WHY DO WE MAKE OUR LIVES SO COMPLICATED?

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  • Опубликовано: 23 дек 2024

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  • @MrsM-j9x
    @MrsM-j9x 7 месяцев назад +34

    Great video, Jane! I too am an introvert but didn’t know it for years as I thought being an introvert meant being shy and quiet; I am neither but I have a very low tolerance for socialising and need solid at-home-just-being time afterwards. Complex, chaotic, speedy living is complete anathema to me and I feel so sorry for people who live those kind of lives. One of the reasons I so enjoy your channel is because I get a sense of calm from your videos. Keep up the good work!

    • @lyndakling901
      @lyndakling901 7 месяцев назад +7

      Me as well! I can go to a large party and after a few hours I’d love to go find a quiet chair and read! My brother on the other hand is a complete extrovert and thrives on parties and socializing….

    • @lemonteapot1061
      @lemonteapot1061 7 месяцев назад +3

      Yes me too, she’s great and very kind ❤

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад +6

      Me too, a low tolerance for socialising - could be me saying that 😀

    • @shirley1413
      @shirley1413 7 месяцев назад +4

      Me as well,,, I have 5 months to retirement, have lived and worked at a fishing lodge, for many years, andI’m in a RV, right next to the BBQ area!and all the RV people have bbq,s all the time. I go for as long as I can stand it and then just disappear. Good thing is my boss knows I don’t care to go, and has told me to please myself. My position is taking care of cabins and the cabin guests, not the RV people. So,to be polite, I will go this season, say hello to everyone and then leave!!! I don’t think they realize I am tired as I work everyday day all season, and I just want quiet time, and I can’t stand 20 people talking all at once. Interesting that I’m not the only person who is very happy, in my own company! Winter is wonderful, I get to just gaze a the beautiful mountains and snow, and wildlife. Winter recharges me ! Also Jane nice topic today, IAM really doing a very low buy year, and you help to keep me on track. Doing homemade crafts with kids is the best!

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад

      Nice that you have a good boss. I bet you are looking forward to retirement, though!

  • @christinerose9648
    @christinerose9648 7 месяцев назад +6

    you have just made me realise that im an introvert too, i get so anxious about events or parties with people i don't know. i spend my time with just my family, 2 friends and my little dogs, i dont have many friends either and i am an only child , thank you for a lovely video xx

  • @memorysmaid9551
    @memorysmaid9551 7 месяцев назад +2

    I have enjoyed the slow life since retiring, and a relaxed pace without a filled calendar has been just wonderful.

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад

      There are perks to getting older, for sure. 😀

  • @janpainter8974
    @janpainter8974 7 месяцев назад +20

    I think we all just need to Be More Archie!

    • @grumpy_poo
      @grumpy_poo 7 месяцев назад +2

      He's got it sussed!

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад +1

      Too right! Although he got very cross at the window cleaner earlier 😂😂

  • @belindacopson2390
    @belindacopson2390 7 месяцев назад

    Great video, I find a simpler life is a happier one.

  • @karenaustin7088
    @karenaustin7088 7 месяцев назад +9

    I cut my working hours to part time,if i feel I want to work an extra day I can but no pressure ,I'm an introvert need time to myself and two dogs ,I like to potter in the house and garden,I live alone so something for my health and to connect with other people I go to slimming world once a week.meet friends for coffee occasionally if I get too much to do I become overwhelmed so try and take life gently ,agree with what you say such a fast paced society ,time to step off it x

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад +3

      It’s so lovely to have pets at home when you live alone. Just having another warm little body to cuddle and they are less noisy than people 😀

    • @karenaustin7088
      @karenaustin7088 7 месяцев назад +1

      Definitely x

  • @mariasinclair9718
    @mariasinclair9718 7 месяцев назад +6

    I agree I'm not a minimalist I love my home decor.😊

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад +1

      It’s nice to be surrounded by a few beautiful things 😀

  • @sallylafaille7688
    @sallylafaille7688 7 месяцев назад +2

    I love getting up early to enjoy my morning. It isn't about productivity.

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад +1

      Yes, totally different if you are a morning person. I wake early, but love taking a tea back to bed to think about my day.

  • @lemonteapot1061
    @lemonteapot1061 7 месяцев назад +5

    Next month I’m reducing my work days from five to three, I can’t wait I’m tired of the role I do and sitting in my home office on my own every day. But this will leave me £1000 worse off per month. Just at a time when I’m starting to save. So I’m going to see how it goes. Because whilst I am not a shopper there are things needing to be done in the home. I’d like to find a job the other two days at Waitrose or something. But I know that cutting back for now is the right thing to do. Thanks Jane xxx

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад +2

      Good luck! Could you do some self employment? I enjoyed house cleaning. Not at all stressful

    • @lemonteapot1061
      @lemonteapot1061 7 месяцев назад +5

      @@ShoestringJane I used to clean years ago and I enjoyed it but wouldn’t do it now. I’d sort of feel guilty for not cleaning my house 🤣.

    • @deborahbain9915
      @deborahbain9915 7 месяцев назад +1

      Your wee dog is so gorgeous

  • @marianne8280
    @marianne8280 7 месяцев назад +5

    Love this video. You don´t have to be a hardcore minimalist to have a simple life.

  • @carmenalinaiancu3738
    @carmenalinaiancu3738 7 месяцев назад +5

    Such lovely curtains, Jane ! And all the points you've made about rushing are more than valid. I feel like when I was a kid, there was no Facebook, no food delivery, no meal kits , but life felt a lot calmer and the day wasn't rushing away. I remember cooking with mom every Saturday/Sunday and feeling joy just in doing that. ❤

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад +2

      I feel that too, although my parents might not agree! 😂 they had four kids and both worked

  • @kaycee625
    @kaycee625 7 месяцев назад +5

    Archie’s not rushing is he! 😆 I think he’s read the book 😂

  • @kathyandersen8243
    @kathyandersen8243 7 месяцев назад +2

    I live on a ranch.with my husband.we have old horses a old mule.they are 30 t0 32 years old.i had them since they were2 years old and 9 months old.good feed.2 dogs 2 cats 4 goats.and 5 chickens.every body have names.they are pets.favorite things to do.for fun is a kitty pool with a raft im 66 years old.i float in it.a table with a glass of ice tea with lemon and sugar. And listen to oldies music.good books and art.i turn the chickens loose feed them treats.sit with them and watch them.keep life simple.❤

  • @Margiep63
    @Margiep63 7 месяцев назад

    I don’t think I’ve commented before, but I watch every one of your videos. This is my favourite and resonated so much with me. I’m going to add this video to my ‘keep’ playlist to rewatch regularly - thank you! I wish I’d realised earlier that I was an introvert. I always had to escape from our guests to my bedroom for a 10 minute quiet break.

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад

      Thank you! I'm glad you enjoyed it.

  • @loriburgess1866
    @loriburgess1866 7 месяцев назад +1

    Good video. Good information. The busy, full life is a lie. It is tiring and destructive but somehow applauded. One must have the ability to use common sense when choosing their lifestyle. It often goes against trends and certainly advertising. I’d say be brave. Swimming uphill or dancing to the beat of one’s own drum is oh so much more fulfilling.

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад

      You're right - working ridiculous hours is applauded. My daughter says no one takes a lunch break where she works. Everybody is showing what a great worker they are. I say you will be a better worker after a break!

  • @gailm1230
    @gailm1230 7 месяцев назад +8

    Society has developed, in my opinion, to a level of complexity that places burdens and stressors on people. It also is geared to make money. Who came up with 'retail therapy'?-- isn't that a contradiction in terms? There is pressures on all members of the nuclear/ and non-nuclear family. Moms 'have to' do certain things: PTA, secretary of the skating club, volunteer at childrens' reading group?, drive the girls to dance and the boys to hockey and soccer (I live in Ontario and I did all those things). I quit my high paying job to be home to raise the kids. Now divorced I make much less than my ex-- that's OK, I raised the kids. Men have pressures of work, of being the breadwinner, of still being 'one of the boys', and children have all the pressures of school and peer groups, even with uniforms, do some wear more expensive shoes?, do some get phones earlier?, do some get to do more things? The pressures that the parents place on the children. Its a mad world, evolving out of control.

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад +1

      I totally agree. Retail therapy makes no sense to me either, unless I find a few second hand bargains in a charity shop that I really wanted 😂

  • @mlbonventi
    @mlbonventi 6 месяцев назад

    Loved this video, thank you for sharing. Slowing down and being mindful of each and every task each day. Learning to love even the most mundane tasks by focusing on the "why".

  • @HaNguyen-dy6xq
    @HaNguyen-dy6xq 7 месяцев назад +1

    Really great video. Thank you. Love working in my yard and surrounded by my children, plants

  • @nzmoneykarma
    @nzmoneykarma 7 месяцев назад +2

    So true, I have found since going back to work my life has instantly become much less simple- having to try hard to carve out quiet time to just relax! I also find it spreads to the rest of the family if I am in a bit of a flap so is everyone else 🙂

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад +1

      Yes, if you are relaxed, everyone else is more likely to be, thus making life easier.

  • @debbyestlund9893
    @debbyestlund9893 7 месяцев назад +1

    I agree with you. My girls spent time just playing with their friends, both in the neighborhood and from church. They did take piano, dance, swimming lessons, sports etc but only one thing at a time. They attended camp every summer and we went camping as a family. We were frugal. One thing that kept us from getting over extended was finding families that had the same economic ideas as we did. Your advice is good.

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад

      That’s a really good point - finding people with similar attitudes helps a lot.

  • @kathholt2529
    @kathholt2529 7 месяцев назад +2

    Absolutely agree with you Jane, i also like time to myself and simple activities ect a very good video enjoyed it thank you x

  • @poppy6488
    @poppy6488 7 месяцев назад +2

    The best video yet Jane 👌

  • @cherylscherzer2920
    @cherylscherzer2920 7 месяцев назад +1

    Very thought-provoking! Thank you, Jane!

  • @KerryJames-l6z
    @KerryJames-l6z 7 месяцев назад +1

    Simple living frugual living is a mindset

  • @rough-hewnhomestead5737
    @rough-hewnhomestead5737 7 месяцев назад

    I agree with you wholeheartedly! I have been steeping back, evaluating, and opting out of many things for several years now. I am a friendly introvert and I need my time alone and time at home in order to recharge. I have tried to fashion a life at home that I don't continually need "away from".

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад +1

      I love that - 'a friendly introvert'. Going to be using that phrase 😀

    • @rough-hewnhomestead5737
      @rough-hewnhomestead5737 7 месяцев назад

      @@ShoestringJane LOL, I got that from "Kate Kaden" (another great frugal finance channel).... Introverts, Unite! (separately, in our own homes...lol)

  • @marinakaplais
    @marinakaplais 7 месяцев назад +11

    Like you i am not a minimalist and love to surround myself with things i consider beautiful….to me my home is my happy place. The simple things make me so happy,a funny film on tv,a glass of orange juice and a bar of dairy milk and im in heaven lol.

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад

      A few nice things makes a place comfortable, for sure

  • @romaineberari9094
    @romaineberari9094 7 месяцев назад

    Great video and very timely for me here in the United States.

  • @shirley1413
    @shirley1413 7 месяцев назад

    Great vlog, and I’m the same way being organized is a time saver, and a minimalist is boring, yes.❤

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад

      Being organised is something I constantly work on. It does make a difference!

  • @terrypelletti8535
    @terrypelletti8535 7 месяцев назад

    Very good video. Thank you ❤

  • @alegna4132
    @alegna4132 7 месяцев назад

    I too loved the Slow book by Carl Honore and its message. Having just spent last weekend in London for a show and sightseeing - was I glad to get back home. Everything we did was so fast paced and hectic there - all a blur. Could never live there full time for sure. And don't even ask how much we paid for a small bottle of water in the O2 ?!.!

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад +1

      Ha! I’m like that with London. Once every few years for a show is more than enough. The O2 is just too big though. I bet they wouldn’t let you take drinks in ?

    • @rena4220
      @rena4220 7 месяцев назад +1

      I am like that with NYC. Once every couple of years I like to visit to see a show and sight see but that's it. Too many people.

    • @alegna4132
      @alegna4132 7 месяцев назад

      @@ShoestringJane no drinks and food to be taken in but then inside you can buy drinks at numerous bar areas. Water - £4.20 a bottle. Hate to think how much alcohol cost.

  • @lemonteapot1061
    @lemonteapot1061 7 месяцев назад +2

    Ahh look at Archie ❤. Is he better now?

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад +1

      Still up and down. We are considering getting him allergy tested. Poor boy 🙄

    • @lemonteapot1061
      @lemonteapot1061 7 месяцев назад

      @@ShoestringJane ahh poor darling! He looks sad! Gosh yes tree pollen is awful at the mo xx

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад

      😢😢 At lease she had a good life with you. Losing animals is awful.

  • @lyndakling901
    @lyndakling901 7 месяцев назад +4

    I set aside most mornings, 6 days a week, to ride my horse…it’s my mental break. House and gardens aren’t perfect but I need to get out on him!

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад

      Priorities! That sounds like a lovely start to the day

  • @princessdumbarton9877
    @princessdumbarton9877 7 месяцев назад +5

    If people want to be minimalists with everything black and white and empty, that's fine. It's when kids have to live in those bare environments that it's really depressing. No one needs a lot of stuff but kids need some stimulation and color. Maybe the parents find it relaxing but it must be horrible for kids. And how can they be normal kids when everything is white? I can't imagine what happens if they spill something.

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад +3

      I hadn’t even thought of minimalist kids - I wonder how many of those minimalist RUclipsrs keep up the lifestyle when babies arrive. Very few, I bet!

  • @melaniebaker2233
    @melaniebaker2233 7 месяцев назад +1

    Really thought provoking video. I reduced my work to 4 days due to a high blood pressure diagnosis and absolutely needing to change things. I can’t tell you how much difference that extra day makes to the quality of my life but without losing too much income and other benefits such as pension, sick pay etc. I work for a council and we really struggle to recruit people, in some roles particularly and are having to look at offering more flexibility as we can’t just offer more money and people seem to want roles that better fit in with their lives. It’s a good step in the right direction. I love days to potter and not have anything planned. I think you’d love Tom Hodgkinson’s books, how to be idle and how to be free, very interesting takes on our bonkers culture and all about how thrift can equal freedom, some laugh out loud moments too. Enjoy your home and the things you have now. Holiday at home, go car camping, we live on amazingly beautiful islands here in the UK, you don’t have to travel far to find wonderful scenery, peace and quiet. I painted a cheap dressing table this week and thought of your beautiful dresser. Love your channel and your vibe x

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you! Did Tom Hodgkinson write the Idler magazine? If so, I read one of his books - some time ago now though!

    • @melaniebaker2233
      @melaniebaker2233 7 месяцев назад

      @@ShoestringJane yes he did, I prefer the books to the magazine but really like the alternative take on life x

  • @kathwilliams9944
    @kathwilliams9944 7 месяцев назад +1

    Lovely video as usual . I agree since the pandemic things have been out of kilter . I had hope that it would a reset, a time to realise what is really important l think it has had the opposite effect . Your videos are thought provoking and l am sure they resonate with many. 🎉🎉🎉

    • @ShoestringJane
      @ShoestringJane  7 месяцев назад +1

      I thought that too - that maybe people would drive less and get out in nature more. Didn't happen....

  • @KerryJames-l6z
    @KerryJames-l6z 7 месяцев назад

    Avoid hot mess mode