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My parents surrounded me with Hans Christian Anderson books, rather than Disney.

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You better have good answers yourselves when she says ‘and what about you? ‘

3:52 shoudl've been verbally bleeped out, because that's real shocking in public.

Agreed, be it Disney, Hallmark, romcoms, romantic movies, or books (and many other examples). Point is this. Generally, they show the start of a relationship up to the point of "I love you," then roll credits, or the book ends. It doesn't show a realistic relationship or how people actually fall in love (romance novels are hit or miss on this one). It tells a story with a romantic plot. That's it. But, yes, people see this and perceive it as having some accurate depiction of romance. At some point, I do think we lose our disillusioned ideas about them with age and/or real-life experience. But, there are some who don't. But, personally, those are the type of people who are in love with love itself. Not understanding the dynamics of an actual relationship or caring to learn. Just moving from one honeymoon phase to the next. Leaving when the going gets tough.

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I recently saw I guy that ghosted me on a dating app. I just moved on to the next guy. When the guy stopped texting me after I saw him. I did not know why he did not respond. He sent one text and I sent many. It took my months to realize that he was done with me. I wish I knew about your advice years ago.

At least he has a variety of interests . . . A little judy and questionable, but a variety. Baby steps.😁

Relationships are work. But when you're with the right person. You enjoy putting in the extra effort to the point it doesn't feel like work (for the majority). Soul mates don't just happen, a higher sense of compatability doesn't mean less effort on anyone's part. Trust is earned, just like a bank, don't give more than you receive. Communication is key to a healthy relationship. But, you need to understand what that means for yourself and them. Talking is moot if you don't know how to listen or resolve the issue.

Been there, done that, and tossed the t-shirt. 😁

When is it too soon to tell the other about your own needs? Currently in a situationship for only a month. On our 4th date we did have sexual relations and he said he wasnt going to look for anyone else after wards. Then I get short 2 word texts. I've often initiated text conversations since the 2nd date.we do have plans for a 5th date though.

God loves you no matter what

Great video, straight to the point. Keep it up!

To be fair he has to message all the guys he's in a "relationship" with . . . Tends to happen when they treat a dating app like a fan club.😁

There’s a big difference between narcissism and arrogance and I don’t think you’ve had the right education to make that distinction.

Great advice . . . Unrelated, but your multilingual gift is awesome.😁

What if this guy acts gay and sounds like gay, I have been approaching him, one day he told me that he does not like guys and had dated girl before. I then asked him straight out "why did you not reject me if you are not gay ? ". He responded "There's no reason why I have to reject you. We can keep talking and be just like we have been." Is he really gay but self denies his sexuality ?

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Unrealistic expectations . . . Feeds into the "ideal" body type or social standard. To the point they expect you to do the same. Not from a place of sharing an interest or concern. But, because you are an object of desire and how good you look reflects on them.

Why is this on my feed? Maybe im gay, maybe my dog is gay or maybe you are gay. But at the end of the day, all I can say is Sup

Yes, but either it means you haven't had the coversation about where you two stand. Or you have, but they're in "limbo" about things. Which if that's the case. You know they're not likely to change their mind and you're playing a losing game if you stay.

In all fairness, he promised . . . He didn't think he'd have to follow through.😁

I love how these are basic, normal first date questions. But gays are so oversexualized they only have the concept of asking if the other is top or bottom or if they like groups or open relationships.

In addition, make sure to try to follow up with a question based on their response when applicable. They say they enjoy reading, what's their favorite book is, who's their favorite author, and which genre they enjoy reading the most. Obviously, you are not trying to give them the third degree, but by following up on their responses, you show your listening and interest. Also, you can interject little tidbits about yourself. This way their not fully dominating the conversation or feel like they're in a job interview. The best thing to also do, as is implied here, use open-ended questions. Try to minimize or avoid "yes or no" questions. It doesn't give you much information or anything to build on. So, instead of focusing on their answer, you're scrambling for something else to talk about. Another good question that I enjoy is: 8)What do you want to be remembered for? Also, when it comes to "texting" assuming this started on a dating app. Look at their profile. Don't go full stalker (boundaries) but, you can get a lot of information from posted images or what tidbits they offer about themselves. So instead of an opener like "Hi, I liked your picture," or "I thought you were cute," get the ball rolling straight from the gate, "Hi, I really liked your profile pictures, especially the one at Disney Land. I've never been myself, what was your favorite ride there?" Or something along those lines. People love talking about themselves, and by showing interest in the information they posted, it shows that you actually took time to look at their profile. Implying you are looking for a good match and not just some random guy on an app.

Lol i just say crazy things or test their humor levels. Like ill tell em to put props on their junk, or photoshop their unsolicited nudes n send them back as mine

Thanks for the video, information, and advice. Here are the 7 questions: 1. What's something you're passionate about? 2. How do you like to spend your free time? 3. What's a dream or ambition you have? 4. What do you like to do on your weekends? 5. What's something that made laugh recently? 6. Is there a cause or belief you feel strongly about? 7. What's a lesson you've learned from a past relationship?

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You are gay

It's definitely a compatability issue. I can see both perspectives. But, I agree that only replying to messages at a certain time generally shows someone who prioritizes their time first. Which is their choice and unstable. But, it seems very limiting. Imagine trying to carry multiple conversations for an hour. Then going radio silent again.

That's too positive 😅

It's just like making a mistake. We live , we learn, and we move on.

Agreed . . . While I'm glad I've broken out of my shell through posting comments. It's definitely added to the dopamine hit desire. I am currently learning to decrease my phone time. Reminding myself, likes, and content creator stamps don't mean anything. We're all just strangers on the internet. Just leave a kind word, and that's enough. Strangers approval doesn't add value to myself. I do that.

What places woud you be travelling to? Comment below :)

Find Jesus bro, save yourself while you can. Stay blessed! Have a great day.

Seriously though, you were going to say, "I'd have two dollars, which isn't a lot, but it's weird it happened twice." 😁

No argument . . . But, actually getting to the dating part. It's surprising how some people expect an immediate spark to determine if they want to give someone a chance. Where in the real world, people, not a romance or romcom.😁

Beware of covert narcissists. Rife in this community.

I’m a Gay man in middle age. I think you are well meaning. But your video is merely a lot of obvious bromides.

Matthew 19 12 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ says God prefers same-sex marriage and confirms transgender people are born that way. Male or female is determined by gender located in the soul not sex characteristics. I am Elijah of Malachi 4, the forerunner to the return of Jesus. JESUS was TRANSGENDER 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️, a female man returning as a female woman in a lesbian relationship with a male woman. The wedding is already paid for and will be broadcasted all over the world. Fake ministers all know Malachi 3 8 is telling THEM to return the money. Fake ministers all over the world know the natural disasters, shootings, wars, diseases, famines, etc will get worse until THEY repent by returning the money and tell everyone they have known God prefers same-sex marriage. World peace is coming for those that remain and God's real people will soon transfigure and never pass on again.

Question: No argument to each of the points you made. But, it there a way to tell if they're being sincere with their intentions or just going through the motions? Does that make sense? Like, clear enthusiasm over just hitting "expected" milestones.

I'm bi, and the coming out part was never something hard for me. My dad had already said when we had talked about sexuality that if I ever found a man attractive, I could tell him. My family is non-religious, so yeah coming was nothing hard for me.

Scientifically proven: you can't fix that. Their brain is just wired wrong. GTFO before they do real and lasting damage to you or someone else you care about, because they will. And they won't be sorry about it, won't feel any regret at all, and won't even accept that it's their fault because narcissism is a disease not just a state of mind.

No shortage of narcissists. I’ve had the misfortune of meeting downlow narcs, bi narcs and married narcs both open and down low not to mention pan narcs.

No argument . . . I also wonder if he wanted you to offer "more" physical affection. I brought this up to some of my guy friends, they're each married (and straight) for context. I said how I feel that most men focus on physical first (specifically sex) than if that experience is enjoyable they begin to invest emotionally. To which they agreed. Like that was pretty standard. I watched another channel, Dr. Tyler Hendrx, who mentioned 4 intimacies: Physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual. And how when he grew up, for a varity of reasons, he didn't really get those met through family (intimacy beimg a type of connection either platonic or romantic). So around 15 plus he would meet try and make that lacking intimacy up with just physical intamacy with hookups (didn't work). Point is, it's intresting how men are taught, expected, or belive that physical intimacy is the most important relationship factor. Obviously sex falls under the physical intimacy umbrella it's not the only physical intimacy. Nor is it wrong for anyone to intentionally hold that particular physical intimacy as a main qualifier. But, as your story shows, when those of us don't feel as strongly about that being the most important intimacy and instead look for the emotional or intellectual intamacy first. We find ourselves questioning our own perspectives, because of constant rejection. But, guess that just means we have a dating koy pond rather than a pool.

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This is what I find so weird about "low" effort. Like I get its limited images and info based on their profile. So I understand you won't have a plethora of things to ask. But, I would think you could come up with two to three things. Based on something from their profile. Plus maybe have a couple "deep" questions, nothing too personal, but that requires some introspective thought. Like what do you want to be remembered for? This way you can answer their questions and then hit back with your own. It's called a conversation for a reason.

This is definitely a problem with a lot of hot guys! Gotta be careful their ego is in check. Not worth chasing them.

I feel there's a certian irony to scorpio being water. Do the the fable of the frog (or fox) and the scorpion. (I'm scorpio) I respect astrology. But, as you said it's but one piece of a larger puzzle. There are a number of things utilized to discover our personalities. Which is great. But, when you get right down to it, compatability comes from shared core values, morals, and relationship expectations. Yes, similar personalities or "opposites attract" may each play a part in the initial attraction phase. But, mutual connection based on our core being is going to forge a far stronger bond as/if things progress forward over time.

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