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Really? Bad cut. 🥺

Being a woman has nothing to do with how we dress. Mens clothing is just built more comfortable. Womens clothing is made to show off our shape and is more for looks than for functionality. When, as a woman, you decide you value being a functional and comfortable human over being a decorative image for men, everyone assumes you must be a man or want to be a man. No wonder we have so many young girls/women who think theyre trans when they really just dont want to be viewed as an object but rather as a person. Keep being comfortable and know there's lots of other women who are with you.

If I had to guess, I'd say that when people treat you 'like a guy' -- and I'm not sure what that means; the details matter -- most if not all of them can see that you're female but are treating you as they think you'd like to be treated. ...It's funny, short hair like yours used to be pretty common a few decades ago, especially on middle-aged European women. It's still not uncommon, and where I come from, it's not that uncommon on young women either. I do think ppl are becoming more open-minded about how women and men style themselves. So I'll mirror what everyone else is saying: style yourself as you like, and don't worry about what others may -- or very well may not -- be thinking. And totally ignore anyone who sends you unfriendly looks. They're the one with a problem, not you. They probably just need to grow up.

I'm a detransitioned female also. Sending so much love ❤

Me for the first 17 years of my life:

I am a cat person, but I love doing Rover for the challenge of caring for a dog.

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She looks so happy to be home with you!

I don't understand why anyone feels pressure to wear any sex specific clothing. Women have been wearing sweat pants and hoodies for decades. They are available in every women's dept.

I'm not sure why this video popped up in my sidebar, but I clicked it to hear a story of a life that seemed like would be radically different than me. I just wanted to say you seem like a friendly person and I hope you are treated with love and respect.

Maybe get Dad to read all the supportive comments you have been given here. Sounds like Dad has very sex limiting beliefs about how women can be and is denying the many diverse ways women actually are. You are a perfect example of that diversity, and hopefully he will open his eyes to recognize how regressive and harmful his belief in sex stereotypes is.

Have you checked out Carol the Butch Dyke? She talks about the experience of living as a masculine woman.

You look and dress how you want. One does not need to look like scarless O'Hara to look feminine . You can rock short hair and be the most dainty lady out there . Do what you want and like. Hairstyles can be a great form of expression---i use to have to most fun with having a cool pixie cut . Dye, spike, put a jeweled headband on.Please don't stress. You're gorgeous. Tatiana is a beautiful name. Just get to know who you are and what makes you the amazing person you are. Stay well 🌺

omg i know exactly what you mean about being in the women's clothing section! 😮when i was a kid (im a woman btw, never transitioned or anything) i used to hate girly clothes and i refused to wear anything but track pants and sweatshirt that were so baggy i was basically swimming in them! i was also sexually violated as a child so that may have contributed to my feelings of discomfort about my body (and maybe feeling that exposing my body was "asking for it" or inviting unwanted attention/touch - i know, crazy for a kid to be thinking that but i remember having those thoughts even at 5 years old, that i had to do whatever it took to not attract sexual attention). for a while in my 20s i wore dresses and got more comfortable in my skin but basically wore dresses because i thought thats what men liked. now im married and my husband doesnt mind if i wear jeans and sweatshirts. so i do all the time!

Hi Tatiana and Coco! I'm so sorry for the struggles you've gone through and the new ones you are encountering as you go through this next journey of your life. I just wanted to add my thoughts that women absolutely can have short hair. And regarding your dad's statements about sending signals, the way I see it, you attract what you put out. So it's very important to be yourself because if you aren't, then you aren't attracting the right kind of people who will mesh well with you. If you are being yourself then you will attract people who are attracted to you for who YOU are.

It’s ok to have a male looking haircut. It’s a shame todays society has made the world confusing for tomboys. It’s ok to be yourself. Chin up

Masculine and feminine is a spectrum based on cultural norms and separate from male/female and man/woman. Just be your awesome self. Make-up, clothes, and hairstyles don't make a woman or a man.

The pressure is real, but it doesn't matter because it tells more about them than it tells about you. Why should a woman only look a certain way? Why is it absurd to assume a masculine woman does not transition? I detransitioned because I understood that I didn't had to other myself from women anymore: there wasn't a special meaning behind the word women other than adult human female. It didn't mean heterosexual, feminine, a specific career or personality.. In fact, it meant there wasn't any limits since it was what I was, not WHO I was. When I accepted the reality I was in, I started to switch my goals from running away from my body to learn how to love and respect it. I've learned how to listen to it and I did more physical activities to do so. I started doing the stuff I wanted to do once I would transitioned because "Why can't I enjoy it now?". It was the same mindset than when you restrict yourself from doing stuff when overweight because it would somehow be better when skinny. Guess what.. It does not because you wasted your opportunity to experience stuff. Enjoy now and fully. After I detransitioned, I kept desired being perceived as a young man when I'm outside and I really still dress like a fancy dude at any occasion. I just love it. I kept my male name, although I will probably change the sex from my cards, but it doesn't matter.

It seems that most people really want to appear as "passing" as a certain gender. Or at least they are very concerned about how their appearance and gender is perceived by other people, even strangers in the supermarket. I sometimes wonder if gender confusion/enby/trans is exclusively an extroverted trait; something experienced only by people who are deeply influenced by and concerned about other humans, and how those strangers are perceiving them. Personally I find it really difficult to understand these problems, I wish I understood better.

Wasn't that great as a guy, huh? It's over for you, buddy girlo.

There are a lot of comments here where people don't understand or want to accept being trans and tell you to be a woman and to be feminine. They seem ignorant to me... You can be how you are now. Don't be too hard on your self. About your gender or having taken T. And don't feel pressured to be too feminine.

I can totally relate. I never physically transitioned, but I was socially transitioned for a short time 15 years ago when I was 19 and I went to a gender therapist and almost got on T. I kind of grew out of gender dysphoria but I still want to wear guy's clothes and have short hair and not wear bras or makeup. I'm not comfortable having long hair and it still gives me dysphoria. It also overloads my sense because I have autism. And long hair just feels unclean, it sheds every where, there's so many bad things about it. I've tried growing it out because of social pressure and insecurity I felt about people judging me. I can relate about your dad telling you to keep it long. Mine was that way too. When I was a kid I asked for a short haircut, and my parents thought that meant 6-ish inches long... So they gave me this long haircut and called it short. When I actually wanted like a 1 inch long haircut. I never got a GOOD haircut so i cut my own hair and shave it my self. I finally got the haircut I wanted when I was like 19. I spent so many years under opression of having to have long hair and put on a feminine appearance. I also want a fade too. But I can't go to salons or barbers because I want to ask for a fade, and I don't trust hair stylists or barbers to give me a good haircut or to understand what I want.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with looking as you do and being a woman! You don't have to 'present' yourself in any style, that you don't feel like. Don't focus too much on how you 'present' yourself, rather find elements of clothing/style that _you_ like, and feel _comfortable_ with. No need to fir yourself in any preconceived idea of a style you. Some women like to dress feminine or romantic or boho flowy things, and some completely opposite! You may of course experiment with style or accessories, and you may even surprise yourself, but dont feel like you have to fit any specific defined mold. It really doesn't matter which style you choose. And you look great.

So proud of you embracing who you were ment to be. People misginder me all the time. I have a masculine name and it has never bothered me. I grew up playing football and climbing trees, still a girl though. I hated wearing dresses and always preferred the "boys" style of dress. Sitll a woman! Keep being yourself!

Everything is hyper-politicized, so if you don't outwardly and aggressively show you're "part of the team" you get slagged. Please don't get discouraged, you're an inspiration! I can see why some might mistake you for a man, but that cute smile screams otherwise!

I think the problem goes beyond short hair or long hair, is about confidence and self esteem. You can be the women you like to be and present the way you want to present. No everyone will accept it, even family members will have opinions, and is important for you to be strong and when facing someone’s negative opinions about your image and personality. When someone has a healthy self esteem we can assess and be assertive at knowing if what other people is saying has merits or not.

Rose :) You seem so sweet and genuine ❤ You deserve to be happy and I hope/pray things get less frustrating for you and you find some pals that you can relate to soon ❤ It made me smile when you introduced Coco at the end hehe cats are the best ❤ 🐈‍⬛ Sending hugs and happy vibes to you!! 😊

Glad to see you are carrying on! I truly hope you’ll find women you can relate to in real life, that sure could help. Stay strong, don’t let other people define womanhood for you. Hope your dad will come around too P.S. loved the cat at the end of the video 😂

Just be you! We are all freaks. You probably wanted to transition because you were more masculine.. type A woman xx

you are a woman! you know who you are! a woman is not just boobs and a pretty face - youre amazing for speaking, always reach out if you're struggling and im sending all my love

The feminization is in embracing the softer aspects of female nature and less in how you actually look. Its the energy you cary and speak with and feel. Tomboy girls are hot, i dont know who told you otherwise. Being masculine by nature, having a more masculine focus in the world just as a way of naturally thinking and perceiving and behaving is not a fault, but just another variety, another flavor of human. Everyone has their own being; their own purpose, their own gifts to give just by being them, regardless if those around them do not recognize it because their own models and expectations fall short of the reality of what is in front of them. Thats their problem, not yours.

You do YOU. Fuck the labels and stereotypes. People want to put others into boxes but we are all complex, unique individuals. It doesn't work that way.

Wait sorry to intterupt Is this the gay community?

Look, I dare to think that the pressure you're talking about is from yourself. Change your train of thought for a moment and stop thinking about your gender and the way people perceive you. Just be you for a second without worrying about the external image. You seem really tense and confused, and, I'm sorry, but you seem stoned too. Are you? If so, give that up, it's not doing you any favours. Call me harsh but I know for a fact that to change your life you have to take active steps in the direction you want to go. Constantly thinking about stuff other than your goal just puts you off course.

Do you think the development of your body, such as you mentioned with your chest development, is a part of why you felt uncomfortable wearing more feminine clothing? Usually female clothes show off the body, so if you're not comfortable with how your body is presenting itself as less feminine than is expected, I wonder if that's a factor in why you or others like you might not want to show any skin. Do you think there might be a connection? I suppose it could also be a confidence thing too, and whatever influences were had and experienced during your development. It honestly upsets me so much to hear you speak of all of these things, and it seems so obvious how these experiences impacted your feelings about yourself and being a woman. Yet the medical institutions don't do enough work to understand why you feel the way you do before affirming your feelings. It's absolutely egregious.

You look like a female to me, of course short hair is more closely associated with men but your face is still feminine. Whatever you do, make sure it's done for you, otherwise you'll just come to regret your choices.

We already know that being a slave to fashion and culture can be very difficult and can create a lot of pressure and internal conflict and can leave us vunerable to capitalists and marketing taking advantage of us, which is entirely seperate from gender issues. Also, let your self off the hook friend, we are social creatures and everyone is impacted by what other people think, dont take things personally, but we are always going to feel things abo.ut what others say. When we seek to "be treated" like a man or a woman by looking like a cultural man/woman maybe that's a sign that we're not listening to our own internal compass, but engaging in culture play. Get out there friend, among many different people, think less about your gender, express yourself however you feel makes you happy, think more about what you love to DO, what makes you happy and do more of that- these are the things that will build your *character* and will actually help you find satisfaction in life. Good luck!

Shedding light on such an important concept. Thank you for your courage.❤

I'm sorry you're having a hard time. With time it'll get easier to not listen to the voices of the outside world. Masculine presenting women are still women. I don't present as "masculine" (I put the quotations because idk why short hair means masculine) as you do, but I'm also a masculine female. I've definitely never been associated with being a "girly girl". And it's been confusing and hard, but eventually I learned to stop giving a damn what others said or thought. Sometimes I wish I could be more "womanly" to "fit in" better but... It's just not me. I'm a woman who doesn't fit the stereotype of being a "feminine woman". And that's okay. One day at a time, you've got this. ❤

Don’t associate outward appearance with who you are as a person. You’re a woman no matter how you look on the outside. Looking masculine doesn’t make you any less of a woman than hyper-feminine women. All women are different and you shouldn’t have to feel pressured to look a certain way so that people will accept you as a woman. If they can’t accept you, that’s not your issue and honestly, you don’t lose anything by not associating with people obsessed with such superficial things. Don’t let other people dictate who you’re supposed to be or what you’re supposed to look like, otherwise you’re going to spend the rest of your life making yourself miserable and confused because you’re too fixated on other people’s perceptions of you.

You can be a masculine woman lol you ARE a masculine woman and that’s ok. You don’t have to dress a certain way to be a part of what you were born as. The clothes and the hair don’t matter. You are a woman. No matter what you do to your outer appearance. Own it. So dress in however masculine ways you want. No one can ever take away your womanhood. Ignore the pressure, be strong and if you want to be masculine then do it. The masculine thing to do is to not give a fu**k lol start being masculine now but being dominant in how you don’t care if others like your appearance or not.

Women are able to be any way at all, I'm so sorry that people pressure you to present a certain way. Expression should be infinite. My profile photo on here is pretty femme, but in real life I'm often called a male over the phone and given male restroom passwords or treated coldly by women in women's spaces while trying to go about my business. Whether I'm presenting ultra masc or ultra femme that day. I am usually treated as a male or as a trans woman who does not pass. I remember though being a young kid and being mistaken for a boy often, so any woman who doesn't perfectly fit that mold is always questioned. It's a costume. Even feminine acting or presenting women can uncontrollably have masculine physical or emotional traits, and others read them differently. I hope you will find an easier place for yourself in the world, as well as all of these real people and gender non-conforming youth who so desperately need validation in the fact that their physical sex is not a choice to them, and does not need to limit their expression in this life in any way.

You can do whatever you want, it's YOUR appearance. But why not try long hair to see how you like it? You've had so much pressure put on you, time to try out different things to see what you actually like. Stop calling yourself "masculine" too, just ditch labels altogether. You ARE a woman, no matter how you look.

Right now I’m at 6 months of growing out my hair, and I must say it gets easier after the first 2 or 3 months or so. At first I was like, I’m sure I’m not going to make it to one month of growing my hair out. But I’m kind of sticking to it and the last time I was at the hairdresser to kind of cut the weird mullet thing in my neck shorter she said I would actually look good with long hair and she hopes I will keep on trying, even if it’s for a year of 1,5 years or so just to see how I feel about it and how it will look (she thinks I’m a guy, so I thought that was kind of funny). But yeah, before I deleted my videos, I also made a video about especially the growing out the hair part where I was like, I have a feeling I’m mostly doing it for society, so to speak, and to not be misgendered as male all the time, not so much because I really want to myself…. Because I’m generally pretty butch/masculine presenting. Which is now leaning more towards androgyny, which for now I’m kind of okay with. So yeah, there’s definitely other detrans women or girls out there who feel you on that one. So I know the struggle, but yeah, I think its best to just stick with what YOU want. I’m now more okay with growing my hair out, so I feel I’m doing it more for myself than a couple of months ago, but yeah, keep doing YOU…

Women can have a buzz cut, absolutely! Jeezuz Christ, this society has gotten so patently ridiculous, and there is still SO much sexism, from all sides! Be it from the conservative side, ("you should perform femininity, if you're female), or from the "trans" / gender ideology side, ("if you're a female who doesn't want to perform femininity, that means you're not really female"), which is really just sexism 2.0, rebranded!!! Which is why I'm a radical feminist / evil TERF. :P I'm nowhere NEAR as GNC as you, but I found it very freeing to just chop off all my long hair, (it was partially as an act of rebellion against this nonsense), last year! Not buzz cut, though. Short bob. But I've been thinking about just how liberating it must be, to completely shave one's head, at least once in one's lifetime! (Cutting it off was pretty darn liberating, too.) Probably I'll have to do it, at least once, just to experience that! And I think it's absolutely freaking RIDICULOUS, just how much emphasis society puts on something as arbitrary and insignificant as women's HAIR, and hair length! Or whether or not we paint our faces, and wear skimpy clothing, to appeal to the male gaze! Sh*t has got absolutely F*CK-ALL to do with being female, and is indeed just an oppressive social system, that's pushed on women to keep us subservient! I think you need feminism, too. I think it's especially important, arguably, for women who naturally do NOT fit into society's idea of "femininity"! You women just being yourselves, exactly as you are..? Is what's ACTUALLY bad@ss, subversive, and a radical challenge to the oppressive status quo! Not this delusional sexism 2.0 nonsense, of: "I can only be myself, and reject femininity, if I also pretend like that makes me somehow NOT female! And irreversibly harm my body, in the process!" F*cking F*CK that!!! Urgh, I hate society, so damn much!! :S ..Anyway, support to you. You're cool. And you seem to be figuring it out. All the best. <3 :)

Rose, you are what you want to be. It's nobody else's business.

I am glad you did not end up getting top surgery; that would be another hurdle to go through :/. I am sorry you have been going through this.