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Great job Holly 😀

Executive functioning... The struggle is real.

Jesus is our anchor Amen 🙏

Reyt good this Holly! 🤘🚬

Love it.

Lovely ❤I'm sorry

I totally understand. I feel like crap for short or long periods for no reason at all and it sucks. It wouldn't be so bad if others around me wouldn't chastize me for feeling sick and making things worse. Stay strong! We'll survive this.

We need to get you a studio session. I really mean it. It is a beautiful song, but i want to hear it fully.

Misophonia is usually the most problematic thing for me. I wear bone conductive earphones most of the day so that helps diminish the noise/drown it out. As a child, scents were the worst. I would be nauseous during school a lot because the music teacher's perfume was so strong that it could strip paint (or it seemed to me). I just came across your channel and had to sub. Thank you! P.S. Your hair doesn't bother you?! I'm a male with short hair and even a couple inches is too long for me to handle.

😢😢😢It is much harder when you start working and you find out you are not like everyone else it took you 31 yours to know something is wrong.

Late diagnosed and "This Is Me" and "You Just Can't Be Afraid To Be Free" have become my feel better songs; my I'm not alone songs. You found the words I never could and I am eternally grateful.

Lovely. Touched me.❤

Beautiful 💐💐💐💐

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💛🏵💐🌼 cheers to the performer in yellow! 💝

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😢😢😢😢 I live in Europe and i just found out i cant control it eather

My teenage son is in the process of being evaluated for autism, and he also has me/cfs and a circadian rhythm disorder. So I'm very familiar with spoon theory, but I didn't realize that it was also part of the autistic profile. Thanks for the information, and I'll definitely keep in mind that he's got at least 3 diagnosed conditions leading to his extreme exhaustion. I've found it extremely helpful to listen to the experiences of people with ASD so I can be more supportive for my son.

Great video, love you!

That actually makes a lot of sense.

Hi lovely people. Could In The Light by Led Zeppelin be a worship song. As it is all about being in the light?

This hits home I’m autistic I’m now 30 of age and feel like I’m still a child, but no one around me realises that I need time and space and if I’m stressed they get very upset and angry with me I need a little time just let me be I wish they knew that. Things are too noisy and environments can be too much

Ive recently discovered that 98% of autistics have a mthfr gene mutation. Theres a whole rabbit hole to go down regarding ability to metabolize folic acid and B vitamins. Im starting to suspect this might have a thing or two to do w my exhaustion and crappy mood.

Good ideas ❤

7:08 This is really interesting. I'm also autistic, but I feel like I process things faster than most people, especially verbal information. I watch RUclips videos at 2-3x speed usually (I have a chrome plugin that customizes video playback speed) because I'll get bored, zone out, or get impatient if I watch videos at 1x speed for too long. Sometimes I can watch videos at around 3.5-3.8x speed and process all of the information in the video perfectly fine. 2x speed is for when I wanna relax, 3x speed or faster is for when I'm higher energy and wanna consume more information.

The whole "why are you not doing stuff, you're just being lazy" thing hit so close to home. The idea of it being laziness always makes me so mad because like no, once I'm doing something, I put as much effort as I can into it. I just have really poor executive functioning and struggle to start things and get really stressed. Sometimes I hate myself for my inability to make myself do things that I understand how to do conceptually and that I want/have to do. I'm also terrible at switching tasks, and will do things like skip meals because I'd have to switch gears to go eat, while other times I'll eat way too much once I've started eating simply because my brain would have to switch gears to stop eating. I'm self-aware enough to understand exactly what's happening, and I understand conceptually what I have to do, and it sucks because I still can't do anything about it for some reason. It's not just a lack of self-control, sometimes I will literally shut down and stop functioning properly if I try forcing myself to function like a normal person. I hate that I'm like this, it makes me feel completely helpless and also worthless to society.

I mask a lot even without thinking about it because it’s so automatic but I do realize that I do a lot of these things. I find it easier to prepare for conversations especially when it’s about more serious topics. I struggle with eye contact even with others I’m close to, though, I am very much engaged. I also find myself completely shutting down or even running away to a quieter place when there is too much sensory input, or I put earbuds in, or I just cover my ears. I look like I’m navigating the conversation well but a lot of the time I’m criticizing myself for what I said and how I said it, even BEFORE speaking. TLDR: socializing is a nightmare with others who don’t know your needs or how you function, even if you’re high masking like me.

Well explained, Holly, well done! ❤

Hey, I just wanted to say: thank you for sharing this. I am undiagnosed but HEAVILY know Im autistic. I am so autistic that I failed the test they gave me, all because I kept questioning the test and kept being confused about what it meant?! 💀 I also funnily enough have tourettes, which is often alongside of autism and like.

This is a very well thought out and comprehensive video! Thanks for making it! I find that tone in text conversations can be such a challenge for me! I'm in quite a few online groups and the only one that I feel comfortable talking freely in is a very small one I've been in for years. The people there know me and they know that I say "weird" things sometimes but I'm never trying to be rude, I'm always just being my honest self. They talk clearly to me and even use tone indicators sometimes. But in other groups, I spend most of my time trying to figure out what people are actually saying. Are they being sarcastic? Was that a joke I didn't get? And then when I respond, usually people will ignore me because I misunderstood the conversation and what I said doesn't make sense. Only later do I realize oh right, they actually were joking but I took them seriously. It's so embarrassing! It just makes me appreciate more the people who know me well. - Fellow autistic person :)

Baked bean pasta is also fairly easy meal. Cook up some onion and minced meat, mix in a can of tomato soup and a can of baked beans and heat it up, and cook some pasta to go with it. Will end up with plenty of meat sauce, so can add some to the cooked pasta and store the rest for future dinners.

One of my easy meals is nachos: Cook some minced meat with Mexican spices, sometimes will add a can of black beans and/or frozen corn. Top the chips with the meat and some salsa and cheese, and melt. Sometimes melt the cheese on the chips separately first so the chips don’t get as soggy. Lazier version is put some rinsed canned beans on the corn chips, top with cheese, put it in the oven to heat up the beans and melt the cheese, then top with salsa. 5 minute really tired meal, cook a couple of packets of two minute noodles and some frozen vegetables together, either on stove or in microwaves, add some flavouring/sauces, serve and eat.

I have a question. If someone is engaged in echolalia is it best not to interrupt them and try to start a conversation? Sorry that probably kind of a dumb question. There was this time when I was in a store and the check out guy was making references to something that I have a shared interest in. I got really excited and started talking to him about it. However I think that may have been a mistake. I often make references to things I like regardless of whether I think the person will get it or not (which maybe I shouldn't) although I am always super excited when someone does get the reference. Anyway I thought he was doing what I do but when I talked to him he went quiet. I felt awful bc it occurred to me that he was repeating the references and that he may have been doing so as a way to self regulate and me interupting probably caused him to shutdown. I felt as though I should have taken that into consideration especially considering given that I myself get overestimated especially in public places. I can't say for sure that that was what was going on its just my best guess. I'm often wrong as I have difficulty reading social ques. Anyway if anyone has any insight on this topic I would be very grateful to hear it.

I feel the same about noise; yet if I can anticipate it, I can even appreciate it. Like the roar of a V8 can be awesome to me, or the hellishly high pitched V12 Formula 1 engine.... but not unexpectedly! A very loud motor bike passing by my open window can make me squint my eyes and pull up my shoulders and internally I go aaaaaahhhhh leave me alone

First: your hair is gorgeous!!! Second: I like to have conversation even if they take energy due to the reasons you listed, but conversations with NTs are so tiring! And mainly boring. And my opinion is it's getting harder because NTs are getting worse as people.

I like conversations where we each learn something new about the world. I am happy to learn what other people know about something very niche like motorcycle repair, and I also like being asked insightful questions about the things I am interested in to give me a chance to talk about my interests.

Up to 3:35 in the video and..... yup, that's me alright! So weird to now know that it's due to my autism. Always felt so different than anyone else and could never understand why. I'm in my 40's and wasn't diagnosed till this year...... now I can give these quirks I have, a place and a source and I can more easily accept that I can't help the way that I am. Oh and I'm still dealing with major denial. Oh, I just have this and this and that, the same quirks as autistic people.... but I'm not really autistic am I? YES YOU ARE. You were diagnosed. Oh but I must've mislead them or yadda yadda because I lack some stereotypical autism traits or severity that neurodivergent people assign to people with autism.

I agree with this lots!! Also autistic too! Hope you are doing good!

i learned to ask what others are interested in even though they usaually don't respond back even when i say hello they never respond back

i have trouble with others talking around me i can't process it i hear things all at once and fire crackers and understanding what a sound is it's like i need a see and say lol

i agree i feel like that good advice but i always over think it and get nerves

I'm having Fish and Chips 😆 (Well US style I guess in air fryer) yum , filling

I cook baked potatoes in microwave and finish off in air fryer to crisp the skin

Lovely stuff!

Hi I'm Matthew. Also autistic. Would you be interested in being my pen pal via email or Facebook

I just played Noel yesterday on the piano! I love that song and can’t wait to play it during the Christmas Season :)

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Sounds great!

I always have to retrieve the instructions from the trash can. 😂 Now, I just take a photo of it. I use my phone’s camera roll as a memory substitute.