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I do have a question.. My father never was in my life ,I'm 46 years old, my mom always take care of me.. I don't want to have his last name anymore ,my mom said, you are crazy... i want only my mom last name.. I don't think he deserves,have a son like me.. Do you think I'm right, oh wrong.. I'm a businessman, I have a nice life, a good one.. but i always was alone

Lost sister at 4 she was six, lost mom at 11 , lost dad at 18. 51 today I’m lost

having a fatherless girlfriend isnt for the weak

I grew up without a father and married a much older man. Maybe I was looking for a father figure????

I just have my guard up all the time. I put on a mask and never seek any sort of emotional intimacy. I can't risk being hurt by a man. I do get anxious when I don't receive male attention but I hide it by acting like a queen bee. That works just fine.

Interesting yet I've had plenty role models they prob saved my life yet I still was missing my pops

Growing up in a split family with violent trauma although some war veterans would laugh at this comment,it's something that is stuck in the child's mind for the rest of their lives with all due respect to every War Veteran, Thank you but there's other things certain people grow up with from childhood that a war veteran will never understand it's just a different type of trauma to a young mind that they live with for the rest of their life. My father is a Vietnam Veteran he left when I was 2 years old. He was wild and wanted a good time of course he blames everything on "THE WAR" where in reality, he was just a non responsible coward but I guess we both live with our trauma day by day.

You are telling the truth 100%❤I am a retired Principal and notice that a male will correct deviant behavior in men. Keep posting this knowledge!

I never knew my father growing and now as an adult and a parent my kids dads are emotionally absent and i can see how its hurting my kids especially my daughter she'll be 5 and shes seeing how her father is emotionally available and never does the things a father will do with a daughter to create memories and she has started showing withdrawal towards him and my son is only 1 and his father doesn't play a part in his life anymore i cut off contact with him as he saw his son as a burden and he has moved on to a new relationship with no care or whatsoever. I as their mother, am left to pick up the pieces and love both my kids unconditional and its not their fault and it hurts as a single mom that guilt will always be there even in 30years to come but my kids are happy theyve got me 😊

my old man left when i was 6 my parents used to fight like cats and dogs so he packed his bags never saw him again how can you miss what you never had

this helps …. thank you so much for this video … I grew up with an absent father and I always felt broken or that something was wrong with me … it had affected my last marriage and is currently having affects on my current relationship

Do not ever undermine the creditability, the validity and the merit of lesbian parents who are well intentioned and who actually do the right thing.Thats what I've got to say.

I am an absent farther but that's the grounds the mother set out. I must I feel guilty when you blocked in every way possible

I as a 32 year old me I crid so hard I realised everything she said was me

Thank you. I needed this today. ❤️‍🩹

It feels like a emotional pain in my heart that never goes away an unnerving feeling of emptiness. causes me complete mistrust of people and this feeling like life is completely pointless. I don’t know anyone else In my particular situation with my dad and it hurts not being able to go to anyone. He doesn’t feel the same and none of my family or friends do.

Growing without a father is really tough, especially on certain situations. I am always proud of my mom for being the strongest mind for all these 18 years. She never make me feel the absence. Also,sometimes I feel like having a complete family life all my friends. Wishing for a bright future.

My absent dad (I sought him out when I was 18 and he's been passively in and out of my life ever since) has had the audacity to wonder why I'm (still) not married in my mid-40s, like something is wrong with me/it's all my fault (he, incidentally, has gone through so many relationships and is with a narcissistic woman). He has zero understanding/awareness of how his absence and passivity have affected every relationship I've had. My heart aches when I see my friends who grew up with fathers have 'healthy' marriages and men who pursued them. I've never felt seen and never had a man fight for me.

So, are you speaking from your own personal experience or just text books?

I grew up without a father and sometimes question myself was I not good enough I came from a foster family and my estranged mother told me he was now deceased leaving me still always wondering just who he was why he was never there and what he looked like smell like etc...

I know! I say the same thing! If my own Dad didn't even love me, why would a complete stranger! She hit the nail on the head! Exactly!!!

Thank you for making this video

This was an okay assignment but we are loved by our Heavenly Father more than we know and he wants you to get to know him ❤ and spend time in his love if you sit with him you will feel that love your always wanted. You are loved by him

Hmm my dad worked on a boat he was a lot of so when he stopped and went to retirement it was shock for whole family me mum sis and him too. he worked only with boys there, first he was like a stranger to me that i have to afraid of. too much masculine built up. didn't know what family is actually agressive when he was drinking but never hit me. mom was a dad too. she always protected us. he is now old but much more soft actually i had to shown him that. older sister not much use of it. heroin addict. and mum and dad were drinking whole life. But She was more drama whole day to night now less but She constantly fight with everyone. dad drink much less he had to because of health. i dont allow ever violence over me and never did happen, but screaming u was and still hearing my whole life not at me but it cause a lots of anexiety fear of world life people teachers that yelled. i didnt felt secure except withy sis but She had to find her addiction too so betrayal was felt than . i dont have that much jelaousy issues but i was thinked that i was adopted and unloved okay mum but i had jelaous boyfriends that want to threat or control me even that we actually had a good partnership really with laughing. one shady YOU can do whatever YOU can but i will be pain in the ass what you did outsode with girls but still never acused me for cheating. more lowering my selfestem even that he take me everywhere with him and his friends. until last 5 month. so whats the issue? having dad but absent because of work wanting to find security with rather older than younger. they would project jelaousy so i became like them insecure but actually i didnt came anytime with trust issues that i will be cheated or causing a scene. they called me in highschool me agressive and hard tounge but didnt ever had a fight with anyone or made dramatic scene outside with boyfriend.. But why they want me to be something else? and why is so difficult to get in to be more feminine without feeling like im too much. i felt so misunderstood all the time like my type of expresing is not to viewed as i ment it and say it. they say im overexplain but when i do simple they dont get a shit. Total opposite meaning recieved like wtfff.

that fuking whore i helped become a lawyer

@queenbaby_25 you said I got you pregnant. Stop stone walling the DNA test. The child should know rather or not I'm her real father.

I guess it makes me want to bang a older man 😚

I'm 26 I lack empathy don't trust people and have terrible insecurity issues when I get attached to people I beg them not too leave I hate having a heart dude I latch onto everything my dad died in 2019 I hated that man but it still fucks with me to this day

USUALLY IT'S BECAUSE THEIR MOTHER'S ARE WHORES... ESPECIALLY IN THE united states WHORE CULTURE.

I have father that a asshole to me call me names you have father like that make you better man than the cowardly he then his. Make ur bad ass 💪💪💪💪💪

Thank you

I didn't even realize i missed my dad until i one day thought about him. Since he was gone since I was a baby. Now I wonder if my self esteem issues possibly has to do with that. He was actually a great dad He just couldn't deal with an abusive wife so he left.

This was really helpful made me cry a little but helped me understand why I have trouble believing my ex partner loved me, I would question it a lot and I am always so hesitant cause I am scared It’s hard to believe

I lost my father since I was 3. Its hard growing up without a father. An important figure. I'm failing as a man atm. I'm lost, weak, clueless and deep in the dark. I'm just really tired. Can't do this anymore.

God bless you ! Thank you so much 🤍

Thank you for this video. I have felt the exact way that you described because of my father not being in my life and he’s gone on about his life and has no relationship with me. And I felt this way teenager thinking I couldn’t be loved because he didn’t love me. Took me a long time to heal and I’m still healing, but everything you said makes so much sense. It’s something that you eventually just have to make peace with and know that it’s not your fault.

I feel because I didn't grow up with a dad when it comes to dealing with women I tend to struggle with keeping my tounge in check when i get upset i can be very mean and that is not a thing i want to be content with i dont like taking out my anger on people however at times it happens and i wont put my hands on my partner's never have unless they wanted in the right ways if u get me however being verbally abusive is not the way I struggle with that I really do and I am not the type to just not say things how it is I feel like my temper not checked I could be a shit person that is why everyday i make sure i try and be GENUINELY as nice as i can be because if that flip gets switched forget about it i can really make people cry with my words and words are very powerful and if you got a fully automatic gun and the trigger gets stuck and just shoots without stopping that would be deadly that is how I think about my anger I cant let that trigger get stuck I always make sure my temper is on the chill side because once you lose composure u lost regardless the situation I'm not sayin lost as win or lose I'm sayin you lose the good in yourself more and more that you lose composure I don't like to think negative because I am very aggressive with my tounge when I am and that is a thing I do better with now I dont think as negative as I would I would say that I am humble of that fact never proud

My dad was dead when I was 12 and now I’m 25 and I still have that mental health problem .. I’m engaged and still I think I don’t have that love or I’m not good enough… thank you for this advice

This it’s to close and honestly cried while you talked you may have just helped a little. Thank you

I don't have a dad.. they hid the fact I have ADHD for most of my life.. she.. slipped actually when talking ab stuff with my dad ab the fact he didn't want me on adhd meds when I was little.. and I wish.. I had known?. Id have treated it more like a tool rather than being insecure and wondering what was wrong with myself.. but than again bc of this ive learned so much on my own.. I amaze myself sometimes and I don't even know how I knew to do something I just do? I love my dad.. for many years I didn't bc of what happened. But.. him being healthy again has helped me a lot.. its like I'm actually me again since I went out to visit.. and I've had.. many traumatic events in my life. I notice those objects.. and yeah my mind doesn't shut up ever. It's just noise most the time but it does cause me anxiety.... but.. like I said since he's gotten better its helped me a lot?. Its kind of the push I needed. My dad totally didn't want anything to do with me for years.. I tried calling and everything. He's practically replaced me.. he got a new wife.. but I am proud of him and just hope he doesn't mess it up. I am 19 ive been struggling for years trying to start my life but no one's really helped me so I'm having to do everything myself.. I honestly don't know how I'm still here. I never sought out therapy.. I guess I just know myself in the way I know I won't kill myself even if I've thought about it. I dont need anyone to talk to.. like you said it's a beginning step. I'm just struggling with a lot on my mind and a lot of stuff I gotta get done not knowing what I'm gonna do. It's hard bc I'm such a introverted person.. even though I used to not be. My social skills are non existent it makes talking and getting my point across really hard and that's my adhd I think.. that's what bugs me the most about myself is the fact I can't listen properly or remember some things but I'll remember the color of something for example.. it just gets in the way. I used to wake up and have these fits where I wouldn't remember anything I'd say or do for atleast 20 minutes after waking up and most the time I'd fall back asleep and not even remember even if someone spoke to me about it. I dont know exactly what is wrong with me. I just know it's something and ADHD is the best guess I have.. Ive thought I was autistic but I'm so scared of doctors and I'm happy the way I am and I know if I do stuff people will cause me to change or get help I don't really need.. it always just makes it worse for me in the past when I had my therapy bc than it's on my mind more. I have moments like this occasionally though and I've been getting stronger and stronger mentally.

My mother " told me " when I was a young girl, that my father TOLD HER that he didn't want the responsibility of taking care of me. I believe that she didn't want me to know and talk with my real father, because he would probably tell me the truth. I haven't seen my mother since 2003. ( I don't plan on seeing her ever again. ) Yes, I am angry. I had a physical, emotional, and mental abuser ( my mother, while I was growing up. ) Is what she has done a forgivable offence? Yes it is. Does my forgiveness require for me to, second guess if she treats me the way that she always did, if I visited her and talked with her? I have tried this before, it wasn't a loving and caring visit. The memories still feel fresh, when I feel sad about those horrible memories. I have no proof of what she said is true. ( I believe that she lied to me. ) But, from her own actions toward me, she wanted to control someone, to adhese her pain and guilt of being promiscuous at an early age. I do pray that she seeks the guidance and will for God to work in her life. I pray for peace for her. For me... I will love her from a distance. I do love her. My friendships and relationships are non-existent. And it hurts. Although, being alone is safer for me. Being a strong and compassionate person is very important to me.

Please could you talk about this more

A question for women who didn’t grow up with a father, what should I do to make sure that my daughter knows that I am there for her?

Amazing

I wish my dad loved me enough to just call me once a year

So this video sounds like is for women more

Can you make a video of the other details and things people can do for themselves in regards to this topic? Thank you for this video!!!

I've felt unworthy of love and questioned if those feelings were genuine on their part. However I was never jealous or insecure requiring constant validation bcuz I was always guarded, waiting to be proven right or wrong of ones feelings for me....then internalizing it. Somehow I need to learn to love myself but its hard when you've conditioned yourself for so long that you'll finally feel complete when loved by someone else.

My kids father doesn’t want my daughter because she’s a girl . Smh she’s not even born yet

When your parents been absent throughout your childhood and been treated poorly by others. It's hard to love yourself.