! Very much needed, please keep them coming. You and Red should do these with different couples of all ages to get a perspective from different generations.
Great idea 💡, they should.
This is a wonderful idea. They really should.
Agreed!
Whoever’s reading this, I pray that whatever you’re going through gets better and whatever you’re struggling with or worrying about is going to be fine and that everyone has a fantastic day! Amen
Thank you for this I needed to hear this❤😊
Amen thank you and God bless you (this was right on time) ❤
Ank you and Amen🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Amen
Amen and same to you thank you! 🙏🏾
Redd just took me out. He said he’ll kill a whole zip code for you 😂😂😂
That part ❤❤
❤❤❤
Everyone’s perception is their reality. It’s all in the wording! I agree with Toya, if someone feels a way (regardless if it’s right or wrong) acknowledging their feelings is the first step towards resolution. Once you acknowledge that and validate a persons feelings you can then work towards separating and removing emotions to address FACTS.
Choose your battles wisely. Don’t sweat the small stuff. At some point in time, we all can be WRONG, in our feelings. At some point we all can be RIGHT, in our feelings.
Toya!! If you don’t leave this man alone. He done killed the whole zip code.
I agree with the guy and your sister, it’s best to talk it out and get an understanding of your feelings instead of just assuming! Your feelings are valid, but you need to know from that person is what you’re feeling true, or just an assumption; then let them explain so you can have some clarity. Great vlog ♥️
I had a dream that my I suprised my ex and he was not happy to see me. Another dream that I saw him with another girl(her face was blotted out) and they walked right past me. I bought it up one time and he said just my imagination. Found out later he was cheating.
Pay attention to yiur dreams...sometimes literal and sometimes symbolic.
As men when a woman says “I feel” and what you are feeling does not line up with our “Logic” we will dismiss it asap.. So Toya saying You can tell me how to
Feel that’s because she is speaking from emotions - where as Redd is coming from a
logical sense.
That "if you need me, im fcked up" made me laugh so hard. Listen, men and women just think so differently. My husband hate hearing about my feelings 😒 but he has too 🤷🏾♀️
Red is a whole mood 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I can watch y’all all day long 😂😂😂😂😂😂 can’t wait for the show 😊
Good morning everyone 💜 between Mrs Toya and Reginae i can hardly rest they just keep dropping I love it 💜
Your feelings can be wrong, but your feelings are valid. I agree with Red. "if them mfs are wrong they are wrong" Red is funny
Right… 😅🤣🤣🤣. I agree with Red now that he broke it down. It makes sense‼️
toya and redd need a podcast😂
I love this conversation Toya please do more, thanks❤️❤️
OMG, Toya you and Red are funny AF, #Rushingtoherapy. I can't wait for the show to start
Soo pretty cousin from Johnson side family ❤️❤️💜🙏😘
You can never invalidate someone feelings because we all interpret things differently! It may not have been your intentions to make me feel that way but this is the reason I feel that way & this is what I feel you did to make me feel that way! Simple!
Mama Nita done told on Casey 😂😂 that’s mama’s for ya!
😂😂😂
Men were created to think about stuff, we as women we think emotionally. If everybody is all emotionally who will be the logical in the situation.
🎯
Damn that’s deep 💯
That's why men was made the head.
@@ericajordan2701 facts
Feelings can be valid but that doesn’t mean you’re feelings are right. But to be honest can’t nobody tell you how to FEEL 💯
last time a person suggested how I should feel I let them see how much my rent and water bill was and suggested they pay it in exchange for me feeling the way they suggested😂😂😂😂
@@pareeshaslaughter6798 lol 😂
I agree with Red, the way he broke it down. I love this conversation. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Yes! Cause Feelings aren’t Facts!!! Align the feelings with facts…your feelings are valid
I love me some Redd!!!!!! He's on top of it. He need his own channel 😂😂🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 #RushingAssociates. Love it. Toya be nice to Redd ok. 😊
He’s so real and not performative. He is so calm and stands on what he says. I don’t know him personally but that kind of man is steady and that’s a good thing.
@@Kim-427 Perfectly said. He's a great balance
Toya, I think you and Red should make this a regular thing and speak on different topics which allow a male perspective and woman perspective. Good dialogue.
I love Beddie she keep it real. She remind me of myself. No filter.
Red say he will kill a whole zip code about you girl 🤣🤣
Toya I think it’s just the way Red is wording it. I completely understand both sides.This was a funny debate lol.
This is sooo good!!! Rushing Associates, Rushing to Therapy!!! Love it!!💞💞💞
Toya said “ THE MENTAL HEALTH MAN” 😂😂Great conversation..!!
Red is hilarious 😂😂!
I ❤this family !! Beautiful and Hilarious..
Nice to see you Danielle… Toya he’s not dismissing your feelings… And the other male most definitely gave great insight…
Love your family Toya
Toya, you are right. A person perception is their reality. Therefore, even if the reason for the feeling is wrong, the persons feeling is still valid.
I love the conversations. IN MY OPINION....Feelings are variables, which changes all the time. We have to check our own emotions. They are (YOUR, not your partners) human feelings for a reason. Your partner can not make you feel any type of way. If this is the case, our partners can control or dictate our moods by pulling our strings whenever they want, or walk on egg shells, because of how you may react, which means the partner can not be free, but is bound to your emotions, which may change from minute to minute. (roller coaster) Uneasy feelings can come from trauma, hurt, insecurities from relationships from (parents, ex's, etc...) You have to be willing to take accountability and realize those are your own emotions (healthy or unhealthy) that comes from within, and if you feel uneasy or have an unhealthy feeling (rejection, abandoned, etc..), because you have been triggered based on past situation from past experiences. Our partners, can not be our therapist. Emotional trauma is a lot of weight, and that's why it is important to be healed from previous issues before entering into relationships, marriages.. Its unhealthy baggage that's not needed and will bring about issues in the current relationships. Validation doesn't come from your partner that is something that comes from God, and your parents. If two individuals are healed then they are going to know how to treat one another and if patterns get off, they would know how to sit down and have an healthy discussion to lead them back in the direction they are trying to go. To be fair to the other party, you have to not point fingers, move pride out of the way, ANALZYE and HUMBLE "YOURSELF" and be willing to do the work. If not, it will always be an issue and it will surface again, rather you want to admit it or not.
Very good summary..
Great points!!
Very well said great points
This conversation/debate had so many important topics and touched on a lot of problematic areas that people struggle with in everyday life, I wish I was apart of the discussion 😅 I was talking to y’all through the screen like I was there 😂😂 it’s definitely a wide ranged, diverse amount of opinions and point of views
Facta over feelings. Your feelings are yours and are valid. Though your feelings are valid, its not facts & doesn't make them true.
So me and my husband have this conversation and it's when they say Feelings aren't Facts!! That boils my bubbles! Cause my feelings are facts! 😂
Was that CASEY???? OMG everytime I see toya I think of him and Walt!! ❤❤
26:52 I agree Beedy it’s not about the outfit. It’s the respect! Sweetie gave the perfect example 😂😂
I didn't like the outfit, but I agree the lack of respect was the bigger issue.
😂🤣Bitch you was at Tracie house eating chicken?!!
I love Toya, definitely me😂
Toya and Red is hilarious 🤣
Nooo its your delivery ❤Red you can't tell someone how to feel its a reason that person feel that way and if they re telling YOU what it is its up to you to make them NOT feel that way
Yes this is true, but sometimes how you feel maybe wrong. That person may have a wrong perspective or it being misunderstanding or as Toya said “not correct”
Right
True, but you can't project your feelings onto someone else - especially if they're untrue. I'm not going to just agree when I know it's not true.
One thing bout Red he ain’t letting nobody sway his thoughts when he’s Right! Red needs a podcast at this point 😅love y’all and these real discussions ❤
Red and Toya funny as hell. I love it 😂😂😂
Redd need his own show 😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂 not the "Mental Health Man" 😂😂😂. Not a LMHC, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, reduced to the Mental Health Man. 😂😂😂.
REEEEDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD I LOVE IT‼️‼️‼️I’ll kill a whole Zip code ova you😂😂😂😂
I love yall the conversations are everything and much needed. Keep them coming ❤
I love this topic so much. Points from both sides were valid. I understand where you and Redd coming from ❣️
Lol not fuck tracy😂 I’m dead 😂 best laugh of the day
Wow,They argue so calmly I've never saw that before. It doesn't seem real!
Man i love Red and Toya ENERGY! This man said dont ever come at me about my phone. Right because toya youre phone is like this🤳. I love it.."Red so damn funny girl if you leave me im fucked up"🤣🤣🤣🤣. Toya don' t even play. This particular conversation gets everyone going.
Red sitting there looking like Reign😂😂
We wouldn't want a man telling us to not forget to do the dishes or cook dinner.
Loved this conversation. I understand where Redd is coming from. I agree from his point.
your feelings is your feelings. you are entitled to feel how ever you choose. you are also responsible for addressing those feelings to your partner. it's your partners responsibility to give you clarity of those feelings. it can be by change of actions or simply a needed conversation.
Toya ,
I love yall conversations yall are telling it how you feel, but guys can have a straight face and be lying the whole time. That's right tell it like your heart tells you Thanks for sharing with us Love you guys ❤❤🎉
Smart Girls Finish WEALTHY!!! ALL FACTS 🫶🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
She listen for herself I like that, no matter who's shouttin into the speakers explanations, and she finds and understand that's awesome.
Love this video! Toya & Red are hilarious! But Red is so truthful 🥰
Once we listen to each other and respect each other opinion the world with be a better place
Waittt... I want more of this 😍 😩
I love Toya and redd when they bickering they be funny cuz Toya try to be right all the time 😂
Yeah I definitely agree with Red and Beddy on this one Toya!
Good convo.. I agreed with Toya at first but I actually agree with Red about the feeling not matter vs feelings being wrong
It's not bad Toya, it can come across as bossy or talking to an adult like a kid. Even though, they may need to be reminded. It's not what you say, it's how you say it. Like your friend said, "say it once and then let it go.
Great topic love this discussion. I love to hear differences of opinions. Great video.
Good morning Ms. Toya and the rest of the family. Happy Thursday everyone ❤️❤️❤️✌️
I love Danielle 😂”Fuck Tracy” 😂😂😂😂
And her chicken. 🤣
Toya most definitely is "ME"!! Not good but, I AM HER! Now, that I've listened with the intent to NOT respond...I agree with both parties ❤
He is so funny..he know how to get under your skin..he is so cool..wait til you get in your 5o and 60..feelings are out the window..❤ he Love you to the Moon and Back.
Feelings are not facts, but they can be valid.
Such a beautiful queen in love how she talks so amazing inspiring to see a young queen who motivate women like me to keep on shining and down let nothing get you down ❤️
😂 idk how the debate actually started but Red saying what he said in this video, that you can’t tell a person that their feelings don’t matter, I agree. That’s essentially what the other guy was saying about your feelings being valid. I think you took what he said as him saying you’re wrong for feeling what you felt and you’re not. But just because you’re entitled to feel how you feel, it doesn’t make it correct/right. Lol, I have had conversations like this with my husband as well
Excellent explanation from dude, one that I won't forget. It's not that your feelings are wrong, but 'the conclusion that you came to is incorrect'.
Good morning! Love this conversation. Keep it coming Toya❤
We need more of these!
It’s Toya saying “ that’s not how you said that shit now u tryna soften it up since the mental health man been in ya head”😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Good morning Toya I love these chats & definitely gotta do it more often.
Man I Love There Accent ☺️💖💐
Red trying to change it from the first debate but we understand 😂😂
I think men look at all of the facts and women are going off emotions and facts
Toya - What you are saying is "You don't have the right to tell me how you make me feel" Plain and simple
Heyyyyyyyyyy sista i just love you like a sis frfr you where made for you tube we needed toya..
This show is going to be lit😂🤣. I love Toya and Redd💕
Should of just said “ feeling that way is wrong.” So now you’re not telling her, that her feelings is wrong. Lol
I really enjoyed this convo Toya. You all made valid points!!! Thanks for sharing😍😍😍😍😍
I’m HOLLERING! Y’all are hilarious! 🤣🤣🤣
“fCk TrAcY” 😂😂😂😂😂
Red, you right there, her feelings does matter. But, she is wrong in her feelings, about a certain matter
So happy for you and your family you have such a beautiful close knit family,may god continue to bless you all🙏🏽🤍🙏🏽🤍
The makeup artist and hairstylist giving bitter. 🙄🙄🙄
I can’t wait for this show! I don’t watch tv but will be tuned in♥️ #MyRUclipsFamily
Great debate! I understand your husband point of view after he explained his point.
An individual's feelings or emotions must be based on TRUTH. If your feelings are not based on the TRUTH, you are wrong.
Red is correct.
This is so funny!!! I loved this video. Definitely some valid points in this video.🤣🤣❤️
Lmao 😂, I'll calling in because I need some counseling.
Rushing to therapy coming to a RUclips channel near you 🥳🥳🥳
I hope they drop this subject about feelings being wrong TODAY
We love Beddie, definitely need to see her more.
She started her own channel btw
That’s true make sure u delivery that message clear so that the younger generation gets it .
I love this Toya keep them coming 😂😂😂 I love Red he so funny without even trying