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hello, I've just found your channel. shame is one of the main things I'm working with in my life right now and I find this video really helpful.

Constant anxiety

Hey! Loved our conversation, thanks for having me and running such an awesome podcast!

Aa an LPC myself, I just sent this to my client, it's a really well done and great explanation. Thank you Kyira!

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Great video! I have issue all of those, but i can really resonate with the first one, I feel like a, "failure to launch". I'm taking concrete steps to get to where I want to go in life, but I still cant help but feel like I'm too old to be where I am in life.

Thank you, intrusive thoughts used to really get to me, especially as they would come out of the blue. My Psychologist would tell me that they are just thoughts and tell me about grounding techniques and now I can control them much better

I've always been an "if you're not clipping, you're fine" sort of person - but your voice sounds great and your content is much appreciated and needed during this time 😊

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Ahhhhhh.. I forgot this. And the loneliness is actually trying to drag me back. Thanks for the reminder!

I broke the abuse cycle only to lose my kids anyway. It’s like I was able to break free, but they still got stuck with it. It’s mental health. I’ve made therapy available and they still walked away.

Very helpful episode! I have trouble maintaining confidence while pursuing personal goals, I care about. Sometimes I think I can't reach my goals, even though I'm taking steps toward them. Do you have any tips for this issue?

Nah we need more shame. This society has become so corrupt and degenerate its not even funny anymore.

Well, I broke the cycle by not having kids....

Overwhelmed

Let's point out a problem with your eyebrows!

Wow.. it's like you are singing my song

Hi,.. I loved my City transit bus driving job. It was my life.. then I listened to others that were retiring, they made it seem like was the best thing ever... so I joined them.. I immediately realized what I did.. it destroyed me, and my life. I got anxiety, insomnia and depression depression. I feel so much guilt and regret... self blame. I don't enjoy my life anymore.. its like my life ended. I don't enjoy anything I used to... and have nothing i want to do... I know only i can feel this pain.. I need to validate all the time. , in self pity.

This deserves more views!

I go from being super people pleaser to being weirdly hurt and sometimes slightly aggressive so assertiveness is something I definitely want to work on. Thanks for this video!

Thank you so much for this video! A friend suggested it to me. My family and I have been dealing with circumstances that have shaken our stability. Though I know that these circumstances were out of our control, I am still struggling. I blame myself for not being more prepared financially. If I had taken steps to save more these circumstances maybe wouldn’t have hit us so hard. I feel a lot of anger, shame, and unworthiness. I think radical acceptance would really help me move forward. I looked through your other videos and made a list of ones to watch. Thank you so much for just being you and taking the time to make all of these videos. You are so appreciated ♥️

I have been an ACT therapist since 2007 and this is the best explanation of Self as context that I have ever seen. Changing that one two letter word (as to in) really had an impact on me. The message I got was Self does not have to be defined, it just is. It's all the defining that creates a problem. I am using your video in my virtual group this week. Thank you so much!

Try and let go of judgement based on events beyond my control

This really resonated with me.

Love this video! ❤

Great video 💖 This randomly got suggested to me but was relevant. I have struggled with the anxiety of not having enough time, and the only way I’ve been able to let it go is to change the definition of what success means to me. It’s no longer about external achievements but rather prioritising the way I feel about my work and about myself. I’d rather prioritise my inner peace and stability over external achievements because they don’t mean much if you’re not feeling good internally anyway. And also there’s no time limit on feeling good, and I’ve found because I’ve taken the pressure off myself of getting everything done, ironically I seem to get more things done now. A saying that I like is ‘I can never get it all done,’ which also takes the pressure off and realising I just need to prioritise the things most important to me.

Thank you. I needed to hear this.

I'm signed up for your series. I'm looking forward to it.

All my life feel like vicious cycles. Furst get inspired to do things (trying everything that would make me feel better) for some periods get that feel of excitement, hope, proud until break down, burnout and hit the rock button in worst way i couldn't even imagine. Eventually life hit me strong enough that i couldn't suppress feelings anylonger and then decide to face then and take responsibility for them. At first it fell so scary like i,m letting my self down surrender to the feelings i,m scared to fell like i can't afford to feel them, it felt against my will against my mind actually who didn't want to let go of control things and fixing them. But intuitive just reject any idea that the mind trow at me with intention to do something. By staying with feelings and expected the least i begin to tap more and more deep into peaceful presence and totally free from the mind literally all the meaning that has all the concepts became so obvious his illusionary nature. Been fully present staying alone sitting on the bed it was the most extraordinary and the moy joyfully experience I've ever had. I realize everything it's absolutely perfect the way it is feel alive calm and alert in the same moment perceived so much through all the senses and totally free from mind perceptions and thinking. Next day back to confusion and frustration finding out the mind has evolved in a ways that to catch my attention and drag me out of presence !

It was not okay. We can do better.

Yeah, I pretty much experienced the same thing. Trauma was never addressed until I was permitted to join a DBT group where triggers and dysregulation were discussed. I was in talk therapy from 10 years And on medication later for 25 years. Prior to the intro of medication, I had had numerous emotional breakdowns and years of isolation. My trauma and autonomic nervous system dysregulation and freeze response was never discussed. Every day was a retraumatization through neglect. Take this med and come back next week. Eventually, the doctor who recommended DBT saved the remainder of my life, but the trauma is still left for me alone to work on, and no one understands that your body and mind are hypervigilant against retraumatization, and your remaining friends only offer additional drama. Life passes. May no others experience this therapeutic incompetence, where their only goal is to get you to return in a week and your dreams and goals become nothing because nothing can be done. I too have had dozens of therapists and a diagnosis of a mood disorder in constant remission but never cured and never healed, as trauma was never addressed. It too took me years to find the language. Thank you for explaining this in exacting details. I can attest to all of this too. 🙏

I'm so far down the shame rathole and have been 'acting' for so long. How do I even recognize what my authenticity is? I see the value. but it's the how I'm missing. I'll see what the links reveal. Thanks. :)

There are sooooo many people on earth it’s ludicrous to act as if you are

Who am I being me for ? Am I deeply connected to the me I be ? Am I having fulfillment with the me I be and see in the mirror or desperation ?

Hey there! Fellow LPC here. This video has been so incredibly helpful as this concept has been difficult for me to understand. You did a fantastic job explaining and now I feel capable of applying it in sessions! Thank you so much!

Jesus loves you all and he is coming back soon so please repant of your sins and go back to jesus christ he is the true lord and he is coming back soon

I can do my job just fine. However, my ability to tolerate other people who don't do their jobs becomes less so. In other words, I lose patience.

Having been in law enforcement for my entire adult life, it would _shock you_ how many people with a badge can’t figure this out

Over time, this becomes less true

Yeah but, I’m in an at will state;meaning I can be let go for no reason whatsoever…

❤❤ if they are not choosing you, they cannot possibly be the one for you...

This explanation is amazing!!!

I really appreciated your video. I have this problem and I also need to learn to accept myself more too when I make a mistake and mess up what was in my control. Then I can know that im not perfect and just try to do better moving forward I really related to the part about allowing yourself to feel like life was hard at that moment even though you know your life isnt hard. I often badger myself for that belief.

Nedra Glover tawwab has a good book called "set boundaries, find peace" where she talks about the responses others may have and how to navigate them...

just thinking the word acceptance seems to work for me but thinking the term radical acceptance really clears out the house. Opens the eye of that observer self. I accept all without reservation.

True. Childhood trauma ripens actually when suppressed and time worsens it.

Thank you for your guidance 🙏

I can't understand why your beautiful and mindfilul contents don't have the real attention! Thanks a lot for sharing❤