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Hey there! Thanks for reaching out. I hear you - it's genuinely challenging when those stories about recent/past events rush in and start dominating our awareness. Let me share a practical approach: When you notice the mind going into "this is happening because..." mode about recent events, you can use that very noticing as a cue to physically redirect your attention. Just like if you were learning to play piano and kept looking at your hands, you might tap your foot to bring focus back to rhythm. Or Have a tiny object around to remind you it's safe to disengage. Or a mudra... You could also try this: The moment you catch yourself building the story about recent events, take a very deliberate breath and ask yourself "Where in my body am I feeling the original sensation RIGHT NOW?" This does two things - it interrupts the story-building momentum, and it anchors you back in present physical experience. You might even say to yourself gently: "Story coming up... back to the body." No judgment, just redirecting, like helping a puppy stay on the walking path in training. (you can even associate your intrusive thoughts with pets or other animals) The stories about recent events will likely keep arising - that's totally normal. Each time, just use them as your reminder to drop back into feeling the raw sensation. Remember, you don't need to fight the stories or clear your mind. The goal isn't to have a perfectly quiet mind - it's to keep bringing attention back to the physical feeling, even if you have to do it 100 times in one sitting. Each return to the body is strengthening this new pattern. Please elt me know if any of these helped? xx

@@SoulHealingMastery yes this helps :) I am seeing myself do something akin to this at the moment and usually find myself just dismissing thoughts when I know they are unproductive/self-beating. I usually try to focus on just taking next steps to maintain productivity in the external world Trying to dismiss thoughts of perfectionism or comparison also comes a lot into this so that’s where I’m at right now :)

Yes, that sounds great. It's a process, right? A dance. As for perfectionism and comparison, you might find some videos on my channel too. See if that helps. They're basically ways to fuel our lack of self-worth...

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Haha ok... I'll have it run at a lower volume! Thank you for the suggestion, really! :)

I'm so happy when I read comments like this!! I'm glad I could bring something to you, sir! :)

I really appreciate your support! It means a lot to me that you took the time to comment!

Aww, thanks! Love is what it's all about, right?

Hehe, sometimes, there's simply no place for anything other than the subject... Thank you!!

Spirals and tones, huh? Sounds like we’re on the verge of creating the next viral mind-bending masterpiece! YAY!! Glad I could help!!🎨🌀

Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm thrilled that you find the advice helpful enough to incorporate it into your daily life. <3

Hello @tabasdezh, yes, I said it in the video - many traits overlap. Having dealt with many clients in my career, my view is that the difference between an avoidant and a narcissist (to use lay terms) is intent.

Than you! I'm so glad you enjoy my content!! Yes, I'll keep it up <3

Awwwwwe <3 Glad I could help.

@SoulHealingMastery thank you!! You helped more than I can express!!

What makes you say that? And what do you mean by extreme version? How does it affect you?

@@SoulHealingMastery I avoid people when they think they could get something more than what I could offer. So, avoidant. But, I also avoid people based on their future demands, by, of course overthinking.

@@LJN-jz6jy And does this circumstance pains you or hurts others?

@@SoulHealingMastery Killing expectations is painful for anyone. It’s just that I have zero expectations unlike my partner. IMO, (as an avoidant) killing expectations instead of disappointing people is better.

This might be more complex than a casual exchange here. The bottom line here is that nobody endures or produces pain though, right?

Totally feel you on that! It’s like a rollercoaster ride you didn’t sign up for!

I'm so very sorry to hear that! It can be really heartbreaking. I've been there myself and I felt so betrayed, so alone! But then I understood that it was not about me, that it was my partner's attachment style that was being expressed this way, regardless of who he was with. That made it easier to take my power back and move on. I realized I was worth more than that and was able to let it go with peace.

I'm so happy to be of help! Yes, I have seen it A LOT in my work with people. It's very very common and very painful for partners... Thank you for watching! <3

The source of the information provided is my 20 years experience as a mentor/therapist. The video is generated with Fliki :)

Thank you for watching <3

Thank You :)

I'm so sorry to hear about your experience :( ! And yes, it makes a lot of sense to have high EQ as a result of emotional abuse - your best chance of survival was to learn the cues, learn everything about your mother's emotional landscape in order to protect yourself from getting hurt... for other children - probably the case of your sublings - they "arrest" their emotional development so as to not feel a thing any longer, as it is too painful.. I hope your healing journey unfolds with Grace <3