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"It feels boring, pointless and useless..." That's what she said.

You describe parts of myself that I recognize but have never consciously identified. I fit almost everything you've described :)

Thank you! More please

That's a relatable video for me. Thanks for sharing. I had one year of selective mutism when I was 4 and had social anxiety after that. I only learned what it was quite recenlty (at nearly 35 !) and I think it's really important to understand what is shyness, what is introversion and what is anxiety. At least it helped me a lot to understand what was part of my personnality and what I needed to fix to become happier. I'm doing a lot better since 3 or 4 years. I challenge myself a lot nowdays and as you said, it helps.

I am autistic and in my childhood I dealt with alexithymia , selective mutism, anxiety attacks, and awkward! so , I have a list of childhood trauma and was being bullied , one of them is, when I was in 1st standard I had a very rude and angry teacher and I feared asking her abt going to washroom and I used to hold the pressure until the point when its so painful and out of control , the whole time I used to prepare a script on how would i ask her! and when it got uncontrollable and I dared to asked her she refused me to go each time also the washroom was far far away, and I started crying but she didn't let me go, so I peed on my seat and all the kids ran away, and the principle scolded her in front of whole class for her behaviour and for the first time i felt that someone is there for me and gets me , so I did it for 3 days straight everytime when she refused me to go ..on purpose cuz it was easier than to beg her to let me go that far ... Also I never knew I should pee until its too late ..

If you get friends make sure they genuinely support you and help you level up. You can succeed without people or friends believe in yourself

Wow, how do even have the motivation to push yourself to get out of that scary zone?

I’ve been trying to do shadow work on this experience of selective mutism as a child but yeah idk why I couldn’t talk. It felt like I physically could not talk and the more I tried the more there was like a chokehold on my neck. The more someone told me to talk the less power I felt in having to talk. I let people bully me because of it and the spiraled into more depression and powerlessness. I couldn’t speak up for myself and let people humiliate me and what hurts the most is I let it happen.

I hate being an introvert in the United States where introvertedness is treated like some sort of mental deficit. Makes me wanna move to Japan; maybe I'll fit in better there.

I hate small talk too BUT Unpopular opinion here: I have found its a nice way to eventually segway into something deeper and that can lead to an actual real connection being made. For that reason alone I think small talk can be quite useful.

I’ve had almost 30 jobs in the last 12 years, and moved 7 times in the last 8 years. I can chameleon myself into pretty much any social group and charm them initially, but any time I try to form a deeper connection with someone I realize that fundamentally, I just do not have the same interests or priorities. I’ve had plenty of time alone to figure myself out and come to terms with who I am, but forming genuine connections with others always feels like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole, and I always end up feeling just as alone as when I started. It’s less feeling inadequate and more feeling like I’m genuinely in the wrong place all the time

I've sat the MBTI several times over the last 14 years. The first time was for a job application, and thereafter for personal interest and at the request of my ex. It's always been INTJ-A. After deep diving into the meaning of the acronym, I wasn't surprised. All I can say is embrace your personality type and utilise its strengths. Just be yourself and always be true to yourself.

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Wish i knew more about this in my youth(54).Maybe my life would have turned in different direction.Not being scared all the time.

I Hate begin introvert bc just I overthing when I have conversetion to people, but if one of my friend is with me i wil commnuicate with people freely, but this year I got class with out my friend it was the worset year ever

so fake it till you make it and step out of your comfort zone? eh

Easiest way to get clicks these days is to tell people you have the answer for them feeling weird outside their comfort zone. Which is every person on Earth, it's part of the human experience!

The hardest thing I do as an introvert is getting people to understand how I react to social encounters. People invite me to events and I accept. The day of the event my anxiety takes over and I do not attend. I will stress over missing the event. Then there’s seeing the person that invited me and trying to explain why I did not attend. Usually I lie. Not many people understand introverts. Thanks for sharing your videos. There’s a lot here that I can incorporate into my view of being the way I am.

I'm so introverted sometimes I intimidate myself. 😛 Hint: It's our default facial expressions that freak people out, especially when we're lost in thoughts. 🙂

It’s even worse when you’re a man. Your sex life suffers for it.

I think people in our lives do matter, but how we react matters more for sure. Great guide and video.

Quick story. I was once at a graduation celebration and all these old ppl kept coming up to me one by one and chatting. Everytime they asked me a question, I simply answered and left it at that. I wasn't going to ask them a question in return. Also, when they said some random bullcrap, I usually didn't respond. Crap made me feel so unintelligent, but the fact of the matter is I JUST DON'T CARE.

BIG FAX. I ALWAYS HATED SMALL TALK. CRAP FELT SO POINTLESS

Amazing. Sounds just like how I think. I'm a VIrgo, too. This perspective really helped!

Loved these tips! They are so helpful!

Thanks for being so vulnerable open and brave to admit this ..

I adore small talk, big talk. Why is it considered binary?? This is what foxes me. I don’t understand why it’s not also a thing to like adore and do both?? 🤷🏻 why is it only either / or

I like you very much.

Most people will not like you, bit why would you care?FThe only persons that matter are those who will give you a hand when you are in deep shit.

You are great!Thank you.Thats real life wisdom😊

Real

So true. Confidence is important!

Just Subscribed. I found your video today and since I’m also a introvert its nice to know why some people might be afraid of me.

Lady you're annoying.....you're making a big deal out of nothing

Did you go to some inspiration conference that made you think you'd be an inspiration?

Everyone has as some point....you still have no personality......

How you can be more interesteding...I'll do this by boring....I'm just a loser trying to make money.....

at 1st its fun with extrovert partner but later it gets annoying when the extrovert's friends interfere the relationship

Ok for a bit but not constant how are yiur cats how's yiur weather what did you have for dinner over and over I can do small talk not for long though called futile talk and it's annoying as fingernails on a chalkboard

this channel is like home to me, i can relate to it a lot. its been 10 months since you last posted a video, and i dont mean to bug you, but please lol i love them. come back when you feel like it, or ready

I like being a intervert I just don't like being around extroverts because they talk so much

BEAUTIFUL.

Yeah , it's like in order to be accepted by others you need to accept yourself first

hi. I have selective mutism. I was diagnosed at age 5 back in the late 70s. Back then no one knew what selective mutism was. I did take a video of me speaking. I didn't think that I sounded good.

Are people who had selective mutism when they were 5 and when they overcome it, do they also become stupid?

I was diagnosed with selective mutism when I was 5. I had to just mess up and fail and not try again because it was too late.

This didn’t help much if any for me. Im sorry

Can you be who you really are or is this just a persona that you project to be accepted?

I hate being an introvert. I really, really needed this.

My social anxiety is the reason I'm hooked on Valium and it's HELL. Despite being on Valium i cannot go to a hair salon because i start shaking and twitching, my heart gets all heavy, my neck gets very stiff and it triggers a migraine... It's so awkward because usually the person doing my hair doesn't understand.