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What you do is you look into yourself, He had reasons. Good or bad. Walk away. If you have the capacity, choose better and contemplate your role in this. You are not an innocent victim. Contemplate the ahole you have been. Become better. You are a woman. Old men can find young women. Old women cannot find young men. Reality is a bitch.

My tough love response, that will actually help her understand why and how to change this, and have that financial intimacy with her husband: When you are emotional like this (shock, sadness, anger, hurt) and act emotional plus posting in pubic groups - you don’t show trust. If you are so emotional around this subject how can he know that out of spite after a fight you don’t blow his account. This attitude you have here and asking for people to validate your hurt - is only showing exactly what he said - that he can’t trust you. Trust is different for men. And it has to be logical not emotional. You are tying so much emotion to this. We have seen it in real life and all the movies - women getting overly emotional and then taking a stupid decision with money - with money that is their husbands to get back at him if he did a mistake or something they perceive as mistake. Your steps to a happy marriage and success in this situation are: 1. Stop being emotional and making yourself the victim in this situation - it is not personal - it is a logical decision for him - and you did not show he can trust you logically. He has to provide for you and 4 children. Men are different. Stop the hurt spiral. You are making it up in your mind and looking for people to validate your hurt on a public page - which will only lead to more hurt and not resolving the problem. 2. Get financially literate - learn everything about money, investments, stocks, bonds, savings, etc. Be logical about money - that is when you show you are trustworthy - not by being a loyal wife. That is separate. You literally showed with all the emoticons at the end of your post how emotional you are (I am like that too, and it takes effort in some situations to be logical - but you have to know when logic is needed and be that - instead of emotional - this is called adulthood) Your husband did nothing wrong. There are thousands of examples of wives ruining the finances and men are scared of high emotions - it shows unsafety and lack of trust - around money we need logi Go learn about finances. It is accessible to everyone. Your don’t need college.

This is what I responded on the public group: I have seen many cases like this. It gets resolved when you are financially literate. That is what is showing trust. Most people have no idea to manage money. You have to educate yourself and learn all there is to know and talk in a way that shows trust with money. It is not about emotional trust or marriage trust. It is about money trust and financial literacy. Educate yourself and never ask him again the passwords - he will give them willingly because he will trust you

You are on the correct path. He is no longer attracted to her because she changed. The solution is easy. Ask the husband why he is no longer attracted to her? Is it a physical or emotional problem? Did she let herself go, stopped giving him attention, etc? Or things that were annoying him finally broke him: nagging, demanding, mean, taking him for granted, entitled, never take responsibility, always playing by the victim.

The root of the problem could be any one of 10,000 things. Each relationship and its interpersonal dynamics is different. Having established that fact, by far the most common problem that leads to the husband distancing himslelf from his wife is being friend-zoned by the wife. The obvious solution to that problem is to yank hubby out of the friend zone and place him enthusiastically in the sexual partner zone. I imagine any woman reading this will immediately think "how could I possibly do that if I no longer have sexual desire for him?" As a man, I find that very odd. Men are taught by society to completely ignore their feelings if those feelings ever get in the way of solving a problem that needs to be solved, so to have women explain she cannot solve this common martial issue because her feelings are in the way seems childish and silly. To me, it looks like a marriage is doomed the second the wife decides that she can only obtain the material things she desires by manipulating her husband via the denial of sex. Few couples ever recover from that disaster. I have no idea why women seek marital counseling from other women. Ask a man, instead. He'll tell you something like this: go online to a cam girl site; linger a while and note how the camwhores dress and what toys they favor; watch them orgasm and think back to the time when your husband delivered those orgasms for you; maybe touch yourself a little if you've gotten a bit hot in your lower abdomen. Buy some toys that piqued your curiousity. Buy some lingerie. One afternoon, before your husband gets home, put a glass of his favorite drink on an end table in the living room next to his favorite recliner. Take the kids, if any, to the babysitter's home. Spread a blanket and some pillows on the floor in front of hubby's recliner. Greet him at the front door in that new lingerie, take his hand, and lead him to his recliner, all the time telling him in the filthiest, most graphic and dirty way exactly what kind of show you are about to give him, then give him that show, and afterwards, if he is still erect, crawl on your hands and knees over to the recliner and unzip his fly and beg him to orgasm on your face. Afterwards, tell him you've realized that the ring on your finger means you are his chosen dirty little sex toy, and you know he chose you to wife up over every other young girl in the world because he wanted to spend his life watching you orgasm, and he is never to forget the feelings behind his choice or miss any opportunity to watch you. That might bring hubby back from estragement land. It's worth a try. It might even be liberating for the wife to find herself secure in a place where she knows no other women in the world is likely to be able to give her husband more sexual pleasure than she is willing to give him, and to discover, hopefully joyfully, that he actually adores her and loves her even more due to her newfound slutty behavior. If hubby didn't want and need this sexual release, he would be rooming with a bunch of guys instead of paying the household bills for a person who is female in name only.

And what the woman should do with her money?

My wife and I have been in a sexless marriage for 12 years. No sex, no intimacy, no touching beyond hugs and small good morning pecks on the cheeks. We are wonderful friends and room-mates, but we failed to make passion a priority. Now, unfortunately, there are no feelings left aside from friendship and the routine of daily life. I have to move on, but I'm struggling to do so because I feel like a part of myself has faded away and vanished forever.

I was always confused by a relative who says she only wants men for sex but gets upset when talks of a relationship comes up or men quickly reject her afterwards.