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Weekly Fascination
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Добавлен 18 мар 2022
Discover the magic of Japan through the eyes of a foreigner living in Tokyo. Join me on a journey of cultural exploration, as I introduce you to the customs, cuisine, and hidden gems of Japan that most tourists never get to experience.
Never share these 9 things about yourself in JAPAN (especially at WORK)
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0:00 Intro
0:46 Love life
2:42 Family
3:24 Religion
3:56 Politics
4:16 Past failures
5:00 Criminal history
5:54 Do Japanese keep everything secret?
6:32 Drugs in Japan
7:20 Health issues
8:32 Japanese love to drink
9:23 Money
10:43 Three simple rules
11:20 The second word in "office politics" is "politics"
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0:00 Intro
0:46 Love life
2:42 Family
3:24 Religion
3:56 Politics
4:16 Past failures
5:00 Criminal history
5:54 Do Japanese keep everything secret?
6:32 Drugs in Japan
7:20 Health issues
8:32 Japanese love to drink
9:23 Money
10:43 Three simple rules
11:20 The second word in "office politics" is "politics"
Do you want to get a 🚅 JR pass for Japan? 🇯🇵
If so, click here: click.jrpass.com/aff_c?offer_id=19&aff_id=999
#japantrip #traveljapan #traveldiaries #japantravel
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Vlogging in Japan (podcast clip)
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How to bring a dog to Japan (podcast clip)
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Podcast Episode 28 Kurt Bell, author and family man
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Kurt Bell is an author and family man who has spent years moving between America and Japan. Now, with both he and his wife retiring, and their daughter grown after graduating from college in the United States, the whole family-including their two dogs-is resettling in Japan. Kurt shares his experiences of navigating this transition, reflecting on the challenges of moving internationally with pe...
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So when the coworkers go to relax and drink together at an izakaya on Fridays, they still don't talk about their lives? Makes absolutely no f sense to me, tbh... 😂
The rules are different when you go drinking.
Good rules to follow anywhere.
i think this applies anywhere with varying degrees. When I first started my first job as an intern in a small graphics design company (it was randomly assigned company during college), my boss sat us interns down and asked us about what we wanted to do in the future. Everyone else said the obvious that they were going to continue pursuing the industry, while I said I wanted to change careers (my grades were mediocre and i was losing passion). THAT just triggered the red flag and a few days later id receive a message from my college lecturer saying that my boss was unhappy about my under performance and tried to kick me out, I had to explain myself and in the end I managed to stay for the term but it was a horrible experience stressed about being back stabbed at any time. Made me realize how naive I was, things can just backfire on u even if it was a honest opinion. Never again Im going to share too much!
Almost everything I talk about in this video came through personal experience, or the experience of someone close to me. I was incredibly naive in my 20’s. I genuinely like most people and I’m happy for the success of others, and I just assumed everyone was like that. I was wrong.
I agree with a lot you have said about interactions in the Japanese work place. It feels like a constant psychological game is being played and if you approach the work place in a naive way you will be chewed up. It's sad that you spend so much time surrounded by people you don't know you can trust. This is not how life should be.... I see why now people talk about going back to small communities where people can just be themselves and respect and trust the next person 😢😢😢😢
Well-said. Also, remember that people might not even be aware that they’re playing a game because they grew up in the environment.
I mean it sound like socially accepted pettiness- sorry they feel that way when i have no control over their feeling other than my own. But now i had tread and remind myself - they dont deserve your truth when they never earned your trust.
Always remember, the 2nd part of “office policy” is, after all, “politics”.
If you are a native English speaker, people will hate you (or at least be extremely jealous) for that. But they will be relieved and forgive you if they realize you are complete dork. If you're fluent in Japanese, it's even worse (because you're a show-off!).
Is there anything good about Japanese working culture, for you as a foreigner? It seems like everything is completely toxic and the only people that benefit are Senpai/superiors at the company.
The thing I love about working in Japan is that nobody wants to talk about religion, politics, or my personal life. I don't want to discuss my personal life at work.
I am autistic - I can not read the air nor read the room, sometimes I can not quickly decipher facial expressions. Oh and I overshare, like always. Just me I guess. I have not yet been to Japan but have done the Japanese 101 when I was 12 years old and when I was 30 years old, still can't speak or understand any of it.
Maybe it would help to think of Japanese social interactions as a puzzle to be solved.
12:48 what the blazes where'd you learn that?
The disappearing narrator? That's an editing trick. Take a video of the background, then a video of yourself, and cut between them. I hope that's what you mean.
Never show any weakness to Japan 🇯🇵 ppl I mean never 👎
So don’t talk about anything except for the weather 😂 honestly tho, all those rules sounds exhausting and lonely. I get the whole office politics thing, but you indirectly touched on gossip. And it’s that Japanese gossip behind your back that will kill you. And it’s not just Japan. It’s Thailand and other counties as well. Death by gossip bro.
Gossip is corrosive. But since we can’t control what gets repeated, I suggest just not giving people things to talk about.
@@weeklyfascination what a lonely life
Not at all. Leaving my private life at home prevents all sorts of drama. Anything I want to share gets shared with my friends at the appropriate time and place.
So you can't talk about that stuff but you're expected to drink alcohol with your manager after hours? What do they talk about at the bar then?
During the day, at the office, that’s when this advice applies. When you go drinking, anything goes. Results may vary.
I do not live in Japan but this video contains incredible life advice and is helpful regardless of where I live.
Again, the Japanese society accidentally (or not) fits me like a glove. Cause I forget names and not remember coworkers wifes and kids names. But I do tend to over share. No politics at work is also great.
4:09 nah ! I will pass on that . Find them ,quite annoying and snob . If I wanted to talk to someone acting “ gaijjin” I would chose a random Mate at a pub . Great content! ❤
There are a lot of British and Irish pubs around Tokyo. I cannot vouch for their authenticity since I'm American, but they are always busy.
1:41 For the boys : SDT 🚨 WARNING! Wrap up 😂
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Id never work in Japan w their crazy worker abuse,,no paid overtime and forced drinking parties.
Would you go to Japan for a vacation?
Not forced unless it's like at a traditional company. I teach English and the parties are very rare at my school. And even when there is one, only about half the staff attends.
When I taught English, I don't remember spending time with the other teachers. It's a great way to work in Japan.
I clicked on this video at random, expecting a somewhat stupid video montage and really liked your presence and consistency. So kudos for that. And everything you said is very much true, and should be valid for any office, not just Japanese, especially the workout maniacs endlessly bragging about their bikes, gym, and mountain hikes are truly annoying if you have an invisible disability you've been quiet about. What I really struggle with when working with the Japanese colleagues is discussion of families and children. We spend a lot of social time together travelling in other countries and Westerners like to fill silences with innocent jovial stories about kids and spouses, funny aunts, their childhoods or places where they are from. It's completely normal to ask where people went for vacation or how old their kids are. Even though I know Japanese people don't do that kind of thing, it's a challenge not to try to engage with them in that way because ultimately we work in an international environment and they are in the minority. But alas, I can't resist even though I know it isn't right. Otherwise how do you build a connection with someone? You can't do it while discussing the weather...
There are plenty of safe topics; food, TV shows, etc. When I finally broke down and got Netflix, I started treating watching the latest series like homework. That only worked because the shows were good. But it gave me something to talk about the next day.
@@weeklyfascination Note well taken. At least Extremely Inappropriate gave something to talk about. But otherwise TV shows are not a safe subject for us as we all live in different countries and TV is considered low-brow, so people are reluctant to admit what they watch and what they like, or what they read. But what you are saying finally explains my husband's expert knowledge of what's trending in Korean dramas😂, it seems that's all they talk about with other parents at the Japanese school... I thought it was because most other Japanese there are women, but it's probably not because of gender but rather it's a safe subject. You live you learn. Thank you. Good luck to your channel 👍
Would you believe a Japanese friend of mine booked a trip to Seoul after watching a Korean drama on Japanese TV? She went and visited some of the locations where they filmed. That's how popular Korean dramas are in Japan. But I understand if you're on a team that is spread out around the world, it must be hard to discuss TV.
@@weeklyfascination oh, we were in Korea this summer and visited some filming locations ourselves, it's quite fun and oftentimes local acquaintances volunteered pointing them out. Unlike Japanese TV shows, Kdramas have cinematic quality to them, so the locations become an important part of the show. Otherwise Korea is a bit thin on attractions - not so many fascinating religious sites as in Japan. According to an embassy friend, 90% of all Japanese visitors (tourism and business combined) in Korea are women. We've been to shops where all customers other than ourselves were Japanese women. Cosmetic procedures and Kdramas are apparently driving the Korean tourism sector.
That makes sense. I think that most of the consumers of Korean dramas are women. All of my female co-workers were in love with the actor from "Crash landing on you." And my friend(s) who went to Korea visited day spas and restaurants. Skin care and food. It's such a short flight, about the same amount of time as a bullet train to Kyoto. Given the choice, I can see why so many people choose Seoul. Only been there once, and it was on business, but I loved it.
I live in a country where there aren't a lot of foreigners. I find that people here often confide in me. I think it's because I'm the outsider who doesn't know their friends and family.
You might occupy a special place where people see you as the only person they can talk to, but you might also be a great listener who is trustworthy.
Well done. I am half Japanese, my wife is full, my children are three quarters, we live in Japan, enjoy our lives here as home, and your concepts ring true.
Thank you for watching! I have a friend who is ¾ Japanese. Her mother is ½ Japanese and her father is 100% Japanese. I didn't even know until she told me. She did have the advantage of growing up bilingual.
In my country, colleagues don't really share a lot about their personal details unless we've been working together for a while and has built some rapport. But even then, I still don't know any of their very personal details like partners' or children's names, I just know they have one. Religion and politics are a no as well, I myself isn't really up discussing about it. I thought that was fairly normal and this is considering our people are among the "more sociable" among Asians. People from the West must have been very transparent about their lives.
That's a great point. Building rapport. It just takes time, but it can be done.
Neatly packed information, good stuff.
Glad you liked it!
So different to china, everyone seemed to know everything about their colleagues haha - back on topic, Japanese people can be so lovely but the total privacy level in japan is a bit too much - i prefer the subtle levels we manage in europe
I've never lived there, only travelled. Lots of lovely people in Europe.
My understanding is that China has a deeply rooted value of "networking". Or rather that's roughly how the Mandarin word translates, but it's more akin to the cultivation of relationships, and is regarded as a lifelong pursuit. Something similar exists in Japan but isn't talked about nearly as much.
@@KosstAmojan guanxi
This has been very enlightening, thank you
Thank you! I’m glad you enjoyed it.
If you are talking about prison and drugs in Japan you are so tone deaf you deserve to be ostracized 😂
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Hard for more open and verbal North Americans I guess. Easier to just be cool.
I have to admit that I had to make a few adjustments.
So.... be over sensitive and walk on egg shells while living in fear of other people's feelings..... sounds miserable.
@Davehatessocialists welcome to Japan.
You have a great content 😊
Thank you so much
In Germany we also separate work and private life. Of course it can happen that your collegue turn into a friend, then you share information, but you always should be careful
That's a great way to do it
Same in France, outside people are adorable but office politics are lethal.
Great content mate ! Well I definitely not a weeb nor a living in the bubble ( came here 8 years ago ) . I live among the Japanese don’t mix with another foreigners ( also don’t avoid ) live my life simply and drama free . Also I don’t try to act Japanese or beg their attention . Can’t fit in any of these categories 😂😂 maybe I’m a “ don’t give a damn about other people’s lives minding my own business “ .
Simple life, drama free. That's the best way to live.
So what can you talk about when everything is taboo? This is my dilemma in Japan, and I seem to have put off most Japanese acquaintances by speaking my mind.
Food, work, weather, TV shows. Those all seem to be safe. I tend to stick to talking about work. That's usually the best.
What are your thoughts about western gender politics coming to Japan? How would that swing in an office environment.
I have been in Japan so long that I don’t know much about what’s going on in Western countries. I’m fairly insulated; mostly by choice. But I assume that if Western ideas are imported, they’ll come through foreign-capitalized multinational companies.
Not the same way as in the west. Gender limits women at work. Period. Have many Japanese female friends in Japanese corporate environment, even at the highest level, the stories are horrific.
This Video was really interesting and helpful as i also live in Tokyo currently doing my master and planning to start my career here.
I'm glad it was helpful. I wish someone was making videos like this when I moved to Japan, but then again we didn't have RUclips in the stone age. 🤣
Haha the real cheat for these issues is just don’t speak to Japanese or foreigners . Most people are shite . Japanese are small minded like this island and westerners are obnoxious
Okay so these 9 things are some you don’t wanna talk about in japan work environment. Thank you for this very useful information. If you have anything that are great topics that are commonly talked about or are great conversation topics in japanese work environment, it would be a great squeal to this video
Great point. Things like the latest drama, food, the weather, and work. I might have to make that video. Thanks for the question.
Great, thank you
Glad you liked it!
To be honest a lot of this stuff applies (or should apply) in the west too. Don't overshare, and be judicious about who and when you share information.
Great point. It's probably good just to keep personal and business separate, wherever we work.
There seem to be multiple camps on this. Some say your coworkers are not your friends. Ironically the first Japanese person a got close to was my coordinator. A coworker. She has since left the job and we are still friends. It is very interesting that some of the stuff you brought up, health, family, and relationships. All of which are conversations I have had with her. It’s a bit strange in that our closeness was a bit of an open secret it seems because we were good friends but the people in the office it seems were never allowed to know. Surface level is totally fine. You can talk about music, hobbies, anime, manga, ect. This is how ya build friendships. Just always be mindful of a person’s character, if they seem inconsistent in how they act, it’s probably not someone worth getting close to or else you will be betrayed. Life isn’t so simple it would seem.
I noticed that there are a few ways of looking at this. 1. It's the same everywhere. 2. Your co-workers are not your friends. 3. Japan doesn't sound fun. And you are correct about being mindful of the people at the office. It takes a while, but eventually they tell you who they are.
I lived in Japan as a teenager in the early 1970s and very quickly learned Tactical Secrecy. While I attended an international school, many aspects of a school bullying and a vicious rat-you-out culture, often seen in anime, existed even back then. I still do it today, no anti-social media, personal information is on a don't need to know basis.
I like that. Tactical Secrecy. I'll have to remember that.
As an American, i don't discuss my personal life at work. People will assume you have no life or girl friend but i just believe in keeping personal stuff private. Coworkers are not my friends and I don't need to share personal details with them. I wish more countries were like this.
Thanks for watching. I'd rather have everyone assume I have a boring private life.
I've seen victims of japanese company bullying. Its no joke! To a western view,it would be seen as unprofessional, trival and cowardly,but there it is. Never underestimate the "mob mentality". You have been told!
Since there is so much emphasis on everyone doing things the same way, people can face negative results for being different.
These failure focused mindset sounds like a faulty apple in their society. No idea how Japan should grow healthy with such issues in their back.
I have noticed that some people can be pessimistic. "That won't work." is a common phrase. Even being too positive or optimistic can cause problem.
Great video 😊
Thanks for watching
3:19 Don't you mean "please treat me well?" 😀
Are you thinking of よろしくお願いします?
@@weeklyfascination I was, although I meant it as a joke.
I got it. And it made me laugh.
mansplaining nonsense
How is this mansplaining? I know plenty of women that will use 1000 words to say nothing and this video was pretty substantive with decent advice...
@@lukaswhite362 Thanks for watching. More videos to come soon.
spotted the person who hasn't worked in japan
Why yes, the word mansplaining IS nonsense.
Japanese very cold to each others including family and friends. You never get to share shoulder to lean on each others. They only talk about weather and tv drama.
not true
Sounds like rumors
I had a Japanese person explain it to me this way. They're comfortable being in a crowded train with complete strangers, but they keep their family at a distance, like no hugging.
Hard to accept this as real. In US Everyone lets it all out. We also bond over beers after softball games during weekend. Some of my best friends were/are from work. I mean, you want to be a nice person, but I don’t remember people at work observing all those rules in US. No wonder people are lonely in Japan. You have to live and let live.
Yeah, it's pretty accurate. I had the same experience over decades there. I was quite good at reading the air but I got tired of it and a bit of apathy set in. I just stopped caring whether people were offended or not. I didn't go out of my way tho and avoided talking to people in general just to avoid hassles. However when you're involved in relationships with Japanese people they can't handle it if you ignore that social norm. I would say above any racism or discrimination it is the hardest part of living in Japan. "I don't care they"re upset." is a huge no no.
I know it's hard to believe. I didn't believe it either until I saw it at work in Tokyo.
Thank you for the great video, even after working in Japan for 6 years some of these points hit deeply as I have been burned several times for sharing even the most minute innocent thing about myself that would never in a million years have caused anyone to even blink back home. It results in a culture where you don’t talk about yourself at all, nor do your coworkers, and the entire environment is very robotic and artificial. Those commenting here how your advice sounds like it applies to any culture or humanity in general, simply haven’t lived through this personally. On some level they’re not wrong, but it’s just a whole other level in Japan. lmportantly, I would also point out the effect this has on one’s mental state, as coming from a more socially open culture, adjusting to work or just daily life in Japan vis-a-vis social relationships and social wellbeing is totally different and frankly can be extremely difficult to adjust to. One needs many, many more outlets and support structures to not get worn out and depressed. Knowing the points you brought up in this video is a great way for people to avoid a lot of problems working here. This video is best watched and appreciated by those who are living and working here long-term, definitely not tourists or non-zairyuu card holders.
Thank you. Your comment means a lot. People who have not lived and worked in Japan can find these things surprising. And when you're on the ground, they can still be surprising. I've been lucky to make some amazing friends and they keep me grounded.
Sounds perfect for me. I am an anti-social autist with no social life and 0 communication skills.
That's a positive way to look at it. You just might love it here.
@@weeklyfascination Nah, there is a lot of pressure to actively participate in the "vapid" communication. I tend to show up at the office with my headphones in ignoring everyone like in "American Psycho" and I get called out on it for not greeting everyone with a loud "OHAYOUGOZAIMASU." Its a fine line where you are expected to be sociable but not actually talk about anything meaningful.