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The Japanese guys ghosting you are probably normies. You have to hunt for the outlier weirdos in Japan to match your specific personality. - If you ever met or befriended Tkyosam or Oriental Pearl on youtube they could maybe introduce you to some better potential partners (meeting people through other people might be a more secure route to less ghosting).

The mited are actually good for the beetle

Right! Drinking just water ja not enough.

Why would anybody who claims to understand Japanese people, expect to form deep connections and find "love" there. As a foreigner in Japan, OF COURSE, you're going to be lonely. GEEZ

Aww, you seem like a kind soul. Hang in there. Jesus loves you.

What kinda toad ?

I faced so much discrimination last two years in diploma school that's totally unbelievable. Still fighting for myself. They are toxic people. They will die in silence but won't seek for help. You will face discrimination at school, work. Check girls work in prostitution range from underage to old.

I have lived in Japan for over 10 years and my wife is Japanese. Japan is an incredibly challenging country in every way, even for me still. Realizing that Japanese people almost never show their true colors was like a shock. But after all these years, I just ignore this fact and other shortcomings in the country and just be who I've always been. Adapting a bit, seeing life in Japan as a long-term process and keeping up with things helps. Otherwise, just be yourself, even if that's not always appreciated by Japanese society. Good luck.

Giiirrl. Just want to say - you are beautiful and normal. You are brave for being so open and honest and vulnerable. Even if you are struggling to find connections in Japan (which I hear is impossible as a foreigner), I hope you find your community on RUclips. I loved reading everyone’s comments to you and I agree with everyone ! 🫶 I moved to Croatia 5 years ago and I remember going through your exact same emotions around the 2 year mark living here. The feeling of not belonging and feeling rejected and wondering if it’s “me”. I realized I spent the first 2 years expecting i would find my community, fit into society, or at least make sense of the society I was in… it was exhausting. Year 3 I decided to not give a f***k about what people think of me and if I’m accepted or not. I stopped caring about desperately trying to connect with people and find friends. It was sad for me to give up on wanting that, something I thought I needed, but as soon as I changed my perspective, I finally found my flow and I’m happier! Do I have an amazing friend group here, no. Will I ever fit in, probably not - and I don’t want to. But I’m happy and content and find pockets of joy every day - yes! Life is about exploring. Explore and discover and have fun with it. Live, laugh, love, cry. Do exactly what you’re doing. ❤️❤️❤️

You're not alone. Been here for five years and had a lot of difficult times. Only thing that kept me here was a humble church in Ibaraki and a church in my new town in Kanagawa. Stay strong.

Cruel and nonsensical!

Is the guys name Katsu? Because if it is, I've been ghosted too. Gotta pick yourself up and not let insensitive people who are avoidants get the best of you. We move...

Bless your sweet heart people have become very cavalier with friendship nowadays i totally get what your feeling , if you dont mind me asking Where are you originally from & why did you leave ?

Hello from 🇨🇦 16:20 ~ Nope. I don’t mind. You go ahead and cry ur lil heart out. I’ll just listen. 💓😊 I heard that ghosting is a common thing in Japan and I have a hard time understanding why that is. It’s too bad because it’s a very inauthentic thing to do. And you do t want to get connected to inauthentic people. One real person is worth a thousand flaky ass folks. BTW: you just reminded me about how genuine a persons laughter and smile can be, when it’s intermingled with their tears.

Oh my god. I was crying with you throughout your video. Poor girl. I don't live in Japan, but I also struggle to find and maintain deep relationships. Every time I meet a person, where everything clicks, and I start to really really like them, thinking they are being my "best friend" - there comes a point where they initiate a fight, or just plain ghost me. I lost multiple girl friendships over the years like that. And I suffered so much grief, and I just don't understand why this is always happening to me, even though I put in so much time and effort into that friendship. You are not alone. Just know there are many who hurt like you, no matter where they live. And the older we become, it seems it gets harder and harder to make friends. I have lots of fans and followers on my social media platforms, but it is shallow. I have no single person in my life that I could consider "my best friend". That's why I journal a lot and write my thoughts down, because I don't know who to tell them to.

sounds like japan isnt the place for you yeah

I've been ghosted a lot of times, and for no real reason at all. I think I've learnt that speaking to people behind a screen isnt the way if you want to be more than friends. I try to go out and take up new hobbies to meet new people. I'm currently going through one of the loneliest times of my life in my 30's but I have accepted it. I really appreciate the outdoors and the freedom and try to balance that with Internet time.

I’m so sorry to hear your story. I totally relate to the losing a friend and not understanding the reason why. I 1000% feel that it is just like grieving and it fills your mind every day, you feel heavy with the internal thoughts and questioning “what did I do wrong”? I hope you begin to rebuild your social life and find some genuine friends. It’s hard, but you’re not alone. I’m going through this too and I feel your pain. Stay strong ❤️

If you find your tribe, it’ll be a blessing. You may be a bit more of a direct type (American or Spanish?) but I could be wrong. I believe there is a group for you, hopefully you can find them. I believe Japanese people are not a monolith because I’ve seen various Japanese people with very different personalities, temperaments, and interest…I come across all these cool people on YT and IG, but the issue is is finding them in real life! It’s extremely difficult and I’ve been heartbroken as well…in fact my self esteem has been the thing I struggle with because I know I look different. I also been living in Japan and I’ve experience a similar thing as you, struggling to make friends. I tend meet extremely shallow and unforgiving people (being late to hangout will get you banned but they won’t inform you they were offended). They’ll just treat you badly. The shallow types, maybe they want to learn English or have foreign friends to brag, tend to seek foreign spaces, join foreign groups, etc, they are call “gaijin hunters” but of course not everyone who join foreign or cultural exchange groups are like this. If you like bugs and taxidermy I’m sure there are Japanese groups into that. The best thing you can do is create a meetup group on these topics, but if you don’t speak Japanese, you may need a friend to write the invite and help you lead the group. A nature hike to seek rare or special insects is one, but be careful of Japanese hornet. Or a trip to a science museum. Personally I like vehicles mainly cars and trains. There are HUGE interest in this in Japan, I’ve seen them on YT and IG, but I never meet these type of people in real life, instead I meet the shallow ones who laugh at me when I say i like trains so I take photos of them.

I am originally from Florida so I grew up with the sounds of Cicadas. I love them and the sounds they make.

It’s a chigger.

Hi! I’m in Nara too. Let’s be in touch if you’d like!

You seem like such a lovely, warm person. I don't know your full story, but moving to a new country is an amazing feat and you should be proud of yourself. Japan is very romantacized in the eyes of many, and the reality of life there only hits when you've been there for a while. I immigrated to Canada from the Middle-East with my family. I had money, support and was fluent in English and had lived in a Western country before. Despite that, I suffered greatly for 5 years before my soul and body fully adjusted to the new climate and culture, and even 17 years later I left without having made a single good Canadian friend (all the people I connected to were visitors who eventually left and we're still friends today). It's going to take some time, but if it's breaking your soul too much, you can always course-direct and change your plan. God didn't put us here to suffer. I send you a big hug from Jordan and pray your heart finds peace 🫶🌸

Thats how asians are . Ive traveled to Korea , Vietnam and Taiwan too . they're all the same . Its a part of their culture.

I don't have any experience with Japanese people but I have heard that they are some of the most fake people out there. Not all of them of course but most of them. It's actually pretty shit of them to act in such a way, regardless of that is how they were taught. Once you're adult you have your own damn brain and understand what is right and what's wrong. Stop giving these people excuses.

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GOD bless you, angel.

Whenever I visit Japan. I only do Bento box eating and window shopping. Shopping and interacting with people. I do it in Korea.

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Maybe something to do w/your nickname "ゴキブリ" makes people away from you. All kidding aside, the funny fact: people can actually live without Japan. If it gets you too much.

I sorry for your pain. I am wishing you the best!

Right there w ua sister. Being overseas in another cukture is tough

Try getting some exercise. It does help, in ways. I understand, I went on a 3 month solo trip in Japan. I understand everything you are saying.

Yes. It's culture. Social harmony is at a premium in a collectivist culture. The hive is more important than any bumblebee...

Wanting to connect to people? Dont think you can pick worse than Japan 😂👍🏻

You're a guest in their country please show some respect to your host.

You could not read the social script. You need to learn how to "read the air" so you don't offend them.

You need to work on your small talk and stop burdening your new friends with your personal problems in your own life ok?

I meant to say it's no inconvenience.

What you're supposed to say is " No it's no income at all you're really too kind."

How can anyone live with themselves?

Please keep your feelings to your family or close friends.

You inconvenience them so they left also you made them lose face and embarrassed them.

That's a no no. Don't vent to people in Japan because it goes against not bothering other people taught in Japanese Elementary school there.

You've been away from America for too long. Ghosting has been happening since 2010 there.

I've been living in Japan already for 8 years. As a Mexican - American from California I definitely remember the struggles to adjust to certain things. It seems like you're going through what a lot of foreigners who are still getting accustomed to living here go through which is the western culture clash with the Japanese one. It definitely helped when I met my Japanese girlfriend to not feel as alone in Japan. Now we've been married for 4 years, but, there are still some things I am learning regarding Japan's rules, especially the more not-well-known Japanese rules. It takes a lot of adjustment, even if you love the culture a lot, especially if you come from the west.

I wonder if it would help to find a club of other bug enthusiasts. Since there are clubs for all kinds of otakus, probably including bug otakus, in Japan, maybe that's a way to make more Japanese friends?

This video made me realize that there are many people that feel isolated yet live in a big city. I’m 51, I remember when we had friends in the neighborhood and grocery stores, I remember my mom going to a neighbor’s home to chat or a neighbor would come over to chat. I remember my mom going out to lunch with friends and having a great time. That was when I was a kid. Now, in my neighborhood, everyone stays indoors. As I go out to walk through the neighborhood,No one looks people in the eye to say or wave hello 👋. I make an effort to greet someone. My husband took a pot of chicken curry and rice to our neighbor. We make an effort to, but people choose to keep to themselves and that’s ok too. It’s changed so much. Again, your video helped me realize that while there are a lot of people nearby, isolation and loneliness can still exist. Love and hugs to you from Austin Texas ❤

Hey, watching this broke my heart. I have wanted to move to Japan for some time now, but this aspect of Japanese culture has made me rethink that desire and eventually move away from that desire. If you want a friend in the states, I'm here 😊