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I''m 65 living in San Francisco. I was talking to my sister about my aging. For me, living in SF is important bc she lives in Denver. As for loneliness most of my friends died of AIDS or they moved away. I only have two good friends here in the Bay Area which I don't see often bc we live busy lives. Loneliness sucks.

Being 22 a year old member of the LGBT and ex Jehovah’s Witness this made me feel so many things

Raymond Macon reflects on experiencing love and loss for the first time as a Jehovah's Witness.

Thank You! You have a very "natural" and healthy relationship. Please write more. Sincerely, Craig 🎉

Hate growing old and yes invisible to most people especially after 50 was an orphan so no family at all. Found my life partner at 46 and wasn't even looking really. Same age as me I hasten to add, I am not anyone's sugar daddy!!! We have a house (i never dreamed of) and a pretty good life in the English countryside. Gay community, ha ha ha ha ha excuse me while i belly laugh as loud as i can, what gay community, precious young chickens being chased by old queens. Old queens hissing at each other when all as bad. The aesthetic is everything in the gay world and when these sniffy chickens start to get bypassed by younger chickens they better have a back up plan. No old queen looks good in skinny diesel jeans chasing a chicken round the nightclub going "oh don't i look good for my age!?" NO you look ripe for the taking by any grifter giving you a few sultry compliments!!!!!!! Friend of mine in his mid 40's went on holiday with a 20 year old and when he came back i asked how the holiday went. He said it was awful the chicken was demanding and didn't take any money with him, he expected my friend to pay for everything. I laughed, he asked me what I was laughing at. I replied "That was the deal!!!" Take care of yourselves guys and hope you find companionship, and don't get grifted!!!!!!!!!!!

I just pretend. When I was younger I was a method actor so it’s very easy for me to create and perfect a new persona. I have found this to be fun, therapeutic and quite creative. I can do conversations between four or five people at the same time irregarless of their sexual proclivity, gender or even age. I love this and I will continue this until the day I pass away.❤

Safe retirement and hospice community would be nice.Iam 56 and think of this all the time. Thanks 👍🙏

Sadly no one wants an old queen. It's different when you are young and gay. The world's your oyster. Many an oyster I had!!! 😜Now in middle age no one wants you. The highlight of my week is going to the grocery store. A very sad and lonely existence for me now. Sadly that's the way society is now. Gay or straight it's all about youth and beauty. No wrinkles, sagging or gray hair. That's why I hope I don't live too much longer.

Very nice story ❤

I am gay, still young in my early 30s, and i vehemently believe gay people like myself should have children. If they are financially able. There are surrogacy options available. Aging is alright if you have youth near you. Your kids, grandkids. Aging is terrifying if you have no close family that is youthful (kids), whether you are gay or straight. Heterosexual, childless couples have just as hard a time as homosexual, childless couples.

Katzgar....stsy positive things will get better...😊❤

I came out 6 years ago at the age of 69 and all I have found is dysfunction.

Thank you! I recently mustered up the courage to make a video about homophobia, so anyone feel free to watch and share it if you’d like. In 2024, we still have to keep fighting for basic human rights!

See, blaming the individual when it's society responsibility. Religion dictating society; being involved in the law of the land and so on. Cranks too. We live in a tribe. When the tribe disapproves of something or someone like in sexuality, the tribe owes that prejudice and its consequences. Not the victims of the abuse and those connected to the victim's fault. Society has made those victims. Any human has innate needs and that is to form relationships. To have touch. To have connection with another. "They" WANT you to have a straight relationship. It's THEIR problem! "THEY'VE created the fallout!

I dont trust anyone named Rothchild😂

My best friend - both of us gay and OLD (75 and 76) - made a pact that if either or both of us were without a partner when we reached retirement age, we would move in together. That's exactly what we did in 2005. One thing we discovered is that if you live with somebody that you aren't sharing a bed with. you need a big enough place to be together but separate. This arrangement has worked well for almost 20 years. We will be here for each other until Croak-a-rama (thanks, Geo. Carlin).

I've never been married or anything, but I made the biggest mistake of my life, one that I still haven't recovered from. When I was much younger, I met a man, but I took him for granted, and eventually, he moved on. By the time I realized how special he was, he had already met someone else. I still date, but I find myself comparing everyone to him. It's been 20 years.

Interesting topic and discussion. I am aging and I am trying to sort things out for my future in case I need help. And how will that look like? I would love to explore this some more.

I'm 68. I am part of a three person relationship. We co-own a house together, and we have traveled extensively together. We have been through health issues and other problems together. All three of us are involved with our families of origin and they all accept that the three of us are a family and interact with us as such. Of course, after 40 years.....

Of course, his partner would be his son’s age. What did you expect..?

As an older guy, I have found that it is completely universal that guys want intimacy on the first date. This establishes that you are seeking a relationship and not just a friendship. But, what works for one doesn't work for another.

hi dan men will be men and sometimes butter flies

Wish John was my bf.

Absolutely the minute I hit 50 I might as well have put my ass in a nursing home. I'm a good looking guy, I'm nice monogamous I've got a big dick does that matter? Nope The problem is men my age seemingly want 20-year-olds and 20-year-olds who I'm not interested in are about 50/50 with me. I do attract the random 75-year-olds, as long as I'm in the will my God my grandfather didn't live to be that long.

Hi Dan, I’ve enjoyed your videos and interviews. I also appreciate your thoughtful comments on the GAMMA threads. Keep up the great work. 😊

I appreciate you discussing this topic. It is badly needed. I wish you had more substance to offer than Meet-Up and Front Runners / Walkers. There is really nothing else? How depressing.... today's solitude will only magnify... at least now I know for sure.

Please share your experiences regarding sustaining and nurturing successful long-term relationships. What practical steps have you taken that have truly made a difference?

Religion is evil.

I think for those of us who grew up in the 70's and 80's it's even harder because so many of our peers didn't make it. We lost the majority of our generation at such a young age. I'm the only one left of my gay friend group. Approaching my mid 50's and I have made more friends, surprisingly most of them are younger. They do care and look out for me, but you have to keep reaching out and making an effort to not only help the younger generation but connect with them.

I turned 64 (yesterday!) and my life is very different than what I envisioned as a youth. I was married (together 9 years) when I was young, then I had a male partner for almost a decade. That ended a long time ago. I dated a couple nice men when I was 40ish, but haven't dated since 2003. Being single doesn't bother me. I have my house, garden, and 4 dachshunds. I relocated in 2023 and downsized. I have become friendly with some neighbors (all straight, married, some my age, some in their 30s). I was not into the Party Scene when I was young, so do not miss it now. I have always remained very close to my ex- (age 62) and his current partner (age 83). They are wonderful, but very much still a part of the Palm Springs party scene. They have plenty of money, travel extensively...which is all well and good. But they suffer from FOMO and I would not want their lives. I cannot imagine being this old and fearful of missing out on anything. My life has been much longer than I expected. My parents and grandparents all died when I was a teenager and I had cancer twice (the first time when I was 19). So I have lived decades longer than my parents, who both died relatively young of cancer.

In the 1950"s through 70's, it was NOT a matter of polite rhetoric. It was deadly to admit who you were. At best you would be arrested, evicted, fired, abandoned by friends and family, beaten up, robbed, extorted..... At worse, a mob in full rage would murder you, claim you made a pass at them and then get exonerated for the murder.

It’s also important to share your story so today’s young people understand what we stand to lose and what life could return to if we become complacent.

I lost my husband of 20 years to glioblastoma brain cancer 3 weeks after his 42nd birthday April 2022. I am now 42. There is no guarantee finding someone 20 years younger will ensure you don't outlive them.

Just make sure your oven and fridge are sparkling clean when you pass.

The younger generation does not realize the fight is not over we MUST continue to fight for our rights or they will be lost!

I’ve thought about the term ‘gay community’ over the years and compared it to straight society. I think there is a ‘gay scene’, but not a community in the social sense. As gays get older they tend to absent themselves from the scene and, apart from meeting with friends, become isolated. I would recommend the bear scene for older gay men. It’s more welcoming than the party pump crowd. Not sure about the lesbian scene.

We were all raised to be hetero whether we were or not. Talk about grooming!

We are going through something unique in the gay community, were so many older people in our societal age group, remain homophobic. However in younger gay groups, they can have a better and more fulling life. Although way too many of them, are not too concerned about us, who paid a price and still paying a price for their freedoms and privileges.

I don’t see how marrying the opposite sex helped anything for a gay man. You could have just as easily lived a single life. Marrying and perpetuating a myth just made it harder for other gay men to make social changes.

For those of who do not have any family or friends left to depend. Plus I do not want to indure the horrors of a nursing home. Planned suicide is in face the best option. The on to the next spiritual adventure.

I came out in 1977 in North Dakota. By doing that I hoped to find others like me....What I got was the gay community keeping their distance from me. At that time the gay community in North Dakota probably felt more secure in the closet, and you can't blame them. In those days violence against gay people was acceptable behavior. My confrontations with homophobes was brushed aside and I was told it was my own fault for being out. So, there are times when I think that my coming out then was a mistake. I lived through it but not without experiencing a lot of homophobia. It's a little better these days but it is kind of too little too late. As an older person I have not only become invisible to the gay community but to the straight community as well. I feel l have exchanged being the victim of homophobia for experiencing ageism.

There are levels of "out". In the 1970s I came out to the gay community and a few straight friends. The penalty to come out was huge then. As I got to know people I came out to them one at a time. It forced people to rethink their opinions of gay people. Now I am completely out but it is really easy to be out now. Young people don't understand how much hate (and violence) we faced.

I am soon going to be 60. One lesson I've learned is that those friends you think are going to be with you later in life are not. I had a pretty wide friend circle in my '20s and '30s and '40s, but it dried up in my '50s. I literally don't know anyone anymore that I used to. Everyone I spend time with now are new friends. That whole friend circle vanished, and it's the same for a lot of my peers I've noticed.

Stupid

I got seasick looking @ that painting in the background & not from shaming.

Looking forward for my future with or without someone

I’m too selfish to let society tell me who I am or what I should be. I’ve loved being gay from the second I realized it and have never looked back.

I came out in high school in 1972.in Kennewick Washington. It was difficult but I couldn't live in the closet.

And now look at the proud LGBTQ+ me-me-me generation. How disgusting so many of us are now! Evidence? Look at what happened at St. Patrick's Cathedral! Or just go to almost any gay bar in a major city on a Saturday night. Enjoy the circus clowns and freaks. Look at what a farce so many of us have become. Walking, talking, false-eyelashed, fat bullies who think that twirking is not only an art but a divine right - people whose entire life's calling is to be rude and obnoxious while laughing at their own wittiness. At least half of us should have stayed in the closet, but instead so many of us are working so hard to destroy all the progress that was made. Once needy of acceptance, they are now greedy for power and dominance. Unfortunately, a VERY large portion of our community is now nothing but spoiled haters.

as an 82 year old I cannot begin describe the frustration of growing up in a society that said, I was strange, dangerous, disgraceful, a threat to myself and everyone around me, if I even acknowledged to myself, let alone anyone else, that I was queer. Remember, there was no “gay” in the fifties, if I came out, I would be a fag,faggot, freakin queer and a host of other undesirable tags. In the UK, being queer would land you in prison or chemically made a eunuch. Honestly, I don’t even know if being queer would land you in prison here in the US. I am glad to see this subject being dealt with. I served in the military and if caught would be given at worst a dishonorable or maybe just a general discharge.both of which could have impacted the rest of my life. Fortunately our world has changed for the better, but did you know that ISIS took gay men to the top of buildings and threw them off. Our part of the world has changed, not the whole world though.