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IQ 132 and watching this video now I understand one thing: My anticipatory apologies reflect my internal self-criticism, a way to protect myself from possible external judgment by admitting first what I perceive as insufficient. Therefore my apology might be a mechanism to soften possible criticism or to show preemptive empathy for how the other person might feel about the outcome. This sounds so much as something I have always done! I now understand that this has always been closely tied to the low self-esteem I’ve perceived in myself. For example, while playing sports, I would often tell myself that I wasn’t good enough, constantly apologizing and feeling like I was a failure. In fact i am pretty good. But I keep kind of insulting myself for every mistake. This realization helps me connect the dots. Funny thing i don´t feel smart at all. In fact, i swear no one has ever told me how smart I am. I feel so normal, but as I get old (37) I guess I feel a bit different from the rest. I learn fast and i am very sensitive, I guess no one felt I am smart because the things I like are music, philosophy, sports... yeah, and a lot otf things too, but i was never a good student. Just a normal one.

Wonderful! Thank you, especially for the timeline. I was getting angry that I missed it when I was diving deep into the psych literature on the gifted in the 1980s and 1990s. (My PhD is in another discipline but my supporting field was in the psychology area.) This explains so much. I agree that openness to experience is a complementary construct.

Hello Dr. Jennifer Ritchotte, I am Damaris, a graduate student working on my master's in curriculum instruction with an emphasis on gifted education. Watching this video and reading the article "Reversing the Underachievement of Gifted Middle School Students" inspired me to keep our gifted students under a secure watch. Teachers tend to forget them because there is a misconception that since they are "smart", they can do it on their own. The article gave me insight into what steps to take if there are those students who do become underachievers. I work in the middle school setting and this article also goes with my literature review of finding three strategies to help gifted students enhance their abilities in reading class. My question would be if this is something that could also work with our younger grades such as 3rd-6th? Thank you for your insight and ongoing support for the gifted students.

How does a gifted person as a parent adapt to a child that is just normal .

I wouldn't describe people as being tired. They just want to talk about what they ate at a restaurant ,what happened at a ballgame,They will talk at length about what happened on America's got talent. They can talk forever about stupid stuff.

I’d rather have a dedicated honest employee than a gifted high self opinion employee that thinks everything is beneath them. Pretty much true with every employee I’ve ever hired.

I lost my gift that I loved, absolutely loved, as I got older. The ability to eat non stop without gaining weight. Not even kidding. I could easily eat 10,000 calories a day. And not put on a pound. Even my wife had to stop eating with me because the amount of food I consumed at one sitting. Talking 5 in n out double doubles with fries and a shake. For my ‘first’ dinner. I would go to Costco. Have two hot dogs and two slices of pizza for a snack. Now…just one hot dog and I’m done. When I was at a dinner party and just had one plate. The host asked if I was okay. Did I not like the food? I told him. No. I’m full. Saddest day in my life.

Thanks a lot.

Thanks for this Video. I reacted really emotional to some of your sentences.I justed started my journey around giftedness. I am not tested. My son was tested recently cause i suspected it. I wasn't sure about him but felt i ve got to check it. I was so nervous that i might have been wrong, but i wasn't. Now i find a lot of reasons we me and my doughter might be gifted to, but also some why not. And i think about if it is nessecery to do so (also cause it is quite expensive and a long drive) or if i can live with a maybe. Or if i wait a little with my daughter. She is younger and started school a year ago. She is not a good reader yet and definetly no math crack. So can she be anyway? But she has such a phantasy and asks so many questions and uses words in right ways i didn't know she knew them. And she feels so deep, she has the worst anger isues and so much enthusiasm and joy.... Sometimew i feel i need more decriptions of neurotypical thinking to see if there is really a difference. Are there really so many people who can stop thinking? Are there really so many people who don't have tons of ideas what they could do or think and then think about the ideas. So many queqtions in my head all the time.....

I think there's some extremely interesting points in this video I resonate with myself. One important thing to point out which also might help people is although some learn visually and spatially they might not always think in pictures. I myself prefer this learning style, but I have aphantasia and am unable to use the minds eye to visualise. This might be distressing for some children unable to make a picture in their heads

My genius grandmother agreed. 👍🏻

It would be so helpful if you could put the topic in the video headings instead of just having the series and speakers. Without a topic there is no way to figure out which of your videos are of interest or might relate to my child. Thanks!

I just wanted to express my deepest thanks for this video. The ideas and messages really resonated with me on a level...

What a great opportunity to meet some like-minded peers and collab, I wish I had these.. Great talk!

I think my kid may be one of these. My wife and i are both intelligent (my iq was tested at 132). My wife is probably around the same. But our son is beyond anything we’ve seen. He is 5 and was just tested. We get full results in a couple weeks. He has had a lot of developmental issues, while also being the smartest person in every room he goes into. People have such high expectations for him, yet get so frustrated with him cuz they cant accept he has multiple developmental ages. He is still an over excited 5 yr old boy.

In my profession. I get to meet, know and follow a lot of people over a long time. Most of them well over a decade. Every child that was labeled ‘gifted’ grew up to be angry, frustrated and pretty much unaccomplished in real life. What is unaccomplished? A contributing member of society. Especially to the level of their tested intelligence. Don’t get me wrong. Most ‘gifted’ people are extremely educated. Most with advanced degrees. But guess what? Most are unemployed. Or employed in jobs that are well below their tested ‘intelligence’. Want the short story? I get to ask them why they are in such jobs. Surely their ‘intelligence’ along with their degrees should have them in top tier academic and executive positions. But no. A lot of them are sitting in Starbucks being wifi vampires. Easy explanation. School is easy. How easy? F’ing easy. I am a 3 9’er. Yeah, IQ above 145. Most people like me are scared to try anything because there is a risk of failure. Being a 3 9’er also means they are unwilling 99.9% of the time to do anything they might fail. Why? Because 3 9’ers have a very very veryyyy high self opinion of themselves. That they are above everyone and everything is beneath them.

I only wish that they told me that I was gifted at a young age. Don’t mind me. It’s at your cost. I don’t care. Too late 🎉

As a recently diagnosed multi-exceptional gifted adult, I found this right when I needed it most. Thank you!

Maybe some can enlighten me. I took the test to be in GT classes in the 90's in Texas. I got in. What IQ is that equivalent to? as a baseline for acceptance.

Thank you for this helpful information about giftedness. I have my own definition of giftedness : The definition of Giftedness: the possession of special potential in a subject that has no scientific pillars.

Dear Linda You created ISAD 1979, TESTED 6500 CHILDREN, PUBLISHED JOURNEL ON ADULT GIFTNESS, ORGANIZED SYMPOSIUM ON GIFTNESS IN ADULTS, INTERNATONAL CONGRESS IN 2012, SYMPOSIUM ON GIFTED WOMEN IN 2018 SALON SERIES ON GIFTED ADULT 2011 and you speak at these events with a vocabulary and insight that equals Shakespeare, which brings me to ask when are you going to label yourself creative? With great affection Nora

Linda SIlverman is the most annoying woman on planet earth .

Excellent video. I think the number one reason I do not easily accept my giftedness because I think everyone else experiences and thinks and feels like me. I cannot understand that others do NOT experience like I do. I assume others inner world is similar to mine. Even if outwardly it seems they’re not experiencing life like me, I think well privately they surely must be experiencing life as I do, they’re just hiding it.

Great if you are gifted. Not if you’re not. 😢

don't relate to any of this video because i'm thick as shit. still interesting though.

Would love to learn how gifted (not 2E) adults can still make friends as grownups. Giftedness can be very isolating, and socialising can be a real challenge as an adult. For example, where to meet and hangout informally. This is a massive blindspot culturally. Many wrongly assume bright people already have friends or can find them easily. In actual fact, it's terrifically difficult to connect outside of work as an adult. Thanks again. Enjoyed your presentation.

Nice conversation. I sadly have a bullying experience concerning "giftedness". I was scapegoated by MELISSA KIRK in an online course Human Design run by company Your PURPOSE, owned by Baeth Davis. I paid 3500 USD for this. It was advertised as a personality typology teaching, aimed at gifted people. Baeth Davis claims to be gifted and to help highly gifted people to assess their personalities and find their exact niche in their profession. Baeth Davis had mistakenly advertised that the program will be taught by her. However, it was taught by some Melissa Kirk. She was advertised a a teacher of Human Design with a certification. This appeared not to be true. However, I was bullied in her online course by MELISSA KIRK over a longer period of time. Baeth Davis had stolen my 3500 USD and does not want to return it. She never responded. I come from a developing relatively poor country, nothing in comparison to rich American collecting money from some poor people (I apologize for all good American people who are not like Baeth Davis) and I would have expected that when she advertised her program as educational program for talented people that I will be not bullied there. Melissa Kirk claimed that she was a teacher of Human Design, however, after I had to leave the program because of the bullying, she started to do a beginners course in the IHD school. I was in this course, too. MELISSA KIRK seems to have had a trouble to even understand my questions. MELISSA KIRK started to attacking me for asking her that what she claims about the topic is different than in the reference book. She was not able to even understand what I was talking about. Later, others in the online course asked after these incorrect claims Baeth Davis (they had to do a test and having false information could cause failing the test) and Davis had to correct Melissa KIrk. This has been happening over and over. I mean that the basics of Human Design is not that difficult. Especially if you are really a good student and a good teacher. Since this time, it seems that Melissa Kirk started to keep an eye of bully on me. Later Melissa Kirk had been using different technics of bullying on me: deflecting my questions, talking about something general, not related to my question at all, shutting me down, spending really minimum time with me. Later she started to be attacking me with spiritual gaslight: telling what a bad personality and nasty personality I have, basically what a jerk and horrible person I am. Later Melissa Kirk, a competent bully, had been attacking me for asking questions: I WAS NOT ALLOWED FOR MY MONEY to ask questions. Due to Melissa Kirk I was asking stupid questions, wrong questions etc. She started to openly verbally bully me and shaming me publicly. All this bullying had been recorded and had been displayed on in the internet, possibly sold to others. I was solving this with the owner of the company Baeth Davis. It took very long time and it was solved that I am "resistant" to teachings of Melissa Kirk. The company does not give refunds, so I had to stay in the course. Baeth Davis confirmed to me in an online paid Human Design session with her that yes, I was bullied by Melissa Kirk in the program of the YOUR PURPOSE company and I DESERVE TO BE BULLIED. She as well was very aggressive and rude to me for "ASKING QUESTIONS" and for ASKING WRONG QUESTION. BAETH DAVIS WAS LITERALLY YELLING AT ME. Baeth Davis seems to lure out of me the money while she knew that she will likely abuse me because, as she said " I DESERVE TO BE BULLIED" and paying money the bully. I want my 3500 USD back that Baeth Davis has stolen from me I guess that I have the right for further financial endommagement for the bullying and online defamations.

Linda Silverman , You know myself more than anyone in the universe. I cryed so many times hearing your lecture. Very deep feelings on me when you explain myself in such precise , accurate and Also positive Way.. thank you só much . Truly you are a wonderfull person

I never wanted to be famous with my karaoke or songwriting. I just wanted to do something

56:46 perfectionism is a desire for excellence 58:17 prioritize. Dont be a perfectionist at everything

25:52 age 82 32:30 own your giftedness 35:46 if 98% find you odd, seek the company of those who love you as you are 41:00 what's your passion and excites you? 48:02 gifted giver 48:54 does this person feed me or drain me? 52:00 let it be known that you have needs

12:42 exceptional abstract reasoning ability 17:07 relentlessly creative mind 17:42 high standards for self 19:20 (characteristics)

Have you seen where the children overthink a simple problem because of the way they think?

I’m tired of waiting

This is so helpful, thank you

Can’t get voice here. Later

Finding the right counselor/therapist/psychologist has been so incredibly draining. It doesn’t take me long to determine if I can “trust” (the ability to take in what I have to share and the transference of energy) someone to actually “ listen ” ( the ability to have an open/ unbiased mind). Mind you I don’t mean this as a belittlement of ones integrity as a person, it’s merely a discernment of the ethos chemistry. I’m on OHP insurance and can’t afford the ones who specialize on this topic. So if there’s someone out there that would or could help with some options I am most appreciative? And of course I’m still searching myself❤️👉🌎🌍🌏

Agreed, implementing and the integration of the many aspects of one self is tremendously hard. All while everything is going on upstairs in the head, producing its fruit is another thing. I find it extremely difficult observing and overwhelmed at all these boxes to be stuffed in and culturally/environmentally forced to pick one. I wrote a little poem that I’d like to share❤️ Puzzle I am I watch, I hear, I grow, as does the pieces. I rest as the chrysalis forms, I gather all the attributes of perception and put together the picture I saw in the mosaic splatter. I feel the immensity of every piece, they begin to speak in profound colors. I wait and wait, then wait some more, I then start to integrate, for the beauty of my wings must stretch before I fly. I’m here and ready 🌈🐛🦋💃❤️

The beauty of retro causality and reclaiming and/or the innerstandings of our inner child is probably the most profound part of feeling the textures of my past. The vast subtextual gesturism of this reflection not only brightens one’s own self existence but also opens up a tool for the macrocosmic observer aka narrators perspective. From this observatory, the compartmentalized fractal lines disappear, it’s like a form of de compartmentalization that is smeared into a mosaic spherical ever expanding bubble.

Thank you. I am a lay person who, several decades ago, was introduced to the notion of incorporating mathematical thinking in our observations through Rudolf Steiner's "Philosophy of Freedom". I appreciate that your broad understanding of a complex topic provides such a practical insight. Keep up the good work and You will be teaching all children as if they were gifted. ☺ Thank you so much.

Omg I'm 8 minutes in and I had the same experience with that film! We watched it at school, and I was in floods of tears at the end - the only kid to have that reaction - I remember the teachers being really concerned and I was just so embarrassed! <3

Great video. Yes, the most emphatic among us, seem to be the least emphatic. Like seeing the divisive nature of cultural conditioning. One sees it for oneself. Then, one can’t fit in and yet not in conflict. So it may leave the individual in tough spots of being misunderstood. Perhaps, twice exceptionalism can stem from this observation. Where in the pressure to fit in, but seeing its inherent outer conflict, creates an inner conflict of sorts.

Geniuses make their own rules in such matters, Joe; they always have. -- Robert A. Heinlein - Gulf - 1949 Geniuses are justifiably contemptuous of lesser opinion and are always indifferent to sexual customs of the tribe; they make their own rules. -- Robert A. Heinlein - Stranger in a Strange Land - 1961 Geniuses and supergeniuses always make their own rules about sex as on everything else; they do not accept the monkey customs of their lessers. -- Robert A. Heinlein - Friday - 1982

Proud of you. Such a huge asset...keep letting your light shine. You are making a difference❤😊

Why does this sound like you’re describing bipolar ?

Giftedness come from being stupid. An open mind to question.

Some of the worst bullying I ever experienced came from teachers and often teachers have an angry approach towards giftedness especially in relation to not wanting it to be real or any differences to matter. Even now as an adult I have to hide because it makes people feel threatened or bad about themselves and most come to the conclusion that no such thing exists and giftedness is just people wanting to better than others. It doesn’t matter about what word is used for naming people , the associated feelings will be exactly the same. The worst is being outed in the work place as the bullying can be severe and combined with intent to use the person as a sort of magic wand to get promoted. There is very little out there for gifted adults and it is like they stop being gifted as soon as they are adults.

It's been suggested to me a few different times during the course of my life and frankly I feel like I don't even want to go there. For some reason, even thinking about it causes me a tremendous amount of anxiety to the point I almost don't want to think about why it does. At this point, I don't even know where or from whom to seek assistance on this because I fear a wild goose chase ensuing. Thank you for covering what to do if there's a feeling of unsafety with the exploration of one's situation.

I think there is a danger of narcissism and unproductive self-absorption in all of this - a propensity for worshipping potential over accomplishment. People who can should do and let their work products stand as testimony to any qualities of mind may underly the fruits of their labor.

This is some stunning stuff. Virtuosity and the addiction to the thrill of the high wire act - a theme that resonates deeply with me. Across my life, I see peaks and troughs plotted as a sine wave across time, scabrous behavior trending to bathos followed by prodigious spikes in performance, spikes that occasionally border on the fictional. Example: I spent a fair portion of my high school years attending rock concerts, riding a motorcycle (at age 14 and without a license), living shacked up with my girlfriend, and paying little attention to my academic work. I was fortunate to get into college, at all, yet three years from my 18th birthday, I had a graduate degree from Stanford University and I had been accepted into law school. Somewhere along the way, I took (under timed, proctor-supervised conditions) the Terman Concept Mastery Test (form T) and I scored above the 99.9th percentile of the general population. I flunked out of law school, then earned a M.S. in Information & Telecommunication Systems from Johns Hopkins University.