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I'm an adoptee (1947!) & gave a child up for adoption (1966). Whew! I'm still healing after 77 years in Life.

Mine was through a doc also.

Wow 🤯

🤗Thank you!

🥰 lost in a sea of DNA.

Glad to find you both on this podcast. I'm 77yo, and was adopted at an infant. My adoptive mom told me I as adopted at a very young age (5 or 6?) I really didn't understand, of course. I asked her about the "real" mom at that time. Mom started crying immediately. I knew then that I wasn't to talk about it. But always wondered. My mom wanted a daughter, and I was her. Adopted through a lawyer from our family doctor who was also the family doc of my birth mother. From there, my life has been a complicated emotionally and psychologically strenuous journey...started running away from home in my young teens. Always came back "home". Many stories. Pregnant by a high school boyfriend at 17. "Had" to get married. It was 1964. Child was born dead, a boy, named and buried. I'd been 7 months pregnant. About a year later I ran away from that marriage to NYC in the middle of the night while husband was on duty at Naval Air Station. Drove to Manhattan. Who knows why. I'd never been there. Time passes. Not too long. I'm pregnant again by a young man who I met in Greenwich Village. He was a latchkey kid back before latchkey kids were a thing. That girl child I gave up for adoption. Her childhood was tragic, though she is still alive but very wounded. Bah blah blah about my story. The book you talk about today, brings tears to my aging eyes just listening to you describe her story. So many similarities. I relate to just lying there and letting a man put his penis in me without emotion. When I think back, it seems unreal; that girl/woman was me. My birth mom gave 3 babies up for adoption. I was the second. The first was a boy that her family kept until bio mom got pregnant with me, at which time they decided to give him up, and away he went. Hard to understand. After my abandonment, bio mom had another baby girl who is biracial. This child lived in foster care until she was 5. Nobody wanted a mixed race kid back in the 1952. She talks abut it with trepidation, and is obviously wounded, as we all are. Thank you for this podcast. I'll pass it along. I have met both these half siblings. End for now. I do maintain some bitterness towards my bio mom, that none of the others want to talk about.

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This was an amazing episode! Ryan's hope was one of my favorite soap operas. I remember when they wrote the pregnancy into the story. So many weird coincidences with her heritage. I find a lot of coincidences in my story and lots of other adoptee's stories. It's almost like the universe knows where we are supposed to be. Great interview!!

So good to hear another LDA! Lots of complicated emotions ❤

This video was so hard to watch. I wish you would let her tell the story first and then ask questions. There’s a lot of interruptions.

Reading right now. But wondering where the date 1:19 rape victims stories are

This was so great thank you!

Great video! I'm going to read this book. I'm an adoptee, in my fifties, and met my birth parents when I was 20. I started a writing project recently that may become a book about my time with a major pop music superstar, and suddenly it led straight into this topic, as she and her siblings were all adopted and have all had a lot of trauma and major life events that probably stemmed from adoption. Further, my sister was also adopted; however, she came from an extremely traumatized childhood, was removed and separated from her family along with her four siblings, and has become an extremely troubled person to this day as a result of her childhood trauma.

All these Fires😂

SO appreciated our visit. You folks are doing great things.

She’s lovely.

So bummed out I was trying to hear the recording and every time I do it states "it is unavailable" can anyone give me any guidance as to why or if it was taken down for a certain reason?

Incredible story!

Such a strange story

Word salad!!

This was amazing. You all just identified with each other and your shared experiences of being adopted. You were on the same plain and speaking each others language. I feel honoured to have witnessed this. I'm not adopted but was basically abandoned by my dad when I was 5, when my parents divorced, and he moved to another country. He was 'illegitimate', and so was his mother. I was unmarried when I had my son at 18. I am drawn to adoption stories and the tv series, Long Lost Family. ❤

Sarah, you getting emotional just touched me. I watched this yesterday but came back to watch again today Louise sharing her birth mom's writing that touched you to the point of tears. The realness of your emotions because of the raw sadness and loss of her birth mom. As a birth mom, thank you both for that. The validation of my own heartbreak. Thank you.

She’s not well either. Sad

Loved your story

I remember the air flight of those kids and the crash it was devasting .I was 19 and lost friends there.

Can’t understand

Oh my gosh, just a few minutes into your podcast and I am blown away. I remember connecting with the Primal Wound very deeply, but I didn't remember that passage from the book, but boy oh boy, it is weird to be part of that statistic!

Wonderful interview. Almost every interview leaves me with at least one point that really hits home. Lately I had not thought about how the next generation is also impacted by the lack of bonding with their biological family, yet that is one of the more painful aspects of reunion in my family. My children and their 1st cousins have no relationships with each other, and I also feel like an interloper in their lives yet their father, my brother and I had good relationship. Adoption "the gift that keeps on giving."

Love your show!

There are actually too many areas you belong. I was relocated into a new family at 11 and now at 32 I have nobody at all. I'm glad ur clicking with people in heaven... <3

Best story ever!

That’s wild crazy for him

People lie, DNA Does not.

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I am not adopted but have so enjoyed your podcast. I am 72 and recently found out via Ancestry that I have a half sibling (brother) that is 11 years younger than me. My mother and father were married at the time. I am youngest of three and both my brother and sister are deceased. I really want to just say thanks for opening my eyes that any real reunion or meeting needs to be on his terms. Long story …. We have spoken only via text and at first thought it would not change my life but found myself wanting to press for meeting. And now I know I was trying to fill a hole in my own life. I so appreciate all the adoptee insight.

Interesting about Jessica being the only girl. I was born in 1955 to a 16 year old. Adopted out immediately. I was found three years ago by my mother and siblings. They are four full sisters as my birth parents married 2½ years after my birth. I was the only boy and they always wanted a son. Met my mother, siblings and extended family early in 2022.

That book was instrumental in me understanding my biomom. Thanks for covering it.

Actually, even though there are adoptee memoirs, I believe that there isn't enough material exploring the adoptee perspective. Adoption effects the adoptee the most. It's important to remember that all other parties within adoption are adults. In the rare grey area cases where birthmother is a teenager, she is still not a child or infant. All adoptees have experienced intense trauma and because it occurs at the very beginning of life, it remains at core level, unfortunately.

Only 30 minutes into this podcast but Stephen's book is on my Kindle already! Interesting story.

This was the hardest book I read on adoption. I would read a little and then have to put it down.and it took about a year to get to the end. I loaned it to another adoptee and she said the same thing, it took her about a year to read also,

I started off the show thinking because my mother and me appear to hate each other, I wish I had been adopted and didn't know my mother ..then I started to understand their need to actually know where they come from then I began to realise that for women that don't get on with their mother's poetry is such an escape.. I adore poetry .. Carolyn's poem moved me so much😭.. I so resonate with it... My relationship or lack of relationship with my mother 💔😭 which dominated my life and I believe destroyed my health, is only ever truly addressed with poetry... However silly that seems it is true.. something in poetry fills that gap..

Adoption is global. It’s a social problem. Leave the US politics out of it please.

I thought the article in The Atantic was very important, and I have sent it to many people. Because Steve is so well know, especially to teh NPR audience, it was important for his voice to be added to those of teh less well-known about the harms of secrecy in adoption records.

Love this interview! Thank you for sharing your story <3

Can’t wait to listen to Trishina!!

I can relate to Lorah. I too thought they were going to come get me. As a child I watched this mum come to collect her son from the school yard and I thought she was my mum too. So if I stood there long enough she would look over and say ‘there you are’ !

The 50s. Yes that is when we deeply examine the relinquishment. We try to figure out why we act the way we do, feel the way we do. We un-numb. And we grieve. This year I changed my name and added back in my birth name as a middle name. It’s healing.

So the focus is really to do with the birth mother and the subsequent children are reduced to mere products. Goodness, we have arrived back to the same attitude as the conservative baby scoop era, outstanding progress!