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That's toxic behaviour. I'd suggest that you need to either raise the matter with someone else, or you need to find another job (either elsewhere in the organisation or at another company entirely).

The breathing one is my quick go-to, and I definitely agree with watching something funny that makes you laugh... nothing quite like it! 😃

That's so great to hear, thanks! 😃

Thanks, glad you liked it! Work in particular can be tough because we feel the pressure from everyone else, even if it's not spoken about openly, and the thing to remember is that if you're feeling that then so is everyone else (or most of them, except for the people who are creating the pressure in the first place!). It can feel really uncomfortable at first to push back against that, but the more you do the more you'll get used to doing it. Two things to always bear in mind: (1) you need to make your needs your number one priority (because nobody will look after them for you), and (2) a job is just a job - your life satisfaction is more important. You can always get another job if you need to, but you can't change your life as quickly... so, make your life the #1 priority! All the best. Jeremy 😀

Not quite sure what you mean, can you clarify please?

@@letstalkaboutmentalhealth thats how long it took for you to stop spamming for the algorithm and get to the actual point of the video. Just letting everyone know.

If you're struggling in your workplace like this then you need to get support (eg. Talking with someone, like a counsellor or therapist) and it's time to look for another job. No job is worth feeling unsafe for.

You're so welcome! I'm glad you enjoyed it, and I hope it's helpful 😃 Jeremy

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Thank you very much! It's probably because I've experienced my own self-doubts (and still do) so I've really had to work hard to learn how to manage them. Thanks for the lovely message!

Thank you very much! Lots more to come 😃

Thank you! Good to be back!

You're very welcome!

Awww thanks so much! 😃

¡Muchas gracias! ¡Realmente lo aprecio! 😃

You're very welcome! I hope it was helpful 😃

Depending on which country you live in, there are laws to protect against workplace bullying and harassment... hopefully that's something that more and more countries catch up with!

I'm not 100% sure what you mean, please clarify :)

I left a note for myself (in sort of code) for when I come back to watch this video for research I’m doing on workplace bullying and harassment.

Doesn't it just?! I'm currently at the end of a week off (with another week left before I return to work) and it's like someone opened a window in my mind and let in a massive amount of fresh air. Rest for the win!

The realisation is a healthy thing! Now you get to do the work to process through it and identify how to heal. Take things one step at a time, one day at a time, and remember to make your mental health your top priority (because nobody can or will look after it for you!). Wishing you all the very best with everything. Jeremy 🙂

Good to hear, I hope the video was helpful! 🙂

No, sorry! Spoiler alert: I'm actually coming back in a couple of weeks. Because it turns out I just couldn't stay away... 🙂

You're welcome! I hope it was helpful 😃

Thank you very much! I know, it's funny how the RUclips algorithm works... glad you enjoyed it and all the best 😃

Be direct with her, in a firm but fair (and kind) way. It's better to have an uncomfortable conversation where you set some boundaries than to let someone think they're your friend.

You're very welcome, I hope itwas helpful!

It takes practice! The more you do it, the easier it becomes. :) Start by focusing on just a few hours, and then expand to the 'one day at a time' thing; anything outside of that, write it down in a Worry Journal and have a designated hour each day where you deal with your worries (resolving not to work on them/focus on them outside of that time).

You're very welcome! I hope it was helpful 😊

Fair call - I think many of us do if we're honest. But as I said in my reply to your other comment, all you can control is yourself and what you choose to do and say... so you're just going to end up tormenting yourself if you don't learn how to let it go. There are 8 billion of us on this planet and we're all unique, and so part of growing as an individual is learning to accept that we all have unique points of views (and that means there's no right or wrong way to be human). I know it's painful when it's family who you don't see eye-to-eye with, but that should never stop you from being your authentic self. All the best 🙂

It's understandable to find it difficult to deal with family members who don't agree with your choices, but I'm going to challenge you and say that you're responsible for your own words and actions so blaming them for the way you talk about them, or become rebellious, isn't particularly helpful. You get to decide what you do and don't do, and since you can't control what other people say or do the only real choice is to choose to let go of their judgements and be the best version of yourself you can be. That's how you'll find peace of mind.

I'm glad to hear you have support at work, and I totally understand what you're saying about backlash. All I will say is that you have to make the decisions that are right for you, but don't sacrifice your needs (and wellbeing) for the sake of a bully. If it gets to be too much, then you need to take a thoughtful and considered risk (and maybe even deal with some short term issues) for the sake of your longer term mental health.

So glad to hear that! Let me know how you get on 😃

Thank you! I love that cartoon bandaid and lollipop analogy, that's 100% my brand 🤣😁

Thanks! No new videos for a while... but you can still catch me weekly in my podcast Let’s Talk About Mental Health (www.ltamh.com) 😃

Thanks! Glad it helped! 😃

Thanks! I hope it was helpful 😃

Thank you! ☺️

Well, I know you probably don't want to hear this but here goes anyway: that's just not going to happen (the thing about others having the same emotions as you). All you have direct control over is yourself, and what you choose to do and say... so you have zero control over others, just yourself. I know, it's not pleasant when shit happens to you... but you can either learn from it and use it to grow or let it drag you down. And just because you don't want a learning opportunity that doesn't mean you aren't going to get one. You either deal with things as they are, or you end up feeling resentful. The choice is yours, but I'd suggest choosing carefully. Wishing you all the very best. Jeremy 🙂

​@@letstalkaboutmentalhealth I am aware that it doesn't happen that they're feeling resentful. Why would you if you go around behaving like aholes? That doesn't make it any easier to deal with for the person on the receiving end. I don't think you're giving the amazing take you think you are: just deal with your own feelings, yeah duh, obviously. But most people cant have things happen to themselves and the same day say "Ah yes thank you for cheating on me and leaving me with my four kids. That's an amazing learning opportunity." Pretty much everyone ends up being resentful in the early stages things happening. It's part of the cycle of grief to feel anger. While your video is nice for the little things, for very large issues it has to be solved differently. It's incredibly hard to see being cheated on, having someone die etc. as a learning opportunity.

I know what you mean. I've been dealing with shut from people continually for my whole life. I seem to attract a...holes

Thanks, glad you enjoyed it!

Glad to hear it!

That's the way! 😃

Sorry to hear that. It sounds like it's time to talk with a counsellor or therapist; if you already see one, then it's time to let them know that you're feeling this way so you can explore it from different angles/try different approaches. Just remember: all you can control is yourself, and what you choose to say/do. Everything else is out of your control. It's a pain, but accepting that fact can help you to start letting go of your anger so you can begin to move forward.

Hooray! 🥳😁

Love that! Great choice to make! 😁

That needs to be addressed as being unacceptable behaviour... which it is. And if it continues, that person's ongoing employment needs to be reviewed. If you find conflict challenging listen to Episode 242 of my Let’s Talk About Mental Health podcast about How To Be More Assertive (find it here on RUclips ruclips.net/video/p8WenWFL0KE/видео.htmlsi=_FDelEDUbW1GXC-G or on Spotify at open.spotify.com/episode/3p7XKsdtX4tAr9tKgzM87v?si=921zWWPyRqS8iSk-65loWQ)

You'll find a lot more suggestions of how to tackle resentment in the extended podcast episode, you can listen to it or read the full transcript here: letstalkaboutmentalhealth.com.au/2024/01/28/216-resentment-and-how-it-affects-your-mental-health/