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Vassia Sar
Нидерланды
Добавлен 17 апр 2017
If you are struggling with finding a way out of anxiety, overwhelm, burnout, or unbalanced relationships, you are at the right place.
If you don't remember when it was the last time you felt genuine joy and satisfaction in life and work, and you can blame your perfectionism for that, then I got you.
If your past traumatic experiences sabotage your present calm and your future potential, then here is your place to find the right tools to heal and grow.
Welcome to my channel, I am Vassia Sarantopoulou, licenced psychologist, a Perfectionism expert, a Relationship Counselor, a Mental Health Ambassador, and the proud owner of AntiLoneliness, a company which supports people through hard times in life (anxiety, depression, divorce, grief, burnout, loneliness, trauma).
Here is the place for more Self-Exploration and more Self-Growth, through Self-Acceptance and Self-Compassion.
Find more about me at www.antiloneliness.com
You are not alone.
Kind regards,
Vassia Sarantopoulou
If you don't remember when it was the last time you felt genuine joy and satisfaction in life and work, and you can blame your perfectionism for that, then I got you.
If your past traumatic experiences sabotage your present calm and your future potential, then here is your place to find the right tools to heal and grow.
Welcome to my channel, I am Vassia Sarantopoulou, licenced psychologist, a Perfectionism expert, a Relationship Counselor, a Mental Health Ambassador, and the proud owner of AntiLoneliness, a company which supports people through hard times in life (anxiety, depression, divorce, grief, burnout, loneliness, trauma).
Here is the place for more Self-Exploration and more Self-Growth, through Self-Acceptance and Self-Compassion.
Find more about me at www.antiloneliness.com
You are not alone.
Kind regards,
Vassia Sarantopoulou
What To Do When You Feel Hurt By Your Partner | Tips Therapist-Tested
What To Do When You Feel Hurt By Your Partner | Tips Therapist-Tested.
Have you ever felt hurt by a partner after an argument? Have you ever felt you could have handled a disagreement with your partner in a better way?
Many couples have difficulty communicating constructively when put under the pressure that modern life provides. It is completely normal to have to learn through experience when it comes to this part of your relationship.
Giouli Chrysikou, Psychologist at Anti Loneliness, shares her experience with three tips on how to help your partner feel listened to while still being able to effectively communicate your point of view.
If you would like to work with Giouli, you can find more...
Have you ever felt hurt by a partner after an argument? Have you ever felt you could have handled a disagreement with your partner in a better way?
Many couples have difficulty communicating constructively when put under the pressure that modern life provides. It is completely normal to have to learn through experience when it comes to this part of your relationship.
Giouli Chrysikou, Psychologist at Anti Loneliness, shares her experience with three tips on how to help your partner feel listened to while still being able to effectively communicate your point of view.
If you would like to work with Giouli, you can find more...
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Navigating Mental Health Care in the Netherlands for Expats | Understanding Insurance & more.
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In this webinar, "Navigating Mental Health Care in the Netherlands for Expats", we provide essential insights on how internationals and expats can access mental health services in the Netherlands. Learn how to navigate the Dutch healthcare system, understand insurance coverage, choose the right therapist, and address common expat challenges such as loneliness, homesickness, and cultural barrier...
3 Powerful Ways to Build Unshakeable Self-Worth | Overcome Perfectionism & Self-Doubt
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Have you ever felt confident one day and then not the next, like your confidence in yourself can shift if something happens or someone says something? That's why we need to learn how to have unshakeable self worth! In this video, you'll learn: 💡Why self confidence is not the same as self worth 💡3 powerful ways to build unshakeable self-worth (including a guided mindfulness exercise) Don’t forge...
How to Silence Your Inner Critic | 3 Life-Changing Tips for Perfectionists
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Do you feel like no matter how much you achieve, it’s never enough? That critical voice in your head constantly points out your flaws, makes you doubt yourself, and holds you back from embracing success? You’re not alone. In this video, you'll learn: 💡How to silence your inner critic-the one that fuels perfectionism, self-doubt, and burnout. 💡3 life-changing tips that can help you break free fr...
Struggling to Sleep? How Burnout Disrupts Your Rest and How to Fix It
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Is burnout keeping you up at night? Poor sleep can be a significant symptom of burnout and can further hinder your recovery. In this video, you're going to learn: 💡How burnout affects your sleep patterns 💡Practical tips to improve your rest and recovery 💡How sleep disruption impacts your overall well-being 💡Strategies to get better sleep even while dealing with burnout The names used in this vi...
7 Warning Signs You're Heading Towards Burnout: Don't Ignore These Red Flags
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Are you worried you might be heading towards burnout? It’s crucial to recognize the warning signs early to prevent a complete breakdown. In this video, we’ll cover 7 critical red flags of burnout that you should never ignore. The names used in this video are not the real names of clients, they are altered in order to protect their privacy. You're going to learn: 💡Identify these signs in yoursel...
Overcoming Procrastination: How to Beat Burnout and Boost Productivity
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Are you a high-achiever struggling with procrastination? It might be more than just poor time management-burnout could be the real culprit. In this video, we dive deep into the connection between procrastination and burnout, exploring why high-performers often find themselves stuck in a cycle of avoidance and how you can break free. You're going to learn: 💡Practical strategies to overcome procr...
What To Do When You Can't Stop Working | Tips Therapist-Tested
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Perfectionist? The 'Parentified Child' Secret Nobody Talks About
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Thank you very much! This helps a lot. The problem is I am in the perfectionistic trap created by my family and me and I don't know how to get out of it.
@florisipapadii I know that trap. It's so hard to get out of it, but not impossible. Have a look at my course How to Stop Perfectionism and Start Living. It has helped many other perfectionists get untrapped 🙏 www.antiloneliness.com/how-to-stop-perfectionism.html
Let myself and Giouli know if you have any questions in the comments and we will be sure to answer them!🙏
What should you do if you've already been having conversations in this kind of way, but the other person is unwilling to do the same, continues to tell you that wanting to is dragging up the past, and does nothing themselves to repair things?
Unfortunately this does happen and I'm sorry you're experiencing this. Often couples therapy or a space where you have a mediator to ensure you are both heard and validated can be helpful. Best of luck to you both!🙏
Hi Vassia. According to my knowledge of my self and tests I've taken at different times I was raised to be securely attached. My first test was in January this year with The Attachment Project and the second one was in August with an adult attachment style test that a therapist sent to me and my wife (who left me about 3 weeks ago by leaving me a letter, and leaving while I went to the shop. Since then she's forcing a no contact separation on us) who has taken those same tests with me at those same times. I tested securely attached both times and my wife tested as avoidant in January, and dismissive ambivalent in August. About a 8 or 9 days after she left, The Attachment Project sent me an offer to see if and how my attachment style may have changed since January. My comparison report shows now I'm still securely attached in general but in relationships I'm fearful avoidant/disorganized. I do know that I grew up in a western enmeshed family so I realize I had a fantasy playing out I wasn't fully conscious of until 3 days after she left me. My wife is from a Taiwanese enmeshed family. I'm doing lots of things right for myself but I'm concerned because I know I can't handle it as well as I need to because it's too much and I really shouldn't try to do it all myself. We were together for 10 years. I felt us connect like magnets when our eyes met for the first time 10 years ago. I knew that as it happened. Like Bluetooth devices pairing. I was spiritually awakened at the time. My wife, not so much. During our time together I kept developing in the ways I had been since before we met and she kept people pleasing. We met in a brothel. She had just started pleasing people to that extent. Why I was there I can't even fully understand. Not anymore. I don't think either of us have any reason to be ashamed for doing what we did. We committed to each other a couple of weeks later and of course this included her stopping being with other men which she happily agreed to and already knew. Until 3 months ago I couldn't trust her more. I could swear she would never even look at another many because she loves me so much and isn't like that. That's how I was and saw it in her too. 3 moths ago on a night before flying overseas for 5 weeks I confronted her about weather she really stayed faithful to me from the time we committed. She said no and over the next hour drip fed me the truth. She kept doing it for 6 months. I would drive her to the tram or train. My new faithful, loyal girlfriend (at the time) would kiss me goodbye and wish me a good day. Then go to the city to people please herself and others more than me. As I assume you can imagine by the end of that hour I was really traumatized. The next morning we had to put our discussion on hold so she could fly overseas. A lot more was revealed by drip feeding me over the next 6 weeks. We discussed some of it during that time by phone. She returned and we continued discussing it. By the time we could move past the confession stage my betrayal trauma was pretty extreme. How much I don't know..... I'll stop here for now. I'm exhausted from everything I've been doing to try to save us and now myself. If you want to know more, reach out me and I'll explain anything you might want to know. I don't really know what I need from you but I know I need somebody who understands and can help me. If you read this far I appreciate you and I'm grateful.
Do you struggle with your self confidence? Let me know if you have any questions that I can help you with!💚
Thanks!
I hope it's helpful! Don't forget to check out my inner critic video too if this one resonates🙌
Hi Vassia! This was a nice video! Quite informative! Your channel is severely underrated ❤
Aww thank you for your kind words! I'm grateful for the people who see my videos and find them useful 🙏
Do you have a loud inner critic? What's 1 thing that this video has inspired you to do to take a step towards quietening the inner critic?❤️🩹
Thank you so much. ❤
@@irasublime you're so welcome! I'm glad it helped!
Thanks Vassia - I love the way you explain things so clearly and helpfully. For me, it's very hard to grow my new, more self-compassionate voice after many, many years. The inner critic is so much stronger when something goes wrong. And my faulty perception is convinced it has the true view. As you say....it takes time.
I'm glad it was helpful Sharon, it's a process isn't it. And I agree: the inner critic can be so loud when something goes wrong. My video about being afraid of mistakes and how not to be paralyzed by this might be helpful for you next to work on that self compassion when things don't go to plan!❤️🩹 ruclips.net/video/MFqvKZRGIw4/видео.htmlsi=PhPgtkQmf_HZkZjK
@@vassiasar Thanks! ❤
I'm struggling with this 😢
I know how hard it is. I was there once. Please contact me if you need help getting out of there. I am here for you. 😊
How has your sleep been lately? Sometimes we forget how helpful sleep is to us (and it's a free tool!)🙌
Nice😊👌💐जय श्री कृष्ण। 😊🎉thank you mam. ❤❤🎉😊👍💐
You're welcome! I have lots more burnout videos on my channel that might help too! Thanks for being here😊
One can never achieve perfection. In regard to the fictional Borg in the Star Trek franchise, they assimilate different races to achieve “perfection” which can never be attained because they always want more. They are never satisfied! One galaxy is not enough, then they will move on to the next galaxy. Perfection is impossible.
@@richardyoung9024 I love the example! Indeed, perfection is an illusion. There shouldn't even be a word for that 😉
I hate having disorganized attachment style.
It's possible to learn how to give yourself exactly what you need🙏
@@vassiasar it’s still scraping the bottom of the barrel
I am divorced now and feel old and unattractive and do not expect to be in a relationship again, I do not find myself or people my age attractive, I can't help that. I fear my health will decline. Positive Affirmations like do it now! Does nothing to help, there is no joy in getting old and I don't have money to go jet setting. Enjoy being old? Wtf.
Which burnout sign have you recognised in yourself?
love your videos ❤
@@ellakouzmenko4240 thank you so much! 😍 Music to my ears ❤️
Stress Brain 🧠 FFFFFF Take the high road #5 FU
True story
Do you struggle with procrastination? Share your experience in the comments!
Thank you. I am so burned out being a solopreneur the past 2 decades. Perfectionsm has not been helpful to say the least 😂🙏
Being a solopreneur has its perks but I know very well how draining and lonely it can be. Have a look at my free webinar next week on Reclaiming your Energy Amidst Burnout - it might be exactly what you need at this moment. 😊 vassiasar.ck.page/burnout-webinar
Do you struggle with overworking? Which tip was the most helpful for you and will you be implementing it in your life?
Do you struggle to enjoy your successes? I hope this video can help you and I'll be here in the comments to answer any questions too🙏
Definitely me, playing the husband (emotional level) of my mother...till last year she said in front my father "I should have married you" So uncomfortable thank God I had read about it in the past and could give it a place...
It helps so much that you are more aware and can protect your boundaries now. I'm so sorry that your emotional needs were not met by her partner. ☹️
📍1 - Identifying you're scared is the first step, being able to acknowledge that it's hard for you when things don't go to plan. 📍2 - Letting go means being ok with what you've done and believing that's enough. It reminds you that you trust yourself. 📍3 - Trust yourself, you can handle whatever happens in the future and you will be prepared enough and get through it. 📍4 - Having resources to utilize when you're struggling like your family, friends, partner, environment or therapist. Knowing these is helpful to turn to when things get tough. Everything you need is within you already❤️
Were you a parentified child? Are you now a perfectionist? I hope this video helps, and leave your questions in the comments as I am here to help you!🤗
Yes! Truth! As a woman a a mother, and a teacher I can agree to this wholeheartedly!
I am 70years 6 months and I feel lot if pain in my relationship My wife's work is first priority and not our relationship I have tried many times to maintain our relationship but it becomes a rejection I was thinking in the same lines of joining senior citizens where I can attain some love and affection otherwise my next intention is divorce
I'm so sorry that it has come down to such an emotional distance and disconnection. We, human beings, are socially wired for connection and it's so hurtful when we are not seen and we don't feel loved. Your need for human connection is important. Take care of yourself 😊
My wife doesn't give a chance for discussion It's her way or not If not her way you out
Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear that. Your needs matter, and a relationship should be safe haven for meeting both partners' needs. 🫶
every time it gets better it gets worse
I know what you mean. ☹️ Indeed sometimes it feels like one step forward, two step backwards. It's a really difficult pattern. 🫂
Hello. I can't start my blog on RUclips because of perfectionsim. Can yo advise smth please
Watch some more of my perfectionism videos and take my quiz because it might help you to take some next steps! Good luck with the blog🙌 www.antiloneliness.com/how-much-perfectionism.html
We can reverse negative core beliefs but it takes a lot of time and inner work. There are 2 ways we can begin to reverse and challenge our core beliefs: 📍Cognitive restructuring 👉Observe and restructure your thoughts by opening up your perspective and trying to see what's really true Vs what's a belief you tell yourself. 📍Looking for the source 👉Go deeper into your past and try to understand where your beliefs came from by exploring the people/situations that made you start to internalise your core beliefs. We all have core beliefs but the more negative ones can really harm us and cast a dark lense over our lives🥲 It IS possible to heal though❤️ Want to hear some examples? The full video is on my channel.
Could not feeling 'joy' be considered burnout? I feel like I have to force a smile sometimes even when my physical battery is full.
The lack of personal connection with things, activities and people that used to bring us joy is indeed a strong sign of burnout, and one of the three dimensions of burnout. Before you diagnose yourself, make sure that you also have signs of the other two: perceived decrease of productivity and focus, and depleted energy.