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Modern dating and feminism has destroyed love and relationships

Hello, you mentioned four bad habits; which four are they? Why do I only see three?

Do u know anyone that does what u so in spanish?

This makes sense. People do not understand that panic attack = emotional flashback and we need to snap back from Regression back to our adult body. CBT gives us wrong information by defining panic attack as imaginary and irrational - but this is trauma and we heal trauma only by NOT abusing ourselves. CBT is instructing us to abuse ourselves when it says that our triggers which triggered panic attack are irrelevant and in all cases - triggers are outside of our control - they are real : like Gaza, Ukraine, narcissistic abuse.

Thank you for spreading information on the problem of nervous system dysregulation. I would value it if you demonstrate or teach healing techniques in your videos rather than only talking about your programs. I would also enjoy it more if you looked into the camera in your videos. Hope the feedback is taken in the spirit it is intended- to help your healing efforts reach more people so humanity can heal from one of its greatest problems.✌🏽💚

It’s so good to hear you mention that grief can exist even when a parent is still alive. This was my experience, and I have felt very invalidated in the past when conversations of grief and loss have come up. Parent loss on any level is incredibly painful, but I didn’t even know I had the right to feel grief growing up! I’m grateful that I have compassion for myself that I didn’t have before. I have been processing a lot of sadness and grief in the last few months. I find that my creative energy and energy to be physically active is coming up because of this. This work is incredibly validating ❤️

So rebuilding like the movie inside out 🤔. Thank you!

hi 🙋🏼‍♀️ always more insight available - thank you for your phenomenal way of bringing these concepts to my awareness 🩵

4:20pm 10/14/24 🙋🏼‍♀️🩵perfect explanation @ the perfect moment becky

This is true, also the opposite is true, you may be trying to avoid doing what was said to you. The emotion and then the memory are valid, the action will be very different. Still triggering though.

hi 🙋🏼‍♀️ nice to see you 🦋

Thank you 🙏🏻 I’ve been trying to articulate this for years you have taught me so much just by listening to this one video, I’m so excited to watch and listen more ❤ thank you Again

Makes a lot of sense now how my brain keeps getting in the way sometimes.. I'm in the process of healing this blackhole by myself, I believe. For most of it, I didnt have a clue what was going on and only found out by watching videos like this afterward that confirm my theories and explain what I have experienced. Most of my healing is rooted in spirituality, meaning meditation, yoga, and physical exercises that help release trauma stuck in my body. Lastly, it was safe for me to do this by myself, but if I can give one advice.. Do your best to listen to your body. I made the mistake of pushing myself too hard a couple of times and it was too much to deal with in those instances.

I will keep saying this, because it really comes from the bottom of my heart, that I hope your channel starts getting the views soon! all in divine timing of course.. But I've been trying to understand myself (and people around me) and my "traumas and lacks" for quite some time now, and the way you explain these topics, even though it indeed seems like you're all over the place sometimes haha, is very very easy to understand. Keep up the good work!!

Sorry I see your info below.

I need to work with you. I’m 55yy. My 34yy Son, passively took his life 4 months ago after battling with alcohol addiction, high levels of anxiety and depression in my own home.😢😢 A Great Great Soul. Now my 26yy Son’s mental health has restarted to decline and he self medicates on marijuana. It’s a lot a lot. I live with the results of childhood trauma, and felt and FEEL paralyzed when it comes and came to getting help for us. I literally lost my SUN… right before my eyes…Frozen in fear and denial. My heart is beyond pain. I need to heal. My only surviving Sun needs to heal too. How can I reach you? For 1:1.

More videos on boundaries. Would love more workable info on that. Thanks Rachel 🪷

Thx so much for this...

❤️ could you make a video on social anxiety? Just seeing people makes me dysregulated.

I have emailed you.Kindly chack it.

Thank you so much rachelle

i am 67 i have lived my entire life like that

Great video! Except ptsd I also got burnout and social anxiety, would the online program help me cover these aspects aswell?

I’ve seen multiple therapist but none of them really helped. How can I help myself to get out of survival mode.

I’m 40 years old & so tired all the time. The pain I feel in my body & how I can’t function properly holding a job. I got diagnosed with CPTSD 2 years old & im just finally understanding it! I feel so helpless all the time

I already know whats going on, its how to stop it that no therapist can answer. How do we get rid of it? And how do we heal.. this is just letting people know whats going on and it makes me anxious this is why going to therapy is hard. Im already aware I just need the tools. "I know the job, just need the training" and therapist need to learn how to treat AWARE patients. My therapist literally derailed from our goal because she saw how aware i was (meaning not doing as much work as we should be doing) my appointments were mainly gossip ones.. 🙃 everytime I left? I was still in survival mode.. their only solution? Medication... my best advice is to go see a Riki therapist that will move the energy out of your body so your body will heal. Do not and after 20 years of therapy, take any meds to quiet the mind.. once the therapist sees the meds are not working? Aka numbing your mind? They up the dose or adjust it or add more. Your body needs to feel those emotions if not? Those feelings will be suppressed and you will never heal. This is also why 20 years later? Im not better the meds.. im just now learning somatic therapy and how to feel my feelings instead of drawing them or coloring them..

Rachel the audio is low on videos. Consider doing something about it. My brain is getting frustrated trying to overtly focus on things 😂

Thank you ❤.

I have a couple questions...I've researched, or at least tried to research twins. I am a fraternal twin, and my twin is a girl. She was very outgoing, and I was painfully shy. She had many friends, and I didn't get friends until my later years in high school. I was bullied incessantly because during middle school, I was ugly (extremely crooked teeth, glasses that were too big for my face, and short hair that did not in any way flatter me) and I walked with a limp, often times being called, "cripple" I was more of a sounding board for my mother and her problems, than she was for me. Father wasn't emotionally available, for any of us. Ever since 2005, I have been disconnected from my toxic family where substance abuse was rampant. Whenever I was home, I tried to blend into the background hoping to not be noticed, I would isolate myself in my room with my radio. During our younger years, my sister would get invited over to people's houses I would come with and vice versa. My sister would get in trouble and to prevent me from making the same mistake our mother would punish me too. I met a young woman in 2005, whom I felt a spiritual wholeness filling a vacancy that I wasn't aware that I had within me. Would the vacancy be caused by being a twin? This isn't really a question, I now realize as I have been floundering around for many years during my life, because of my never having felt safe, responding by running. I am now locked into a housing contract where I was elected for a position that requires responsibility and working with others. I am now unable to run. I have gotten extremely anxious and slipped into a bit of a depression. I'm going to prove to myself that I can do it, however dealing with the anxiety is extremely difficult.

Fuck yeah

I have just watched half of the vdo and I have no words to how to thank you. ❤

I’ve been in survival mode all my life, so I worked hard and saved money and then something happened and now it’s all draining. I also have charges against me. It’s just a minor felony charge but I can’t relax because of it. My entire life I wondered if I could ever live in peace.

I always feel such intense friction inside me when i try to supress these "bad" habits, so it makes so much sense that they are healthy processes that needs to run their course. You really put things in a new light.

I've been reflecting on my experiences and how they have impacted me. I have ADHD, OCD, and PTSD, and grew up with a bipolar, schizophrenic father and an abusive stepmother. It has been suggested to me that I essentially took on a parental role with my father, and now, at 33 and with children of my own, I'm feeling the repercussions of that dynamic. I want to prioritize setting healthy boundaries for myself in order to ensure my mental well-being for the sake of my children. Although I understand and implement boundaries in other aspects of my life, I struggle to do the same for myself. I recognize that I need to learn to say no and protect my own well-being. How can I simplify the concept of boundaries and make them a more integral part of my life for the benefit of myself and my children?

You are truly the best. So grateful for your beautiful, genuine soul and your profound wisdom. Thank you so much🙏🏾

Thanks for making this video!! I sent it to my family. Whole families and whole communities And everyone just needs this type of health. ❤

Thank you so much .. really appreciate this video..

Wow! Thank you so much for sharing this

I very much liked how you handled this sensitive video. Your demeanor is wonderful for a topic like this. Well done! However, may I ask you to do all men a favor by not calling it a "dysfunction". Very few of us fall into the category of "dysfunction". It is more of a variance in ability that is multi-factorial. Erectile variance is FAR more accurate and sensitive and you will likely gain a broader audience, especially as a female working in this field. As you may know, only about 10% of men with these issues ever seek help. Fewer still seek intimate care like this from females. So, female providers may only be seeing approx 5% of those with issues. We cou;d make it easier to talk about, by using terms that are not marketing speech that was designed to shame or scare men into taking action such as trying meds. Doing this may tend to make men more at ease when considering asking for help. Anything that starts out with humiliating/emasculating terms like "Erectile Dysfunction" will only have the effect of more men continuing to not ever seek treatment. And yes, men and women can have performance anxiety, but it is plainly obvious for all the world to see when it happens to a man. Lube and a little "fake it til you make it" can be an option for females. Not so for men.

I am so interested in your teachings.

This is one of the absolute best videos I've heard on the topic. It also comes with a fresh perspective instead of the usual regurgitation.

@rachellemccloudlcsw Great video. Do you have any advice for those of us who have an anxiety response to trying to relax?

oh shit. the most common root issue. yeah, that's my history hahaha. domestic violence. I didn't really have a mom but my father was a very angry man with an insecure masculinity, he was very triggered by femininity such as me identifying as a woman or gays acting womanly or women acting "slobbish", there was just a general energy in the home that was very very controlling and hostile to femininity and grace and therefore there was never any peace. The big problem with me is that I am everything my father is not, so it affected me the most and he hated me the most and he physically hurt me the most because everything about me was so intolerable for him. My father is quick to tell people they're wrong and slow to reflect but I am the opposite. He is avoidant of emotions and doesn't like to introspect but I am the opposite. He responds with violence but I am overwhelmed by it. He is always a coward but I am sometimes brave. He has no talent but I have light. He likes to stew on things but I am desperate to move forward. He likes to hoard things but I do not wish to be burdened. He doesn't like to clean but I need my mind as clear as my space. Etc etc. I did see him physically abuse my step mother but she was such a narcissist that she had it coming, same with my sister, but even though they totally had it coming, the particular incidents were undeserving. They were bad women but whenever he was physically abusing them it came as a shock because they had done nothing wrong whatsoever, my father simply hated that my sister was growing as a young woman and becoming her own person whenever she got back from hanging out with her friends and he perceived this as insolent or arrogant or disobedient or ungrateful. It frightened me, but he actually abused me the most because he had a weird conflict of emotions dealing with me believing myself to be a girl, he threw misogynistic gender expectations at me as well as toxic male expectations at me so that I was stuck in and never able to do the right thing and was always in trouble more than anyone else, the whole family just declared me the big drain or drag or enemy of the family. So my trauma isn't exactly the same as watching women of my family get beat but the general hostility to femininity feels very relevant, im just finding ways to connect these dots to my own issues.

I'm almost done with the video and I love you. The part of my brain that is stopping the healing doesn't care about words, doesn't do words, and hearing I can heal without talking about my trauma shocked me. I'm so glad because I am getting really tired of words so I'm glad I don't have to deal with them. I'm so glad I'm hearing how autonomous this system is. I'm often forcing myself to get what I want such as going to work and making money and trying to sexually perform, but it makes so much sense and I'm so glad that you said if I help my brain get what it wants then it can help me get what I want, It's such a great way to phrase it that way because my trauma has largely been abuse and so helping others get what they want is something i've had to spend too much time doing so thinking of my brain as a person I'm supposed to please and help it get what it wants really clicks some neurons together maybe. My brain doesn't care about my erectile dysfunction, it doesn't care about my body issues, these are issues i'm concerned with but my brain cares about it's own things, that makes so much sense you're so fulfilling a good purpose for people like you're doing real work and not just a job.

thank you so much, I don't identify as a man but I am male and I don't have ED but I do have penile/sexual dysfunction where it's just not working how I want it to be and the first 4 minutes made so much sense for me. I also have gut issues where it's just not working how I want it to be and I'm having weird cardiovascular changes where my body just feels different to be in now after developing PTSD and I notice new veins that are very blue in my arms where things are just different, numbness as well and getting light headed at different things than I normally would, just feels like I got switched to a new body that works differently and I hate it.

I was so close to healing... all of my anger came up but instead of processing it in a healthy way, I lashed out at loved ones and lost everything. Now I am numb, health is failing, spiraling in the guilt and shame. I lost everyone I cared about. How can I believe there's hope at this point? 🥺😭

You are amazing you are helping me so much thank you so mucb

Wow wow thank you so so much you broke this down so pefectlyn

Hi there, Thankyou for the video. Ive been struggling with flashbacks for years. Im just confused about the steps on how to stop them, am I missing something in the video by chance? Thanks for your time 🩵🙏

I really hope your videos start getting more views, because they are very helpful in me understanding myself and how to proceed with healing.. Also very simple explanations and not too deep or too much lingo which most people won't understand and/or need