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why social media lacks substance
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www.everjanine.com/blog/why-we-crave-substance
I hope this video added some light to your day. I wanted to talk about people craving substance because I think acknowledging the era where everything seems extremely light-hearted and shallow is crucial to helping people feel more happy. Life sucks sometimes, not everything is filtered, and how we present ourselves isn't always accurate to who we are unless we make an effort to break the stigma that we need to be anything other tha...
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unemployed life update 🤍
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Please consider subscribing if you like my content. :) My goal is 1k everblooms to be monetized especially as I'm still unemployed / job searching. Thank you so much. 🤍✨ I hope this video added some light to your day. It's been really hard these past months, but I'm trying. I genuinely want to work and if it's not for another company yet, I'll do it for myself. Excited to make more vids here! A...
social media is a popularity contest and it's depressing
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follow more bts on my insta! :) ever.janine ✽🌿 Hope this was insightful, pls remember you're still valuable and great even if you're not popular! much love!! subscribe to be an everbloom! 🌿✽ ~ EXPAND to see socials! ✧・゚: ✧・゚: ☾ ☼ ☽ *:・゚✧*:・゚✧ OTHER LINKS 🌼 TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@everjanine 💐 Blog: www.everjanine.com/ 🌸 Discord: bit.ly/janinesdiscord If you enjoy my content, feel...
STOP following " influencers "
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i'm sorry for the awful vid quality, i tried recording on my dslr, and made the settings accidentally low :( hope you still enjoy the topic. Discussion below! hope y'all enjoyed this analysis ~ this is something i've learned that i'm glad to share :) lmk your thoughts! ✽🌿 subscribe to be an everbloom! 🌿✽ ~ EXPAND to see more! Essentially I am encouraging us to be mindful and selective on what w...
when you're FAILING your new year's resolutions...
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when you're FAILING your new year's resolutions...
slow living lifestyle / being sick for christmas | vlogmas 2022 day 24
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slow living lifestyle / being sick for christmas | vlogmas 2022 day 24
vlogmas 2022 | weight gain [ day 7 ]
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vlogmas 2022 | weight gain [ day 7 ]
vlogmas 2022 | untraditional & minimal ( day 3 )
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vlogmas 2022 | untraditional & minimal ( day 3 )
social media is fake
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social media is fake
loneliness motivation for the holidays
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loneliness motivation for the holidays
hemorrhoids treatment // F.A.Q.
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hemorrhoids treatment // F.A.Q.
perspective, motivation, & small habits
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perspective, motivation, & small habits
showing up // channel update!
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showing up // channel update!
biologics PSA / psoriasis UPDATE (5 months)
Просмотров 107Год назад
biologics PSA / psoriasis UPDATE (5 months)
i got laid off from my corporate job - (just giving empathy)
Просмотров 111Год назад
i got laid off from my corporate job - (just giving empathy)
practicing anti influencer culture ( streaming / blogging burnout )
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practicing anti influencer culture ( streaming / blogging burnout )
social media detox / mindfulness tips
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social media detox / mindfulness tips
obese / overweight under 30...
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obese / overweight under 30...
living with PSA disability + weight gain
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living with PSA disability weight gain
lacking motivation / feeling meh
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lacking motivation / feeling meh
honest A5 Erin Condren Folio Planner Review (NOT SPONSORED)
Просмотров 9012 года назад
honest A5 Erin Condren Folio Planner Review (NOT SPONSORED)
surviving GAD / anxiety, abuse, & toxic asian standards
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surviving GAD / anxiety, abuse, & toxic asian standards
psoriasis, beauty, & makeup // how having psoriasis changed my outlook
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psoriasis, beauty, & makeup // how having psoriasis changed my outlook
autoimmune fatigue sucks
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autoimmune fatigue sucks
pixie cut growout...
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pixie cut growout...
unmedicated psoriasis turned to arthritis
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unmedicated psoriasis turned to arthritis
why i've been afk
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why i've been afk
when your life feels like shit
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when your life feels like shit
the suicide hotline didn't help me (w/an asian american family & emotional abuse)
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the suicide hotline didn't help me (w/an asian american family & emotional abuse)
a new chapter & healing old wounds
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a new chapter & healing old wounds

Комментарии

  • @whotfdev
    @whotfdev 15 дней назад

    real

  • @hollywoodjay
    @hollywoodjay 25 дней назад

    How long did you do it initially? days? weeks?

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine 25 дней назад

      the cream? uhh a few days to a week at first, and reapplied if i had pain every blue moon. :)

  • @karend1577
    @karend1577 Месяц назад

    Thanks for mentioning the different liquids. I can't afford to lose weight since I'm quite skinny. But I think I can include the broths in between my small meals.

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Месяц назад

      np! yeah they have liquid meals / a bunch of broth and whatnot that helped. The Mayinglong cream was the main thing that really helped them go away tho, hope you find healing!

  • @assuntacruz2778
    @assuntacruz2778 Месяц назад

    Must the Ma Ying Long ointment need to be refrigerated.

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Месяц назад

      Nope I don't think so.

  • @suzanmiller558
    @suzanmiller558 2 месяца назад

    I used this cream. Maybe I didn’t use it long enough and will try again. Thanks for your help

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Месяц назад

      Aw hope it works! It took a few days of continuous application for it to fully go away. Maybe it'll take you more time!

  • @stevefarr954
    @stevefarr954 2 месяца назад

    Hi, would this help shrink a partial rectal prolapse?

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine 2 месяца назад

      Hi, I'm sorry I'm not sure. :(

  • @None-ww4ec
    @None-ww4ec 3 месяца назад

    does it work inner hemorrhoids?

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine 3 месяца назад

      I am not sure, some have said yes. I'd encourage you to re-read the product to double check!

  • @b-41subject57
    @b-41subject57 3 месяца назад

    Hi! Just discovered your channel. Do your Hems come back sometimes? Ive had mine for 2 months. They are internal and mine will just itch sometimes. Did you ever use suppositories to help? Thank you!

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine 3 месяца назад

      Hi! They don't come back thankfully. No, I haven't used those either. The cream helped plenty luckily!

  • @JoseIsidro-ut9ge
    @JoseIsidro-ut9ge 4 месяца назад

    Hi Janine, I found you through your post on Redditt. I was reading the comments and somebody mentioned that the active ingredient is zinc. But when I clicked on your link, the picture on Amazon has petrolatum and calamine in it and no zinc. What does your cream say about the active ingredients? I'm wondering if the product that you linked got changed in Amazon. Thanks!

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine 4 месяца назад

      Hi! So for the product I have, it says the active ingredients are Petrolatum and Calamine. Maybe the link got changed. If you search Mayinglong cream that's the one that should be the correct product. Hope this helps!

    • @JoseIsidro-ut9ge
      @JoseIsidro-ut9ge 4 месяца назад

      @@everjanine thanks for the info!

  • @jow9415
    @jow9415 4 месяца назад

    What cream did you use?

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine 4 месяца назад

      Mayinglong cream. It's in the video and description.

  • @jow9415
    @jow9415 4 месяца назад

    What cream did you used?

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine 2 месяца назад

      Mayinglong cream!

  • @bibipersaud9018
    @bibipersaud9018 4 месяца назад

    WHAT'S The NAME????????????????????

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine 4 месяца назад

      I said it in the video and the description - it's called the Mayinglong cream

  • @frequencyoftruth2303
    @frequencyoftruth2303 5 месяцев назад

    You're such a sweetheart by the way I'm not hitting on you I just think you're very sweet person and you're amazing.

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine 5 месяцев назад

      Aw well thank you for the kind words, I appreciate it!!

  • @t-t-t-t-s
    @t-t-t-t-s 5 месяцев назад

    Does anyone know if i can buy this cream at the asian supermarket/pharmacy? It no longer delivers to the UK

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine 5 месяцев назад

      you can check, i'm unsure tho :( i'd also check ebay or other sellers!

  • @pahariculturers5022
    @pahariculturers5022 6 месяцев назад

    I have ordered it After watching yur Video Hope it works..........!

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine 6 месяцев назад

      wishing you luck!!

    • @pahariculturers5022
      @pahariculturers5022 5 месяцев назад

      Hy gorgeous 😍.........I ordered the cream yu recommend from Amazon After watching yur Video And Yes It's working soo Good..........Thnk U soo Much ( God bless Yu)

  • @lydia6147
    @lydia6147 8 месяцев назад

    The UK amazon link isn't working :( I'm confused about which one to buy

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine 8 месяцев назад

      The one I shared was for the US. In general the product I showed on screen is relatively the same imo as what is online. Feel free to paste the link and I can let you know if it looks alright!

  • @fongwalling7337
    @fongwalling7337 9 месяцев назад

    I'm from India.. Where do I get the cream

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine 9 месяцев назад

      I got it on Amazon. Unsure if it's available there, but I'd check!

  • @VegitoAttacks
    @VegitoAttacks 9 месяцев назад

    Does this cream make the hemorrhoid area feel cold?

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine 9 месяцев назад

      A little, kinda feels like icy hot. It's minty in a way lol

  • @Dickj203
    @Dickj203 9 месяцев назад

    Did the cream make it bleed at all? I have an itchy bottom I can’t tell if it’s hemroids or just like fungal stuff from chafing. I walk a lot at my job.

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine 9 месяцев назад

      For me it didn't, it was already bleeding prior to using the cream. Yeah either for an itch or hem. this product still helped / helps even today. Lmk if you have more questions!

  • @naouribennnacer7119
    @naouribennnacer7119 9 месяцев назад

    هل يعالج قرحة فالمستقيم منفردة يعني قرحة واحدة فقط

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine 9 месяцев назад

      I used Google Translate, and to answer your question I am not sure if it treats ulcers. It treated my hemorrhoid, but idk if that is the same. :(

  • @Kondi_U
    @Kondi_U Год назад

    I'm considering restarting for over a year right now, I haven't touched the game since pretty much the release of 2.0 update and I would really want to experience the "full" game in the proper fresh way especially since I've been feeling burned out for a really long time, but for some reason I "can't" mentally do that, I've put like 300 hours in this game and got kinda attached to the villagers I have in a weird parasocial way (even though I haven't checked on them for like a 1.5 year right now), idk what I should really do, I know I'm overthinking this and games are made to bring some fun to our lifes instead of some attachment problems but it is what it is

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine 11 месяцев назад

      I totally get what you mean. You can always transfer your most important items to a trusted friend and get it back later, or buy amiibos for your fave villagers (i got mine on etsy). Some people also bought a new switch and just played a new save on that haha. I know for me before restarting I barely touched it and just got too bored, at least with restarting I had something to look forward to. Although admittedly I don't want to do the grind any more lol. Hope you're able to do what makes you the happiest!

  • @rosemarybaxter9120
    @rosemarybaxter9120 Год назад

    What cream is it?

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine 10 месяцев назад

      Sorry just saw this - mayinglong cream!

  • @littlem00nprinc3ss
    @littlem00nprinc3ss Год назад

    Hi! Here from Reddit. Thank you for posting about this - I’m going to get it from Amazon now. Question for you, though. So my situation is that they are external and aren’t PAINFUL but they will “balloon” or swell up and when the swelling has gone down it leaves the little sack of skin (I didn’t know how to word any of this so hopefully it makes sense lol). Is this helpful with the loose skin part too??

    • @littlem00nprinc3ss
      @littlem00nprinc3ss Год назад

      I guess they’re leftover skin tags after the hem swells down? So does it help with shrinking the skin tags???

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine 10 месяцев назад

      Hi sorry just saw this - I hope you're feeling better! I believe they're called skin tags. I am unsure if they help with that, but I know mine doesn't have one. Hope this helps

    • @Onlinepc-g3t
      @Onlinepc-g3t 5 месяцев назад

      ​@@littlem00nprinc3ssskin tag never gone,unless surgery...

  • @witcherpie
    @witcherpie Год назад

    how is it even possible that one cream that's supposed to just make the symptoms of pain less, can shrink and get back to normal the hems... this smells like a lot of bull honestly

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Год назад

      you're right, it's very wild - but if you're in pain, it doesn't hurt to try - it worked for me and others, if it doesn't work then idk but just sharing to help at least 1 person :)

  • @JJDK485
    @JJDK485 Год назад

    Ma Ying Long - that cool sensation that I was so impressed about. 😂😂😂

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Год назад

      lmao yeah it feels like icy hot to me hahaha

  • @Curly124
    @Curly124 Год назад

    Hello its a late comment but dose the hemorrhoids still flare up even when still using it cuase i had a flare up i was using it only for two days but i was feeling better they started to act up agin so i just wanted to know if you still had flare ups while being on it and also how long did you u use it and how.many times a day did you apply it if u see this thanks for replying i am 22 year's old and i have one its very painful

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Год назад

      Hi! I still had a bit of uncomfort when I first started using it, but it went away in a few days or so. I applied it as needed so basically either before and/or after a bowel movement, it's really just when I had pain. And of course when you use the restroom, you wipe the previous cream away so that's why I reapplied it. np! I was 20 when this started, and only recently have I really found this solution. I also made a newer Q&A Vid if you need more info! Hope this helps!

    • @Curly124
      @Curly124 Год назад

      @everjanine thank you for replying so grateful thank you so much

  • @PerfectdelebamoDelebamo-yq7su

    Thanks

  • @SomeFrenchDude
    @SomeFrenchDude Год назад

    Hey! Don't know how I stumbled upon your videos but I have psoriasis as well and it sucks so much! Not being able to wear black clothes because of the flakes is so annoying. I'm curious, what is the biologic you're taking? I tried the homeopathic route with the keto diet, supplements, etc... but it has been pretty much useless unfortunately.

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine 10 месяцев назад

      Hi sooo sorry just saw this - I'm on Cimzia and Otezla. Yeah diet only helps so much, these meds have been life changing. I really hope you're feeling better

  • @guitarhero9592
    @guitarhero9592 Год назад

    Found your channel from your Reddit post. Thank you very much for this info. Can the cream be used for internal hemmorhoids or is it for external?

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Год назад

      Np! Hi fellow redditor! Idk about internal, I believe it's primarily external but I'd read more on the product description to be safe. Mine were external but really close to the opening.

  • @LynnByers
    @LynnByers Год назад

    Good stuff, watching them melt away within 48 hours felt so good, and yes, I used what I mentioned the other day. It actually took a bit more to make them totally disappear, I just go’ogled Melissa Thanderski and days after I still can't believe the comfort.

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Год назад

      Thanks! I don't know who that is, but I'm glad you found healing!

  • @phantumbelly1319
    @phantumbelly1319 Год назад

    This is agenda not folio

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Год назад

      No, they're called Folio's on their website.

  • @eyegettit3535
    @eyegettit3535 Год назад

    (in terms of your anxiety)Have you tried Jesus? He has a way of bringing peace to ones mind , I speak from experience . You don't have to except anxiety , pray(believe) and ask him to remove every anxious thought from your mind & watch what he does .God desires for you to have a sound mind .I pray that his perfect peace fills your heart and mind right now, and that you experience an anxiety free life in Jesus name. Be Bless & Be safe dear sister!

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Год назад

      Hi thanks for your comment & kind thoughts! I actually grew up Catholic, but am not very religious. I also have an anxiety disorder / severe anxiety (that's less now) so unfortunately prayer isn't enough for me. Therapy has been helpful and I know my grandma encourages me to pray, so I try to be mindful. Thank you for the prayers tho. :)

  • @kethe-kertelkahar8379
    @kethe-kertelkahar8379 Год назад

    So cool my day is good now ❤

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Год назад

      i am glad and happy to hear that 🧡

  • @everjanine
    @everjanine Год назад

    Use parchment paper so it doesn’t get stuck to your plate! :) I learned after filming lmao. Enjoy!

  • @DyingBreed8
    @DyingBreed8 Год назад

    Lol ur such a cutie in this short.

  • @alex124241
    @alex124241 Год назад

    I used to wonder what hashtags were and never understood why some people I followed always used them. They are literally only doing it to gain followers.

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Год назад

      Yes hashtags make things more easy to find. I think it's a combo of followers/exposure, to help an account grow. I use them too. It's not bad, it's just a tool, but I know I'm learning to use it for helping even *more* people and potential long-term financial success so I can be comfortable. I think most of us are trying our best. I just made this vid to remind us that it's okay to not be good at social media or well-liked. As long as we're kind and try our best/happy, that's the most important. :)

  • @xccaae
    @xccaae Год назад

    Have you seen that Black Mirror episode where social media was how people interacted? If it's one thing that teaches you, it's that likes are irrelevant. They don't show who you are or what you can do. So don't live your life just to get more likes. You have a nice channel. Hope it grows ❤

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Год назад

      Yes! I love that episode so much, it really shows a similar state we're in. Thank you for the kind words. 🥰

  • @xccaae
    @xccaae Год назад

    Just saw your post on reddit. I just ordered this, hope it helps. I think I have external one as well. Did it go away completely? Did you have them coming back?

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Год назад

      Hope it helps too! Yes it went away completely. I didn't have the hem come back, though sometimes if I strained or had liquidy stool from dairy, I'd have minor bleeding or irritation - to which I used the cream again and it went away / healed. :)

    • @waseemmansour6576
      @waseemmansour6576 Год назад

      I had an external hemorrhoid and i work out! The solution is Drinking Cayenne pepper with water - shrinks in couple of days

    • @Introvertliving
      @Introvertliving Год назад

      @@waseemmansour6576really?

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Год назад

      @@waseemmansour6576 I'm glad you're not in pain! I haven't tried this personally, but if it works for someone then great!

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine 9 месяцев назад

      i never tried it, but i'm glad that worked for you! @@waseemmansour6576

  • @DyingBreed8
    @DyingBreed8 Год назад

    If you enjoy what you do on social media then do it.

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Год назад

      I don't know if it's as black and white personally, but yes finding ways to enjoy it and doing it if it makes you happy is a good way to operate!

  • @-klutter
    @-klutter Год назад

    Thanks

  • @SK-ry5we
    @SK-ry5we Год назад

    i just stumbled on your videos researching mayinglong cream. i just wanted to tell you that your courage and strength inspires the fuck out of me. I suffer from mental health daily and i just want you to know you're doing great :)

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Год назад

      aw thank you...! ❤ 🥺 i really appreciate your kind words. i'm sorry you also suffer, i hope you're able to feel better!

  • @alhilmama
    @alhilmama Год назад

    Following useless influencers really bad

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Год назад

      For sure following anyone can be harmful to us, I think there are different type of creators with different purposes of whom they serve and what they do. I wouldn't call them 'useless', but some are more beneficial for our well-being than others. :)

  • @TurtMusic
    @TurtMusic Год назад

    I think there is a lot of truth and definitely very good advice in what you've said :) Everyone needs to find out how much they can take and how much they should consume in terms of social media content, and especially what kind of content. A lot of us are just so very used to social media that we tend to not question the way we use it and in which ways our usage of it might benefit us or make us feel miserable. I'd find it hard to strictly define what makes an "influencer", but imo it's easier to look at things in ways where we can just think about "what does the content this person produces do to me?". And there it's really best to be selfish, since it is never wrong to unfollow when you feel like doing so will help you.

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Год назад

      hi again turt!! thank you for the thoughtful comment & for sharing your perspective. I definitely agree, it's easy to get wrapped up and mindlessly consume social media. And absolutely for sure always good to unfollow if it makes you feel better. Appreciate your thoughts! Also super happy to see you continue to make music, you're sooooo good and i'm so happy for you! 💚

  • @iveelain
    @iveelain Год назад

    Always a good reminder that any progress is progress. So proud of you. 💜

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Год назад

      oh hiii! :D and thank you so much 🥰 🧡🧡🧡🧡

  • @DyingBreed8
    @DyingBreed8 Год назад

    I'm going to hold u accountable. Follow every resolution and make progress on those goals!

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Год назад

      Thanks, but I don't need that haha. 😅I don't have resolutions, just ongoing goals. I can manage them, thank you though. :) I'll keep inching towards them!

  • @ankitasaxena3935
    @ankitasaxena3935 Год назад

    hey I have started using this cream few days ago…can you please let me know for how long you used the ointment to completely get healed and do you still use it regularly to keep them at bay? Mine are external ones do they ever go away if used regularly

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Год назад

      I used the cream for 3-5 days then it went away, and I only use it again when I feel another one come once in a blue moon if I strain or cause new ones. Mine were external as well. I made a new video/ FAQ if you were curious about more! :) ruclips.net/video/JBarHlRTBDk/видео.html hope it's helpful, feel free to ask more questions - hope you find healing soon!

    • @ankitasaxena3935
      @ankitasaxena3935 Год назад

      Hey thanks so much for your quick response….I was just watching your other videos on the topic❤ It’s so strong of you to talk on such a sensitive topic 👍 I just had a baby and can’t afford to have a surgery also I am scared of it as everyone says it comes back even after surgery. My external one is always outside…were yours the same too and did this ointments make them disappear or go inside…I know it’s too much too ask but I am too depressed with my situation…also did you put the ointment internally or just outside 🙏 Do you take any stool softeners or pills too keep them managed over the years 🙏🙏🙏🙏 please help

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Год назад

      @@ankitasaxena3935 ah sorry didnt get the 2nd notification, happy to help! i hope they've subsided for you. Mine were external, i put it mostly on the outside but also somewhat near the inside of the opening. I used to take stool softeners and fiber but it didn't help too much. A liquid diet temporarily gave me some relief!

  • @manbearpig9248
    @manbearpig9248 Год назад

    Great start, but biggest improvements will come through diet and lifestyle changes

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Год назад

      thanks, but i am not asking - and the only thing i'm sharing is that i biked after months and i'm proud. I know lifestyle and diet help. This is only a part of my journey. :)

    • @manbearpig9248
      @manbearpig9248 Год назад

      @@everjaninejust friendly advice to try and help, but thanks for being rude.

  • @dayananeil2642
    @dayananeil2642 Год назад

    Your video is very nice!! I think that it could be of use to research a service such as 'PromoSM'!!!

  • @ItsHeyu12345
    @ItsHeyu12345 Год назад

    My room is cluttered with this stuff so im a gamer too :) 😂

  • @angelisone
    @angelisone Год назад

    Well, you are doing fine. Just hang in. My uncle was worst than your problems & I felt really bad for him. He was a former Col of SAS & lost his family.

    • @everjanine
      @everjanine Год назад

      It's not a competition man, pain is pain and we shouldn't compare. There's always someone who has better circumstances and worse ones. I'm sorry your uncle is also struggling, I can't imagine what that's like. This is just my story and struggles and they're valid too. Please don't go around invalidating someone's struggles just because you know someone who has it worse, it's not kind.