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Miss your podcast whens ur next episode ❤

Lovely advice, lovely to see you again🌸

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I feel sorry for him he’s not even allowed to finish his sentence how would you expect him to say what’s in his mind

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Loved this episode 😃😃

Girl, i think you are a wonderful person…you did well to create this podcast! Your voice is so needed

Do you not think it’s mad in the other episode talking bou toying with the idea of divorce but in this episode you’d be ok with him gettin the snip. Imagine if you break up and he has the snip. What is he was to move on band meet someone else , is that not l selfish af?

“Sneeze on you and get you pregnant” sent me under!😂😂😂

😂😂😂😂😂😂I can sneeze on you and get you pregnant I'm Somali 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂got me on my knees bro

'Get your trousers all the way down, I wanna see' had me DEAD

‘She’s a fraud’ 😂 love your personality 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

It's very hard in a marriage but as a couple together trying and never giving up is wonderful we been having problems for 17 years on and off..but we are getting better ❤

But in order to be in your feminine place, you need to allow the other person to lead! The way you speak to your partner and the delivery of messages are harsh! You minimise him honey and slightly degrade him, even the car driving examples / you won’t allow him to just drive in peace, you always criticise him even while he is leading (driving)! Dumb example but it all builds up.

This was difficult to watch because she kept asking questions but hated the reality of his answers. You have to be fair and respectful, if you want to be heard you also have to be an active listener. Interrupting and overtalking someone is so rude. “Nah I don’t agree”. Why can’t you let him finish and then respond. She seems very reactionary and impulsive and expects him to just ride the wave with her. It might have worked with the two of you but when you have kids unfortunately this shifts. I wish you guys the best. Do couples counselling because you really need it.

The laughing in this is beautiful. 😍 Lovvvvveeee the update! Relationship are forever evolving. It’s great you choose to evolve together… it’s hard yet beautiful all at the same time

I’m so sorry for the things that you face in your childhood, I must say u are strong enough to come out on social media and u really inspiring me to not be ashamed of telling your pain. U strong and keep shining❤❤❤

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Aww I wanna give you a big hug! I so understand how you're feeling in regards to your husbands disconnect, abandonment and insecurity from the past can pop up in relationships, and I imagine that you feel your husbands safety net was pulled from under you, so in retaliation to that, you do what you call your craziness, which isn't crazy at all, it's your protection. In those moments you need your husband to pull you in closer, that "self sabotage" is literally you crying out that you don't feel safe. I think you're doing an amazing job with self awareness, these things take time, so give yourself Grace, trauma will always be trauma, but it has no business coming between your happiness. Love on each other, be gentle with each other, pray together, laugh as much as possible, fu%# the small irrelevant issues, and you'll all be great!

Great podcast, so happy you speak your truth! I completely understand where you're coming from! I've found when feeling like this, if I completely focus on myself, do things that make me happy, leave his shoes where he leaves them lol, no arguing, no asking, nothing! He will soon fix up lol, sometimes the spice happens by completely shaking things up, do what you've never done, don't sweat the small stuff! The shift will happen. I also think you need to prioritise childcare, so you can both date outside of the home and the kids if you can, just to allow you both to connect again. You still have the friendship which is the most important thing.

SubhanAllah Aaliyah! (Sorry if I spelt your name wrong) I totally get you! I think we love very deeply! But sometimes because we don’t feel at peace we don’t portray it properly! It’s as though when speak to our spouse they either don’t get us, or we don’t explain it properly.

This has been so helpful I’m literally sitting here and journaling and I really appreciate your videos and I overstand everything you are saying .❤Keep it up your doing a good job .xx

It sounds like she was abused as a child and used alcohol to numb the pain. It explains why she's like this.

Thank you for this episode sis. I really appreciate it. .

She's like a child..comes across masculine and constantly steps over her husband. Feel sorry for him..he on other hand needs to man up.....she clearly wears the trousers nothing feminine about her whatsoever. She definitely has gone through some childhood trauma that looks like she's blaming him for it.

Sis, please look into therapy. The fact that you see your faults. Means ther is room for you to grow. We love Farhan but go for a real therapist sis. Just for yourself and maybe with Farhan at a later stage. Your a beautiful family. Praying for your growth inshallah. ❤

I love you two. You don't have to agree on everything but you do have to compromise. And part of that is choosing your battles. Ultimately if you both see good in one another its always worth working on. And maybe keep both your careers separate from your marriage. Atleast until you can get back on one accord. Love you guys. Im rooting for you ❤❤❤❤❤

You maybe feeling that he is holding the mirror 🪞 of reality and because he is calm and had a different upbringing he has a different response and that is interfering with your inner childhood trauma, give your self a big pat in the back for allowing the now you to reflect and understand why and how the reality is, you must want to change for yourself and your self only, only then can you present the best healed version of yourself. You are breaking up with the expectation that you have or had with what your partner should have been in your traumatic mind, I wish you a happy transition and Aaliyah believe in yourself and the rawness that you possess😘😘😘😘

It's ok to cry baby😢😢we love you and you are really an inspiration to many ❤❤❤be strong

That brother has so much patience for her. His dream is having a good family while she wants to find herself.

My take aways from this video was; You want him to be more supportive of your content creating and do things without asking him. You feel as tho he isn’t in complete support of you (in awe of you )due to him not wanting you to do better than him in the career aspect. Which leads you to then say you want him to lust or awe over you and you lust for him. This brings me to what i see as some of the issues. Lust USUALLY occurs in the first stages of meeting/living/marrying someone it’s not an ever lasting feeling it DOES fade. What remains and what keeps a marriage going is Definitely mutual RESPECT, LOVE, etc. Lust isn’t a strong enough reason to stay with someone not only that it doesn’t last, especially after seeing someone in majority of their stages throughout life, ups downs, wins, losses, it basically fades away ,so you can put down as the LACK of knowing someone really. Cause once you get to really know a person your perception of them is altered as no one is perfect obviously. What seems to be the issue here is although you both work, his work appears to finish at a set time and he gets to leave work while yours is continuous. He seems to be very respectful despite being spoken over and I agree with A lot of people this is very Raw and should be as personal conversation between the two of you to work out your problems. From an outside perspective he just looks like he wants some more respect from you. Men also like to feel like the providers of the household (natural innate feeling) and although he may be over the moon about your content creating and how much you may be earning from that he may just feel emasculated by your lack of respect when asking him to do things when it comes to your content creating. Throughout this video he tried to explain things from his POV but you call him out and tell him you don’t agree but i think your forgetting that that’s HIS experience and POV & invalidating it isn’t going to help solve anything. I hope you can find a balance, your characters seem quite opposite, but opposite do attract so I hope you can work through it.

Keep listening and talking honestly and openly. Keep growing and loving. Respect him and allow him to love you while leading the family and trust him while doing so. Hit hard this one! Marriage is a long road of sacrifice completing union. During a storm one always have to be patient or one take a step back and men and woman are different in so many ways. Always be aware and take everything into account your spouse holistically. True love always finds it's way back and trumps everything when you realise nothing is more important than your other half especially when you have kids ❤

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Okay cause even though this is a joke y’all look alike

You do look similar though ngl

Lol that's exactly how i reacted

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Aaliyah you are so brave. What I heard was that you wanted your pursuit to dominate social media to be held in high regard. You want him to see the value in it and support you more. Your husband speaks to you with such care and respect (it should be mutual). His laid back personality is what is needed for your outgoing personality. It is not easy to remain calm under pressure and strife it seems he does that well. You guys are such a beautiful family. 🙏🏽

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Wow....its hard to watch, I feel for him. She has helped me really reflect on my own behavior

May Allah make it easy for us guys, been married for over 10 years, and my parent were married for 50 years until 2 years ago when my Dad passed away, but all I know both my marriages experienced bumps through the years. Love and appreciation will make it work. Besides eveything in life will see changes in dynamics perhaps why we're no longer young, having kids, and physical and mental energy all decrease with time. This has nothing to do with how we show up to our loved ones but it's nature taking its cause. All I have for her is she comes a bit aggressive and doesn't have good listening skills. Imagine without a camera, as a woman finds her voice loud, My apologies if I'm wrong.

She is way too much to be honest...

I’m not gonna lie half the time I didn’t even know the root of what she was actually upset about and she contradicted herself loads ??????

I understand both sides and they both make sense. But like she said it’s two different experiences, two different wounds trying to heal in different ways. if he likes to watch from far & appreciate what he has (family, kids, lifestyle) thats healing HIS wounds. And vice versa on her always doing new things as she missed out in her teens. it’s maybe just trying to find a balance & understanding the other person. giving 50/50 to each of those wounds in a way the other person understands. because he can’t give you 100 to Heal your wounds because he doesn’t know the formula and vice versa. I say culture aswell most East African/ Muslim we’re content with a simple lifestyle & she’s finding herself & wants him to be on that journey but she’s still finding herself so she feels he’s not there or disengaged it’s like a burst to her bubble and it’s okay 🥺🥺

I think as women we need to realize that our husbands are not perfect and they cannot be everything for us. We can’t get all of our needs from one person. I hope Aaliyah can accept that. Because it looks like she has a good man and instead of focusing on the 90% of him that’s good, she’s focusing on the 10% that annoys her. Every marriage has annoyances, but don’t sabotage your marriage by having tunnel vision of who your husband is not. Focus on who he is and why you love him. And then try to get your other needs met elsewhere (through friends, family, personal projects, volunteering, therapy etc.) It’s also our responsibility to heal our trauma. Once in the beginning of my marriage, my husband and I got into a fight and he said, “heal your demons!“ and that woke me up. We can’t punish our husbands because they trigger us. We need to focus on healing our triggers and working on ourselves. No one can do the work for you but you. I sincerely hope Aaliyah invests in therapy. It seems like she is blaming her husband for her unhappiness. But it seems like an issue within herself.

In my opinion, from what I've seen anyway.. Wanting to be heard goes hand in hand with listening. As someone who is extremely emotional and have a hard time waiting for my partner to finish speaking before responding, I completely get where she's coming from but if this marriage is going to last for years to come she definitely needs to work on not cutting him off and not speaking over him. Now admittedly they both have things they need to work on, they have a beautiful marriage and with a lot of love and understanding they can get through this

This man loves you

Omg pliz let him speak