Alex Alexander | Community + Friendship
Alex Alexander | Community + Friendship
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How to Set Bridges Instead of Boundaries with Zya Be
Have you ever hesitated to set a boundary with a friend for fear of pushing them away?
Or, maybe you found yourself on the receiving end of unspoken expectations and left guessing what your friend truly needed.
Our friendships are some of the only relationships we have by choice - but sometimes that freedom can make us hesitate to trust. We’re subconsciously testing our friends, waiting for them to prove they will show up and listen. These tests can strain a friendship.
But what if setting boundaries didn’t have to be a test? What if instead we saw it as a bridge: a way to deepen the connection and show our friends how to love us better?
Today, I talk all about friendship boundaries with Zy...
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10 Friendship Hot Takes
Просмотров 4День назад
Today I’m going to share my personal hot takes about friendship. If you’ve been listening to Friendship IRL for a while, you’ll recognize some of these ideas, but some thoughts are new, and some I haven’t presented as directly as I do today. I was inspired by Danielle Bayard Jackson’s recent episode on the Friend Forward podcast, “6 Hot Takes on Female Friendships (podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast...
Reconnecting With Old Friends When You’ve Become a Different Version of Yourself with Linda Mueller
Просмотров 1314 дней назад
Imagine you’ve made the move you’ve always dreamed of. You live on the other side of the world and experience a new culture. It changes how you see your life - and almost imperceptibly, it changes you, too. When you return home, things are different among your friends. You don’t fit in the way you used to. Today’s guest, Linda Mueller, has lived this challenge firsthand through seven internatio...
Easing Burnout With Social Connections with Lesley Waldron
Просмотров 721 день назад
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed and exhausted by everything you have to do (while still worrying you aren’t doing enough!) then this episode is for you. Today I’m talking about burnout with Lesley Waldron, is a burnout coach who is also a sandwich caregiver (a parent and caregiver to a parent). Much of our conversation tackles this conundrum: friendship is hard during burnout, yet, it’s also cr...
Who We Are Right Now: The Benefits of Making New Friends and Starting Over with Leannda Shearer
Просмотров 16Месяц назад
There’s no better way to test your friendship skills than to move to a new city, and today’s guest, Leannda Shearer, has moved to a new city not once or twice but eight different times! So, at this point, you could say she’s an expert at building a support system. With each new move, she’s learned that it takes not just the right skillset but also the right mindset to create meaningful connecti...
How to Not Live Vicariously Anymore with Christine Hetzel
Просмотров 6Месяц назад
Sometimes, when our social lives feel lacking, we find ourselves living vicariously through others and wondering: how come they’re all living their lives and I’m not? This is the experience today’s guest, Christine Hetzel, found herself in during a kind of quarter-life crisis. To turn her friendship situation around, she took the initiative and began organizing different kinds of public meet-up...
How to Stop Dreading Parties and Take Charge of Your Guest Experience
Просмотров 11Месяц назад
If you’re somebody who dreads going to a party, then this episode is for you. Sometimes the couch feels more appealing than going out into the world and socializing, and I get it. Attending a gathering takes energy. Sometimes it feels awkward. But gatherings can also make us feel inspired and supported and invigorated. Today I offer an approach that will help you take charge of your guest exper...
Dear Men: Stop Living on Autopilot and Strengthen Your Social Circle with Antonio Neves
Просмотров 3Месяц назад
Do you know men who don’t have close friends? It’s a common problem (one that I cover in Episode 31 (podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-about-mens-friendships/id1650876530?i=1000615272971) and Episode 32 (podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-are-we-doing-about-mens-friendships-part-2/id1650876530?i=1000616128271) of this podcast) with major implications. Poor social and mental health in men is con...
Want a Couch Friend? You Need to Be a Couch Friend
Просмотров 21Месяц назад
Today I talk about two friendship terms I’ve been hearing more about lately: the “couch friend” and the “errand friend.” Lots of people want these kinds of friendships because they’re supposed to be easy. You do life’s responsibilities together or you do absolutely nothing together - no planning or panic cleaning required. But how do you find these friends? How do you find someone you’re so com...
Realizing It’s Just Not the Same Anymore With Sarah Marie Paige
Просмотров 102 месяца назад
Have you ever gone back to an old friend, only to realize it’s not the same as it was? This is the experience of today’s guest, Sarah Marie Paige, who in this episode shares about her amazing high school friend group - a group she assumed she’d be able to re-enter without a hitch post law school. Instead, she learned they couldn’t actually pick up where they left off. Just like with plants, if ...
Spring Cleaning Friendships Through Life’s Transitions with Emily Rogers
Просмотров 292 месяца назад
There are some friendships we just need to let go of. In some instances, this means letting go of an aspect of a friendship. In others, this actually means letting go of an entire friendship. Today’s guest is Emily Rogers, a transition and leadership coach and the host of the Leap to Lead podcast (which I was recently a guest on; link in the show notes!). Emily has lived overseas for 20 years a...
How to Embody Main Character Energy in Friendship
Просмотров 112 месяца назад
Have you ever met someone truly magnetic? They walk into the room, and suddenly, the energy shifts. People are drawn to them. Some might argue that this is just the way some people were born. They inherited some gene that the rest of us didn’t. But I believe magnetic individuals are just people who are doing the thing, putting themselves out there and taking action consistently - which over tim...
EP3: Ever ask yourself, "What is a friend?" + The 4 Types of Friends We All Have
Просмотров 162 месяца назад
Sometimes I ask people, "What is a friend?" They honestly can't tell me. It's a fumble of words and describing actions. This is wild because, at the end of the day, we are all out here deciding if someone is our friend or not... when we can't even define what we are looking for. This episode of the Friendship IRL Podcast examines what makes someone a friend. Using the Wheel of Connection Framew...
EP2: How to Balance All Your Friendship vs. Romantic Relationship
Просмотров 332 месяца назад
It's not easy to balance all your friendship vs romantic relationship! In this episode of the Friendship IRL Podcast, Alex introduces the unique perspective of how prioritizing friendships can support marriage by inviting her husband, Michael, for a chat. They delve into the intricate balance of maintaining friendships alongside their marriage, touching on how they have continued to maintain an...
Shifting People Pleasing Friendship Patterns with Deb Blum
Просмотров 72 месяца назад
A few years ago, I realized that one of my friendship patterns was actually kind of a problem. I’d show up for my friends as Superwoman, bragging that I could (and would) drop everything and do anything for my friends - even if it meant betraying myself and my own needs. Then, when I really needed help, I’d never ask for it. I think we all have friendship patterns and tendencies. Some are good....
Don’t Let Your Brain Run Loose: Creating Solid Friendship Beliefs with Sarah Siegert
Просмотров 62 месяца назад
Don’t Let Your Brain Run Loose: Creating Solid Friendship Beliefs with Sarah Siegert
Episode 1: 5 Ways You Need to Start Thinking Differently About Friendship
Просмотров 93 месяца назад
Episode 1: 5 Ways You Need to Start Thinking Differently About Friendship
The Case For Making Friends Who Are In Different Life Stages Than You
Просмотров 32 месяца назад
The Case For Making Friends Who Are In Different Life Stages Than You
How Creating a Community is the Ultimate Self-Care with Fresh Starts Registry Co-Founder Jenny Dr...
Просмотров 42 месяца назад
How Creating a Community is the Ultimate Self-Care with Fresh Starts Registry Co-Founder Jenny Dr...
Flexible Expectations and Modern Friendships with Author Anna Goldfarb
Просмотров 52 месяца назад
Flexible Expectations and Modern Friendships with Author Anna Goldfarb
Finding Balance Between Community and Individualism With Donna Fields
Просмотров 62 месяца назад
Finding Balance Between Community and Individualism With Donna Fields
Letting Our Historic Friendships Breathe in Their New Forms with Joseph Suttner
Просмотров 22 месяца назад
Letting Our Historic Friendships Breathe in Their New Forms with Joseph Suttner
Checking-In: How’s Your Friendship Self Talk?
Просмотров 52 месяца назад
Checking-In: How’s Your Friendship Self Talk?
Navigating Female Friendships and All Their Complexities with Danielle Bayard Jackson
Просмотров 172 месяца назад
Navigating Female Friendships and All Their Complexities with Danielle Bayard Jackson
Losing a Best Friend and Navigating Grief with Michelle Cecil
Просмотров 32 месяца назад
Losing a Best Friend and Navigating Grief with Michelle Cecil
The Physiological Impacts of Connection (Which is Actually More Important Than Exercise) with Dr....
Просмотров 12 месяца назад
The Physiological Impacts of Connection (Which is Actually More Important Than Exercise) with Dr....
The Power of Vulnerability in Small Doses: Embracing Small Intimacies
Просмотров 52 месяца назад
The Power of Vulnerability in Small Doses: Embracing Small Intimacies
Carving Out More Time For Connection With Our People with Career Break Coach and Author Katrina M...
2 месяца назад
Carving Out More Time For Connection With Our People with Career Break Coach and Author Katrina M...
Crafting Connections in Small Towns and Virtual Worlds with Wesley Stroupe
Просмотров 12 месяца назад
Crafting Connections in Small Towns and Virtual Worlds with Wesley Stroupe
The Magical Combination of Intention and Small, Simple Actions With Zahara Williams
2 месяца назад
The Magical Combination of Intention and Small, Simple Actions With Zahara Williams

Комментарии

  • @VelvetKatOfficial
    @VelvetKatOfficial 10 часов назад

    I love that your channel is all about friendships. It's content I've been searching for & not found much of. Thank you for this💜 I've never understood friendships & fell into deep depression because of it last year. Recently realized I might be autistic & my therapist is helping me get an assessment

  • @chuckfaststrat
    @chuckfaststrat Месяц назад

    I think there's a mystey to friendship. It's a type of bonding that can't be forced, and friendships often come and go. It's not something one can manufacture. Perhaps the best one can do is adapt the proper attitude of being a brother/sister towards others. By working on the self, and developing a sincere altruistic attitude towards the other, it may be the best one can do. At least that provided a basis upon which others would be willing to explore another's personality and character.

  • @nullptr4835
    @nullptr4835 2 месяца назад

    wish I could have something like this... :__)

  • @numberoneappgames
    @numberoneappgames 10 месяцев назад

    Make this a short! More people need to see this! ❤

  • @finnegan2741
    @finnegan2741 10 месяцев назад

    *promosm*

  • @mailoutopher8045
    @mailoutopher8045 11 месяцев назад

    i've found your video out the blue I'll subscribe.

  • @honeybadgerdontcare
    @honeybadgerdontcare Год назад

    That'll go either 1 of 3 ways. 1.) We'll go out to a sports bar and buy ourselves some food while watching a game. 2.) We'll drive around in our cars and visit random places on impulse. 3.) We drive off and get into a situation where you need to bail us out of.

    • @sbryant1993sb
      @sbryant1993sb Год назад

      #3 without a doubt

    • @savagehyphen01
      @savagehyphen01 Год назад

      3? Why are y’all not capable? Get locked up and post your OWN bail like a real man!

    • @fatherburning358
      @fatherburning358 11 месяцев назад

      Well we might go and make some 'special' friends too. You know

  • @JM-fo1te
    @JM-fo1te Год назад

    The bar

  • @manassingh9017
    @manassingh9017 Год назад

    🙌

  • @breadification
    @breadification Год назад

    Yeah I struggled with that a lot because I’m the type of person who also has lots of friends and one of them got jealous and there was a whole bunch of drama and it’s so unfair because it’s like why can’t I just have multiple friends? There’s literally nothing wrong with that!

    • @itsalexalex
      @itsalexalex Год назад

      I am with you! We can have as many friends as it feels right. I think jealousy often happens because there are only "we are friends" or "we aren't friends," There's no way to discuss why someone is important in our lives.

  • @Tony-mt9hn
    @Tony-mt9hn Год назад

    😍😍u have some pretty eyes

  • @jenniferbraud6750
    @jenniferbraud6750 Год назад

    Counter culture, or did you mean counterintuitive?

    • @itsalexalex
      @itsalexalex Год назад

      I meant counter culture, which is what I said. However, because it's counter culture it's also counterintuitive for most.

  • @rcg224
    @rcg224 Год назад

    this y i dont have social media i dont need ppl in my business like that

    • @itsalexalex
      @itsalexalex Год назад

      Funny enough I really don't post on social media at all except for business-related things and I show very little of my life on my business pages. Parasocial relationships are wild to think about!

  • @lawrencen655
    @lawrencen655 Год назад

    'PromoSM'

  • @Aubergine-Loser
    @Aubergine-Loser Год назад

    Such a fair point. Sometimes people forget to text you, or invitations get lost in the post!

    • @itsalexalex
      @itsalexalex Год назад

      I see both sides, but I think that the "cut them out. they don't deserve you" is the side most of society jumps to pretty quickly. It's unfortunate because so many friendships end for that reason and a conversation might have been able to save them.

  • @Stalksomeoneelse11
    @Stalksomeoneelse11 Год назад

    What happens if your friends are not available to admin during your admin time and you just play friend tag until one you gives up

    • @itsalexalex
      @itsalexalex Год назад

      That does happen! I usually schedule a few shorter ones during the week. I know that for 20 mins on Mon, Wed, Fri I will respond to messages. If they have to wait 48 hours, that's better than going months and months without connecting.

  • @Peacelovepuppies
    @Peacelovepuppies Год назад

    Nooooooo never