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Reneiloe Matlaisane
Добавлен 6 окт 2021
Here, we celebrate the joy of being 30, childfree, and living our best lives. Join me as I share personal stories, tips, and inspiration on how to embrace freedom, pursue passions, and create a fulfilling lifestyle.
Whether you're already childfree or just curious about this path, you'll find a supportive community and uplifting content that proves happiness comes in many forms.
Let's redefine what it means to thrive at 30 and beyond
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Whether you're already childfree or just curious about this path, you'll find a supportive community and uplifting content that proves happiness comes in many forms.
Let's redefine what it means to thrive at 30 and beyond
! #childfree #childfreebychoice #30andhappy #lifestyle #womanhood #womanempowerment #childfreelife
Dating childfree: Bsby daddy chronicles 1
Dating childfree can be so tricky. There are a lot of men that have children and they will try convince me that their child won’t be a problem.
However being childfree and loving a childfree lifestyle is a choice I will stick to no matter how convincing baby daddy’s may be.
#childfree #childfreebychoice #childfreelifestyle #babydaddydrama #babydaddyproblems
However being childfree and loving a childfree lifestyle is a choice I will stick to no matter how convincing baby daddy’s may be.
#childfree #childfreebychoice #childfreelifestyle #babydaddydrama #babydaddyproblems
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Childfree by choice advocacy South Africa
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Welcome to Childfree by Choice Advocacy, a platform dedicated to empowering individuals who choose to live a childfree life. We’re here to raise awareness, break stereotypes, and create a supportive community for those who value freedom and independence. Through education, outreach, and open discussions, we challenge societal expectations and advocate for the right to choose a life without chil...
Having regrets is not exclusive to being childfree
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There are many things that you could regret more than not having kids #childfreebychoice #childfree #childfreelifestyle #southafrica
Childfree event postponed
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Need more time and resources #childfreebychoice #childfree #childfreelifestyle
Childfree by choice movement
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Imagine if all childfree women commented on every single pregnancy announcement and gender reveal #childfreebychoice #childfree #childfreelifestyle #southafrica
Childfree by choice lifestyle under threat in Russia
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Russia is considering severely fining people who promote and live the childfree life style. Amid the war and declining birth rates the government believes that childfree by choice individuals are a threat to the well being of the nation. #childfreebychoice #childfree #childfreelifestyle #Russia
6 pillars of being childfree by choice
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Childfree by choice is a lifestyle decision however it comes with some important pillars that foster a wholesome life #childfreebychoice #childfree #childfreelifestyle #southafrica
Childfree by choice is not a war on humanity
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Childfree by choice is not a war on humanity
Another reason added to why I don’t want to have children
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Another reason added to why I don’t want to have children
Childfree WhatsApp group it’s a global conversation
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Childfree WhatsApp group it’s a global conversation
Our first childfree by choice ladies event will be 26 October 2024
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Our first childfree by choice ladies event will be 26 October 2024
Shaming language against being childfree by choice
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Shaming language against being childfree by choice
People will threaten you life with pregnancy
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People will threaten you life with pregnancy
GRWM for a Childfree radio interview
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GRWM for a Childfree radio interview
Fear mongering in the childfree community
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Fear mongering in the childfree community
Being self aware is an important skill to have
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Being self aware is an important skill to have
Closed women’s month August on a high note
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Closed women’s month August on a high note
Stop auditioning to be a wife by giving a man a child
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Stop auditioning to be a wife by giving a man a child
Protect yourself against baby mama culture
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Protect yourself against baby mama culture
The importance of childfree education
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The importance of childfree education
Responding to negative comments about being childfree
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Responding to negative comments about being childfree
How my book 30 + childfree and happy can help you navigate a childfree life
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How my book 30 childfree and happy can help you navigate a childfree life
Part 2 analysing the difference in rules change in Miss SA
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Part 2 analysing the difference in rules change in Miss SA
The differences between Miss SA 2020 vs Miss SA 2024 rules
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The differences between Miss SA 2020 vs Miss SA 2024 rules
Things I have learnt about dating while childfree
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Things I have learnt about dating while childfree
Sorry can't hear you.
Why is this in my feed. I don't care about people talking about talking to people with kids and they don't have kids. Why is there a monologue. Wtf???
The happiest people I know are all childfree. My best friend has a baby, and she confessed to me one night that it has ruined her life. Children ruin everything. They ruin your body, your finances, your sex life, your career, your hobbies, your home and your mental health.
Its so wierd when they say they dont have custody like its a positive thing. Im child free, but even if i wanted kids that would be SO SUSPICIOUS. In my country the default agreement is 50/50 so wtf did he do to lose custody of those kids??? I would be demanding to see court documents
Childfree by choice, would never date man with kids, dogs, or cats. Lol. Married 53 years, feel sorry for young single ladies
I'm sending 🤔... Woolies Dash PnP ASAP Checkers 60Sixty... Just to mention a few😂
Im in a relationship with a dad of an 8 year old girl. She lives with her mom as well
There is a difference between saying you don't want men with children or you don't want children. If you don't want to have children, most men wouldn't even want to be in a relationship with you anyway. But if you dont want men with children, that's just your relationship standard.
True I find when I say I don’t want children most men see it as a challenge to conquer me but ultimately aren’t interested in a relationship
NAO! The planet is not overpopulated 🤨 And theirs more than enough to go around. It’s just the wealth of this planet is in the hands of a very small group of people & is not being used to support the growing population. ☝🏽Fact - Most of this planet is empty. We could build more. We could make uninhabitable lands habitable. We could create more natural resources. Haven’t you ever wondered why the so-called third world are richer in natural resources, yet it’s poor?
Happy Sabbath Sis!
I believe in doing you. As long as you are ok with the way you decide to live your life, who are we to criticise.
I had noticed the unplanned pregnancy problem ten years ago and would ask myself how these children would fare in life… 60% teen pregnancy is sad, that’s not taking into account the women in their 20‘s whose boyfriends ditch them when they fall pregnant… If you ask me, being childfree is more logical in today’s world. Having children is more about instinct, societal pressure, etc. and no thought is given about the future circumstances of the child who is being brought into the world… Sad Much love from Perth!
This is refreshing. I don’t live in SA anymore and it’s good to see someone from my generation back home who understands my view… Over here 🇦🇺 it’s somewhat normal to not have children. In fact, I had my vasectomy done in Cape Town a few months before I left SA.
Hey we are now bold enough to speak out thank you so much good on you
What methods or choices are you making to avoid having children?
The ignorance is astounding
Being childfree may have many pros, but needing to recite them shows bitterness. The ultimate completion of a person comes through procreation, simple facts
Well this is a childfree by choice page you could say the same for any page that has chosen a niche. The problem is you assuming everyone wants to procreate not everyone does and this is a community that celebrates that
@@chrispandis9221 That's just your opinion. By your logic if parents are sooooo happy being parents they wouldn't need to post photos of their kids or make any kind a videos related to being a parent. You are the one that sounds bitter about your life choices. I hope u can heal from that.
Zero lies detected. 💅🏽
Oh yes 💪🏾
Enaknya jadi manusia = 1. Ada makanan 2. Fisik sehat 3. Panjang umur 4. Punya keluarga 5. Ada tempat tinggal bagus 6. Manusia Jujur 7. Saling toleransi 8. Masuk surga 9. Dapat rezeki. 10. Damai dengan orang. 11. Mempunyai pemimpin yang mendukung rakyat. Dll Tidak enaknya jadi manusia = 1. Kelaparan 2. Kadang merasakan sakit , ada yang berkebutuhan khusus ( tidak bisa melihat, tidak bisa mendengar, tidak bisa berbicara ), ada yang sakit berat = stroke , kanker , dll , ada yang kehilangan anggota tubuh . 3. Suatu hari meninggal 4. Ada yang tidak punya keluarga 5. Ada yang tidak punya tempat tinggal atau tempat tinggal jelek 6. Ditipu orang 7. Rasis SARA ( suku , agama, ras dan budaya) , Rasis yang lain. 8. Masuk neraka 9. Harus bekerja kalau mau punya harta 10. Di hina orang ( atau menghina orang ) 11. Mempunyai pemimpin Tidak mendukung rakyat Dll. Maka dari itu saya memutuskan tidak punya anak. Ada gak enaknya jadi manusia. Mungkin anak saya mengalami hal buruk tersebut . Ya walaupun ada enaknya jadi manusia, saya tetap tidak punya anak. ( Indonesia language)
I really appreciate this indepth break down actually giving me some content ideas. One thing I love about the childfree community we think beyond social construct and actually have logical reason to not have children
Yes speak for us I could NEVER
I’m happy to do so give me more ammunition 🥳💪🏾❤️
Yeah, you can't choose not to have them!...but Putin sure can snatch them and send them to the meat grinder in his war!
Wow 60% single mother home, these blk men are the same world-wide. The number one creators of single mothers
Yep it’s crazy your more likely to become a single mother it’s really sad most men just leave their children to be raised without them
Russian women of reproductive age (18+-30's) will be online actively seeking men in other countries for marriage so as to get away from this policy. so ladies be prepared to have even more competition in the online dating scene as some of these women can be slim and quite beautiful.... and they dont want children so they WILL attract men who also either have children of their own and want no more kids..... or they also want to be childfree so they would be more open to taking in a beautiful single young childfree russian bride. These women gladly submit to men as they are dependent on them in this type of arrangement. thats way too perfect of a set up for American men.
Omg you must be a super fuckin incel 😢
CF women are quite intelligent, aware & independent, and are financially stable, so they don’t have to oblige to the patriarchy. They don’t look for any baby daddies.
I think you need to go to the mental hospital 😂
Russia: we want more babies to be born so they can continue to fight our senseless wars! 😩😩😩
Imagine and they not even giving incentives but yet wanna fine people for being responsible
@@ChildfreeByChoice_SA exactly!! 💯💯💯💯
Reset and Reload Sweetheart ❤
Enjoy life daughter ❤ papa loves you
Keep up the good work
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We all have regrets, but as we move forward in life we learn to choose our paths❤ and respect the choices of others.
I am a man just turned 40. Never married, no kids. Been caring for my ailing father, don’t have time to start a family to appease outsides in society.
True I also had to help a family member during a recovery after an operation and if I had kids I wouldn’t have had the time or energy too. Do what’s best for you and may God continue to strengthen you
@@ChildfreeByChoice_SA Bless you. Thank you.
I’ve been married and raised 3 kids with a husband and father in the home but not helpful. I love my kids and I do not regret them. Women have worked so hard to earn the right to choose their own path. I applaud and support women who want to choose what is best for them. We all make life choices and we all must eat the fruits of those choices. As an adult, you live with them. It doesn’t make you bad or wrong to choose differently.
Thank you so much for your openness. I really appreciate the support from parents that understand. It’s true we all do and need to be mindful of everything we do. Parenthood is a life time commitment and kids deserve the best out of us all.
How can I join the WhatsApp group
Send me an email Reenay05@gmail.com will send you the link
They wanna silence us so bad 😂
FACTS😂
Thailand 🇹🇭 is also becoming a safe haven for Russian XY to run to to avoid military service 😅 They have good visa requirements there so they can stay up to 6months there
Thanx for the tips and info at this point we gotta know where the safe havens are cause we ain’t safe, they gonna ban being childfree 😅
@@ChildfreeByChoice_SA for us girls, we going to be on abortione tourism and medical (tie your tubes) tourism Turkey 🇹🇷 is on the list
My dear woman, please check and familiarise yourself with a term Abortione tourism- it’s when a woman goes to other country to have an abortione there by private provider. I suspect that a new phenomena will arise: tie tube or getting sterilised tourism 😅 Women will go on holiday to turkey 🇹🇷 or other similar places to get the procedure and stay in hotels by the beach 🏝️ to recover for 2 weeks 😅and then will go back home to work like nothing ever happened 😂 ❤
Amen
You know what imma research this cause in my country even getting a contraceptive and not having kids they hassled me. I was told have at least one kid before you do something drastic, and it’s hard to get your tubes tied you either need your father’s permission or the permission of my imaginary husband and kids. Just may book a solo trip cause I don’t want know surprises
My dear woman, please check and familiarise yourself with a term Abortione tourism- it’s when a woman goes to other country to have an abortione there by private provider. I suspect that a new phenomena will arise: tie tube or getting sterilised tourism 😅 Women will go on holiday to turkey 🇹🇷 or other similar places to get the procedure and stay in hotels by the beach 🏝️ to recover for 2 weeks 😅and then will go back home to work like nothing ever happened 😂 ❤
I spoke Russian as my second language 😅 In Russia 🇷🇺 they decriminalised DV😅 So pick your battles wisely ❤ military service is mandatory for XY 😅
I spoke Russian as my second language 😅 I’m Russia 🇷🇺 they decriminalised DV😅 So pick your battles wisely ❤ military service is mandatory for XY 😅
Russia 🇷🇺 was considering to ban Sampson’s 😅
Their government is doing this due to a massive population issue and the war in Ukraine. Their population has been dying due to a high suicide rate, high epidemic, low quality of life, abused households and lack of government competence. Their hypocritical oligarchs want further control over the lower classes so they decided to make up some honestly terrible things in order to keep power...
This is so sad and diabolical. Instead of helping the population get to a healthier state mentally, physically and emotionally cause to have those issues that impacted that reduced the population means that there is a problem within the system, the solution isn’t to add more people to a broken system but to work on fixing it.
I hate humanity. Don’t have kids and I’m proud to not increase world population for massive deaths and suffering soon to be.
Exactly
Sooo… that’s the reason why THEY are having children? 🤨
You would be surprised I’ve had so many people ask you so who you gonna send to the shops when you older
As a mother, I salute you young women. Don't listen to these pick me's and religious nut jobs about your regretting it, you will not. My sister is child free, she is 48 and happy. My aunt was child free, and lived a wonderful life, doing what she loved and wanted to do. stop having these low lives babies, being married will not save you from being a single mother, and being a single mother with no support is hard ( they don't want to pay child support, and they don't want to take the kids), plus you risk your life having children, they never mention how dangerous pregnancy and childbirth can be, to both the mother and the baby. They just want you to have babies to grow up and be workers to fund these rich corporations. Don't sacrifice your life based on what other people think or their personal experiences, some of them say they regret it, but the majority, absolutely do not regret it. Also, if you are one of the ones saying you regret not having children, then why don't you go and adopt some, there are plenty of unwanted babies needing homes.
Well let me put my 2 peanuts in here. Is NOT a choice that you will be proud qnd be happy later. I mad the choice because I didn’t want to go through all the assisted reproductive procedures more than 3 times. Was nerve wrecking and my husband, now in GOD’s rest, was feeling it. So I made the choice! Now at 48 yrs old I regret it with all my heart!! Don’t illude yourselves with all the words I read in the comments so far or by this girl’s. Having your child, raising them, being a mother is the most precious and beautiful gift you are denying yourself. Don’t do it!!! I have met many women in my position, they all have regretted this choice, we all are in a group to become foster parents. Take the leap of courage this decision requires, and stop listening to the lies of those who cannot so they teach! Please don’t let yourself go childless and without a good hard-work needing relationship! Is so sad!!!
That is your experience I’m glad you shared it but your experience doesn’t determine I will regret it. I’m very sure I don’t want kids and neither do I desire to be a mother
I think you need to work on how you share this message. Lol. Regret is a part of life mam, at some point most of us will regret the things we did and or didn't do. Much as I empathize with your situation, for all regretful persons, there are many other who regret having kids and can't undo that or even open up about it cause it's taboo. I'm sure many of us have thought thoroughly about this, and have decided that regret is something we can live with.
@@ChildfreeByChoice_SA you will! It is natural for women to want to share smth that is deep. I cannot explain it to you, but don’t make the mistake. Have one child and love on that little person like there is nothing else. Don’t cut your nose to please the masses because is in fashion! It will make you empty and no one will give a rat’s behind when you will be in old age. People have a propensity to hit you with the same weapons you gave them, and you are giving people nukes.
@@MentalFacility-u7o first of all, I didn’t give a message, I gave advice. Second I gave it in my third language, which means isn’t my mother tongue but my third learned. Third, I gave advice, I don’t have to be careful about a part of my life I am not regretting, my husband made a sickness out of his infertility and I needed to protect him. Now people who regret having children are very little, and usually very narcissistic. I work with disabled, no one of those parents says it would have been better to not have them. I have seen them sad but it is because their kids will forever have difficulties, but they never regretted them. Now you might think is gangster to tell you are free and do whatever you want, but as a woman you will have a deep profound regret and hole that no one can fill. Is ingrained in the feminine nature to miss it, because that is our nature: to be mothers! I encourage you to not laugh at your future, don’t make mistakes like jumping beds and living like you are forever 20! Find a honest working man who loves you and make a family with him. There is nothing at the end of an empty bed even if the memories of the last one that left are still present. Make a good honest working a life and fill it with children
@@Ardiane1 I'm not reading that PhD dissertation. Have a good day. 🤝🏿
How can one join your group chat
Hi please send me an email reenay05@gmail.com will send the link
@@ChildfreeByChoice_SA sent
I’m a mother and I love it, yet I fully endorse this message! 😂 I chose to have my baby with a wonderful man, after we married and AGREED to plan for the pregnancy and our parenting approach. If I hadn’t met him, I would still be living my best healed, childfree life, with zero pressure to have kids just because society says so! I agree 100% with bringing less traumatised children into the world.
Thank you so much for your support
The group link pls
Please send me an email Reenay05@gmail.com
I'd never head generational trauma called a "generational curse" before but yeah, there is so much bad stuff we pass on to other people and stuff that makes us miserable that our kids will have to grow up with if we don't recognize it and try to work on first. People all over the world take part in alloparenting (adults helping other adults raise their kids). If every single adult were responsible for their own children, we wouldn't have enough human effort to help raise kids because they need multiple adults, not just their parents, to grow up well. If you think that would lead to a dramatic decrease in population, remember that there are parents who still want to have 3+ kids. So there is even more reason to let childless adults choose to be child-free, to help other families out and take care of other community-oriented tasks that parents might not have as much time to devote toward. As a so-far childless adult approaching 30, I enjoy putting my time into making my community a better place for both myself and for families to live in (ecological restoration mostly, plus some bicycle-friendly advocacy and playing music)
I love this this is true I have worked in childcare for 10 years if I had a kid I wouldn’t be able to I do tutoring to help parents with their kids homework.
4B feminism is a MUST
Im so tired after work and can barely survive on my own ??
Like for real I can’t imagine with kids that need my undivided attention