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I recently turned 21 and I think I might be autistic. I'm having conversations with my parents about my possible neurodivergence and I want to get a screening once I feel ready and prepared. I'm in my fourth year of university and I think I want to focus my future field on the autistic experience, specifically in love and attachment. Autism has truly become a special interest of mine these last few months and it makes me sooo happy learning I am not alone. It's amazing listening to the experience of other women on the spectrum. <3 love to all and we're all so strong, lovable and enough.

I have only recently found out Autistic doesnt mean banging your head against the wall and being non verbal. The more I looked into it, the more I identify as being autistic, with a huge dab of ADHD. Melanie hit the nail on the head with "living in a world not built for me". I often told people I must be from another planet, because it is so hard for me to understand and fit into this one. Thank you all for sharing.

I'm 56 and have a grown child who was diagnosed as being on the spectrum (high functioning)when she was around 8 years old. My mother said that I am most likely also on the spectrum because my daughter acted just like I did at the same age. I've never been diagnosed and have been contemplating being screened. Thank you for your very informative video! 😸

Thanks for sharing Clare. I visited your RUclips channel really awesome, and I subscribed, but I noticed that your RUclips channel (RUclips algorithm growth is very low) despite having such good Video content and perfect editing. As a RUclips SEO expert, I'm sure your video SEO score is pretty low. And very few video views per video. May I suggest you grow your channel?

I resonate with this discussion of colour. I often wonder why so much of our city is in shades of grey when we could be so colourful. Thank you for this interesting and stimulating conversation.

This was great! I am a native French speaker who grew up as a TCK and lives and works almost entirely in English now. The part about how we assign intelligence/friendliness to others based on their accents, even in children's TV shows, had me think of Octonauts. I don't know if you're familiar with it - it's a great cartoon because it is very educational, but also, the main characters are all English-speaking scientists who each have a different accent. The one with a Southern US accent is just as smart as the others!

Somewhere in minute 46 you mention putting it in someone’s mind’s eye. Well, I’m autistic, dyslexic, fairly normal vision (for now) but also, along with other things, I’m an aphant, and I have a degree of face-blindness. Icons cause me problems because of that. I need text, and big enough at that, since vision isn’t perfect. So, properly-used text helps aphants as well, and is even more critical.

HSP is considered autism lite in many autism friendly spaces. Ive heard influencers say that HSP is what people have before they realize theyre autistic. an interesting conversation would be talking to elane aaron about how HSP is an ableist concept supported by rich white women in the USA.

The Facebook messaging example is so real. XD

Hey there you commented on my post on GD.... Going to watch this fully in the morning but wish I could talk to someone like you about what's going on.

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i wish she comes to greece. i do my thesis on the topic of neuroarchitecture : searching for architectural happiness and i wish i could see her opinion

What an honor to appear on your podcast, Clare! Such an enjoyable conversation - thank you for your fantastic work in the world to make a more inclusive, and happy, planet!

Really wonderful conversation - thank you both for sharing your thoughts on inclusivity - this stat really made my jaw drop: "Of all organizations that have DEI initiatives, only 4% include disability." WoW - a lot of work to do!

Love this conversation. Keep them coming!

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Letting go of material things that sit idle occupying space. Less is so relieving when we are ready to just give it up. So true. When I was studying to be a priest back in 2003-2004, I gave up everything in my apt to Salvation Army. It was a gradual decrease of things I held dear to me. Years later, I was asked if I missed having certain things. I said I missed the memory of having those things.

Awesome - thank you for sharing that experience comparison! It's never fun to learn the hard way but I'm so happy you appreciated how we learned on the job and tried to create a great experience for all. HAHA love the transition to the toothbrush too. :)

"Productivity"? I hope it does not mean to be brainless drugged zombie and auto-pilot slave to toxic corporations and narcissists /pathocracy in authority or leftover unprocessed unhealed perfectionism from dysfunctional home? 🤔 Important details about social anxiety not being said in the video: 1. Complex Trauma 2. Neurodiversity 3. Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families 4. Toxic environment 1. CPTSD is banned by CBT but non-American WHO described Complex PTSD in their DSM called ICD version 11. Complex PTSD is not the same as PTSD. In USA corporations and insurance companies forbid trauma information and diagnosis due to saving money - so many traumatized targets of abuse will be misdiagnosed for corporation profit. Also, misdiagnosis is done for political agenda such as Martha Mitchell effect. CBT ought to be banned, it is doing incredible psychological damage. Any self help book and online resource will be based on CBT, not actual trauma information. Trauma information helps to learn about Polyvagal Theory - and what is the point of emotional regulation: Ventral Vagal state. 2. ADHD and Autism and HSP are highly co-related to social anxiety. Once again, CBT industry bans this information - since pharma mafia would not make money if traumatized people actually accepted themselves and validated their brain which is not working as neurotypical majority. Along with ADHD and Autism is Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria - which is basically description of social anxiety. CBT tries to destroy RSD information as invalid - so that true information is covered and hidden from public awareness: narcissistic abuse from psychopaths in authority. 3. AcOA description is description of social anxiety. Social anxiety is the result of exposure to alcoholic abuse and dysfunctional ambient in age when our brain was suppose to be safe and validated - it received the opposite. Also neurodivergents are exposed to constant correcting and punishing by narcissists, especially alcoholics who are triggered by anyone happy, empathic, healthy, friendly, open and carefree. We are born with only two fears: fear of loud noises and falling. Fear of other people is not genetic as CBT tries to lie to us - this social anxiety inhibition issue is conditioned fear (Little Albert Experiment and Brown Eyes Blue Eyes exercise from 1969). Narcissistic abuse is causing social anxiety, this is not genetic. 4. Environment plays crucial role in how we feel and what decisions we will make in life. If we are inside toxic ambient - this exposure to uncomfortable zone will not make us stronger, it will traumatize us. CBT tries to advise us to expose - but exposure to toxic people leads to brain injury: Long term exposure to narcissistic abuse causes brain injury - google it. Social anxiety is not issue of fear as CBT/DSM explains. This is not fear. This is trauma. We are not afraid. We are traumatized. We were exposed to narcissists/alcoholic abuse -and this trauma will come to the surface through social anxiety. So social anxiety is not issue of will nor being strong or courageous. When we fuse emotions with our self worth, we will develop emotional fusion. Social anxiety is therefore fear of being hated and it is fear of others hating us - we got trained to fix other people's anger and moods in alcoholic home - and that is social anxiety. Programming to not tolerate other people being angry and hating us. Since narcissistic abuse is causing social anxiety - and there is nothing abnormal inside our brain - and it is not issue of "fear" nor being "weak" - we need to learn about narcissistic abuse in order to recognize red flags and to divert narcissistic trait which narcissists projected into inside us. So what to our logical brain seems like fear of walking in the room at job - it is actually traumatized conditioned hypnosis of not tolerating angry people and people who hate us. Trauma is not the same as fear. Social anxiety can be Functional and Masked - and trauma still being unprocessed and stuck inside our body, doing damage and guiding us on auto-pilot. Michael Jackson had severe social anxiety yet it was functional for him: he performed in front of billions of people without any issue. And unhealed trauma ended in tragedy for him. He was preoccupied with constant surgeries and being fixated on his unprocessed childhood trauma where abuse happened. "No one think about you" Toxic people, narcissists, psychopaths, sociopaths, emotional vampires focus a lot on their victims and targets of coercive control. With exposure to alcoholic abuse as innocent children - we now have easy ability to pick and detect such toxic people quickly. This detection mechanism will appear as social anxiety to us - because we are fusing unrelated elements in one bowl of fear , as CBT falsely explain to us: - there is trauma , unprocessed conditioned hypnosis - there are toxic people who will trigger this original trauma. CBT will falsely explain to us that we are our fear, that our anxiety is sickness and it must be suppressed and that toxic people do not exist ("no one thinks about you"). When we distrust our brain - as CBT instructs us - we will develop mental illness and personality disorder - since we won't rely on our instinct and experience nor our gut feeling. CBT will instruct us to cover fears and anxiety - and then we won't have all information for our brain to process. Then we will be stuck with toxic people and pretend that everything is fine and that we are not in danger. Also - CBT does not explain self censorship and importance to express our opinion. CBT denies existence of coercive control and pushes us to expose to pathological liars and hijackers who will exploit any data we tell them, as CBT instructs us to be "assertive". CBT ought to be banned. Humanistic psychology works for social anxiety, not CBT.

I enjoyed this, thank you!

Even if we view introversion / extroversion solely as where someone gets their energy that's on a spectrum to. For example some introverts need a lot of time to recharge, some don't need nearly as much alone time as others.

But what if their preference is only slightly one way. If someone is 51% extroverted 49% introverted their brain only has a very slight preference for extroversion.

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Thank you for the great conversation, Clare!

Loved this episode! Thank you so much for sharing it.

I am from the area of ​​music, according to some theorists it is a field that affects people's emotions, and I have always been curious and astonished about how reality affects us, searching through thinkers such as Plato in his theory of forms, who says that the most fundamental reality, is composed of abstract but substantial forms. Or Roger Scruton, who invites us to reflect on beauty and the place it occupies in our lives. Or yet Aristotle in his Formal Cause. he says that the formal cause is the form of the thing (an object defines its essence by its form). Finally, man has been concerned with the shape around us and I find that fascinating. Thank you for expanding this knowledge a little more

Wonderful class, I didn't know the teacher was Brazilian, when she said São Paulo I was surprised, I'm from Brazil. Thanks for the class.

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Love Lindsay - Thanks for leading this important topic with her. The two of you brought some great points about leadership.

Thanks for the info. I just bought one for my kid.

Thank you so much for the LOVE, Clare! : )

If I didn't design it, I would buy it for my students in a second! What a gem you are! Thank you!!! xoxo

Great food for thought - more people need to see this!!

How much longer till they're back?!😭

Too expensive for the economy. Nice product though.

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