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@@Hellokittylove324 you have it more correct. They know there is never any reason to hurt so they make excuses for it! It was so cleverly done how they don't show it all, even from her perspective, until she is ready to see it fully for herself when getting bitten is not something that can ever happen by accident. They deal with the subject of how cycles of abuse can lead you to accept the behaviour later on when it is directed at you so beautifully.
The warning is there in his eyes when she says "What, are you 5?" In his psyche it takes him back to his childhood and later in the movie we find out why that is significant. Brilliantly acted by Justin.
We had a case in canada where a neurosurgeon Mohammad Shamji was abusing his wife. When she tried to divorce him he killed her. Hes in jail now for life
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See.. this happens ALL the time in the US. First 48 hours: Detectives Speak: Broken Home.. 4 yr old witnesses her father fatally shoot her mother in the head. I have no idea why they wasted money on the movie It Ends With Us. Mostly Blake Lively & her narcissistic self. She downplayed the whole point of the movie that COULD have helped others MORE to get out of really life threatening relationships. This was child's play without chucky. No sense to it. Hopefully the book is true to true victims. I saw the book for sale in Walmart. I THOUGHT about buying it. But didnt. The movie downplayed it to the point I dont really think the book is worth reading.
Nah he got like 14 years. Will be out sooner, 2027. I met him a few times as my dad had spinal surgery at the same hospital. I feel bad for his eldest daughter who saw her dad wrap her mother in a carpet. Tragic.
the oven scene in the book wasn't an accident, he meant to do that. but here, in the movie, it's shown as an accident. there's a huge difference between hurting someone purposely and hurting someone accidentally.
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This movie is really bad... or maybe just Blake's portrayal of a DV victim. DV changes you at your core and it takes years to undo it... not a nice dress and a cute guy. No abuser is going to say, "You're right...I'm a bad guy, so I'll take off. No prob!".
Idk my dad did after my mom left him, turns out the monster was already married and never bothered to come around and visit me, despite knowing his daughter had a chronic illness, guess that’s what addiction does, idk he was a piece of work.
Especially that 1st moment because that was really an accident it may have triggered a memory but yea you burn your hand you pull away really quickly, my hand has moved like that before and yes if someone was walking towards you just as you are pulling your hand away in searing pain you aren’t paying attention to who’s behind you, all you are thinking about is the pain. That was a terrible example if they were trying to show DV, DV is intentional, calculated, manipulative. THAT MOMENT was an accident, the stairs moment, he asked her to leave him alone and give him a moment, she didn’t respect his boundaries, she got in his space, and in front of him as he was about to go down the stairs, I literally saw it coming she put herself between him and the stairs right at the edge, the fall was inevitable, that being said he should’ve been more aware of where she was and not tried to push her away when she was so close to the stairs, but he was blinded by rage and unaware of anything else. That being said when he said “tell me this is nothing” that’s when he lost me- that’s gaslighting. And I was like “no”, that’s not nothing. She fell down a flight of stairs, no one in their right mind would think that’s “nothing” he was afraid of maybe “losing her” idk but he tried to control and manipulate that part of the situation so- no he lost me there.. oh and that horrible SA scene, that..,there are no words, he knew exactly what he was doing. I don’t get why she didn’t admit that it was SA at the hospital, I guess because they are married some people convince themselves it’s not SA if you’re married- guess what it IS.
Yes, agree! Bc back in my 20s, I was in a serious relationship with a man for over a year, at least by then, and one Halloween night after we got home from his work/the big “party” there, we were in his room, and All I remember next is him starting and trying to initiate sex, but I said no, not tonight (I was exhausted and not in the mood between the drinks and my own endometriosis that causes actual physical pain with intercourse anyway..), but he just ignored me. He kept ignoring me as I kept crying for him to stop. He looked like a different person when I looked into his eyes that night during this unfortunate SA encounter with my own boyfriend at the time- the man I said I loved. I’ll never forget the way his eyes looked that night during those moments. And when he was done, he rolled over me and passed right out beside me, nude. I told my best friend about it afterward, and she said to me “Courtney, he raped you.” She doesn’t sugarcoat anything, this friend. I tried to say no no, he’s my boyfriend, it’s not rape..” (obviously I was in denial and had been raped once at 19 by someone I knew who I never dated..) and she shouted “I don’t care if he’s your HUSBAND. You said NO, and he never stopped. That’s rape, and even your boyfriend or your own husband can commit rape if you say No!” No means no. Yes, I’m in therapy, I was then and I still am now. But it took a lot of therapy and I still have PTSD and existing trauma as most “victims” do. This movie changed everything for me in some ways, but in a different way with the direction my life is taking currently. LOVED Lily’s speech about “what would you do, what would you tell her” to Ryle after Emerson is born.
@@shoegal4485 I’m so sorry that happened to you. There are no words. That could take away the pain or make it better., so I can only say I’m sorry. Yes that last scene was a really good one. Put himself in someone else’s shoes. The fact that she was on tiptoes, panicking anytime he got even a little upset, should’ve told her, “okay somethings wrong, I need to leave him and be single and figure this out” if you are panicking anytime someone gets even a little angry, I think that shows, you have some serious issues and need to address them in therapy, get to the root of them, etc. I do think in the first incident( in the movie) with the pan, it truly looked like an accident the smoke kinda made everything hard to see he through his hand back she walked toward him unaware of what was happening, that was a terrible ex of DV cuz that could happen to anyone. I’ve actually been talking to someone using my hands, someone walked by, I didn’t see them and I hit them in the face. Thats very similar to what was shown. Hes just a grown man and his hand can do more damage, the stairs seemed like an accident as well I don’t think he intended to do any of that, his anger took over and he was unaware of his surroundings with the stairs, she stepped RIGHT at the edge AS HE WAS TELLING HER TO GIVE HIM SPACE he wanted space he pushed her away not most likely not realizing how close she was to the stairs it looked like he tried to grab her before she fell. That was a recipe for disaster right there but when he said “tell me this is nothing” like I said before. He lost me, uh uh, that is not nothing. Idc if it was an accident, that’s not nothing, and once you try to convince the other person it is, you’ve crossed a line, that’s manipulation and gaslighting right there. As soon as he said it you could see her face shift from “ugh that hurt” to fear.
I do not GET how people who werent obviously in a significant other abusive relationship feel the need to comment. This movie is so completely downplayed to just petty jealously... this movie has no real life abuse that people who really dealt with in it. It's all love and rainbows and downplay. If they had shown the reality of abuse like Justin wanted to then maybe steal life victims wouldnt be offended of all the press and the movie itself.
By no means excusing what he did, but the worst thing you can do is run after an angry man/woman and try to stop him or convince him to stay or whatever. The best thing is to deescalate and let him/her get their space and breathe, walk it out if needed, then try to talk it out later.
Actually this scene shows that Ryle suspects her heart is in doubt as she could be sitting on the fence (she did move to Boston because her first love said he would be in Boston!) - and he warns her - but she is the one who is prob torn inside of herself, which causes him to distrust her and he hence, implodes, feeling like he is being played... but, with that said, Ryle is obviously super intense person, and that is a major red flag... ( i lived thru 8 yrs of hell to learn that one)
Suits? She could have become a princess,like Meghan Markle...who was on it and was I believe a bit "interested"....but n000o she chose/ found a loser INSTEAD...and now that's how she is thanked...to be so pure😢.disgusting.OMG please help her.
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The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
Men That Can't Love by Stephen A Carter -avoidant attachment
Without Conscience by Robert D Hare
Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft
Complex PTSD From Surviving To Thriving for Pete Walker
The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman
The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer
The Body Keeps The Score Brain Mind And The Healing Of Trauma-Bessel Van Der Kolk
Non Violent Communication by Marshall B Rosenberg
Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It by Kamal Ravikant ♥️
The Language Of Emotions by Karla McLaren
Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix
Wired For Love by Dr Stan Tatkin -attachment styles
Could Attachment Styles Be Biological? Ken Reid podcast 🌞
Avoidant's Are Too Good At Dating -Ken Reid podcast 🌞
The Unfiltered Truth About The Red Pill - David Tian PhD podcast (episodes 1 and 2)🌞
Spot A Narcissist Or Psychopath On Your First Date - Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
Trauma PTSD CTPSD Dissociation And Trauma Bonding - Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
What Love Is Not! Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
Self Love To Self Healing -Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
Take Back Your Life Own It! Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
Agreed
Yes. Yes. Yes.
Abusers doesnt care if their daughters would be hurt by another abuser. Cause they feel they had the right reasons to hurt.
YEP they make excuses for it or will say you deserved it. Or they will say “they were scared cause you charged at them” 😂
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
Without Conscience by Robert D Hare
Men That Can't Love by Stephen A Carter -avoidant attachment
Protecting The Gift by Gavin De Becker
What You Need To Do In Order To Recover Off The Back Of A Bad Breakup - Ken Reid podcast 🌞
Healing From A Breakup-Ken Reid podcast 🌞
Narcissistic Abuser Checklist 100 Tips For Survival And Healing - Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
What Love Is Not! Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
Self Love To Self Healing -Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
Take Back Your Life Own It - Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
Protecting The Gift by Gavin De Becker
Without Conscience by Robert D Hare
Men That Can't Love by Stephen A Carter -avoidant attachment
Complex PTSD From Surviving To Thriving by Pete Walker
Could Attachment Styles Be Biological? Ken Reid podcast 🌞
Why You Choose The Wrong People-Ken Reid podcast 🌞
What You Need To Do In Order To Recover Off The Back Of A Bad Breakup - Ken Reid podcast 🌞
Healing From A Breakup-Ken Reid podcast 🌞
The Narcissistic Abuser Checklist 100 Tips For Survival And Healing - Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
What Love Is Not!- Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
Trauma PTSD CTPSD Dissociation And Trauma Bonding - Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
Self Love To Self Healing -Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
Take Back Your Life Own It! Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
@@Hellokittylove324 you have it more correct. They know there is never any reason to hurt so they make excuses for it! It was so cleverly done how they don't show it all, even from her perspective, until she is ready to see it fully for herself when getting bitten is not something that can ever happen by accident. They deal with the subject of how cycles of abuse can lead you to accept the behaviour later on when it is directed at you so beautifully.
Thats not true. My abuser did get angry if someone did something to me but didnt say nothing if some one called me names.
The oven scene here is represented really as an accident, in the book it wasn’t. Here it is a reflex.
The warning is there in his eyes when she says "What, are you 5?" In his psyche it takes him back to his childhood and later in the movie we find out why that is significant. Brilliantly acted by Justin.
La peli está basada en un libro(del mismo nombre ) y ahí se muestra más de ese significado
what do u mean?
is Ryle just reacting to his own childhood trauma, or is he really abusive?
@kittymaui Both. Hurt people hurt other people.
@@thegoddesswithin8859 he needs proper trauma therapy and long term anger mgmt therapy
We had a case in canada where a neurosurgeon Mohammad Shamji was abusing his wife. When she tried to divorce him he killed her. Hes in jail now for life
No links and sources.
Bullshit
Justice was served.
Why You Choose The Wrong People-Ken Reid podcast 🌞
Self Love To Self Healing -Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
Take Back Your Life Own It! Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
Men That Can't Love by Stephen A Carter - avoidant attachment
Without Conscience by Robert D Hare
Complex PTSD From Surviving To Thriving by Pete Walker
See.. this happens ALL the time in the US. First 48 hours: Detectives Speak: Broken Home.. 4 yr old witnesses her father fatally shoot her mother in the head. I have no idea why they wasted money on the movie It Ends With Us. Mostly Blake Lively & her narcissistic self. She downplayed the whole point of the movie that COULD have helped others MORE to get out of really life threatening relationships. This was child's play without chucky. No sense to it. Hopefully the book is true to true victims. I saw the book for sale in Walmart. I THOUGHT about buying it. But didnt. The movie downplayed it to the point I dont really think the book is worth reading.
Nah he got like 14 years. Will be out sooner, 2027. I met him a few times as my dad had spinal surgery at the same hospital. I feel bad for his eldest daughter who saw her dad wrap her mother in a carpet. Tragic.
the oven scene in the book wasn't an accident, he meant to do that. but here, in the movie, it's shown as an accident. there's a huge difference between hurting someone purposely and hurting someone accidentally.
What’s to stop him from running off with his child? Is this someone she can co-parent with? The ending is sort of unreasonable.
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
Protecting The Gift by Gavin De Becker
Men That Can't Love by Stephen A Carter - avoidant attachment
Without Conscience by Robert D Hare
Complex PTSD From Surviving To Thriving by Pete Walker
What Love Is Not! Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
Narcissistic Abuser Checklist 100 Tips For Survival And Healing - Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
Trauma PTSD CTPSD Dissociation And Trauma Bonding - Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
Why You Choose The Wrong People-Ken Reid podcast 🌞
What You Need To Do In Order To Recover Off The Back Of A Bad Breakup - Ken Reid podcast 🌞
Healing From A Breakup-Ken Reid podcast 🌞
Self Love To Self Healing - Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
Take Back Your Life Own It! Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
This movie is really bad... or maybe just Blake's portrayal of a DV victim. DV changes you at your core and it takes years to undo it... not a nice dress and a cute guy. No abuser is going to say, "You're right...I'm a bad guy, so I'll take off. No prob!".
She can only go with the way the script was written and the direction of Justin.
Idk my dad did after my mom left him, turns out the monster was already married and never bothered to come around and visit me, despite knowing his daughter had a chronic illness, guess that’s what addiction does, idk he was a piece of work.
Especially that 1st moment because that was really an accident it may have triggered a memory but yea you burn your hand you pull away really quickly, my hand has moved like that before and yes if someone was walking towards you just as you are pulling your hand away in searing pain you aren’t paying attention to who’s behind you, all you are thinking about is the pain. That was a terrible example if they were trying to show DV, DV is intentional, calculated, manipulative. THAT MOMENT was an accident, the stairs moment, he asked her to leave him alone and give him a moment, she didn’t respect his boundaries, she got in his space, and in front of him as he was about to go down the stairs, I literally saw it coming she put herself between him and the stairs right at the edge, the fall was inevitable, that being said he should’ve been more aware of where she was and not tried to push her away when she was so close to the stairs, but he was blinded by rage and unaware of anything else. That being said when he said “tell me this is nothing” that’s when he lost me- that’s gaslighting. And I was like “no”, that’s not nothing. She fell down a flight of stairs, no one in their right mind would think that’s “nothing” he was afraid of maybe “losing her” idk but he tried to control and manipulate that part of the situation so- no he lost me there.. oh and that horrible SA scene, that..,there are no words, he knew exactly what he was doing. I don’t get why she didn’t admit that it was SA at the hospital, I guess because they are married some people convince themselves it’s not SA if you’re married- guess what it IS.
Yes, agree! Bc back in my 20s, I was in a serious relationship with a man for over a year, at least by then, and one Halloween night after we got home from his work/the big “party” there, we were in his room, and All I remember next is him starting and trying to initiate sex, but I said no, not tonight (I was exhausted and not in the mood between the drinks and my own endometriosis that causes actual physical pain with intercourse anyway..), but he just ignored me. He kept ignoring me as I kept crying for him to stop. He looked like a different person when I looked into his eyes that night during this unfortunate SA encounter with my own boyfriend at the time- the man I said I loved. I’ll never forget the way his eyes looked that night during those moments. And when he was done, he rolled over me and passed right out beside me, nude. I told my best friend about it afterward, and she said to me “Courtney, he raped you.” She doesn’t sugarcoat anything, this friend. I tried to say no no, he’s my boyfriend, it’s not rape..” (obviously I was in denial and had been raped once at 19 by someone I knew who I never dated..) and she shouted “I don’t care if he’s your HUSBAND. You said NO, and he never stopped. That’s rape, and even your boyfriend or your own husband can commit rape if you say No!” No means no. Yes, I’m in therapy, I was then and I still am now. But it took a lot of therapy and I still have PTSD and existing trauma as most “victims” do. This movie changed everything for me in some ways, but in a different way with the direction my life is taking currently. LOVED Lily’s speech about “what would you do, what would you tell her” to Ryle after Emerson is born.
@@shoegal4485 I’m so sorry that happened to you. There are no words. That could take away the pain or make it better., so I can only say I’m sorry. Yes that last scene was a really good one. Put himself in someone else’s shoes. The fact that she was on tiptoes, panicking anytime he got even a little upset, should’ve told her, “okay somethings wrong, I need to leave him and be single and figure this out” if you are panicking anytime someone gets even a little angry, I think that shows, you have some serious issues and need to address them in therapy, get to the root of them, etc.
I do think in the first incident( in the movie) with the pan, it truly looked like an accident the smoke kinda made everything hard to see he through his hand back she walked toward him unaware of what was happening, that was a terrible ex of DV cuz that could happen to anyone. I’ve actually been talking to someone using my hands, someone walked by, I didn’t see them and I hit them in the face. Thats very similar to what was shown. Hes just a grown man and his hand can do more damage, the stairs seemed like an accident as well I don’t think he intended to do any of that, his anger took over and he was unaware of his surroundings with the stairs, she stepped RIGHT at the edge AS HE WAS TELLING HER TO GIVE HIM SPACE he wanted space he pushed her away not most likely not realizing how close she was to the stairs it looked like he tried to grab her before she fell. That was a recipe for disaster right there but when he said “tell me this is nothing” like I said before. He lost me, uh uh, that is not nothing. Idc if it was an accident, that’s not nothing, and once you try to convince the other person it is, you’ve crossed a line, that’s manipulation and gaslighting right there. As soon as he said it you could see her face shift from “ugh that hurt” to fear.
I do not GET how people who werent obviously in a significant other abusive relationship feel the need to comment. This movie is so completely downplayed to just petty jealously... this movie has no real life abuse that people who really dealt with in it. It's all love and rainbows and downplay. If they had shown the reality of abuse like Justin wanted to then maybe steal life victims wouldnt be offended of all the press and the movie itself.
By no means excusing what he did, but the worst thing you can do is run after an angry man/woman and try to stop him or convince him to stay or whatever. The best thing is to deescalate and let him/her get their space and breathe, walk it out if needed, then try to talk it out later.
Actually this scene shows that Ryle suspects her heart is in doubt as she could be sitting on the fence (she did move to Boston because her first love said he would be in Boston!) - and he warns her - but she is the one who is prob torn inside of herself, which causes him to distrust her and he hence, implodes, feeling like he is being played...
but, with that said, Ryle is obviously super intense person, and that is a major red flag... ( i lived thru 8 yrs of hell to learn that one)
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It’s a shame that the movie got so much bad press because personal dramas, the last scene was very poignant… very good acting from both
Honestly, they’re both in the wrong. In so many ways. So I’m glad they decided to do what was best for them both.
Why isn’t this on Netflix. 😮
Because it just come out give it time
It's on Netflix ' It's ends with us '
It's now on Netflix
Looks like a boring movie MAID on Netflix is way better..
Agree. MAID was great. Superb acting all around.
That's what they always say or you wanted this to happen to you.
She was half the problem..she was all over the map
The movie should have ended there.
Suits? She could have become a princess,like Meghan Markle...who was on it and was I believe a bit "interested"....but n000o she chose/ found a loser INSTEAD...and now that's how she is thanked...to be so pure😢.disgusting.OMG please help her.
Perchè tanta violenza?