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I only ever worked overnight shift jobs where i could work with a small number of people. Security jobs overnight restocking in stores stuff like that. Never worked in an office environment. Outside of work environment never feel a need to really explain my stimming or in last year carrying my comfort item(stuffed teddy bear if anyone wants to know) unless someone directly asks me why and is not an arse about it. I will try my best to explain it keeps me calm and reduces anxiety. If they are a complete arse about it and make ignorant comments i just say none of your business and walk away. Only family i deal with regularly are my mom who already knows my traits. My brother who also knows. and my uncle who is Autistic himself so no need to explain. My nephew was diahnosed ASD and me and my mother tried to explain my sister in law reasons for his behaviors but she told us we dont know anything about Autism(Shes a Autism mom unfortunately) because thats not what her FB and TikTok moms groups said.

I don't find that attempting to push through difficult situations or fatigue is beneficial for me. It definitely makes the situation worse and will lead to shutdown. NTs never max out their potential and can "push" through to achieve a goal and recover. ND's normal state is to be at maximum output when on task. Therefore, there's no resources left for the "push".

I had my autism assessment 2 weeks ago using Right to Choose, partly because a private assessment would have really stretched our finances, but also to be sure that the diagnosis would be accepted by the NHS. My GP didn't quibble over making the referral. I did give him my completed AQ50 which showed a very high score. I had heard too many horror stories of assessors who didn't seem to understand that late-identified women can present very differently than young males, so I deliberately chose a company led by a female psychiatrist and with a lot of female neurodivergent assessors. I had to wait 5 months for my appointment. In the meantime, I had to complete their detailed history questionnaire and was also able to send any additional information I felt might be helpful (which I did). My assessor was lovely and I was very happy with the single 2-hr interview. She warned me that she might not be able to give a verbal diagnosis during the interview, but it would definitely be the same day. She actually told me a few minutes before the scheduled end of the appointment that she was sure I am autistic, then gave me the chance to ask questions. The company sent me a "To Whom It May Concern" PDF later that day, and my assessor recommended giving a copy to my GP so the diagnosis could go on my NHS record at that point. I could also have submitted extra information for them to use when compiling the detailed report, which will take 6-8 weeks and will also be sent direct to my GP. That's fine by me as it gives me some time to adjust to the result before reading all the ways I appeared autistic to my assessor.

For many years I had periodically experienced burnouts and shutdowns without knowing what they were or what caused them. I can now manage the causes much better and understand better what I can do to recover quicker. At this moment I'm slipping into a burnout. I get physically tired, mentally fatigued, sensitivity increases and communication becomes increasingly difficult. I pushed myself beyond my limit leading up to the imminent holiday. It has taken me about 30 minutes to type this comment. Thus far, I've avoided a complete shutdown. Thanks again for some very good information.

Thank you so much for making these videos. Recently found your channel and it’s incredibly refreshing to hear someone talk about these things. It’s strange hearing someone so similar to myself haha. Not sure how to really get out of burnout, but knowing what it is has really helped (though it’s hard to tell the difference between autistic burnout and depression and anxiety) Luckily, I have a support worker who’s going to try and help me start making steps to go out more and that (can barely go out for supermarket, meds, appointments etc.) I think the way being autistic interacts with mental health struggles can make it difficult to get the right support or even understand how to help yourself. It’s nice to know im not alone though (well obviously I don’t want others to struggle) finding other autistic people online has really helped as it’s easier to socialise online with others who get it- also pulls me out of the little bubble that I’ve been in where I just sleep, wake up, then wait for sleep again. I like the idea of saying “I need” instead of “I want” in the situations where I need something, will definitely be using that :)

I just stumbled upon your channel. My 6 year old is mild on the spectrum and your videos are encouraging

It’s hard to know what adjustments are needed if you are new to a career, have a new disability or attain a diagnosis.

I have a visual of characters, but it's almost like a shadow with never being able to clearly see their face, more like their clothing and torso. What I visualize doesn't match the descriptions in a book.

I was diagnosed with autism last week, and I definitely have some ADHD traits which to some extent reduce the obviousness of my autism, though not necessarily enough for an ADHD diagnosis. I'm still considering whether it is worth the hassle of getting an ADHD assessment as I probably wouldn't want medicatiion. Someone I know well is clearly ADHD (though not yet diagnosed) and I can also see autistc traits in that person. Having done a deep dive into both conditions in the past 8 months, my suspicion is that AuDHD should be the core diagnosis, with absence of autism or ADHD being noted as an exception. The answer should be clearer in a few years. As mentioned below, how DSM-6 handles the 2 conditions (3, if you consider inattentive and hyperactive/impulsive ADHD as distinct) should be interesting.

I've always struggled to have a group of friends, I tried a lot when I was younger because it was what was expected of me but I was terrible with actually keeping up with people

Important video; learned a lot!

The intense pleasure of seeing a sunrise or sunset that has the right mixture and intensity of color. Feeling the happy emotions of the person you care for. Especially when I'm the one who stimulated those emotions. Experiencing the acceptance, calmness and security of being with your best friend in the world. Who might be your human life partner or a pet. Being able to recall any of those past experiences with the same intensity. There are many things I get to experience with intensity that a neurotypical will never be blessed with.

Brilliant!

I've struggled so much to get reasonable adjustments at work. I think I may have not given enough information, I always worried that it would be worse over explaining but this makes sense. I'll try this and see what happens. Thank you!

The thing I love the most about my autism is my empathy, you're right, people miss read it but I care so deeply about people and almost feel what they are feeling I'm just crap at being able to show people in a way they understand and can react to effectively

I love my ability to plan complex ideas out in my head.

I had mine today. I hated it, it was stressful and fast, and i kept crying and apologising because i couldnt think as quick as she wanted me to. The book was weird, i wasnt sure what was going on. The tooth brushing was very bad, the picture of america i spotted straight away. She said she'd been and i hesitated, then my mask kicked in and i asked her where out of politeness! I spotted the idiom but took a while to explain what it meant. I only used 3 of my 5 objects i forgot the other 2. I guess we will wait and see. Thanks for the video x

Very intersting description of the DSM5. Desiphering the traits can be so difficult.

I agree with this. I have asked for adaptations at work a few times, when I have been more specific about my needs and how this will benefit my work it has been approved but if i have just said I need XYZ it is met with confusion and a lot more questions and suspicion. I remind myslef I am talkimh to someone who has not got the first clue how my brain processes the world. Over explain and it will tell people everything they need and often much, much more.

I'm fortunately able to work for someone that has witnessed me being able to perform at a very high level under favorable conditions. I actually get more work done at under 28 hours a week than at 40. And my work week isn't interrupted by mental fatigue and shutdowns.

Wow - this was really enlightening, I catastrophise all the time but didn't really think about it or how I can manage it, thank you for this and your other videos, I have just come across them a few days ago and I can't stop watching them!

AuDHD is definitely an interesting combo!

What an interesting way to describe AuDHD. This is what made a diagnosis so complicated for me, I was spontaneous and able to socialise, only no3 have I realised at 49 that it was draining me of all my personal resources and energy

I find it baffling that the person on the phone thought you were threatening them in some way by telling them about your impending mental health issue. Must be some kind of personal or social conditioning they've experienced. Possibly by being threatened in an indirect manner by an emotionally manipulative parent. Typical of a neurotypical to seek hidden or implied meaning rather than listening to your words.

It's no fun being, simultaneously, under stimulated and overwhelmed. Adhd asks for stimulation, usually to boost dopamine. High intelligence can also require mental stimulation while having high sensitivity. Many people that have high intellectual potential are mistakenly diagnosed adhd. A third circle should be added to your diagram. The over lap of autism, adhd, and gifted thinking is interesting. Sometimes treating low dopamine can help control the adhd while treating the over stimulation in autism with cannibinoids and serotonin. Tyrosine (dopamine) for adhd, tryptophan (serotonin), usually low in autistics, and cbd oil (anandamide), also low in autism. It's a long interesting adventure we're living. Hopefully, you'll find what works for you. A proper assessment is very helpful.

The NHS is scarily incompetent. Not just related to neurodivergent people, i have physical health issues that I am constantly told they dont have the resources to help with and I don't agree with you on GPs, I find them horrible, rude abs aggressive. I am sure it is not all of them so happy that it looks like that is not the case for you but they have made my life a living hell for a decade. Thank you for putting these videos out there because someone needs to speak out against it.

Christmas is a challenge for me, I love it for many reasons but I really struggle with the social convention and expectations from people. Love the cat by the way ❤

Interesting. I have difficulty telling people what I want for a gift. As I pick up on obscure details, I'm pretty good at gifting. I definitely enjoy giving to others. Probably one of the ways I can express appreciation for others. I definitely have difficulty accepting a gift and opening in front of them. I guess it's the social demand/expectations and the emotional content. I've also realized that I sense the excitement of the other people in the room. That can be a lot of extra input to process.

I think you did an excellent job of describing your personal version of autism. Wouldn't it be interesting if everyone would introduce themselves by answering in a similar format to this video? If someone asks, how I'm doing or feeling, I'll take several minutes to answer. Otherwise, I feel that I wasn't truthful or was insufficient in my reply.

I think a lot of assumptions many people have about autism don't consider the intensity of what any particular autistic person is dealing with. Intensity and depth of mental processing is a considerable factor in how well an autistic person functions daily. Maybe the level of intensity, amount of information, depth of processing and ability to process could be a more accurate way to assess or describe a given level of autism.

I have had so many issues with the NHS, they either have no idea hiw to 'deal' with me or just don't care. We do need to speak out against it because it is horrible.

I am definitely a monologuing king. I live a good monologuing session!

I am rubbish at trying to do two things at once I find it so hard to pay attention once I have been pulled out of something else because I am still thinking about the thing I was doing before.

26 and 598 seconds. I have always been good at reading people but it just takes me a little longer.

The NHS is a mess. I've been more damaged by them than anything being neurodivergent could ever do. We need to call this out and campaign for them to understand us more because as it stands, we really are not understood... I don't think it is purposeful but it is definitely there and highly prevalent.

Haha... why does everyone video you do resonate with me. It's definitely a fact that I sometimes know people are bored but really can't stop myself and at others I just don't know they are. Same result, different reasons.

This really made me think about the difference between my hyperfocus and my hyperfixations, there is a clear difference by they are definitely linked. The way you describe these things is very enlightening and has really made me think about my own processes.

I notice strings of number really easily. Very interesting, thank you. ❤

It felt like the eyes were staring in to my soul but I scored 19 in 411 seconds.

Your content is very nice but your You need to do good SEO for your channel and videos and take the help of a freelancer to grow the channel

There's so much relatability; great video. Phone calls also make me apprehensive and I also have different levels of dealing with them depending on the context

Having difficulty judging motivations, emotional states in social situations has us going into the social interactions feeling vulnerable. Then remove some of the cues that we use to sense the emotions and motivation of another person by having a phone call can be anxiety inducing.

I find anxiety comes from feeling that I don't have enough information in a given situation. The intensity that comes with autism amplifies that anxiety to, sometimes, an unmanageable level. The intense focus (monotropism) and perfectionism can compound that issue. Our brains are natural prediction machines. That's how we survive the world. We take in information, run a simulation to help avoid danger, acquire resources and increase survivability. The perfectionism demands that we take in every detail so as to run successful predictions of outcomes without mistakes. As we can't possibly know every variable, the simulations we run in our minds are imperfect. Reality is that we only need to be good enough.

"we can only change the world if others come along with us" is such a good comment - so much good can come from collaboration between different neurotypes and just generally seeing the world in different ways. this was also so enlightening, it felt like peering into my own brain

Thank you so much for this. It's super brave to dare to talk back to these people when 99.999% of the public's bought and paid for. Literally every interaction is like pulling teeth. They lose things on purpose, pretend to be incompetent and wasteful, accuse you of God knows what and talk to people like absolute garbage: "what's THE name" "we'll put it to Panel" "you will stand there and we'll see you when we see you" Half the autism community just attacks 'safe' targets like ABA, Autism Speaks and Donald Trump, when the people who #Actually have the ability to destroy our lives are doctors, shrinks, teachers, cops and general officialdom. That's not to say the private sector's any better necessarily, but nobody dares go after the People Who Live For Others. Absolutely gutted that you came close to checking out of the game. Don't do it again old chap, you're home now and we see you - in a good way. The NHS in 2024 is a bit like the IRA in the 70s: everyone knows someone who died. I've lost count of the number of people who've been livid over the effective slaying of a close relative, only to end up dropping the whole thing and just shaking their head after the guns are instantly turned on them. I've lost count of the number of 'never events' that simply don't get reported: go to hospital with a broken toe, dead of pneumonia a week later. Lessons will be learned, training undertaken, funding increased. But at least it's _free_ lol Change is needed and if that psycho policeman in Number Ten brings it about, I'll give him a second go. Not holding my breath though. What generally happens is they look for _economic_ solutions - internal markets, PFI, PCTs, CCGs, KPTs....... when the problem is really one of character: how _do_ you stop people leaving old ladies unfed and unwatered lying in their own filth til they have to have a leg amputated? That old guy left on a trolley 52 hours in A&E in plain sight losing the ability to swallow...... that's not a funding issue, and it's AMAZING that you're here calling things by their proper names. This is not about £$€$£ - important obviously as that is - it's about *treating people with human dignity and respect* rather than an Us&Them mentality in which _some people cannot be questioned, and other people do as they're told or else_ .

So much of this is familiar to me. Thank you for openly speaking about this. I have given up trying to explain away and justify the behaviour of the vast majority of NHS staff. It comes down to human decency at the end of the day. But the gross misunderstanding of autism plus no real desire to even follow their own policies is the also a massive problem. Mental Health services seem worse than most departments, in my experience. In fact my autism and ADHD diagnosis has actually been used almost as excuse not to offer me any actual support. They just want to refer me on, despite the fact that their misdiagnosis, drug treatments and ‘care’ has significantly impacted both my mental and physical health. I definitely have complex trauma around all medical issues. I have found a therapist who is neurodivergent themselves and I try to only really discuss my thoughts with other neurodivergent people now. We can support each other. You support me Jason - every time I listen to you - the validation alone is just so refreshing. Thank you again for this frank and honest video.

I just want to say that I think your video is very well put together and informative! I was surprised that its views were lower than I expected. I find your discussion very helpful, I hope more people can come across your channel. ^u^

can we also talk about camhs not comparable but it was one of the first things i thought about when i heard about this case tbh i dont think theyve actually helped any1 but instead just made ppls situations worst i actually dont know how theyre still running

tyy for talking about this

I'm not sure what your ususal content is, but keep doing this as well, it's good. I don't know how I ended up here but I thought this was very thoughtfully made and informative.