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I don't like the word "should." It's judgmental and energy-draining. Recently I have stopped asking what's good for me (what should I do?) and started asking, "Why? What am I going to get out of this? What would be my purpose for doing this? Why do I want to do this?" Not "Why should I do this?" or "Why is this good for me?" I don’t know yet, but I think it might prove to be a good approach.

Thank you for this video.

The dog is cute but was distracting.

True, we need to feel it to heal it. Also I had a horse riding accident and badly injured my face, it seemed to unlock certain traumas from childhood so I get that

I wanna cry…. I really am grieving what I thought what a family relationship was

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I related to a lot of aspects and topics in this video, especially with the timeline and how aspects of my identity and feelings shift. I feel confused about what is happening and don’t know where I stand with all of it. I have reflected about this at times - but I just feel… lost? Almost like I don’t know what is happening to me and what to think of these personal changes and feelings associated with traumas. Is there any advice for someone who’s in a similar position within this journey for addressing trauma and how it is affecting me? I’m not sure where to start, how to identify and learn what is happening, etc. lots of confusion here and would love advice on what next steps to take!!! ❤❤

Michele, you might want to know that at 2:24 in the video, you said the trauma got stuck in the body but the captioning said the trauma got "stuck in the butt." I thought you might want to fix that if you knew about it.

The pandemic did a number on my sense of time, which was already shot because of my habit of dissociating whenever I experienced loss. My body already had no idea what year it was and now I'm in hypervigilance like I'm 6 all over again

I don’t need evidence. Every time I thought I was safe, I wasn’t.

Welcome to being black in America....dysfunctional communities, fighting for better education, pointing out low wages, calling the police for legitimate issues just to be shot and killed......it goes on and on...just for society to blame you for wanting better....and then you have to play along as if nothing is wrong to make others comfortable

I've had instances where I physically feel a change of energy when I've been in a room alone, with headphones on, didn't smell them or feel any vibration in the floor, yet I was sensing them come home.

CoachM ,, I put you in pause one moment to write to you my problems and froze you puckering your gorgeous lips as to give a boy kiss ! Please help me with my problems with your authority in behavioral abuse !?!?!?

I am destroyed without any affection from my whole family ! I rather think it was the 4 jabs everyone took during COVID 19 while I was able to slip from that mark of the beast granulated substances !!!

Thank you. So what do I do about it? How do I manage the overwhelming, debilitating freeze response now 50 years later?

That was helpful Diagnosis with CPTSD not long ago.

I wish there were more safe places to go so you can leave. My daughter and I left only to find ourselves in another unsafe place that was meant to protect us. You'd think a domestic violence shelter would not cause more harm but they did.

Is that same thank Deperzonalization disorder

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How do people get over this when they can't get away from the person?

She’s describing literally EVERYONE and believes herself to be describing only some.

Thank you! I’ve been asking myself why I felt invisible my whole childhood. I carried this void through out all my life. I was bullied by my older sister, who was violent to me physically. Also, emotionally and physically neglected by my mother who always defended her and never ever looked out for me. CPTSD has been hidden deep bellow depression and anxiety because I was an autistic child and did not know how to defend myself. O am 65yo now, diagnosed last year. I can’t start telling you what this video means to me. It brings light to a very dark place with no hope. I now know I am in the way of healing. 🙏🏼🤍✨✨✨✨

I paused the video and I have no idea how to answer those questions. No clue what it’s supposed to look like or feel like.

Omg it’s like you understand everything about me I discovered that I do have trauma based social anxiety

you are the best

Meditation/Exercise starts at 18:33

I don’t feel safe around middle aged females.

Where's the example of how to do it??

Whenever I people please I would turn to self hatred so this was so helpful to have more compassion for myself thank you🥹❤️

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16:30 this was my issue all the time: disconnection from my feelings, my body, my intuition WHEN someone was rude/judgy to me and I felt like physically there but not with my brain online (not able to ask questions - I'm skeptical normally), can't understand what you're saying, only hear you talking in a tone of voice that sounds to me you are very emotionally, disrespectful or I can't understand a word. But my subconscious was tracking all what I heard so I could understand what was said to me afterwards and finally feel what I couldn't feel in the situation. But then, the other person that loaded its $%$§ onto me didn't remember anything. Very frustrating not being able to respond to someone in real time especially when boundaries were crossed and the other person thinks you are a doormat because you don't go away or defend yourself (I even smiled when it was hurting but I didn't feel it. I was crying and not sweating like the massage therapist meant.). Practicing daily nervous system regulation with a variety of tools (somatic exercises by Liz Tenuto for example) and keeping them with me when I'm out and about. For me it is now the first priority to stay present with the help of many selfhelp tools, feel my body also during interactions and when I feel stress is creeping up I take a break, do intentionally regulating exercises, because I hate the consequence: loosing connection to myself, presenting like a doormat to the other person.

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Michelle . . .I read that the year subscription is $700 but when I click on "Sign up for years subscription" It shows the amount at $900. How do I get the discount code or could you send a message explaining how to access the yearly subscription with the $259.88.

They can spot weakness better than you can imagine!

I recognize that life will never be worth living if I don't find some kind of identity. But I don't even know where to start. And I'm scared, because what I do know about myself, I do not like. What if I don't even like who I am, if I figure it out? I just don't even feel worth it.

That explains the “pulling apart” feeling i got during a flashback

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I was raised by a narcissist. She didn't believe in boundaries and had no problem with emotional abuse and manipulation. Is it any wonder that all my adult romantic relationships were cr@p and I ended up marrying another narcissist? I'm codependent like a muthafcuker.

Grandma was a manipulator like that.

Self parenting!

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Then reactive people become exploited easily

I have been suffering for flashbacks for years. The therapists never real knew what to think of my behavior. It has taken me years to understand what was did to me by my family. Believe your memories!

amazing and accurate