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For everyone, from all beliefs and none at all, in midlife part of the process is to move, connect to others and take control of your narrative. It turns out to be spiritual doesn't require a religion, since the base truth of spirit, is this: Spirit represents how we move in life, to connect to others in life and seeing the larger non physical aspects of the world. So even as an atheist, exercise, living more vibrantly, enjoy how you live, connecting to others, seeing new connections all recharges a person. Give a person incentive and meaning in their life as their share with others. I have helped many people who have felt like you and then use the midlife pulse of extra energy to turn life around into a better life. is it easy, no, especially when you are working against many negative factors in life holding one back. But this is the time that is easiest to counteract depression and other side effects of living in a abusive culture and/or situations. Much strength for you!

Thanks!

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Much strength and patience as you build a new life ahead.

I wish you the best in your growth and path ahead. Thanks for sharing your story so others can see it isn't all bad stuff in Midlife Change. Refer to my site for any questions or help you need. You can even arrange a free 30 minutes session for additional advice. Best wishes

@@CaseyKochmer of course! Only by sharing our stories can others learn and heal as well. I will connect to you on your website.

To embrace midlife fully, with heart and growth is harder to do than people realize. Many people run and consume their way through the gift of the extra energy and empowerment that comes with midlife transformation.

That is the problem of midlife, once you eff it up, it is hard to rebuild again. I work with my students to pace them through the process to avoid this as much as possible. I don't have any resources I would recommend. You are back at square one with burned bridges. You have to be patient and rebuild life one step at a time. Find resources that allow you to reconnect to communities or work that can support the rebuilding.

Much strength and joy with your life!

Much strength in your process. Use my site PersonalTao as a resource and follow your growth: for love is to be more in life. Thanks 🙏 for sharing

I am glad this midlife crisis / midlife transformation video helped you. Be patient and strong in midlife change.

Yes very very true!

Yes it can happen this way. I have seen many variations on how it plays out. Be strong, work on taking care of yourself and family through the changes.

For many this is the answer that needs to follow when midlfie crisis becomes midlife crazy. Sorry to hear you went through it all Brenda.

One day at a time slowly revising your life to fit better with your future. Marriage wont make your life better on its own. Dont rush into any marriage, be patient to find the person who compliments you in life. The midlife crisis can be antagonizing wanting change but being forced to go slower to support oneself and others. I went through this also, and it took me a full 10 years from start to finish 37 to 47 to patiently work through the changes that allowed me to become free. Go too fast you make mistakes that create more problems, go too slow and you tear yourself apart. Everyone has a different pace/path due to their circumstances.

Thank you so much for the reinforcement and positive review! I appreciate the extra information.

I warn all my midlife students, to avoid or be very careful of most advice, since, most people will give advice as if it were themselves in their situation and as a result advice is often the wrong advice for a midlifer. When I work with a student, I customize the teaching and advice to their situation , their past, their future and so many other conflicting needs that are present. Every situation is unique despite the common patterns we see in midlife. It is a dance and no advice stays static, you have to grow with the process and change as the situation evolves. Even worse many times a midlifer is in a situation where none of the options are good: which means even good advice often leads to problems, which you then have to tackle and grow against. It is hard process to navigate. So yes, be careful of the advice you follow as there are all too many traps in the culture and midlife process to lead you down a worse situation.

Thanks for being a great student and friend Georgios!

THis moment of change and needs shifting can creating for the hardest moments in a person's life. I you need help we are here to talk. You can become a member of our site and get access to many complete teaching videos right away www.patreon.com/m/OneRiver Here is a fast list of all the classes personaltao.com/patron-library/ or you can contact us directly to get help personaltao.com/about/contact/ You don't have to go thru change alone. With help crisis become transformation.

Thanks I am glad it helped. Soon I will produce a longer video class on this topic. personaltao.com/services/online-classes/ A good follow up class would be our classes on Trauma personaltao.com/courses/healing-trauma-self-forgiveness-self-love/ and our class about Anxiety personaltao.com/courses/resolving-anger-and-anxiety/

Thanks! You can visit our web site for more relationship articles: personaltao.com/relationships/relationship-balancing/ We do produce video classes personaltao.com/services/online-classes/ You can also become a patron to join in with our livestreams and other events www.patreon.com/m/OneRiver We do work with people directly also midlifecrisishelp.com/ Best wishes Sincerely Casey

Thanks for sharing your experiences!

Thanks Stacy Be sure to check out the related article: personaltao.com/relationships/being-human/ We host live stream tao talks every month for our community. This month's Tao Talk was talking about how to live in our changing times with a Taoist outlook. www.patreon.com/posts/62879083 If you are curious more about story management We have a whole series of classes exploring Taoism and shaping our stories. www.patreon.com/posts/39831382

For more teachings Here is my article on depression personaltao.com/healing/depression/ I have a whole series of classes for my patrons on being stronger, writing your own story and being in your power. It is series of 30 Taoism Classes Here is one link to one class taking about motivation and depression www.patreon.com/posts/43312417 You can become a patron for a month watch all 30 classes. It's an inexpensive way to get a complete teaching overview on how to expand your lifestyle and work through challenges.

Aloha Stacy I am glad this was helpful! Here is our new site helping people work with midlife crisis midlifecrisishelp.com/

Yes very much so Midlife is also a time to redefine how one works and supports oneself. Unemployed at Over 40 - Time to Redefine Work personaltao.com/midlife-crisis/unemployed/ The great resignation is a chance for people to reclaim their power at work also. kindstep.com/ It is a moment where our culture is forcing people into midlife crisis and people are choosing to empower themselves rather than let big business disrepct them. The Millennials are really making this a time for themselves and the Millennials are totally rocking midlife. personaltao.com/blog/millennial-midlife-crisis/

Much patience for the process! It is all too easy to push away one's partner when they are going through amidlife crisis. Here is the latest article I have written for midlife crisis midlifecrisishelp.com/midlife-crisis-symptoms/ It is easy to push panic into fear and larger worse choices. Center yourself in nonjudgment and be present to listen but not push him.

Aloha Jolanda We have just created a new web site midlifecrisishelp.com/ Which might be of use for you. A listing of all the article I have written for midlife crisis can be found here: personaltao.com/midlife-crisis/

Thank you casey im gonna look and read it.

I hope your midlife experience was a good one Katherine. It can be hard when you get that kick to change up life and improve everything. Here are many of the support articles I have written over time for helping people navigate midlife transformation personaltao.com/midlife-crisis/all-midlife-crisis-articles/ I have also started a new website midlifecrisishelp.com/ Specifically for midlife relationship work also. Best wishes for you and life ahead! sincerely Casey

Midlife can be confusing , especially in the awakening of sexuality. Yes it can be expressed in having affairs. Here are 3 articles I have written talking about how to face an affair from the various angles and time points. midlifecrisishelp.com/affairs-and-infidelity-save-my-relationship/ personaltao.com/midlife-crisis/midlife-affair/ personaltao.com/midlife-crisis/having-an-affair/

Best wishes for your exploration of Midlife Crisis and Transformation Dis Ko!

It is amazing how people will try to fool the senses to get a relationship going, and in reality all one is doing is setting themselves up to be a mismatched relationship later. But it drives billions of dollars of exchange in the perfume business so its a powerful part of being human. Some additional reading and videos Soulmates personaltao.com/soulmates/ Relationship balancing personaltao.com/relationships/relationship-balancing/ My tree of love class, to help improve and explore relationships personaltao.com/relationships/tree-of-love-course/

@@CaseyKochmer yeah! I havent thought about it until this point how it is actually manipulation. I've associated "the art of seduction" with manipulation but have never taken an honest look at the sort of ingrained habit to change our odor to appease others to be accepted. And then get the real smell later haha

@@CaseyKochmer great material. I look forward to learning more from you

@@DancingSage Thanks!

Aloha Alfa Driver, nice nickname for a midlife crisis comment! You started your midlife crisis awakening at the same age as me, 37! Welcome! The beautiful thing about an early midlife transformation moment is you get more time to change. Consider this your first booster stage. Use this year to experiment and be strategic in your choices. You don't have to fix everything in life right now. Position yourself to be ready for the larger changes happening in the world. Embrace your passion for building or exploring something new. Then in 1 - 3 years, you flesh out your choices. The significant point is this in 5 years: you will be ready for the 2nd booster stage of Midlife Crisis. You will be in a better place to use all that energy since the first booster stage got you 75 percent there. Don't try to get 100% to the final destination on the first booster stage of midlife since you will have to evolve and change it up with the changing times. Stage in touch will love to see where you take it all! Here are some transformation tips for midlife or any crisis really personaltao.com/midlife-crisis/becoming-someone-and-transformation/

Aloha Joyce Here are some articles I have wrote that will help you Helping Husbands and Wives Through Crisis and Change personaltao.com/midlife-crisis/husband-in-crisis/ Midlife Marriage Crisis Support personaltao.com/midlife-crisis/marriage-support/ Midlife Relationships personaltao.com/midlife-crisis/midlife-relationships/ I offer an online class also personaltao.com/midlife-crisis/midlife-crisis-counseling/#midlife-class I wish you strength and patience as you work through this challenge. You can ask questions or contact us directly from our web site from any of the above pages to set up a personal session if you need additional help beyond the dozens of articles and videos I provide.

See my reply on your other comments for additional article sand resources. The first truth is this. Take some time to sort through your options and find everything you can do for getting stronger yourself first. Put the energy you have been trying to pull him back, into yourself first. Otherwise you will less options ahead if you don't take care of yourself. Here is an index of more midlife articles on our website personaltao.com/midlife-crisis/all-midlife-crisis-articles/ And a starting overview of midlife crisis personaltao.com/midlife-crisis/

You are very welcomed. Be strong, be open minded, don't be afraid of change and become the best Alexander you can be as you grow and transform over time.

How is everything going a month later Alexander? Here is a reminder to embrace passion along the way: personaltao.com/blog/embracing-passion/

@@CaseyKochmer Hey Casey, thanks for your message. I had to make some important decisions for myself personally. Meanwhile, I'm on the right track. The fog is slowly clearing. Ist was about time.

@@aleson482 I am glad to you are moving on the right track. Midlife crisis should be used to empower one's life. The choices can be hard as you shift life, but use the extra energy to make wise choices and move your options to improve life. Here is a newer article I wrote personaltao.com/changing-world/midlife-crisis-society/ The important truth is society is also going through its own midlife crisis. Don't let the bigger crisis around us deflect your true path ahead either!

Happy 40th! Use the new energy to improve and make life stronger. Simplify as much as you can in your life, which frees up more energy to be creative with in your transformation! In a year or two you will settle into the results of your transformation so use that energy wisely!

Thank you so much ! Truly appreciated !

@@Candyrraine How ois everythign two months later? Use your midlife crisis to empower yourself in these changing times? Things are getting stranger that is for sure. Here is our guide book with hints how to embrace the bigger changes around you as you personally change in midlife awakening. personaltao.com/changing-world/ Our culture is facing its own midlife crisis now!

Thanks Marci! Much strength and much much patience as you expand and build out a stronger life!

Aloha Marci, how is everything going a few months later? I hope life is in a better place. Times are going tomake change harder since our society has entered crisis itself personaltao.com/changing-world/midlife-crisis-society/ If you need additional help here are all of our articles helping people grow stronger through midlife crisis and to turn it into midlife transformation. personaltao.com/midlife-crisis/all-midlife-crisis-articles/ Bonus article to help buoy the heart: | personaltao.com/blog/embracing-passion/ Much strength!

You are welcomed. Best wishes for your transformation.

Aloha Ash How are you doing a few months out? I hope life is in a better place. Times are going to make change harder since our society has entered crisis itself personaltao.com/changing-world/midlife-crisis-society/ If you need additional help here are all of our articles helping people grow stronger through midlife crisis and to turn it into midlife transformation. personaltao.com/midlife-crisis/all-midlife-crisis-articles/ Bonus article to help buoy the heart: personaltao.com/blog/embracing-passion/ Much strength!

Glad you liked it. I have a 2 hour class also you can watch: vimeo.com/ondemand/treeoflove

Same as for men 35 to 50 personaltao.com/midlife-crisis/

@@CaseyKochmer does it occur to women at the age of 26? all the behaviors you mentioned are the behaviors of my leave in partner. we have been 9 years together, she started looking for herself she is sometimes not going home. she keeps on saying I am looking for myself. she seems not so satisfied with the relationship anymore.

@@universityoftheeastbasiced330 she could be in a quarter-life crisis: personaltao.com/midlife-crisis/quarterlife-crisis/ which is very similar to midlife crisis in the way it appears.

@@CaseyKochmer I really appreciate your help and answers to my question sir.

@@universityoftheeastbasiced330 you are very welcomed. Be strong in these times of change. Large scale change also always acts as a trigger of transformation. Be as non judgmental as possible to help allow her change not turn negative towards you.

Thanks, much strength as you explore your midlife transition into a stronger life!

Aloha How is everything after 5 months? Be strong, be true. Don't get side track by the midlife crisis happening in our society either! personaltao.com/changing-world/midlife-crisis-society/ Be strong and follow your passion! personaltao.com/blog/embracing-passion/ Sincerely Casey

It's important to help women, empower their transformation based on their needs, and their future rather than having them be limited by male-orientated viewpoints of the past.

At 60, we are talking narcissist not midlife crisis

If you need additional resources you can go through our articles: personaltao.com/midlife-crisis/all-midlife-crisis-articles/ personaltao.com/relationships/relationship-balancing/ Best wishes!

Having worked with thousands of people over 20 years, I can say yes, for some souls they push the crisis and live to that crisis. However, I know from hard work, for many people, you can help them turn the crisis into a learning experience and shift it out of crisis into something better for everyone involved. Yet because it is possible doesn't make it easy. Yes, some people do only focus on the worse of what midlife can bring up in life. Also, many people reject getting help, and it is truly harder to avoid crisis without help. This is especially true since modern society has reinforced the crisis path to be easier.

@@CaseyKochmer Good info! The woman I referenced is 7 years into it and refuses to get help. So the kids are really messed up because of her immoral actions. There are several things she has done and continues to do. Sad.

@@jimcole6423 often times in the more extreme cases there is abuse or trauma of some form that derails the growth process and kicks the person back into bad patterns. Sending much sympathy for your own path, don't let someone's else's challenge derail you from your own path. Peace to all your relations and your steps Jim

You are very welcomed Paula, much strength and patience as you navigate the process. You can always contact us from our website www.personaltao.com if you need additional help.

Thanks, be patient in your transformation! Take the time to be be creative as you have a whole new life ahead of you with the energy to make changes truly happen. Let others know about the video, the more we help people be in their power, the more we help the world become a better place!

Even my husband wants broken our marriage because his crisis…God helps me…!!

Thanks did you have any questions?