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Alexander Sterling
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Hey, I'm Alexander Sterling. This space is all about the real work of pushing past self-doubt, embracing vulnerability, and learning to live with more intention. If you're looking for honest conversations about personal growth and finding your own path, you're in the right place. We'll dive into the mindset shifts and reflections that can help you live a life that feels true to you. It's a journey, and we're in it together-let’s grow, one step at a time.
Why do you postpone yourself?
Have you ever wondered why you keep delaying the things that matter most? Why you postpone your dreams, your goals, or even your personal growth? In this thought-provoking talk, we dive deep into the human tendency to procrastinate on our own potential. “Why Do You Postpone Yourself?” explores the fears, habits, and cultural pressures that keep us stuck in cycles of inaction and self-doubt.
Learn how fear of failure, fear of the unknown, and waiting for “the perfect time” hold you back from stepping into your fullest self. This talk sheds light on the hidden costs of postponing your growth-missed opportunities, lingering regrets, and the quiet erosion of your confidence. Through insightful...
Learn how fear of failure, fear of the unknown, and waiting for “the perfect time” hold you back from stepping into your fullest self. This talk sheds light on the hidden costs of postponing your growth-missed opportunities, lingering regrets, and the quiet erosion of your confidence. Through insightful...
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Watch this video if you're scared right now.
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The Arc of the Moral Universe is Long, but it Bends Toward Justice
Emotional Intelligence: How to See Fear and Anxiety Behind Bad Behavior
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Emotional Intelligence: How to See Fear and Anxiety Behind Bad Behavior Have you ever wondered why people behave poorly-lashing out, shutting down, or acting selfishly? The answer often lies beneath the surface. In this insightful talk, we explore how emotionally intelligent people uncover the fear and anxiety driving most bad behavior. From fear of failure and rejection to anxiety about losing...
This video finds you when you are feeling out of control
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Are you feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or like your life is spiraling out of control? You’re not alone. In this transformative talk, we explore the deep-rooted causes behind our desperate need for control and why it so often leaves us feeling lost, anxious, and unfulfilled. Through a philosophical lens, we’ll uncover the illusion of control, how it impacts our mental and emotional health, and what...
Your Life Will RADICALLY Shift Once You Balance Acceptance & Change (Dialectics)
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Your life will transform when you learn to balance acceptance and change. In this powerful and insightful talk, we break down the concept of dialectics in simple terms and explore how embracing two seemingly opposing truths-accepting where you are and striving for growth-can lead to radical personal transformation. Many people feel stuck in life because they think they have to choose between ac...
If You’re Suffering Right Now, Do NOT Move an Inch
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Are you in the middle of pain, heartbreak, or uncertainty? In this transformative talk, we explore a powerful and counterintuitive idea: If you’re suffering right now, do NOT move an inch. When life feels overwhelming, our instinct is often to escape, distract ourselves, or push the pain aside. But what if the key to healing lies not in running from suffering, but in sitting with it? This video...
Why is there evil in the world?
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Why does evil exist in the world? If a benevolent and omnipotent God-or any higher power-exists, why do suffering, pain, and injustice persist? This profound and timeless question has haunted humanity for generations. In this engaging and thought-provoking talk, we explore the complexity of this dilemma from multiple perspectives, embracing a diversity of beliefs and inviting everyone-regardles...
The Way We Live in the United States is Not Normal
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The Way We Live in the United States is Not Normal Discover why the way we live in the United States is not normal and how it impacts every aspect of our daily lives, from work culture to healthcare, education, and beyond. In this powerful and thought-provoking talk, we’ll challenge the myths of American individualism, hustle culture, and the belief that overworking and constant stress are the ...
Stop worrying about everything and just surrender to life
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Stop worrying about everything and just surrender to life #universe #surrender #lettinggo #meditation #mindfulness #spirituality #spiritual
Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail (And What to Do Instead)
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Are you tired of setting New Year’s resolutions, only to feel like you’ve failed by February? In this video, I’m breaking down why New Year’s resolutions don’t work and why I no longer believe in them as a tool for meaningful behavior change. Studies show that 80% of resolutions fail early in the year, and I’m diving into the psychological reasons behind this pattern, including unrealistic goal...
You Are Not Responsible For What Other People Do
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Taking responsibility for someone else’s actions can feel natural, especially when it’s someone you deeply care about. But the truth is, you’re not responsible for what other people do-and carrying that weight can hold you back in ways you might not even realize. In this video, we’ll dive into why we feel responsible for others, how that impacts our peace of mind, and what it means to let go-wi...
They Can't Change, But You Can Move Different (self-reflection + personal growth)
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Learn the power of self-reflection and personal growth in this transformative talk about navigating relationships and life’s challenges. Discover how emotional intelligence, boundaries, and self-awareness can help you move differently, even when others won’t change. Through relatable insights on self-empowerment, healing, and post-traumatic growth, this video explores how to reclaim your self-w...
The Mindset You Need to Succeed (And How to Build It)
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How to Develop a Mindset for Success Success starts in your mind. In this video, I’ll show you how to develop the mindset you need to achieve your goals and live the life you want. From breaking free of limiting beliefs to staying resilient in the face of challenges, this is your guide to thinking-and living-like a successful person. Let’s build the foundation for your success, one mindset shif...
Communication Is Never Hard for Someone Who Actually Wants You
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This powerful motivational monologue, "Communication Is Never Hard for Someone Who Actually Wants You," explores the emotional toll of unreciprocated effort in relationships and challenges listeners to stop settling for ambiguity and half-hearted love. It delves into the importance of clear communication, self-worth, and choosing relationships that prioritize respect and emotional connection. P...
You Can't Change Their Behavior By Loving Them Harder
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You Can't Change Their Behavior By Loving Them Harder
Transform Your Life by Embracing Change
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Transform Your Life by Embracing Change
Is a Victim Mentality Ruining Your Life?
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Is a Victim Mentality Ruining Your Life?
The Real Reason You're Jealous (And How to Stop It)
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The Real Reason You're Jealous (And How to Stop It)
Why We Get Angry: The Truth Nobody Talks About
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Why We Get Angry: The Truth Nobody Talks About
Why Your Mindset Keeps You Stuck (And How to Fix It)
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Why Your Mindset Keeps You Stuck (And How to Fix It)
7 Unexpected Ways We Self-Harm & How to Stop
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7 Unexpected Ways We Self-Harm & How to Stop
Why Your Mindset Is Holding You Back (And How to Fix It)
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Why Your Mindset Is Holding You Back (And How to Fix It)
Why Gay Dating is Hard: Essential Dating Advice for Gay Men
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Why Gay Dating is Hard: Essential Dating Advice for Gay Men
I'm 33. If You're In Your 20's Watch This
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I'm 33. If You're In Your 20's Watch This
Why Living Authentically is Hard - And How to Finally Do It
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Why Living Authentically is Hard - And How to Finally Do It
Feel Stuck? Here’s 4 Steps to Break Free Today
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Feel Stuck? Here’s 4 Steps to Break Free Today
How to Handle Failure and Bounce Back Stronger: Unlocking Your Resilience
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How to Handle Failure and Bounce Back Stronger: Unlocking Your Resilience
Love your videos man ! Wayyyy too underrated.. keep it up!
Thanks, will do!
Alexander, I like your style and reasoning especially. I'm writing a book about relationships. Would you be willing to receive an advance copy? You could offer indispensable insight.
I think of mature men with younger men, and wonder if the older man *must* be settled, confident, and secure, but what if he is insecure and needs someone to care about them and who is excited by the older man?
I love you dude❤️🩹
Thanks Kathleen ❤️
This is such healthy and sound advice; thank you, Alexander. I am struggling through a very real patch of dating burnout right now, and your content is helping. Great work; appreciate you.
I’m so glad it was helpful for you, you’re quite welcome! Dating burn out is such a real thing. Take a break if you need it. Wishing you the best of luck ❤️
Thanks a lot for this video.Its like calmness amongst the chaos that is in my life right now.The illusion of control and certainity have held me back a lot.Its true its courageous to go with the flow.Please make more such videos like this.Thanks a lot ❤
You’re welcome, I’m so glad you found the video helpful.
Thanks for your video Blessings
You are so welcome! 🙏
@AlexanderSterlingYT You are very kind Blessings By Bunches
I mean wow! This was great advice. Detailed, direct, and clear. Thank you for creating this! 🫶🏻
You're so welcome! I’m so glad it resonated with you, and taking the time to comment means a lot to me ☺️
I got anixety, depression , brainfog, weakness
Thanks for sharing your struggles, I hope things get better for you 🙏
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Wow, this is a new concept for me. Thank you for sharing. Supper helpful and valuable 🙏🏻
You’re welcome, I wish dialectics was talked about more. It’s super underrated in my opinion. Glad you found the video helpful, and I really appreciate you taking the time to comment!
Thank you so much for this video, it really came in a tough time for me. Heartbreak for something out of your control is extremely painful and I have been told to 'move on' but I can't just yet.
@@khada7922 Take as much time as you need. I’m rooting for you ❤️
@@AlexanderSterlingYT Thank you <3
If I am not in control of what is happening in my life. I am scared that I might get hurt.That scares me a lot.How to navigate this feeling
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Thanks for taking the time to comment!
Man, I managed to bury the pain of being rejected by a girl I really liked literally 25 years ago.... The pain finally came to the surface recently. Previously I buried it with buying stuff, work, travel, family... All I can say is it would have been easier to face it back then, but here I am... Friends tell me it's something to learn from for today.
Thank you for sharing your experience. It’s never too late to face things head on. Wishing you all the best!
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Thank you for taking the time to comment ❤️
Super helpful 🙏🏻 exact wisdom that I needed to absorb in this season of my life. Thank you
You're so welcome! Glad it resonated with you 🙂
Thank you. A very good video. I appreciate you articulating truths I’ve heard from others. “Sit with it” is a bit of a mantra for many during times of struggle. Enjoyed how you presented it and found it helpful. God Bless😊
You're very welcome, thanks for taking the time to leave a comment. Have a great day!
this was so incredibly beautiful! thank you for the message, the tree analogy was fire
Thank you so much for watching and taking the time to give me this feedback! So glad the video resonated with you 🙂
Awesome video mate! BTW do you need a video editor and thumbnail designer?
Thank you so much! And not at this point, maybe some day 😊
Thanks... Universe is talking to me through you
You’re welcome, thanks for watching
Thank you so much for all the information you shared. I'm getting a better understanding of dating now
@@AK-gs8gn I’m so glad to hear that! If you have any other specific questions please let me know I’d be glad to make another video for you.
Bro why do you look like an ai humanised minion wth
Idk lol 🤷♂️ but I promise I’m real
I could say i believe in the space between your teeth but this is superficial, you could get rid of that easily. I support your message though.
I like my gap teeth
@AlexanderSterlingYT Then I not acknowledge, but also respect you; although it isn't my humour. Please just respect the habits etc. of the natives around, it won't harm you.
So perfectly said 😊
Thank you! Check out my full long form video if this resonated with you ☺️
I agree the the US has some things to sort out for sure (housing and healthcare come to mind), but as a libertarian I can't help but question your argument with a simple counterpoint; Governments do not produce wealth, they tax the people's wealth. If all people have the right to work less and receive free or highly subsidized healthcare, education, and additional services... where does that money come from? Most of your examples are still from European countries that make up the top 10% of the world. The other 90% works 16 hour days for almost nothing with limited access to healthcare and education. Almost every country that lives like you described in history was smaller with a wealth of natural resources, and as soon as those run out so too do the 10 hour workweeks and free stuff
"Normal" is often merely a relative position. You can just flip the perspectives and call the other places as not "normal." What you mean is that it's not "healthy."
I'm sorry to say but the US population are farm animals being farmed by unchecked capitalism.
You have to remember that America was not established as a place to have a life, but a place to make a profit. All of the original American colonies were established as for-profit entities, some were outright corporations (Rhode Island was, at least, a co-op). Corporatism (and corporate exploitation) is baked into our bones.
I'm a Brit and I get the impression that the USA is pay to play. If you have the money, you can have the best of the best. If you don't, the hardship is akin to a Charles Dickens novel. No offence to the Americans out there because I have nothing but love and respect for you. Thank you to all the service men and women who basically guarantee our security. Also, thanks to all Americans paying exorbitant healthcare fees. Your money allows pharma companies to sell their medicine at discount prices over here.
Thanks for sharing your perspective!
You have no convinced yourselves that your life must be the way you live it. The rich have convinced you.
I think that perhaps you are missing something. Historically speaking we have never had it better, even in America. We used to work 16 hours a day in coal mines for a pittance and then die young, because of all of the lung damage. Perhaps the US hasn't caught up with the other nations in terms of work-life balance, but the US is the top GDP of all countries, even though it has about a third of the population of China. This allows the US to front an enormous military that is being used to keep some semblance of peace in the world. Not to mention, the US is one of the first places people think of to immigrate to. Obviously the improved standard of living and opportunity to earn is keeping people there. Also you are being too harsh on the US. Have you ever been to Japan? The company IS your life. Japan expects far more out of it's citizens than the US does.
You lost me at the part:wast Military that keeps peace in the world.... bro...broo...
Yes, the US is a very wealthy country, but what you’re not realizing is we have enormous income inequality. Income inequality in Japan doesn’t even come close to that of the United States. In the U.S., the top 10% of earners capture a significantly larger share of national income (approximately 45-50%). In Japan, the top 10% take a smaller proportion, closer to 30-35%. Japan maintains a more stable and broader middle class, supported by cultural and policy factors that prioritize job security and wage equality. Japan also has extensive social programs, and more progressive tax policies, so they are better able to redistribute wealth amongst their citizens. If we are going to compare with other countries, then we need to make sure we are looking at the whole picture.
@@AlexanderSterlingYT What I'm getting at is that other societies have different viewpoints on manpower and what it means to the country. Should America become more like Japan, the UK, Sweden, Iran? Which country to you think it should mirror? And what effect is that going to have on the GDP? If you just say they should tax the rich more and spread out the wealth inequality, then you will simply drive those wealthy people away. The reason there is such a wealth disparity, is because wealth grows as you accumulate more of it, and those wealthy people prefer to live in the US. I don't actually think it has anything to do with 'fair' wages, because lower wages drive the cost of things down, which overall would result in deflation and a greater purchasing power overall. Perhaps you have some specific solutions in mind, but I didn't hear you argue them out in your video, you just seemed to be complaining. That said, what DO you propose for the US to become a more 'fair' society?
I am 80 years old and this is exactly the conclusion I realized soon after high school . This knowledge complicated my life, although I managed to navigate myself thru these obstacles and was able to find via self employment a contributive and fulfilling life. Sad to say but even after all these years I have never felt more estranged from my country.
Thank you for sharing your story and your perspective!
This is one of the reasons why I quit dating. Every date was a financial interrogation. I was looking for real connection to another human being, not to be someone's financial savior. I get sick and tired of how only certain jobs are considered worth of respect. I respect the janitors, the electricians, and the computer programmers just as much as the doctors and lawyers. But this country has contempt for many professions. I don't want any part of that.
You mention computer programmers. This is one of the rare jobs that pays well but is considered contemptible in a dating situation as intelligence is not a valued commodity as much as fitting in is. I actually saw a dating ad once that said "No drunkards, drug addicts or engineers please" as if all of those qualities were equally unacceptable.
I’m sorry you’ve had that experience. I agree with you, there’s so much more to connection than money. I can understand people having a personal value of hard work and stability, and wanting to see that reflected in their partner. But it shouldn’t be the only factor, and definitely not at the top of list. Just because someone makes good money, doesn’t mean they will be a good partner to you.
So many people repeating the same thing over and over again. It's a broken record. Nonetheless, the majority doesn't see it like that. They are convinced the system is the best of all possible systems in the world and the US is number one in everything, the greatest country in the universe. So, nothing is going to change. Those with money and an opportunity to immigrate you do so. Expecting Americans to stop trying the same thing should be another definition of insanity.
I refuse to just resign myself to the idea that the US just has to be this way.
I am german and for me (and MANY other europeans) the US is like a dystopian nightmare. For rich people it must be awesome, but for normal people it seems to be pretty f***t up
Thanks for sharing your perspective as someone not from the US. It helps provide useful context.
I hope your channel will perhaps soon have 700,00 subscribers or 7 million .. and videos such as this 400,00 views on first day release or 4 million .. well done .. keep it up !! (good luck & best wishes !!!)
Thank you so much!!!!
You don't have a human right to a service. It is the same as saying you have a human right to haricuts on demand
excellent message!!!!!!! love it thank you!! ,,,the trouble i have with "liking" videos is ai does not understand context it thins "The Way We Live in the United States is Not Normal" is a "likable good thing" Headlines should adjust for this to teach the ai what really matters to humans.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. My understanding is the AI takes more into account than just the title. It’s also looking at all of the words said during the video to figure out what the video is talking about and the greater context.
@@AlexanderSterlingYT interesting, i will recheck the white papers! :)
Testify. end money, love
End money?? Probably not a good idea, money is the most efficient way to exchange goods and services, without it the universal healthcare that many have, and others strive for, would be impossible.
Just because something is a right does not mean that someone else should pay for it 🙄
Rights aren’t free-they come with shared responsibilities. For example, we all pay for public safety through taxes, like police and fire departments, because we recognize that a safe society benefits everyone. Investing in things like healthcare and education creates healthier, more educated citizens, which strengthens our economy, reduces crime, and improves everyone’s quality of life. It’s not about ‘free stuff’; it’s about pooling resources for the common good.
With that same reasoning why doesn't every road in the US have a toll? Take it a step further, why should your taxes go towards the military budget to protect not just yourself, but your nation as well as others? Healthcare does require someone else's labor, it does require you to spend your money to care for somebody else, it does require you to sacrifice your work for someone else's benefit. But it is a human right, like water, food, shelter. Why should someone's financial situation affect how good their medication will be, if they can get any at all. Our Healthcare System (NHS) here in the UK isn't perfect, but at least we have one. It was estimated that on average, Americans pay $8,000 USD on "health insurance" (a term not used in the EU) EVERY YEAR! In the UK, France, Belgium, Germany, Norway, Sweden, Switzerland, Italy, Portugal, Spain, Poland, the average expense through taxes to each nations respective health system is an average of $2,000 USD. These countries are poorer than the US by a lot, but still manage to provide healthcare to everyone regardless of their own wealth. How many people are bankrupted by health insurance fees in the US every year? 68,000. In the EU, with over 600,000,000 people, 0 go bankrupt because of this. America has been ruined by Corporate greed and propaganda which has made its residents numb to this unjust regime that has ruled over their nation for the last 100 years.
Okay, better explanation. us not having collectively paid for healthcare is not only more expensive. It's a liability economically for all of us. If your coworker gets sick you could get sick because they can't afford the time off. Or it could mean that your work day is harder because they had to take the time off. If they get injured and it doesn't heal properly because they couldn't see the specialist they needed or get the attention they needed. That means you have to work harder. Other people's health affects you and if it is not as good, your life will be harder. And because we do not have the power of collective bargaining behind us, we have had to put up with private equity firms pillaging our healthcare system, making our outcomes and treatment worse for more money. Why? Because there has been little scrutiny and little government interest in doing anything but staying out of it. Children are guaranteed. Healthcare soldiers are guaranteed health Care. Why are the average workers not? Is it less important to anyone that the person that serves them at McDonald's or the person that watches their kids during the day is not sick? Does that seem any less important to someone than a soldier not getting sick. That is why I believe we need single-payer healthcare.
I'm glad I was reccomended this video, I agree with everything you had to say
Thanks for taking the time to comment. I’m so glad it resonated with you!
Well said. The worship of predatory capitalism is ending in the USA. 70% of Americans say that the murder of that healthcare CEO was because corrupt corporations put profits before people. The dragon is awakening again.
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the usual cliches and promoting socialism ... nothing original. you broke bro?
I said nothing about socialism. And I make six figures lol.
@@AlexanderSterlingYT What's your job, i'm curious now
Thank you for this comment. Never once did I say anything about socialism.
@@AlexanderSterlingYT pretty much Everything you promote is socialism and you didn't need to say the word. i'm guessing you do nothing for the good of society.
As he said, he didn't mention socialism once - I live in a capitalist country (UK), and have spent much of my life in other countries too. America has an absolutely extreme, optimised interpretation of capitalism that makes it stand out even amongst other heavily capitalist countries. The alternative is not socialism, and I would not support that in the slightest - the alternative is a more cohesive society and adding new priorities to daily life that aren't just blindly maximising profit.
Nice
Do you know your video is truly amazing?
Thank you so much! What did you like about it?
Inspired by your words, I feel deeply moved. The things you said are absolute truths, as we should surrender everything to life itself. Your video has truly inspired me and left a profound impression on me
You are a very wise man. Some people are planners and others are not. Being single and sixty was not something I expected to be saying. I was the planner that provided for everyone else. But I figured out I was worth more than being the fall guy that got cheated on for years. Hoping you will find your place in this life.
Thank you, I’m wishing you the best on your journey as well. Thanks for sharing your story
nice
Thank you!
So true 🙏
So glad this message resonated with you ❤️
Nice video 👍
Thank you! Glad you liked it
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Thank you!
Oooh man, I was about to send this to my ex until it got to "face yourself" part which is what I know they won't do and will tell me that's what *I* should do (me the one in therapy and who wanted to talk through problems and repair our relationship)
Gotta love the gaslighting!!