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One of my closest friends is an Infj, I love her and I always feel understood and appreciated:’) Idk about romantic relationships, I think it might be kind of hard since they both going to spend a lot of time together, but that also comes down to any romantic relationship in general with any type, for me I can see way ppl love this couple, I also do honestly, my Infj friend said if she’d get married she wants an Enfj male✨💪🏻😗 I said cool, since she wants someone similar to her, and as I always noticed, that fe users love other fe users as long it’s healthy, you feel appreciated, understood, and that both do give for the relationship, so that’s why I can’t say that it’s a bad match, but personally I’d go for someone who’s more different than me as Enfj if it’s romantically… Free Palestine 🇵🇸

Thank you for your softness Merja.

I'm trying to get a definition of who the four people are. From this video it sounds like there is an inner 3 year old, an inner 10 year old, an inner adult, and an inner parent? These are analogies for these archetypes, correct?

I love both types! Even made a video about THIS. INFJ & ENFJ relationship compatibility. Thanks, for talking it through! Two of the most CARING personality types 🩷🪷🐈.

I’m INFJ with an ENFJ girlfriend of 6 and a half years. We’ve just had our first year of living together, and things aren’t as easy as they were before. About five years ago I started work on a massive graphic novel project. She has always been incredibly supportive. This hasn’t changed, but there were some misguided expectations that we both had about living together. This video, at least in the way of personality types, seems to really hit the nail on the head for what I believe is going on with us right now. It seems we are both in our respective “loops,” and can’t seem to harmonize as well with the other.

Wow excellent explanation. Just what I was looking for. I liked the example with the police taking notes for review but not to trust them with full faith.

InTJs do not have a problem with not understanding what the other person is going through or feeling. Its not what the presence or absence of Fe looks like. Fe is extroverted in its nature so the trouble comes when INTJs have to act on those feeling signals coming off of a sad person.

This is so freeing to hear "I am not responsible for my parents suffering or emotional landscape" - THANK YOU.

I needed this video for the last year. Thank you x10000

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Thank you. You inspire our healing, our creative/unique development, and our sensitivity to our basic needs & the needs of others. Thank you fir living on target, and on mission. #2050 C.E.

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Im an ENFJ and for some reason Im finding my INFJ wife to be a bit of a narcsist all the sudden. Shouldnt be this hard to creat harmony. Never been a problem the first 15 years of our lives together, but the last 6 Ive been starving to death on bread crumbs and thats just the start of it really. Kinda crumby if you ask me. I believe we are both created heavily by being raised this way but must have taken away a diferant belief abouot it all. I believe its BS to be that way and she thinks its normal?????????????????????? More here then just a cognitive fuction switch around Im guessing. But IO could be wrong... But I dont thinmk so really. Either way Im about to ENFJet The F out of here soon if she cant find common ground some how. And thats really saying something drastic for me personaly. I never give up on Jack Squat with my briliant stubborness but am considering it honestly.

Appreciate your insights ❤️

I would say his behaviour is sickly and cruel and my advice is leave the guy, settle a divorce and have custody of the kid. But then, I believe you don't subject children to weird confusing lifestyles.

Im an intp girl too and im interested in an esfp girl I will try to be closer to her but its always get hard and compilcated to me, yah sometimes i think i should go back but i will try my best

Nice. ENTJ here and if you use your Ni/Te It goes like telling yourself "1) hey but is it really all negative? 2) Would I not encounter negatives if I move change jobs; 3) can i live with these negatives and without the positives? (because sometimes leaving is a good thing)". Ultimately I think the main point to ask yourself is "Can I be balanced and at peace in any situation/job/country from within and let go more and more on these negative non controllable factors interfere too much with my happiness?"

So true. I recently decided to make some change, and created a 'grand plan' project in my todo list which basically stores all the concepts/knlwoedge/skills I wanted to learn, whether it be for job or just for fun. (Before this they have already been stored somehwere for years, I just gathered them together to make a more comprehensive plan). I PLAN to one day organize them into more concrete steps (like which ones to learn everyday, learn in a couple of months or future years). Well, and that was probably two months ago... 😂

Never.... It makes 3 unhappy individuals.. divorce and be happy

INTP-ESFP form a bronze pair relationship according to RUclipsr CS Joseph. Bronze pair relationships are the most common and successful. As the strength of one's dominant function makes up for the other's trickster (7th function) and weakest function. And each parent function watches over the other's inferior. The ESFP's Fi parent watching over the INTP's baby Fe. And the INTP's Ne giving ideas and options for the ESFP's baby Ni.

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basically, esfp needs a lot of hugs? i'm not ready for that

My longest relationship was with an ENFJ however he did not communicate to me his issues, he confided in his friends and that led to the downfall of our relationship. We had a lot in common and a good friendship but ultimately wanted different futures. We both have since moved on amicably.

Thank you for the very detailed and clear information about the introversion vs Extraversion pairs. Makes so much sense! More of this, please.

What is the web address for this test?

thank you my friend

btf

It will negatively affect her child if she stays🤦

Thank you so much Merja! This is so profound! I needed to hear this 🙏🏾

😓😣why an enfj will block an infj when we had plans yhe next day and spoke about them the day before? Im still trying to.understand?:( Im sad😓

Thanks. I needed to see this

Thank you for your video.. is there any way you could create a video or give your thoughts on a relationship between an ESFP and an INFP?

I can't wait!!

As an INTP with an ESFP dad, very taxing.

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That was a wonderful explanation. thank you so much. ( Infp btw.) absent parent, eh? great way of looking at that...

What do we have here....

Very insightful. Relationships between INTP and ESFP can be so dynamic because in some ways they can draw each other out but in others, there's definitely a need for compromise and negotiation.

I used to think I was the strangest person in the world but then I thought, there are so many people in the world, there must be someone just like me who feels bizarre and flawed in the same ways I do I would imagine her, and imagine that she must be out there thinking of me too. well, I hope that if you are out there you read this, please know that yes, it’s true I’m here, and I’m just as strange as you.

I love e this video. So much great stuff. Get up on your soapbox ANYTIME😊 also- you love fantastic in that Colour. Thank you Merja!

Hi Merja, I love your criteria for making good decisions. This is something I can definitely use for both big and small choices in life. Thank you!

Wonderful! Thank you 🙏

This is very interesting. I'm a female INTP and I had a boyfriend who used to try to cuddle me while I was trying to wash the dishes and I would have to ask him to back off because I didn't want to stick my elbow in his stomach by accident. Also, I didn't mind the hug but I literally couldn't move very easily, so I couldn't wash the dishes. He did back off when I asked but I was afraid I was hurting his feelings by rejecting him. I never thought about me asking him for a hug or something before I did the dishes. Initiating physical affection does not come naturally to INTPs. I think about it but usually don't act on the thought. It might be different if I felt justified in "preemptively" fulfilling a partner's need before it got to the point he was love-starved. Hmm... I also did not like feeling guilty for having to reject his affection because then it made me feel like I owed him something more than a hug, to make up for my rejection. I had to resist the urge to offer to go further with him physically than I was ready for at the time (cuddling in bed [with clothes on] literally made me shake and my hands got ice cold) which is one reason I broke up with him. I didn't like feeling manipulated by my own guilt or being angry at him for trying to hug me. Also, I thought it was rude to bother me while I was doing a necessary task but didn't want to scold him for that on top of rejecting his affection. It's distressing how such a simple act manages to generate such a lot of negative feelings.

Great answer. Walk in another person's shoes and try to understand where they are coming from and how they are feeling. Thanks for sharing! You are a star!

What's a broken heart? (This may be rhetorical.)

Thank you for acknowledging those of us in the “not always”. Too many relationship advice books and videos make simplistically broad Mars vs. Venus generalizations based on the majority (or at least the popular conception of what the majority is) and deny the existence of the rest of us, or dismiss us as if we’re just some pedantic footnote that is such a ridiculous bother to have to mention. Gender stereotypes silence voices and cause anguish and suffering.

Good insights. Can you do a video on how INTJs can develop extraverted feeling function?