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Lol how you gonna interview introverts? in PUBLIC? on the STREETS? LOL! (wish you the best tho mamí)

Them punk ass jokers wasn't promoting her the right way

This spoke to my soul 🙌🏾 Subscribed!! Thank you for sharing 🙏🏾🩷

People generally cannot conceive of the fact that a black woman can be complex and multi faceted. When you are black you are not perceived as a full human being, capable of all the emotions, thoughts, values, skills and multilayered aspects that any human could possibly have. When you are black you are seen as a colour, only. You are seen as a stereotype and if you behave in any way that does not neatly fit into the social stereotype of what being black means, then you are being offensive to those who demand that you fit into this stereotype so they will continue to feel 'safe' and not have to change their narrow, racist paradigm or belief systems that are not based on truth but on what they want to be true.

You are killing me softly. I love it it is 100% accurate.

I agree with this video. I've been knowing for awhile now that black introverts get treated the worst by white people and more extroverted black people, because we don't fit the typical stereotype. It's annoying! They can't stand for you to be quiet and to yourself🤦🏾‍♀️. Looking forward to more videos.

I feel so validated!!!!

My life!!!

Indubitably YES to this message!

I was with you up until the 14:00 mark where it reminded me of the limited beliefs of the people I live around. I'm very much an introvert but I am a native New Yorker (from Long Island but I spent a lot of time in The Bronx) living in the South. Much like black women, New Yorkers aren't a monolith, meaning not all New Yorkers are loud. I'm not a loud person, but I don't allow people to disrespect me and I have no issues putting people in their place. Two things can be true at the same time.

For over 30 years I really overestimated the intelligence of people... Most of them are shallow, ignorant, narrow-minded and rotten to the core. And nothing will change. They have the upper hand, we are just a minority they suck the life out of.

Great video keep up the good work sista love what your doing

Love your content queen! Keep it up xx

This is the fifth lady introvert video I have watched and you have done an excellent job. I am a 55 year old male and our experiences are similar. I am the zipped lip of the family, and since I smile with my silence strangers see me as a homicidal maniac waiting to happen. The not black enough used to bother me, even my own family. I cared too much about what folks thought about me, but you can still do what you want in life. I served in the military for twenty years, loved it. Tried a body building show once, a power lifting event, and I have been fixing airplanes for 30 years now. I still keep to myself, I have learned one thing about introversion, it is hard if you don’t embrace your right to be quiet. I tried to fit the mold but alway did things my way. March to the different drum and be happy.

FACT........

Heaven Sent! 💫👑🖤

1.5k like. Yep true

Just found your channel and glad I found this gem

That drinking water example really hit home 😢

It’s amazing how others can see so much potential is us that we lack in seeing in ourselves. I see so much potential in you, though I don’t know you. Despite all the success that other people seem to have. And good for them those who have theirs. U can have your own too. In your own way and in your own time. Keep putting your energy in your passions and all you wish to have in life. I see beauty, wisdom and determination in you. Keep uploading videos, doing photography…Keep going girl!

In Africa they’ll label you as possessed

Oh yes when you suddenly have a voice, or set boundaries, it's suddenly a "who does she think she is" moment. Dear God I have that experience also with the assumption that you don't have thoughts and opinions and would just go along with whatever, whenever. Either you're "stuck up" or "you're not confident." ...my goodness I can relate to a number of things said in this video from the workplace to social settings/gatherings. It's only a small handful of people I personally can let my hair down with, and yet they still don't know it all unless it's my parents or husband and kids. In fact, if not for my husband who is comfortable becoming friends and being friendly with people he doesn't know, I wouldn't have developed tactful ways to talk to people without really saying anything especially in the workplace. Otherwise, whatever I say or do is going to be deliberate or calculated... thinking before I speak. Or I say nothing because I simply have nothing to say.

You Are So Pretty!! 😊 I love Your Content dealing with introversion; it is highly insightful....and entertaining as well! Love To See It! Keep Doing You!! ✨

Whewww… I feel seen 🥲

My heart goes out to those of you who have lost job because of being introverts..I never lost a job but I was called to HR at one job and given a pep talk telling me to be more social Etc..Also have had managers being like "hey we're like family come be a part of the family" , But my thing is that when you first meet people sure everything is "yah family" but we all know human nature is that at some point "yay" goes left then those same managers will be writing you up if you get into loud arguments or curse someone out then suddenly yout in hot water so just leave me alone

Loved the video..I can relate to most of what you presented..I agree that people get offended just by you being quiet.White people take your q.uietness as rudeness or they think you don't like white people but my experience is that black people are the toughest to deal with.. They really get upset when you don't follow the black group. I'm a loner and on my jobs I stay to myself and I can't relate all the havoc that my black coworkers have visited on me just because I stay to myself.. It is such a problem for me that alot of times at jobs I can't even go to the cafeteria or break rooms because black coworkers will harrass me so I've learned to find hidden places where I can go be in peace.

It's giving Wednesday Adams🥰💯❤️🪄🍫

You hit so many corners. Thanks for this vid.

Please make more videos like this! Very well done

Keep pushing gurl

What impressed me is how young she was!!

Thank you for your candor. You're right!

You're only shy and stuck up though if you look good, dress nice, are attractive. If you are dressed down or basic and not very physically attractive no one is gonna think you as boughie. I love my people, but as a black woman that is "a thinker," they are very annoying, mentally simplistic and friendships/relationships can be very under stimulating when you're out of your twenties. Of course, not allllll. But a high number, esp if you have grown up in a certain environment. I noticed it in my 20s that black people can be very immature (not innately ofc). I was able to deal in my 20s as I was used to being the only one throughout my life that thought more deeply. However, in my 30s I find it difficult to make friends as I tend to be mentally lightyears ahead of my common black peers. Please don't come for me. I don't mean any of this in a superiority way. I'm leaving out a lot of context and different scenarios to refrain from this being an essay. But it can be difficult being a black woman introvert in America as you have to usually find your tribe. You're not born with them as you tend to be an anomaly in your community.

But if you act too extroverted you become rude or too loud or too annoying and now you’re labeled as ghetto

A lot of what you say is so relateable to me as a black british woman. It's great to hear this perspective and I respect your courage and conviction for addressing these important issues which don't seem very popular. I'm beginning to conclude that perhaps people feel physical pain if required to use their brains beyond minimal capacity for everyday survival. I think it is obvious and should be openly stated that on top of your intelligence you have the beauty to match, which is so refreshing. Your style is gorgeous in this video, it blends together perfectly. I really love your hair and you have beautiful features and facial structure. All together its a powerful combination and I hope more people will find your channel and take note of your thoughts and observations. The situation in the diaspora is desperate and I feel there is an urgent need for a black cultural renaissance, but not from black America, which like the US in general seems to be in decline. After seeing a movement on RUclips called 'n***as for Trump' inspired by mainstream black male rappers, I definitely do not think that we should be looking to the US for black cultural renewal. It has to be initiated elsewhere, perhaps Africa or the Caribbean or Latin America.

Nice to see you got that far. Where are you from? Us or Uk What are race you? Are you male or female? Respond or I will delete your comment.

This woman trying to bash the gangsta image for 12 and a half minutes straight but then 12:40-12:47 promotes her own gangsta image...so what's the point of the video at that point...that you're a victim of it too??

facts. and its going to get worse because now they are going after the women

Everything you said in this video is so true. I’ve been accused of being bougie and stuck-up my entire life, and I seriously judge no one. I just mind my business, and people do not like that. I’m starting to feel like that label is slapped on any black woman that has any kind of standards. I’m stuck-up just because I don’t like to wear a hair bonnet in public? I’m stuck-up just because I won’t have kids before marriage? Okay 🤷🏽‍♀️

I resonate very well with what you presented here.

1:27 THIS!!! My male black boss at my last job hated me because as he said, he "couldnt figure me out, therefore he didn't know how to place me"

This video was so valuable as a Nigerian-raised, Western-based person, who always had the 'I dont get/have the patience for introverts' mindset, definitely more empathetic... as a lesbian tho I have to call BS on that, you might be assuming all lesbians look like butch/studs and are projecting the hetero-view of masculine chases after stereotypical demure feminine as just to let y'all know that is NOT what queerness is 🤣😂

The problem I have with that fight scene is they make Nikki’s only problem is that “a White girl stole her man!” Of course had a problem with her ex moving on. She probably would have a problem with the girl if she were Black! They never addressed that she hit Nikki in the back of the head unprovoked! Even if it were a mistake, she could have at least apologized. Instead, she acts all innocent while Nikki looks like she’s prejudiced towards White people.

The accuracy here is too much 😢

your makeup is so pretty

I love your channel. We have similar style and I love Black clothes and Rock music ❤

I loved this video. I'm also an introvert, and im finally finding my voice, sticking up for myself and I relate to Nikki. Please keep making more Introvert character videos ❤

YOU ARE LITERALLY SPEAKING THE STORY OF MY LIFE IN CORPORATE IN LONDON!!!!!!!!!

Story of my life! Thank you for this video.