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That’s a good point that you raised. The segment involving James Baldwin, definitely generated those thoughts internally, but respectfully that was a different time. When they spoke others listened, so there was a resonance with their intended audience. What I can say is this, as humans we were all abused in some way, whether it’s abuse due to the projections of others, abused from hands or actions of another, abused by own “stinking thinking”, culture, etc. So all we can do, in this instance, is to graciously recount the contribution that her presence inspired in our individual lives, then send her off into the sunset to rest in peace. With that said, may she “fly like a bird” throughout eternity. As for you, may your days and nights be rich and full. Thank you again for your comment.

Thank you for your comments. Your disappointment is a judgment of one who is blinded by an emotion fuelled by misunderstanding. For I am working in the silence on a global movement towards peace and this video is only one element of a massive movement for Earth. Life has a way of revealing all things, never all in one gulp dear one. Peace to you 🦋

There will be an examination of the religious wave that took place on Earth, it’s a deep dive, dating back to the crusades, which requires intense and in-depth research. It’s in the works.

​@@reshapingculture Wow. I'm looking forward to it. Liked your last video. You know what you are talking about, and give clear points to where groupthink can fall into malevolence. You did a great job, go on with what you're doing! The rise of Christofascism is something I start to see here as well, a lot of it comes from US-evangelicals, but it runs deep. I was raised a child learning "the curse of Ham" as being a fact. Which I know now is just Fascist propaganda. Take care. Greetings from NL.

Your experience is exactly why this discourse and research is essential. The “curse of Ham” was also pushed here in Belgium, a despicable subjugation ploy. Greetings and much peace to you 🦋

Follow it up with trans ideation phenomenon There are two oppositional group think phenomena taking place in the US

@anothenymously7054 heteronormativity is classically the research that I concentrate on, when dealing with gender dynamics; however, your point is well received, please note that all persuasions are welcome here to this discussion. Excluding the trans experience from this analysis, was due to the case studies that were most befitting for this specific analysis - meaning this method was from a critical, yet broad stroke lens. Please clarify, what specific type of follow-up would be of interest to analyze?

Thank you for watching it. Much peace to you 🦋

*Clintons used this demonic evil tactic in Bangladesh two months ago & convinced the mass that their Prime Minister is corrupt hence they should choose a dictator for their country*

Did you author this poem? It’s beautiful. Thank you for sharing it.🦋

@@reshapingculture I did, thank you. I wish you the best in your future endeavors. Thank you for your video.

Thank you.

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@OrangeMoon101 I appreciate your words and most importantly your journey. If you feel compelled to have a discussion about your journey of navigating your loss and finding a semblance of making life work post your mum, then I would love to give your experience a voice. There is no pressure though, so please in no way take the invite as one, but if you do and would like to, then you can find my contact info in the bio of my channel. Thank you again for your comment, sending much love and peace to you 🦋.

She’s one of Earth’s great treasures.

Firstly, what types of videos, do you feel will assist you with inspiring greater aim and focus? Secondly and more importantly, if we take the mindset that “I am” is a very powerful declaration, that means never allowing our thoughts to sabotage what’s possible for our lives. By stating this fact: that the mind and heart generate a powerful reservoir of resilience, no matter the circumstances, then transformation can begin to influence our reality. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I encourage that, now I invite you to encourage the part of you that dared to share this message. Inspire that part to reach for a life that has a clear aim, by taking one moment at a time. Then if it feels too hard, lean on whatever or whomever feeds you in healthy and sustainable ways. Much peace to you dear one 🦋

Thank you for sharing your perspective, perhaps there was some overthinking; however, this is a clip pulled from the full video report on monogamy. This shares is the dating phase, from the perspective of a community of women that I closely observed. It is interesting to read these two terms that you’ve shared in your comment, “sleepers” and “keepers”. It is my hope that every woman eventually becomes a keeper, but as a researcher, my goal is to create discourse that can hopefully expand the conversation on a myriad of issues across the spectrum of human existence.

@@reshapingculture No serious researcher "publishes" on YT. Where are the papers - or better: give their academic identification.

As an anthropologist and a behavioral scientist, who is here to reshape culture and here to bring the colonised way of thinking to the foreground, spending time waiting for men and women to verify if my credentials are enough is touché for a mentality locked in a fog of shoulds. My masters in Anthropology and post masters work give me fuel. I stand with the likes of Huberman who are shouldering the burden of ignorance and making educating the mind more accessible. I wish for you peace in your awareness around researchers. For those that only wait for mean men who come on platforms to comment on videos that have nothing to do with them, only to fear if they will verify them as valuable is so very clearly, old school mentality, that has everything to do with the reason why researchers, like me who are serous need to call attention to faux silencers by spending time with groups who may need a little help with changing their behavior. I am busy working on my life, thank you for your comments. Please find another person to validate your thoughts about a video that has nothing to do with you.

@@reshapingculture No papers, I get it.

No, incorrect. This video, along with the full length video was inspired by a paper I wrote on the subject of femininity and dating rituals.

What does “doody dating” mean to you? I am an anthropologist and behavioral scientist, so my intention is to share that community with an audience of women and men. Coming from a neutral place, never making either perspective right or wrong.

Thank you for sharing your experience. I must say to you though, that it is with great pleasure for me to say that your mere awareness of this behavior, has primed you with the capacity to succeed and even more so, equipped you with the capacity to challenge those feelings of distrust, as well as those fears or that emotional trauma that may be within. Next week I plan on recommencing my video publishing here on RUclips, my first video will be tailored to childhood experiences such as yours and mine. From the research that I’ve been conducting, it may be of service to you, on your journey. So stay tuned and again, thank you for sharing, even more importantly, thank you for watching 🦋

@marinelmejia2693 thank you for sharing your experience. How has life been for you? Meaning how is your heart, your feeling heart? I am taking this channel in many directions, directions that provide resources for viewers, so the culture of motherless children is one of those directions. If there is something that you’d like to learn more about, let me know. Also, if you would like to share your story, you can find my contact information in the about section of my channel, a way to contact me. Your story could offer deeper insight into the life of another, like yourself having had the same experience. Much peace to you and remember to be good to yourself 🦋.

First of all, I hear you and truly do feel you. My heart goes out to your experience. I want to share something with you: You are the person that inspired me to get back on this channel and rethink the type of content, that I’d like to share, that’s a bonafide fact, so you matter! Most importantly, it is necessary for me to tell you a few more things, that hopefully will equip you for your life’s journey. Start facing the pain. When my mom died at 6, it set off a firestorm of unmet needs for decades. Then invariably, I had to sober up and let go of punishing myself for being alone, I’m talking holidays, birthdays, etc., then started leaning on my soul’s intention. If you can allow yourself to believe anything allow yourself to believe this, that there is a Presence (no religious diatribe or anything sanctioned to a religion) that is loving you in the depths of your pain and imploring you to face all of it. That means start listening to your heart and what it is saying. If you listen closely enough, the pain will speak. Julia Cameron from ‘The Artist’s Way’, inspired me to start something called morning pages. This is, you make a daily account of whatever comes to mind, by doing stream of consciousness writing, to clear your mind. Then go deeper by asking your heart: what’s really going on? What do I truly believe about myself? What did I make the death of my mom really mean? The meanings we apply to our lives can imprison us, they can also set us free, when we make conscious efforts at reframing them - those meaning making things that no longer serve us. Then lastly, start a journey of self-help. Read, read and read some more, then never stop remembering that you matter. The fact that a person, a stranger in your life (but part of your human family), me, is writing to you, says your mom is listening above, encouraging you to love yourself through the rough patches, by affirming that you matter enough, so much so in fact, that your heart, yours, the one inside of your chest, is working involuntarily. Much, much love and thank you for sharing your story with me. 🦋🙏🏽💐

My deepest condolences to you for your experience. It took me awhile to reply, because there had to be more research into the intended direction of this channel. So my apologies for the delayed response. It is great to hear that you are finding solace in other mother figures, that is nice to hear. You are absolutely right community is powerful, also your True Self is even more powerful, so learning to use resources that allow you to speak your truth, while at the same time heal your heart and fortify your resilience is tantamount. Thank you for feeling safe enough to share a piece of your story here, much peace to you in your life 🦋.

I just wanted to post that you are beautiful ! You have a lot to offer to this world. I can sense what a caring person you are. Women can give birth to children but not all "Mom's" know how to form that "Bond" Trust me. I have 6 kids and they are all so very different. Today they only care about music, XBOX, Tik Tok, Instagram....anything but loving me. It hurts. Mom's hurt due to being abandoned & ignored. I wish people would see it from a different perspective. God bless you

Thank you for sharing your story. It took a moment for me to get to your response, still I want you to know that I value your heartfelt message. What I know for sure is that the way to heal, is to enter into an agreement with the part of the self that was traumatized and to commit to healing and returning her back to her original wholeness. One way is by reading books that help break childhood trauma. Since abandonment is a hallmark part of her behavior (the woman who birthed you), there is trauma work that is invited for you to look into doing. One book that I read, which helped me to shine a light on my own abandonment experience is: ‘Reinventing your life’, it talks about the various “Lifetraps” that keep repeating in our lives and spilling over into signature parts of our experience and prevents us from living a fully expressed experience and loving ourselves fully and completely. Perhaps look into it. With that said, I appreciate you and thank you so much again for sharing your personal experience. Much love ❤️

You are most welcome, dear one, thank you for taking the time to watch. By coincidence, today I just posted a new video for the first time in years offering some healing tools, for motherless children, so if you feel compelled to watch, then here is the link:ruclips.net/video/fsHHW9woysY/видео.html . Peace to you 🌺

@@reshapingculture that’s the video that brought me to you.

@@blackhippiechick beautiful to hear, thank you for watching. Keep rising! 🙏🏽

You’re so sweet to give them guidance, I appreciate it; however, we can liken it to a by proxy moment. Meaning, I shared my story, in hopes that others would feel safe enough to share theirs. So, it is encouraged to share, because there are two bookends: Birth and Death, whatever we do between our human inception and departure, is truly the shoulders of each one of us, individually. Much love precious one 🙏🏽

thank you for your words of wisdom and compassion, and thank you for creating this video, it provides so much comfort for me, especially on my dark days @@reshapingculture 🙏

You’re so kind, thank you. Best wishes to you and thank you for the prayers.

Thank you! Received, appreciated and greatly accepted! My apologies for the delayed response. Sending your six year old self an even bigger hug! Much love to you 🦋

Thank you for giving your valuable time to watch.

You are most welcome. My apologies for the delayed response. Would you care to elaborate on what you mean specifically? This would help me to construct a video tailored to your request.

Thank you Adrian for sharing your thoughts and I applaud you, for your mindset and the many eye opening discoveries you’ve made along the way. There is a very clear relationship with feeling and understanding. I am curious to know what your masters degree is in. Your drive harkens a self-effulgence that has accompanied you throughout your journey. As you have articulated from your entry, it is truly something that is learned from a reflexive space; one which has aided you, throughout your life. That impulse to research the motherless experience, is what interests me and where discourse around this subject is imperative. It’s inexplicable, yet existent with convoluted layers, one which surpasses the intellect. Your process is raw, commendable and just simply beautiful. Thank you for sharing and working towards cultivating a life well lived. Best to you 💓

@@reshapingculture my undergrad was psychology and my masters is in quantitative methods in the social sciences (applied data science/stats for social sciences)

I am looking for cases to create a discussion on motherless children. Where it will be on camera to share on this channel. If you are interested in being one of the stories selected, you can find in the description below this video (What I learned growing up without a mother), how to submit your story. Looking forward to hearing from you.

I have no words. How special are you to share your precious heart and a piece of your story! Thank you for your candor and for your vulnerability. May this world be more mindful of the voices like yours and others, that echo the culture of heartbreak, that exists silently beneath the surfaces, within our global community. You matter and your experience matters. Warmest regards to you 💓

I am looking for cases to create a discussion on motherless children. Where it will be on camera to share on this channel. If you are interested in being one of the stories selected, you can find in the description below this video (What I learned growing up without a mother), how to submit your story. Looking forward to hearing from you.

@@reshapingculture I am thinking about it. But I was unable to see a link under the description?

@@Godiswith_HER I didn’t put a link. As of right now, I have only given my social handles and my email address; however, by the end of the weekend I can provide you with a link, to my project’s website. I look forward to connecting with you in a more profound way and documenting your story. Warmest best 🙏🏽

@@Godiswith_HER Here is the submission to submit your story: reshapingculturemedia.com/chronicles-of-motherless-children/ Or via submissions@reshapingculturemedia.com Please share why you feel your story will make an impact on others dealing with the experience of being motherless. Thank you so much for your interest in sharing your story.

I am looking for cases to create a discussion on motherless children. Where it will be on camera to share on this channel. If you are interested in being one of the stories selected, you can find in the description below this video (What I learned growing up without a mother), how to submit your story. Looking forward to hearing from you.

As a male raised in foster care birth -7 urs then juvenile state ward from 13-18. I've heard a lot of negative stereotypes surrounding men in relationships who were raised without nurturing and love. And unfortunately there all true. My only hope to assimilate was my relationship with God and lessons I've learned from emotionally hurting 2 women in my life. At 20 I found myself sad and very curious about women's life story's I would encounter. Even though I didn't carry myself like I been through pain and suffering, I always and I mean always would attract girls that have. Learning so much from these women caused me to develop an emotional bond and protective love for women, but 1 problem I have yet to understand is why women I engage for serious relationships, I always feel as if they don't love me no matter what happens or how long the relationship lasts. Something inside never lets my "guard" down. All I ask in a relationship is to be faithful and love & protect the children 1st. Idc about attitudes, habits, or lack of woman skills. As easy going as that may sound, I still cannot find security. That issue is why I'm here searching for an unknown defect I may have and be unaware of. I really don't want to repeat another relationship and attracting women has never been a problem, and because my standards are so low it's easy to become vulnerable or available to finding a replacement that I may not need. If there's anything damaged in me I'd like to find it, I have a lot of love to give but finding that security is proving to be very difficult!

So sorry to hear this. My grandma passed when my mom was 9yrs old and my mom grew up struggling and still struggles to this day with how to be a mom. I am now dating a guy who has a 11 year old who is growing up without her mom and i am having issues with her behavior. what is it? how did you accept and understand your feelings? how can i get her to at a young age? thanks for your response.

My condolences to you, regarding the transition of your mother. There is no type of permanent magic pill that any of us, who’ve lost a parent, can take - be it through death or abandonment - to accelerate the healing process. It is an introduction to a new type of tacit relentless vacancy, that can never be filled or articulated. I must say, strong is never a word that I can attest to, regarding the loss of my mother, it’s been more so a tolerated acceptance. Jean James, thank you sincerely for sharing your story, this contributes to the amplification of the many stories that go unheard and under shared. Sending you heartfelt thoughts. Best to you 🙏🏽

@@reshapingculture thankyou

I am looking for cases to create a discussion on motherless children. Where it will be on camera to share on this channel. If you are interested in being one of the stories selected, you can find in the description below this video (What I learned growing up without a mother), how to submit your story. Looking forward to hearing from you.

@@reshapingculture ok if I'm up for it, I'll send

Beautiful learnings, Sydney. Thank you for sharing it. Best to you 🌺

@@reshapingculture thank you and you as well ☺️❤️

I am looking for cases to create a discussion on motherless children. Where it will be on camera to share on this channel. If you are interested in being one of the stories selected, you can find in the description below this video (What I learned growing up without a mother), how to submit your story. Looking forward to hearing from you.

Wishing you a supportive journey on earth, dear one and my condolences for having her loss as part of your experience. Peace to you 💐

Thank you for your reply, it is good to be reminded it is part of my experience and not something that is the whole of me, thank you. I do have one query, if it is not to much to ask. Why is it that when the 'big' events happen I miss her the most? Like obviously with the birth of my first child and soon to be second child. But with my marriage also, turning older than her (21) was the toughest, i think I spent a year in bed! I just wonder if thats when it is at the forefront of my mind?

@@gwenwood6136 coming from my own experience, it’s the emotional recognition of the voids, if you will, they never truly go away. Just like having something put on our plates that we have to deal with for an entire lifetime. We know that it’s there and we know that we must tolerate it. At times we can block it out or put it somewhere in the background. Other times, it’s virtually impossible to ignore. It’s during those heightened moments, where we must do what Dr. Perry calls “dosing”. Which means gathering emotional strength, from those who care about us and are healthy enough to just listen and let the heart share and empty its anguish and grievances - if you don’t have anyone, then call an anonymous free hotline, it’s just as cathartic or write in a journal. As human beings, we have our “shoulds” in life. My children should have their grandmother; my wedding day should have my mother’s presence and so on. They are supposed to be those given monumental experiences where our emotional value system places our should haves directly in our pathway. We can never defeat it, only healthily replace it by filling our cups with our “heaven”; our comfort, love and support. At least that’s my remedy, along with always allowing her (my mother) to live in my heart. While at the same time, honoring her by creating a life of which I think, she would be proud. Warmest best 💖

@@reshapingculture ohh thank you thank you so much! This is a really good way to think about it. It is so refreshing to hear it coming from someone who isn't trying to diagnose me haha I am very isolated but I have started writing a journal on my phone. It definitely helps. I wish I had more to say but a pregnant mind is only thinking about food lets face it! Wish you all the best for the future. Truely grateful 🙏

I am looking for cases to create a discussion on motherless children. Where it will be on camera to share on this channel. If you are interested in being one of the stories selected, you can find in the description below this video (What I learned growing up without a mother), how to submit your story. Looking forward to hearing from you.

I would say yes and no. Yes because the version of the mother that is showing up, is not the version wished for internally. No because her presence is still ongoingly contributing to your relationships with women and others. She is not physically abusive, right? With a verbally and emotionally abusive parent, as children we think that they are godlike. Meaning that they are above us, when in fact they are just wounded humans wounding others. If that’s her method of being in your life, then the one thing that is necessary is to find tools to communicate. Ones that encourage healing and to stop polluting your life. There are 5 control drama personality types: the interrogator, the intimidator, the aloof and the victim. Each one of these control dramas use their tactics to control and dominate others. To live with an abusive person, you must navigate ways of how to take care of you and how to have a life that can be free from abusers and controllers, in a healthy way. One solution for that is to start with one day at a time, by using social platforms as a helpful to teach; as a way that can help you to construct a life that can support you for the longterm. Meaning representation is a very important ingredient in knowing what we want. Look for examples that can help you to work toward constructing your own life. Take good care of yourself and much love to you 💞

@@reshapingculture thankyou so much this is bery helpful. There has been physical abuse in childhood yes and some isolated incidents in adulthood too that left me more mentally traumatized than the ones experienced in childhood because as an adult i wasnt really expecting it. And what you said about having unfullfilled friendships with other women is so true in my case cuz i havent had good positive assocuations and friendships with other women in my life. I didn't know it had something to do with my mom.

I am looking for cases to create a discussion on motherless children. Where it will be on camera to share on this channel. If you are interested in being one of the stories selected, you can find in the description below this video (What I learned growing up without a mother), how to submit your story. Looking forward to hearing from you.