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3 years later and I’m still trying to “fit in”

Hi Karen, It’s been 44 days since Greg moved into glory. Listening and recognizing #8 just about broke me this morning but I’m glad you’re here sharing wisdom and guidance. But really the pain of “taking my person along with me into my new life” just did me in. I’ve just started to wipe away the tears and figuring out what just happened long enough to write this. Thank you, Liz

Always lovely to hear your positive voice ring true. I do hope you are taking care of YOU and your own self care. Remember to take care of you and your girls first. ♥️☘️

God bless you, Karen. You’ve helped me so much.

Thank you

Yes it does last forever. So so lonely.

All I can say is a big THANK YOU. It's so painful, and your videos are comforting me.

Talk to your deseased husband he will help you, ask God for strength.

Don't apologize, that's a sad story yet your love for your husband is obvious.take care off yourself.he will always be with you. My beautiful husband died suddenly age 28. I've never gotten over the loss. I married later he died in June.i miss him two loves , different, time lessens the pain. I cannot at any time blame my 1st. Husbands death for the grief I've carried all these years. He did not leave me he was taken from me and his little daughter at the time. Take care of yourself. To love and be loved is a wonderful gift.give yourself time

God Bless You for doing what you do. I lost my husband a week ago and it hurts so bad. You are giving me tools to work with and hope for the future which is hard to fathom right now. Thank you!

This is so true. I am 6 week's in. Its awful

Beautiful voice❤ God gave you a gift and you are using the gift to help others. I have no calling, but thankfully there's people like you using the gift, and helping others!❤

The worst grief share was VITAS by Hospice. The worst! I have to believe in more than myself. Love you, you are so beautiful and make me feel welcome. I felt like my grief didn't matter with Hospice Vista and my husband's death didn't matter. Just because I am young (and I am middle aged) I felt like an outsider. Thanks for your support!

I have to have a drink to get through the pain. I joined Grief Share and started to meet new friends. I hate sitting alone thinking, but I have to go through the pain. Robert annoyed me, too, but I miss him dearly.😢

Just a joy to listen ❤. Thanks for helping me and others.

Thank you❤! Well said😊

Thank you Karen it was so helpful listening to you

So helpful. Thank you!❤

Half of widowed people are men. Can we watch too?

Half the widowed people are men. Any thoughts for the other 50%?

Just 6 1/2 weeks. I am lost. After 53 years.

My husband passed from a sudden blood clot too 😢

#8 😢

I have lost my husband . I can’t go on without him . He was my rock . Please 🙏 forgive me. 💔

So much of Melissa's story parallels my journey with Brian; however, without that added level of anxiety and stress with such young children, pregnancy and a new baby. Melissa, you should be proud of yourself for where you are now. I'm sorry for your loss of James. And I agree; Karen's podcast saved my life in those early days when I just wanted to hide or die. Have a wonderful future life with your boys xx

After my wife of 13 yrs passed 8 1 23 I'm not scared to drop dead, in fact I wish I could to be with her - maybe an ep on survivor's guilt would help me i dunno

Fascinating! I've always thought I was introverted. I probably am but I'm 3.5 months in and I need to socialize a lot. I need a lot of breaks from other people too. 3.5 months sounds short but my husband was ill for 17 years, so we gradually lost a lot over the years.

Thank you this helped

That was lovely. I was so reassured that many caregivers are irritable. I was a very longtime caregiver and afterwards I felt horribly guilty but it seems that it’s normal to get irritable.

Thank you, but it's so hard, I loss my husband to a tragic accident when he went to work on his day off and never made it back home. The loneliness the emptiness and the fear I feel of being in this world alone is just so over whelming until sometimes I don't know what to do, hoping someday it will get a little easier to go through.

Thank you so much for your wonderful work. It helps me in the way you want.

Thank you for this video. I lost my husband two months ago ...

My grief is so new, 4 months ago. People say find ‘little joys’, but I can’t see beyond my sorrow right now. Finding joy? How? He was my huge joy…People who knew us talks about how we brought out the best in each other. He was THE only person who truly believed in me and loved me n my little quirks. I have some friends but I find that a lot of times they seem impatient with me. Therefore, I just keep to myself. I cry all the time, several times during the day, random places, when I’m driving, when I’m walking, even when I’m trying to exercise…

I’ve found the podcasts very comforting. I can’t join widow support groups because he’s been in a minimally conscious state for three months with no hope of recovery. He’s in hospital because he needs dialysis. I think my grief may end up being shorter because he’s been ill for 17 years and I suppose I’ve been through anticipatory grief. Anyway I’m alone for the first time in 45 years. I don’t know how things will feel when he really passes. I imagine it will be different from now.

I lost my young adult son to terminal cancer 3 1/2 months ago. I came across your channel because of the guilt and the grief that I feel. I lost my spouse through divorce and it was almost like a death. But when my son died, I feel like I’ll never be the same. I miss him terribly and cry every single day. Thank you for your videos. Even though it’s not my spouse it helps me with the loss of my son.

Lol! That made me laugh! The same "compliment " can give you different reactions. "You are so strong " has confused me so much.

Add a comment... This chapter 2 site is a joke. I live near Detroit and i cant see people in Canada cause its out of my region lol it is 15 miles from me. But i can see someone in up of Michigan 300 miles away. The only response emails from users were scammers and dic pics wtf. No regulations! #nix111$cammer opps i mean founder. Fricken plenty of fish is better then this app. Dont waste/give your money to this scammer

Thank you so much for this. I cared for my husband for 17 years. This helped me so much.

Listening to a lot of the recordings, I feel widows have a lot in common, but there are a lot of differences. I feel I’m a widow but my husband has been in a vegetative state for nearly three months and he won’t recover and he won’t come home. His body is alive but he as a person is gone. I don’t know how different things will feel when he actually goes. He was ill for 18 years, so many of the losses people talk about, we had already lost on the way. The first month after his cardiac arrest, I had hope for a few days. After that, I was shocked and it was the worst month. I think I’m doing quite well now. Maybe it’s because I’m not really a widow. I don’t get accepted into widows’ support groups. I felt bad about that the first month, but maybe I’ll never need it now. Maybe years of anticipatory grief shortens the actual grief.

Thank you for posting this. I lost my husband last May 2023, He died of kidney cancer and I miss him everyday.

Karen you have been an inspiration to me and I appreciate the time and devotion you've given through so many communication channels. I am almost at the two year mark -- September 6 -- and understand the ups and the downs. Your guidance has been a blessing. Thank you.

Thank you Karen for sharing your light.

Thank you so much for all your support and knowledge, take care and live your life, that's what life for🪷💖

Thank you for everything so helpful take care

Thank you Karen so very much..

It is now 2.5 yrs since my Richard has passed away. My son and I are now very close to putting my aka our "Forever home " on the market to sell. This beautiful log home was our Forever Home after we both retired. We were able to enjoy 8 yrs together in this home after 47 yrs of marriage. For a long time I could not drive into our garage as in my mind and heart as I knew I had to walk into an a special place without my man not being with me. I have moved to an apartment so I would be closer to my son and family. I am still so missing him n learning to live alone. Working on getting our very large home ready to sell is still so hard as Richard left me with so many things ie: 5 harley motorcycles. Plus the items that in our early married life we saved money to buy tools for his mechanics job. But having to look at the tools that would now belong to someone else. Will they treasure the tools like he did. So now someone will take all our things away. I am sorry to go on like this. But at 2.5 years this is where I am at. At 75 yrs old I do not think I will find another man. As i say to myself I dont want to be a purse or a nurse. Or loose my SS etc. I do listen to our record collection n pictures of all our life together. The pictures are now starting to be sweet memories. Thank you, PS: I do miss his touches, his kisses, our intimate moments. Yes I miss sex! Patricia- USA

Thank you. I’m still very early in my grief but point 8 gave me quite a lot of clarity Karen. You’re right, I have been thinking there’s nothing left for me, and if it wasn’t for my kids then maybe I’d be in a different place. My wife lost her life to cancer and didn’t get to have time to do all the things that a mum should get to do with their kids. I still have that opportunity to watch the kids grow and have a life & that’s not to be wasted or I’m just doing her disservice.

My husband has been dead a little over 2 weeks. I’m paralyzed. We married young. 29yr marriage

This is beautiful ♥️ Thank you to everyone for sharing. I am constantly searching for support and understanding in the resources around me, and I’m so grateful for this recording. I miss my beautiful Ben more than I could ever find the words to say; I just can’t believe he’s gone. He was stolen from me on the 22nd of May this year by cancer, and my heart is just completely shattered beyond belief. Thanks for sharing these stories, Karen ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

this is 3 yes today loss my hubby this hit difference then first