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As an older woman with ADHD and fibromyalgia I have been dealing with this since the 1980's when I was a teenager. Thanks for showing me there's actually some research being done. I did a full double take when I read the word Fibromyalgia behind your head. I was finally diagnosed with FMS in 1999 by a Rheumatologist. It's still difficult to navigate life with these particular comorbidities, at least not without resorting to sarcasm 😅 so I totally get you here. 😢😅😂😢😅

It is hard to express how much I wish I had heard this 30 years ago.

Not me learning I’m autistic at 30 only 1 year after being finally convinced that the back pain plaguing me since 15 does in fact count as “chronic pain” 😅 not a young woman but close enough (transmasc nb)

Is it supposed to ask me for my email that many times? >.>

I am todays years old that I found out I might be asexual. I am married for 11 years and been with my amazing man for 17 years. Now I understand more of myself. I always ask my husband why I felt this way. Growing up I don't get attracted to opposite gender, I get attracted to their intelligence and once they know I no longer get interested to them. When someone confess their love to me I never liked the feeling coz I know one way or another if I give them chances it will lead to sexual favors which is not what I want. I thought it was all because I was raised in a conservative family and I am all knowing when it comes to what men thinks. So when I was in college I even told my friend that I am not interested in men and I hate it when my friends keep on telling how they felt sexually towards the opposite sex, so it either I will find a man who wants platonic relationship with me or a woman which is easier to find to be in a relationship with me but with the same standing with mine that it is purely friendship (I can't imagine kissing another girl). I tried few relationship and ended it after coz I hate it when they took advances. When I met my husband and we started dating he took it so slow at my pace. He was so understanding of me and his assessment was because I never been into serious relationship. We navigate sexual experiences together and I remember my first time I said (oh! I thought I would feel grandest like a heaven opened up like-feeling) He would just say that over time I will enjoy it. I told him i could even read a book while he's making love at me, he would just say maybe coz its new to me. I took lists how many times he have sex with me like man in a day it would be 5x and 3x a week hahaha I was so confused why it didn't feel so good and if it was normal. One time I make the move and for the first time I felt orgasm and it was so good. I lasted less than 2 mins and then I am no longer interested. So if I want to feel good it should be me on top and let my husband do his thing while my mind will wander and think when will he stop. hahaha. I love being cuddled and being kiss. When my husband walks naked I felt no attraction, and when I walked naked he would be all over me. I would joke around that he was not normal and I was, not knowing it was the other way around. He always labeled me the loyal type of wife but I told him because I don't desire a man sexually not even him, but I love him if that makes sense. We were in a long distance relationship for 10 years and I am ashamed to say it was the best time of my life coz of no sexual contact. I felt horny at times and we masturbate together but it will always be my terms. I can call him anytime of the day either his asleep or at work and he would gladly surrender but if he feels the same it would take him few days to get a yes for me. Now that we live together I felt like sex is a chore for me. I always tell him maybe we had enough for 17 years and would stop now 😅 what I want now is companionship only. He just said I am hard work but he is determine to work out for me I just needed lots of foreplay but that's what I hate really when I get over stimulate. Sometimes I felt guilty coz he did his best for me.

I've had lower back pain and sciatica since I was 21, I' now 39, it started to ease off a little bit the last year. ,(ADHD possibly with autism).

I dont think this has quite spread over to my area of the world yet. The docs dont connect my ADHD with the connective tissue/nerve issues I have at the moment :D

Great! I’m neurodivergent, in pain, and my insurance denied my procedure at the pain clinic, so it can only get WORSE from here!

Lying in bed watching this with my ribs feeling like I’ve been kicked. My usual falling asleep situation…

I find that my medication helps with this A LOT. I don't know it it helps me ignore it or if i don't feel it as much with more dopamine on board. But either way...

❤ sending good vibes. (This tracks oof.)

Best outfit yet

Could you also put the names of the studies in the description? ❤

AND we’re more likely to have connective tissue disorders! I think it’s the world’s way of balancing power; the neurotypicals have less pain but less brainpower (think Pinky), and the Neurodivergents have incredible abilities (think The Brain) but are hindered physically from taking over the world. Just a little Animaniac Theory for ya there.

Chronic pain let's go! I love it

So excited for you, and I can’t wait to read it! You have such a wonderful narrative voice, and I’m looking forward to bingeing it in a book in the not too distant future. ❤

I appreciate this as someone who’s trying to set up to create content. I’d love to see more videos from you, or recommendations of other content that helped you when you were starting out. I want to make content about chronic illness, disability, mobility, etc as a person with those issues.

Funny that I see this at 11pm when I'm refusing to go to sleep because I'm grumpy

My Aunt hates me because of my ADHD. We had a conversation and she snapped so bad it made me realize with her words that she hates the fact that I have ADHD and she cannot stand people with ADHD and ADHD tendencies absolutely piss her off and get on her nerves and the saddest thing is her oldest daughter has ADHD no wonder they fight all the time. 😢

Just knowing I can also get hyperfocused on cleaning a cupboard at the worst time to the detriment of my own bodily functions helps me step away from doing it. But now I just need to remember to go do the survey.

Ooooooo rad. Ill pass this around!!

I may just be Shorts illiterate, but I can’t find the link. 😂

Super needed this, didn't even realize I was putting off self care cuz taking a break HAS meant that my voice isn't heard or valued when I came back. But I am in vastly different spaces now, with much better people who WILL hear me when I am filled again. Thank you❤

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Love hearing from you!

I’ve figured out that I’m demisexual, but this is the first time I’ve ever heard someone explain that asexual and demisexual folks can still enjoy/experience sexual pleasure. I don’t desire sex nor ever feel actual sexual attraction. But… I have very much enjoyed the sex I’ve had in my very few closely bonded, loving relationships. It had made me feel like a fake, a poser, and very confused as I’m now more sex-adverse since menopause. It’s a relief knowing this is part of the asexuality spectrum, Thank you!

Funny that “time blindness” disappears when it’s time to go home for the day. My snowflake, always late “time blind” self diagnosed coworker leaves to go home ON TIME everyday!

it’s been 4 years since my gma died and it’s been so hard the past few weeks. I think I’m finally in a safe environment to grieve her.

Love thick thighs😊

The worst is when you don't know that you feel something

I’m picturing now

Drop the towel please

Your tops you wear 😊😮

I developed a mental check list for something if I’m going to buy it. I used to grab almost anything hot pink, purple or Harry Potter in the sales section at places like Target. The first time I went to Target on my own in years I realized if I didn’t have someone to bounce ideas about purchases off of, I was less likely to get over excited and know I had all the time in the world to look something over without feeling rushed or I was rushing the person I was with. I used to put multiple things in a small basket that I like the look of and then go through it all before heading to check out. I ended up putting 80-90% of the things back once I really stopped and thought carefully about it. I have chronic pain and can’t wander all over a store to shop, much less put things back like I used to. So, I started looking each item from every angle over carefully BEFORE I picked the item up. It helped sooo much! I started to reach for a small, light purple water tumbler that was in the $5 sale section when you first come in that I always check out first. The more I looked at it, the more I could see it was too small to really hold the amount of water I needed and I didn’t want to be getting up extra times to refill it so I knew the odds of my using it were slim to none. Then I reminded myself I was having trouble storing the tumblers I already had and trying to declutter that cabinet for that very reason. The few I had that size were on their way out the door, because the size just didn’t work for me. Then I really looked closer at the color and decided it wasn’t a shade of purple I even really liked. (It was lavender, but if it had been a deep violet then this process would probably have taken longer than the few seconds it did.) I also saw that the lid wasn’t very well made and knew that would make it harder to open and close, the last thing you need for a tumbler you’re looking at to supposedly help you stay hydrated. So, I saw all of these details as my hand was in the middle of reaching for it, paused to admit I was right on all those points and picked it up to check the ounces it could hold and how difficult the lid was to screw on properly just to be sure I didn’t want it. As soon as I picked it up, I knew I was right on each point, but I still checked the lid anyway. It was way harder to get onto the cup part properly, and I returned it and walked away, feeling very happy I didn’t fall into the old trap of a colorful thing on sale rack grabbing my attention and making me realize only after the fact that I’m not really going to use it. It was a huge leap forward for me! 😃😃

Bars

I have never before wanted a cruise and now i want a cruise

I don’t go to big stadium concerts with light shows. I go to much smaller venues for my favorite local artists and have earplugs, my favorite hat and polarized sunglasses to help with sensory overload. I also don’t sit anywhere near the speakers.

She’s All That was definitely like that, but as it was the first PG-13 movie my mom allowed me to see in the theaters with my friends, I still get good nostalgic feelings when I watch that one or the music video for “Kiss Me” by Six Pence None The Richer. 😃😃

The last time I told a family friend that she had hurt me by saying something, hoping she might do what my family and I do and say that wasn’t our intention, we meant X instead of Y but I can see how it might have come across as hurtful even though that’s not what I was trying to do in any way. Apologize and then we could move on. Instead, she immediately told me, “Oh, we’ll you shouldn’t take it that way. You’re just TOO sensitive.” 🙄🙄 I hated that one as a kid, too, but I worked on it so it wasn’t the trigger it once was. Hearing it come out of that person’s mouth, however, did give me a good indication that I didn’t want to be around them as much. I closed my mouth, turned and walked out of the room. As I went down the hall to my own room, I started to do the “Why did I do that?” line of thinking. But I cut it off, reminded myself that I’d brought it up hoping to minimize miscommunications with her in the future. Instead of berating myself for bringing up the hurt I’d felt and for having needs, I told myself how proud I was of me for tackling this issue. A few years before that, I would have been so upset that they didn’t care that anything insensitive they’d said had been hurtful to me and I’d have been annoyed with myself for speaking up and opening that can of worms. My response to her “you’re just TOO sensitive” showed me how much I’d grown already and how worth it working on triggers like “too sensitive” and “lazy” from my childhood at school etc truly was. I didn’t let that person’s inability to ever apologize for anything and the deliberately harsh tone with the “you’re just too sensitive” spoil my day. I did, however, stop spending as much time with her, when I did see her it was for a short amount of time and I started thinking of her as my mother’s friend instead of “our” friend. This helped a lot. I also reminded myself that just because the outcome wasn’t anywhere what I’d once hoped, I had still achieved a major win by talking to her about it in the first place. I also achieved a win by keeping to my boundaries and not giving much time to someone that immediately told me something I find extremely rude and dismissive. She could be my mom’s friend and someone I went shopping with on occasion, but I realized she wasn’t going to be someone I did deep dive discussions with anymore. It took me a long time to work up to talking to people when they’d said something I’d found hurtful but that was much healthier than internalizing it and letting resentment build without saying anything and then having it happen again and again until I see red like I used to do. No matter how someone receives our words, I definitely feel working up to talking to them is a huge win! 9 times out of 10 they didn’t mean what I thought they meant. My doing this encouraged my best friend to do this with me as well. It was something I had no idea had been taken in a different way from what I intended, but once we talked it over and I explained what I’d really meant and apologized, she felt much better. She used to be silent about feeling hurt and have resentment build up, too. So, I was really glad she gave mr the benefit of the doubt and came to me so we could have a good talk and more forward without resentment. What we’ve found works best for being hurt is saying, “I know this probably wasn’t your intention, but when you said this, I felt X, Y. What did you mean when you said this the other day?” It usually turns out the other person meant Z, something we hadn’t even considered. This approach works great with my immediate family and best friend, and I’m glad we have all become more comfortable with time and practice taking this approach with each other. It definitely helps how we communicate with each other and doesn’t let resentment fester. 🌻🌻

I just spent about three hours trying to make my studio apartment less of a tripping hazard. I feel like it would take an eternity to actually get the floor fully cleared. Just feel really demotivated but at least i made some progress/tried lol.

Why are all these comments assuming it‘s an excuse to be lazy or irresponsible? She never said anything like that. People who struggle with this need to understand themselves in order to do better, and if they try hard and fail anyway, they want to explain it to people to apologize and make clear that they do care! „just use an alarm“ well, duh, setting multiple alarms and putting physical clocks all around you are tools to help, but also: a crutch doesn‘t fix a broken leg!

My affective empathy really just goes into overdrive with shared experiences but most other times I feel sympathy but not empathy so much...

Why does New York live in your nose?

The Mississippi is one of the most polluted rivers in the world right now.

The Thames is fairly clean now, it even has seahorses living it, which is a fairly good indicator of cleanliness.

15:31 I met a girl once and I wanted to do some stuff with her and she assumed that meant I wanted to go further, but I didn't want to, but I also didn't know what to do in a situation like that so I just went along with it. I don't think it's okay to make assumptions like that.

Yes 😢❤

I add things to my wishlist for the temporary dopamine. Bonus, I don't have to hunt for it if I do actually need it later

*friend, sibling, coworker, etc as well!