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More than once a bully accused me of bullying for beating their ass when I caught them bullying somebody. I don't know if this was projection or manipulation, though.

Your voice is really comforting and calming :)

Title an homage to Matt Pless?

I'm sorry you're going through this. I know you're probably not looking for pity or sympathy, but I know what it feels like to go over a decade of your life without forming any meaningful connections. it was like that to the point where I actively made it a life goal to make friends in person and maintain a solid connection. for reference, I am a 27-year-old introverted male with autism, so socializing even now isn't exactly my strong suit. but I just didn't want to feel the pain of isolation anymore. I remember spending most of my time growing up watching channels like achievement hunter and seeing a small group of people get together, play games, and make stupid jokes that everyone would laugh at. I remember wanting that so badly that it became a dream of mine to be part of a group like that despite not knowing how. a few years ago, I remember one of my coworkers talking to me about D&D. I had never played before, and she offered me to join her group to play for a few sessions. at first, getting to know the other people in the group was painfully awkward, but I kept that other fear of going back to a world of isolation in the back of my mind as motivation to keep playing, giving it my all, pouring hours into learning about this new hobby so I could better connect, and putting in the effort into being as enthusiastic about the game as I could. I was severely out of my element, but the alternative was the same static life of wishing I had friends at all and waiting for nothing to happen. for me, I treated this like it was my only chance, but I did everything I could to be fun, make jokes, just do what I can to be happy and share that happiness with the others. the difficult part was trying to find a way to be fun without crossing the line into being overbearing or obnoxious. somehow, I managed. nowadays, we text each other multiple times a week, just sending memes to each other or talking about work or family or events that we would like to go to. we find places and times to do something. doesn't matter what it is or where, just as long as it's an excuse to hang out and have fun. we do that as often as we can and it does take energy, it does take conscious effort to organize this. but in the end its more than worth it. I look back and can't remember if it was luck or desperation that led me to making friends with this small group of strangers, but it hardly matters now. If I were to offer any advice, I'd say make it an active goal to work toward, if that means using a hobby to connect to others with similar interests then that's an option and use the thought of not wanting to go back to a life of relative isolation as a motivating force. from what it sounds like, you already have a solid rapport with other people, be it online or in person, so it is a good start. it just takes that extra step, and I know it's easier said than done, it can be absolutely terrifying not knowing if it will work or not. maybe you have already tried what I said. but regardless, I believe you absolutely can make friends like the ones you say you want to have. I believe you are a lot closer to that goal than you think. please understand I am also not a professional by any means, and if this really is something deeper than difficulty forming connections, I would suggest therapy. maybe a fesh set of eyes could help you find your answers. anyway, sorry for the absolute tome of a comment. I'm wishing you the best of luck going forward.

There are 4 novelizations (basically to the time-jump). Phil goes WAY back (his first What's New was in Dragon #41) and he did a VERY cartoony diagram of Computer Data flow back in the 1970s. He also did the adaption of the first "Myth Adventures" a LOT of interior illustrations for the series. Buck Godot and Xxxenophile (an adult comic with a sense of humor and a lot of guest inkers). When popped up in Magic the Gathering, he had gotten Married to Kaja, and they did Comics for Magic and then back at Dragon, before settling in to GG. Somewhere in there he did some pro and fan work with Nick Polata (who gets name checked in the novels as the engineer of one of the walkers Gil hit with his lightning stick including the Fan Dub "You say Yamato" (he also did a couple episodes of the Star Blazers Comic Book, which is why that put upon grad student in Mechanicsburg looks like she does).

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It's so weird to me seeing people "suffering" because of this, I've lived in a third-world country all my life, and we were never able to afford buying physical media, and it seemed like this was the case with everyone I knew, when a friend in school told me he had BOUGHT a movie, I thought he was rich (he had a ps3 while everyone else had a PS2 so maybe he was lol), the "Uprising" of digital media has been a good thing for people like me, who could only watch whatever was on TV using an old TV with an antenna until like 2014 when my family decided to pay for cable (and we didn't have more than 10 channels here if not using cable)

I f with the content heavy gramps you should review "Good Kid, M.A.A.D City" by Kendrick Lamar next

Have you read Books from Brandon Sanderson or Blake Crouch?

Comming out is never not terrifying. Best case scenario, you can bring the anxiety that comes with it from an 8 or 10 down to maybe a 4. I was scared to come out to my friends who are openly gay and trans and are accepting and compassionate. My fear held me back even knowing all that. When youve been in the closet long enough, that fear, that anxiety can become so thoroughly ingrained into your psyche that it holds you back even around those you trust. However that fear can be amplified around people where there is more to lose if anything goes wrong. We grow up hearing or witnessing stories of people who come out to their either openly hateful, or neutral, or seemingly loving parents, only for their parents to disown them, or abuse them, or in rare instances, kill them. Its something that can easily live rent free in your head for a long time. Even if that scenario has no basis in reality, that ever-nagging thought "what if, what if?" still lingers on. Even if you, as the parent do nothing wrong, it doesnt eliminate that fear. What I'm trying to say is, don't be too harsh on yourself. Maybe was just difficult for her. Best thing you can do is just be there for her and let her know from time to time that you love her. This is a situation where I genuinely dont think you were at fault. Sometimes the circumstances around this sort of thing are just complicated. Especially for a teenager. I mean, hell, I didnt even come out until I was 25 and knew since I was 14. So, coming out that young even indirectly does take a lot of guts. You didnt fail as a parent. You did the best you could with the limited information you were given at the time. Remember, you're only human. The important thing is you know now and you love your daughter regardless. Thats already more than most of us could ask for in our parents.

I have just stumbled upon your videos and I love this so much. New sub, respect to you!

I ended up rage-watching Season 1. Haven't even been interested in watching Season 2. Thank you for your sacrifice.

Glad I got recommended your channel! I'm gonna binge the whole Whats On The Playlist Today series

Tuna, I'm 98% Lesbian. It's not 100% because my man crush is Jason Momoa 🤣. The only thing scarier than coming out to your parents is coming out to your grandparents. Those are the people that have given us life, nurtured us, and are our main sources of comfort. The thought of any part of us being rejected, especially by the people that we depend on that much, is terrifying. I was the same age as your daughter when I came out, back in the early 90s. Only to my mother at the time. I didn't come out to the rest of my family or friends until 2005. I didn't want to be gay. It was to the point where I would try to always have a boy on my arm. I was homophobic, making people around me aware that I thought it was weird. I figured nobody would suspect me if I aired my "disdain". Those feelings that I had inside, didn't come from my parents, or my grandparents per se. I think it was society in general. If you think of the language we use, in even being supportive to each other, we say things like, "That's normal, most people think that way" "I wish for you to have a normal, happy life", etc. It seems our goal, always, is to be "normal". When you're in your teen years and early 20s, the last thing you want to be is the lower percentile on anything. It seems like all of your time is spent trying to fit in. I struggled coming out, because I was still struggling from within. It took a number of years after I came out fully, for that struggle to subside. Even if you're a parent, you're still growing, and nobody on earth is perfect. I think of the band Rush and their song "Closer to the Heart", just keep living closer to the heart, and everything will be alright. Your daughter will be alright.

Well as a outsider looking in, I think it was just because your older and your kid might've felt that you weren't accepting cause of the generation you were born from, and it could be that a lot of parents disown their kids just because they are queer. I don't really believe that you did anything wrong, but it was just paranoia of being disowned or discriminated against by you own parents cause it's really common sadly. I can see that you're a good and accepting person, as I'm aware of you didn't do anything wrong really

Not sure how I stumbled across this video, but I’m happy I did! It takes a lot of courage and self-examination to own up to past shortcomings- which is strange considering every one of us has them. Our world is developing so rapidly, it’s difficult to understand everything when it’s coming at you all at once. As someone in his twenties who is not yet a parent, I can’t imagine how difficult it is navigating the current landscape raising children with the rapid and sudden societal and technological changes occuring. I just wanted to say 2 things: 1.) be patient with yourself - social media feels like the world is happening all at once, but we are still individuals with individual things to learn. Learning takes time. 2.) I’m not sure exactly the relationship you have with your daughter these days, but I would encourage you to speak to her directly about these thoughts. I’m sure she would appreciate your concern and self-examination. Mistakes and misunderstandings are inevitable, what matters is how we respond to them! Wishing you the best.

While Im very sympathetic to the introspective endeavor here, a young teenager is at many whims. Yes, genetics among them, but peers as well as you noted. Hence peers who stereotype older adults or your friend. I guess Im going to subscribe as you're sort of what Id like to be as a parent myself nearing middle age.

She could have also heard negative stories of coming out to your parents. Maybe your video will work the opposite way and convince some people to be brave enough to have that conversation in person and easier. Maybe it will cause other parents to think of the words to say if their child does come out to them. Beautiful story, thank you for sharing

Sometimes the world is scary, and often mean to queer people. We know older adults may hold more prejudice compared to our peers just bc of the values they were taught, or just the lack of personally knowing Lgbtq people. As a queer girl myself, theres a lot of invisible barriers that make coming out scary, even to the people you trust. Just the fact that you've been looking towards yourself and trying to improve is leagues better than what many other parents do. If she still talks to you, then you're doing fine. I know it must hurt, but dont be too harsh to yourself.

Hi! I think from your video it is very apparent you are doing your best for your daughter and the world. To sit down and reflect is a hard thing to do. Many would rather take it out on the world and even their children. Thank you for being yourself, and for trying to be the best dad you can for your daughter. I am very grateful to have stumbled upon this video of yours, it's very different to how my parents behaved way back when. They lack the ability to reflect, I am glad you do and it was nice to see you go through your thoughts as a parent. Don't be too hard on yourself, I'm sure you'll be fine. And if you are not sure, maybe it is something you can talk to your daughter about now, if you find the time. Thanks for being vulnerable.

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As a queer person, it is a scary world. We are four times more likely to have a violent crime committed towards us. Of the 4.2 million homeless youth in the states, 40% are queer, while only 9.2% of the total youth are queer. Part of it may be your failing, but it could also be the world just being so unfriendly to us. So long as you try to understand and stay open to improving yourself, you will already be doing enough. You are also looking within rather than lashing out at your daughter, so you are doing leagues better than my parents. So do not be hard on yourself.

Loved your story, and thank you for the insight. I hope your daughter feels better about herself!

Interesting, thanks for posting.

This was my dad's favorite film (and soundtrack). I had seen bits of it when I was a kid but I thought it was boring. I finally watched it in its entirety with my mom a few months ago. It felt like I was getting a glimpse into my dad's soul - the unspoken part of his personality that I was too immature to recognize when he was alive. Now that I am older I get it, and as a result, I understand him better. Great video and all the best ✌

Hey this was a great little video. Subbed

Hoteling was the term you were looking for at 9:00min, I think. Another great video though, modern social isolation is real. I've been feeling it strongly since changing careers several years ago. It requires a concerted effort to overcome it, that as you said is just hard and easier to just not do.

Immediately knew where you were going as soon as you showed the Brazil nut. My dad referred to them as the same thing when we were growing up in the 80's. He would always put one at the bottom of our Christmas stockings. And yet, he was passionately anti-racist, so it's weird to think about now! The word just ingrained itself into the cultural lexicon in a variety of ways for quite a while.

Being close-ish to your age I can appreciate where you're coming from in this video. You distilling it down to simply treating people with respect and going from there was spot on.

It's Uncle Arthur, not Uncle Albert

thank you for the recommendation! love it

It's clear that even though you might not fully understand, you're making an effort to try, and that's more than most people do. Great video! Really enjoyed it <3

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What is your opinion on trans women being allowed, or not allowed to compete in women only sports leagues?

' Hello ladies & gentlemen & everything. in-between' tells me mostly everything I need to know about you. The rest is the array of childish toys on your shelves.

Stumbled upon this video while listening to music and I’ll give a shot to The Pigs! They seem interesting, thx for the video gramps, keep it up!!!

How ironic that we are all watching you ON THE INTERNET talk about how the internet has ruined your life.

Same man

great video!

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If it makes you feel any better, social media is addicting by design. It's not likely that you'd be able to use those websites and apps and not feel the pull to check constantly. Essentially you already know what I'm going to say next. You'd have to abstain from using Facebook at all if you want to break that addiction.

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There was a scientist named Willheh Reich who put forward an idea that our species was suffering from a collective universal psychological illness. This concept aligns with an idea I have about the anthropological significance of servitude/slavery, in that it was not abolished by the oligarchs of the world, but hightened to a more subtle yet powerful 'mind war'. National identity, democracy, literacy all presemt, at an epoch of change, forcing the adaptability of our 'governors'' methods that should always be seen as some sort of variable to our general well-being...with varying levels of scrutiny so as not to become too mad with conspiracy theories. There's a villain in James Coburn's film 'In Like Flint' who yells at everyone '*''Don't let them fluoridate the water!!''* as he is being dragged away like a madman....Are we medicated already??? Would that mean we need therapy to adjust to our chemically induce domestication maybe? Or do we have some sort of civil responsibilty to be aware of it and overcome that somehow. I like the expression ''I don't need social assistance, it's society that requires my assistance'' that flips the analysis of those therapy lovers on their head, although it is admittedly in jest as maybe we're too far gone. Just an interesting observation is all that is....

Humans have always had therapy. They call it religion.

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I wonder how much of this is just the result of what our modern capitalism has become. Not the vague, monstrous catch-all, but this profiteering amalgamation of industrialization, investments, and strange system that keeps people working as long as cost-efficiently possible at the expense of anybody for the sake of the few under a very vague "free market" concept. People are either at work or recovering from work. Their jobs lack purpose, there's literally no real hope for change, there's no real reason to live for most people anymore. I think therapy is just a band-aid. But infected cuts don't need sutures. I think it'll just make things worse in the long run. I think most people agree with us on the symptoms - and to an extent on the causes, but I don't see anything changing in the US where the entire system functions solely for those who have the money. And I don't think anyone will allow it to change so long as the system is still even somewhat functioning. I would put money on if there was a general strike today, the government would start shooting people to get them back to work again and expect them to work constant over time to make up for lost time.

Yeah it comes down to gatekeeping and the idea of "Hey, I liked this thing before it was super popular and I dont like the changes happening now." Thats fine to not like the show, just dont be bitter about it. I thought the show was decent but Im happier that more people are checking out the excellent games.

exactly you don't own anything you buy digitally some people still don't understand this when you buy a digital game you're basically buying a permission slip to download it and have access to it and that permission slip can be revoked or taken away at any time for any reason but try explaining that to people selling their game consoles with 100 digital games and wanting more money because of it. you try to explain to them in vain those are not your games to sell but they still under the delusion that their account is theirs.