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Nicholas Roerdink
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I was bullied at work, but it got better.
A few years later, things are getting better. :)
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I was bullied at work. I am afraid.
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I was bullied at work and it cost me my job. I am afraid to go back to work. I wish for others to see this so that they might understand what it causes people to go through. I hope that it stops some day so others wont have to feel the way that I have. Please share this if you know someone or are someone who has gone through this. We are out there and we understand these hardships.
Thank you for the update.I am glad that things are looking for you.Bullying , or should I say allowing yourself to be bullied, is hard to bounced back from.Congrats on your kid.Teach her to stand up for herself early on in life so she doesn't have to go through what you went through.
This video reasonates with me so much.I was a people pleaser and it made me a target for all sorts of abuse.Now I put myself first and if you don't like me tough.Everyone has to respect me.Hopefully, things have improved.You've learned to be assertive and not to let the bullies win.
Nicholas, I'm a 54 year old woman. I know how you feel. I work in retail. I've worked there for twenty years but right now I dread going to work because there are two people giving me the silent treatment. This woman used to be nice enough but she's changed. I have recently changed positions and she does my old department. She has been holding a grudge against me because I wouldn't relieve her on the phone. When I paged overhead for her she called twice yelling at me that she was on lunch. I told management and they said that was uncalled for and they'd speak to her. I was with a customer at a counter where she used to work. I didn't know what to do and she was really impatient with me like read this or look at this. Figure it out. I told a coworker I thought I could trust what happened. She found out and yelled at me to stop telling people she was mean. I have a buddy at work. This guy used to make me laugh. I even invited him to my house. He helped my husband and I on our computer. We took him out to eat. A couple of weeks ago I said hello to him but he didn't answer. I asked what was wrong and he yelled at me to stay away from him because he was mad at me. Apparently that woman told him that I said she was mean to me. It really hurt me because he and I have been good friends for years but not anymore. She must have told him that I'm the problem. When I walk by them all I get is silent glares. I try to avoid eating in the break room. I heat up my stuff and carry it to my car. I worry about who else they're talking to and what they're doing to my reputation. My husband has been pretty understanding. I still go to work but this silence makes me uneasy. I wonder if I were bleeding to death and dying they might just walk by. I get anxiety attacks. My blood pressure is super high but nothing is physically wrong with me. Keep up with your music. My passion is writing and art. I would like to do something with it. I haven't felt this way since junior high. I was bullied in school but it stopped after graduation. I was shy but these mean girls used to stare at me, surround me and taunt me really bad. I use to eat lunch in the gym to avoid these girls at lunch. Well I just wanted you to know you're not alone. Human beings can be the cruelest creatures on earth. There's so much hate and violence in the world for no reason. Take care Nicholas and thanks for sharing.
I can totally relate to you my brother, I love to play drums too😎👍🏽 and currently work where I work at right now and I've been dealing with this one person that's always on my back you know he thinks that he knows everything at his experience of 40 years and he rubs it in in my face, I'm 24 and I'm concerned as a young adult, but he doesn't see that he just sees a kid but I'm learning as I go he would also tell me that I'm not doing a good job or he'll blame me something for everything or that he would put me down but I'm really am tired of his s***, you know everything what you said I can totally relate, but now I can say it's finally time to put this toxic person knowing that he knows what he did it's time to catch up on things and bring him to immediate punishment I hope you're doing well brother be safe and take care👍🏽🎶🎼
How is harrasment like this still going on in the workplace still? Why doesn't HR departments actually protect people from this??
I was bullied at work for 20 years. I will start therapy to release my bitterness and resentment. I recommend reading FROM PANIC TO POWER by Lucinda bassett, can be read for free on archive.org
Here is how you handle bullying.....its a chess game. You need to get the bully on video and audio...study workplace polices, get a lawyer or a private eye involved. Document the bullying and have a lawyer and the police involved. Have your lawyer threaten to sue your employer if the bullying and harassment does not stop. Bullying is evil and all about having power over others.
Truth is. People will never appreciate your hard work. No matter how hard you work ! If your not kissing the bosses ass. You dont matter to them!
I'm going through this now. I'm crying listening to your story. I'm an older woman and I really can't take it anymore.
I was bullied multiple timele coworkers asked me if I want to fuck gay guys and suck his dick they told them shoot fast told me it was a joke they don’t want to help because they are best friends and coworkers who did this to me you have to stand up for yourself because the company for yourself and not defend you ate a literally harassed meBecause the company doesn’t want to take action to you too scared because my coworkers they are friends with the manager and that’s why they beg me not to file a lawsuit but guess what I did you have to stand up for yourself no matter what is the cost the company does not care about you and another woman that’s why I did it they always make fun of me and they always bullied me
Workout, stand straight, talk with confidence and believe in yourself 👍🏽
Im 24 getting made fun of thinking about committing suicide couse life is litteraly taking over me
Don't do it not worth it.these ppl are not worth it.they are worthless ppl.value your self.have faith ;)
work for yourself. Screw the people that forced you to leave....they did you a huge favor.
I fucking hate bullies I hate bullies I wanna fight them
Read "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover... Game changer
I am going through this right now. ✔ to all the symptoms you shared with us. Weekends are my relief. I don't get out once I'm home. I stay in my "safe place" and eat. The two bitter bullies have been doing this to me for over a year (I've been there 2 yrs). I've been told they've done this to others before me but nothing has been done to stop them. I am nearing retirement and am too old for their games. Unfortunately, my highly visible job requires daily interaction with them. It's a lonely feeling not knowing who you can trust. Hurt, fear, anger, resentment. I feel them all depending on their mood or if they're having a "let's f*** with Kim day". It is frustrating, exhausting and belittling. I know "it's not me, it's them" but why is it allowed to continue? Have you read or viewed info about the psychology of bullies? Check out narcissistic traits. That's very helpful in understanding the bully's motives. Prayer also helps.🕊 Good luck and YOU WILL OVERCOME THIS. This situation is building your character and making you a better, stronger person. As for me, it's helping me make the decision of how I'm going to spend my early golden years. Dreading driving to a miserable workplace environment or be free to do what I want, when I want and spend time with loved ones and friends--not bitter, unhappy and mentally unstable bullies.
Aww I’m glad you finally got your happy ending 😊 I’m facing the same thing at the moment, confronted my manager but it didn’t go anywhere, took a day off work, I’m back on tomorrow & my manager & I have a meeting with the big boss so I’m abit scared but I will overcome my fear & stand up for myself.. wish me luck!😊
Please post more videos
Good luck! You got this! Just know that you are in control! 😁
Nicholas Roerdink Thanks😊
I make advice videos about being bullied at work if anyone is interested.
I’m with ya brother! You’re definitely not alone!
Thank you for talking about this so honestly I've been bullied at my previous 2 workplaces and now I'm starting to think it will be the same in my next jobs
Can you ask your doctor for Xanax? It helps with anxiety and the trauma. I know.
Thank you for posting your experience. Workplace bullies need to be outed.
I know that it feels like when you are bullied at the workplace. I was 21 years old back in 1997 and I had some 56 year old bully that used to bully me, abused me and pitted others against me. Reason, cause I saw thru him and I knew him for the trash. I got him back and he had egg on his face. The guy went out of his way to be 1000% evil towards me. If that happened to me know I would have had the guy fired and arrested and sued the company. Bullies feel bad about themselves and need to feel better about themselves. Get them on tape, and play chess. Remember the bully Never wants to be exposed or put in their place.
I've a very similar story. I used to work as a PC mechanic at this training centre. There was this bus driver there who was classed as a boss because he was related to one of the managers. This guy was stupid as shit! This is in Ireland and I'm French. This guy would constantly show me up in front of the group. He would call me a French cheat when I was playing pool with work colleagues. I joined that place in 2008 and he retired in mid 2010. He had a problem with me from day one. He gave me so much crap and tried turning Co workers against me. Lucky for me they saw through his crap which angered him even more. The day he retired the company passed around a money collection in a hat to give to him. I refused point blank to put anything into it! He bullied and treated me like crap. Why would I give him anything?!?
grab something hard and slamnthat in their fucking head
and then spit on them
these people need to go to hell I'm dealing with the same situation I've been working for my company for 11 years they try everything to break me down but I'm still here just keep your head up my brother everything will be alright
Do not feel bad. I have been called stupid and dumb too. Anyone is so called different is targeted.stress does that. Take care.
This is the worst! I’m currently dealing with this in the healthcare field with women! Could happen anywhere. Looking for a transfer 💪🏻
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I am happy that things are working out for you. Those idiots from those other jobs were jealous and afraid that you'd replace them someday. That's why they were setting you up to fail. HR is never for employees, they're only there to keep the employer out of court.
monarchmark you got that right! And thanks for the kind words, even though things are going better, it is still amazing to know that people care. 🙂
You are most welcome 🏴
I've been there friend. Believe in yourself and you'll be fine :)
I haven't been in your shoes, but I can relate some what. I have been bullied at my work for four years, told I'm fat, disrespected by coworkers, assaulted, verbally abused, and touched inappropriately. This women always gos out of her way to bully me by spreading false rumors, insulting me in front of people.
What about god
these people need to go eat from the dumpster
I'm glad ur doing well
I hope ur doing better now dude
I can relate. I am currently going through this. I have been working at this job for about a month. And shortly after i started the bullying started with my trainer. She is constantly being outright obnoxious. Now she is the typical bully. She knows there are certain people who she can't bully because they are not to be messed with. These people are treated entirely different the tlhe treatment im getting. The public humiliation in front of other employees. Who say nothing. It's to the point where my anxiety is through the roof when she's in my presence. If it wasn't for the fact that i got a chance to work with a much more respectful and kind employee. I would have continued to think that i couldn't learn the job. These people will sense the people who may not challenge them and they are the bullys target. That would be me in my current job. It's ridiculous. Going to work should not produce anxiety. Or depressed and stressed out. It seems like its a game to them.. Im not going to stand for it anymore. I went to my supervisor this morning which im proud of. Because i had been suffering in silence this whole time. But i know it's not going to end there. But it felt good having someone to confide in. Now i have to deal with the aftermath Monday. But at least i have the weekend to figure some of it out. Im going to say a prayer and hope for the best.
I get bullied at my job for the past 19 years and I gained over 90 pounds. I can relate
Keep ur head up man, please pray, jesus will listen to u
I feel ya brother, I been picked on, on my job too, by this women at work, but trust jesus christ, he will fight for u, I have faith brother, it's not easy but we will make it, jesus got our backs, trust me :)
I am crying I can relate. I don't wish this on no one
Praying for you..
I am so sorry..I can relate to you. May God bless you .I am being bully and now I am afraid of my job. A single parent this is so sad
This is such a common situation nowadays either at work or online cyber bullying is also downplayed a lot by the police but can be serious.
Hi Nicholas! i whatched the previous video, posted in 2014.. and I want to tell you, like I'm targeting bulling at school. I had the excitement to learn, but eventually I abandoned it and now I'm in high school high school. and I think we do not deserve this to be hijacked and target others' mockery. (sorry but not very good my english)
I hope you are ok
keshav , I am doing much better! I posted another video a few weeks back as an update for where I am at. Things are going very well. :)
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