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@@patsalor5030 My pleasure. Glad you found value 😊

Thanks for your kind words Bob! I appreciate that!

@@TszYaufootballchannel Not really 😅 Hopefully she doesn't subscribe to my channel 🤣

@@Tammarrah100 Thanks for watching and commenting Tammarrah! Glad you enjoyed my video!

@@richardcarter5262 Great to hear from you Richard! I appreciate your kind words and wish you continued success. Keep striving to be your Best Self!

@@CJandEllie 😅 You may want to think about firing her! Avoiding may be a temporary solution, but may not serve YOU in the long run. I appreciate your comment! 😊

@@aash2009aash Glad you enjoyed my video. Thank you for watching and commenting!

Yes it is! Thanks

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@@philcicio Dear Phil - please try to sharpen the way you promote the channel - there's an astronomical gap between the quality of the videos and the exposure in youtube!!!

@@VividAMVs I appreciate that!

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They may not know any of these questions. The most important thing is that you understand what you have control of. You can't control them, you CAN control you!

It is just too complex to even explain but that is as brief as I could get

Glad it was helpful! :)

Sorry to hear that! As I always mention, it's best to first have a discussion with your manager. Often times they are unaware that they are behaving this way. If things don't improve, then it may be time to to fire your manager! Wishing you the best!

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Exactly! You are spot on! This is why we need to understand them better and manage the relationship based on that understanding. If they are dysfunctional, then hard decisions need to be made.

Isaac, I really like your idea. When we are hijacked like that, we go into the fight, flight or freeze mode. We don't know which will happen. Once we are in it, it is challenging to come out of it. A few deep connecting breaths can get you grounded and bring your prefrontal cortex back online so you can rationally work your way through the situation. Using your idea I feel can work, if you can get yourself there before being taken over by the hijack. The other thing I would work on, is not getting hijacked in the first place. Realize that everything that happens outside of you, like getting cut off in traffic, just is until you give it a story. The story you give it is what generates the emotion and anxiety. The anxiety is from time traveling into the future with a negative outcome. It is difficult, but being able to stay in the present will help you think and respond and help get you out of the situation better. Let me know how your idea works, I believe it can! Thanks for reaching out.

I'm not an expert on trading, however trading scared may be from investing money you are afraid of losing. When risking something you don't want to lose, your brain perceives this as a threat and you go into the hijack. When your in the amygdala hijack, it is difficult to reason and think. You are operating from your emotional mind not logical mind. When investing, I would want to be using logic. Maybe try trading next time witha small amount of money you can afford to lose without it having a significant impact on you financially. Take note of how you think and make decisions with this trade that is less threatening. I'd bet you will make more logical decisions. Of course trading is risky and you could still lose your money, the difference is that you will understand and learn since you made those decisions logically and not while being emotionally hijacked! Hope this helps and thanks for watching!

Abuse is a great word Kimberly! Embrace that your supervisor only comes in bi-weekly. Also, as I mentioned in the video, bombard him/her with info before being asked. See if that helps! Thanks for watching, I hope it helped. 😊

Hi Carlos, I'm glad you enjoyed my message, thanks for watching and your question. I believe it is a great sign when you update your supervisors and they delegate more work to you. One caveat thought, does the work they delegate to you tend to empower you more than often than not, or does it feel like they are just dumping work on you since you have given them the opportunity? If the work empowers you, embrace it! It shows they trust you and value your competence. Also, if the added work overwhelms you, you need to let them know. Most managers don't realize when someone on their team is overwhelmed, don't make the assumption that they know. They simply may not be aware. You are obviously a valued employee or they wouldn't be asking you to do more. I certainly wouldn't delegate to an employee I can't trust to get it done and get it done well. Look at your situation from a different perspective and if you really feel like it is time to say no to the additional work, then you need to do this professionally. I hope this helps!

Yes, thank you! I'll try to reframe it in the future. To give you an idea though, just yesterday I told my principal about a plan to reward students. She loved the plan and then told me to buy a bag of M & Ms (her initials) for each student with a note saying "From your principal." I honestly am not feeling to valued by that directive.

@@CarloS-cp5gh Well, I agree with that! Lol.

It's horrible, especially if you enjoy what you do. Maybe you need to fire your boss!

Glad you liked it, thanks!

Well said from someone who has certainly experienced this behavior!😊

Hi Mohib, Thanks for reaching out. There are lots of good books on Resilience. I would recommend you look at some and pick one that resonates with you. I have two free webinars on Resilience and Mental Toughness that I know will help you. Here is a link. Scroll down and you will see the videos you can access. Hope this helps! Phil www.philcicio.com/free-resources/#form2

@@philcicio Thanks a Million 💚 It means a lot !! 😊

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Thanks for reaching out. Anytime there is uncertainty, we create a story to fill in the "Uncertainty Gap". In other words, when we are about to do something for the first time, we mentally time travel into the future and create a story of how this is going to turn out. If we have had experiences in the past like you suggested, setbacks, the story will be in alignment with the setback and therefore be negative. Even though it's just a story about the future, the brain doesn't really know that. Your brain thinks it is actually happening now! This is why we get anxious, nervous or stressed. The chemicals like cortisol get released due to the story. In order to feel better, we often decide to not do the thing we wanted to do, because that is the easiest way to reduce the anxiety. Of course, we may feel better temporarily, but we just diminished our self esteem. You need to work on trying to stay present rather than time traveling into the future. Let the uncertainty of the future unfold and deal with it in real time. This takes practice, so be patient. When you are in a story that doesn't serve you, try to recognize it and bring yourself into tbe present moment. There are lost of ways to do this like breathing techniques. You can look for ways online. Here is a video of mine that may help. ruclips.net/video/RNBNDTLqy9Y/видео.html. A great book I would recommend is The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. Here is a link to Eckharts Instagram. instagram.com/eckharttolle?igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== . I hope this is helpful!

@@joyjones6927 Thanks for sharing Joy! I appreciate you!

Give it some time.if he is new. Maybe building a relationship which will give you an opportunity to share this concept with him at some point will help the team "Man Splainer" 🤣

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Great insight and well said!

That's a great plan!

That's for sure Dr.!

It's amazing that leadership isn't aware of this and lose good people. Glad you liked the video Kyle. Best of luck!

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My pleasure 😊 Thanks for your kind comment.

Sounds like he did you a favor! Why would anyone want to work for someone that berates them instead of helping them grow. Go out and find someone that wants to develop your skills and help you be the best you can be!

It certainly is Emily! This is why it's so important to get in front on the onset. Being intentional and aware is so important. Thanks for your comment. I appreciate it!

Very well said!! Thanks for sharing.