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Since I am loving a good collection of good studies I wonder if you could name the studie or even send a link to it?

😂 This is so me trying every offered meditation-style over a changing schedule for 12 weeks… the only one that stuck involves movement… its the 4 directions7 heart chakra- meditation. It’s about 20 minutes long and it really clears out most of the brains noises leaving me refreshed and „empty“ without having to spend any spoons :) Love it. Should pick it up again 😂

Yes! THIS! My brain spits out new ideas of forging „a thing“ that would have been so perfect, if I had found it, when I had a desperate need for it in hindsight. Does this make sense? But it doesn’t stop there- since I embraced my neurodiversity I just can’t stop finding more and more new ways of changing things and systems around myself for the better (like shifting the narrative of what autism actually IS or the paradigmshift towards the neurodivergence-model)- usually circumventing all the existing organizations that are centered around existing „Help for autistic people“ or „Help for parents of autistic children“. In my opinion they are not helping us to the full extend of their capacity…usually there are high positions in „xyz-competence-centers“ involved, who aren’t autistic… How about the community starts focusing on how to lift each other up in a less restricted ans scarce way? We have to figure out ways to accomplish that as a community… These are main focus points my brains works about every day and every night. Sometimes its exhausting 😅 But its an endless flow of ideas, it just keeps finding solutions. Now its my job to harness them 😮… just tell me how please😅

Giftedness isn’t actually real, the only way to be successful is to pay attention in class and to work hard just like everyone else, just because you could read in kindergarten doesn’t make you more special than anyone else.

Not helpful. Too much chatter...ndvgt.

Little bit editing can boost your channel

U look like Sheldon Cooper. BTW love you content

Giftedness isn't rigorously defined, but the colloquial usage seems to correlate with the way that certain AuDHD profiles are perceived when it isn't understood that AuDHD is involved.

5:15 There's also the question of what "academically gifted" even means. I could ace every test and was reading college-undergrad astronomy textbooks in 4th grade, but my grades tended to hover around a B average because I preferred free time to good grades and routinely slacked off on homework.

Oh great statistics, the science that claims to prove that the input is always true based on the dataset. This is really nonsense study, of course if you go into any business major and do the same study, 99% of the outcome would be the same, because you're doing a study in a pool of people with common interest. If you take the same group of people, randomly off the street in different parts of the world, and run the study you will get the opposite effect, so overall, this is nonsense.

What would be the response to your question outlined in the title?

You had my attention and interest till your "coaching" plug 😩🤦‍♀️

From observation and personal experience, males with AuDHD tend to be less resilient, at least in terms of outward presentation, and females tend to be more resilient. When stressed, AuDHD males tend to shed load and females tend to hang on for dear life until they collapse. There's probably something to be said for being a bit more outwardly resilient than the average AuDHD male, but I'm not sure internal resilience differs a whole lot, males just have behavior that's more protective of their internal limits, and given the degree of distress frequently reported by females, I'm not sure us males have it all wrong.

Great video, thank you! I am audhd and personality psychology as well as neurodivergence are both interests of mine so this was very interesting ❤

Criteria seems to be for the doctors, not the patients.

Just to make things even more complicated, highly sensitive people (people with high sensory processing sensitivity) are also neurodivergent.

Have a comfortable (christmas) break!

Training is hard, mind and body alike.

Ahaaaa... Have you ever noticed your body instead?? Instead of thinking... using the mind's eye... so using your atention on the physical and sensory expression of existing... and allowing the breathing to engage the process everytime the monkey mind jumps in... notice thoughts like clouds on a windy sky.... and if you spot many enjoy the process... but if you notice it the come back to the body sensations and breathing... it gets easier with time... One day... you may be able to sit in an aligned position looking at a spot on the wall and be surprised a whole 5 minutes passed since you looked at the clock... uh, uh... or maybe even an hour... 😅 Thank you for exposing your process so authentically!! Happy meditating! ❤❤❤

Undiagnosed, unsure AuDHDers: "I don't want to take up space in a community that isn't mine" The actual AuDHD community: "One of us! One of us! One of us!" The gatekeeping us largely external: From neurotypicals; from undiagnosed, unaware AuDHDers that think we're completely normal; and from our own brains. That said, in special interest communities and careers that are largely AuDHD but largely unaware, there can be significant gatekeeping over masking conflicts: For example, high masking individuals entering low masking communities can be rejected when they start trying to enforce neurotypical norms, and low masking individuals entering high masking communities can be seen as an embarrassment in a group that already feels that its place in society is unsteady.

ADHD: The diagnosis I should have seen coming. Kindergarten teacher tried getting me tested due to disciplinary issues, ADHDad objected, grumbling about pathologizing and medicating "normal childhood behaviors" just because they were inconvenient for educators. After kindergarten, the ADHD channeled itself into reading ahead in the textbook instead of paying attention to the lesson, so no huge difficulties in school because I quickly got to know things before they were ever covered in class. Laziness was an issue because I was underchallenged and my test scores could make up for lack of discipline in homework. I joked about being ADHD in my teens and 20s with no clue that I actually had it. Then my brother got diagnosed, and, oh, wait a minute, if he has it, I *definitely* have it.

There are other meanings to "typical" besides "normal", such as "common", "vulgar" and "insignificant". Besides the other name for being a neurotypical is neuroconformal - blend in, don't stick out, UNLESS a higher social position allows somewhat more freedom. P.S. I'm not preaching neurodivergent supremecy! Some of the best and dearest people I've ever known are neurotypicals. World needs us and them, as we have sifferent strenghts and weaknesses, thus we can complete each other and bring our strengths in situations, where the other neurotype might struggle.

Neurotypicals traits 1 you aislate the sounds are you interested in and you are selectevely def 2 social cues are in your dna you breath live and feed of social cues 3 you speaking inderectly to express your wants / needs 4 you pay attention to the sentimental expression of something has been said and you dont really hear the actual words 5 you are easily obedient to orders and bosses 6 you prefer kindness over efficiency 7 you miss sooo much going on you miss the essence of life which is being authentic and unique

This describes a post traumatic response. One may do with that what they will.

Working hard in the garden relaxes my mind more than anything else. I feel really regulated afterwards, no matter the weather or the season. Passive mindfulness meditation doesn't work for me either. Instead I'm trying to find mushrooms and other beautiful fauna in the forest while walking my dog. That also results in many beautiful pictures on my phone 😊.

Some people with personality disorders prefer to get diagnosis like ADHD and bipolar for some reason

Crane!

Nice paper dove model!

I like that you put the written words over your face. .... why? just why?

crazy how thinking too much became a disorder

It started with the invention of the led bulb

I have combination ADHD and autism. Do you know what being a generalist would look like in the combination of both?

Thank you! these videos are fantastic!

My first video I see from you and I really like it. 👍I've just realised that the stuff you're talking about in this video are things I've been trying to incorporate when I'm having conversations. It was nice hearing it in well thought out words and clearly talked about in different scenarios, and seeing what makes what effective. I was just really pleasantly surprised to know other people try these stuff too and that there are names for it. A random thing I also noticed is, as a neurodivergent person talking to a neurotypical person, I feel like I struggle more with them being the one with the black and white thinking and having strong justice getting clouded in emotions. Which was pretty interesting to think about and kind of surprising to hear. But i shouldn't really be that surprised since I don't really fit in anywhere anyway.

I hate to say it I don't think neurotypical exists! For example if a child is loud it's a problem, if a child is quiet it's still a problem. Why can't we all be humans again. We all have different personalities with opinions with likes and dislikes. Alot of people think I'm autistic because I love music and play the piano without reading the music plus I'm quite shy with people.

Great video, watching this made me really curious about the book. Incidentally, just a few hours before watching your video, I had had two “difficult” conversations and it was very interesting to analyze these conversations based on the concepts that you presented. This way, I was actually able to identify points where I or the other person in the conversation employed one of the techniques presented in the video, but I was also able to identify points where I could have done better, and watching the video actually made me understand why and how I could have done better, so I will definitely try this the next time I have such a conversation. Regarding the CBT controversy, it is my understanding that the problem is not CBT itself, but how it can be dangerous when it used for the wrong goals. One of the concepts behind CBT is that cognitive distortions can be the cause cause of various psychological disorders (in particular anxiety disorders). When it comes to neurodivergent people, the problem is that what an outsider might see as a cognitive distortion might actually be a result of our differences in sensory processing and thinking styles. So, for a neurodivergent person, it is critical to have a therapist that is not only well-versed in CBT, but also has a good understanding about our neurological differences. Otherwise, there is a danger that CBT is not only used to help us with cognitive distortions, but it is employed to “fix” things that are actually part of how our brains work, and obviously this is a recipe for disaster. In the context of conversations, I think that it can be helpful to reflect on one’s perceptions and associated emtions and ask oneself where these might originate and whether they are actually caused by the conversation or something else. One just shouldn’t make the mistake of assuming that one’s own emotions are “wrong” or unjustified. Unfortunately, due to our experiences of living in a neurotypical world, I think that this is excatly what we are doing way too often.

That’s brilliant. I needed to hear this :) my mom praised my resiliency and drive the other day, and I said « well, there isn’t any other way is there ? You get back up and start again » and it felt so obvious and right to me. Thanks ADHD, I guess ?

No one believes me about how much I am struggling or that it's because I'm logistically and practically exhausted because of years of masking and overfunctioning without adequate appropriate and safe support, NOT because I'm mentally ill. People are gaslighting me about the seriousness of my struggle and then gaslighting me about its cause.

Thank you so much. Sending love ❤

We also lose good leaders because corporate metrics “weed out” neurodivergent leaders because resources are withheld to help the square pegs fight into round holes.

I feel the same way! Thank you for putting it into words.

In my experience I probably wouldn't have been a very good specialized musician at all - it'd be waaay more likely that I'd just drop the thing if I kept at only one

Yes. Sounds familiar.

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1,000,000 percent me.

Good for him?

Love to see the origami folding ❤❤❤

So good to see your keeping up your new origami habit 💚☺️

Good point

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