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My friend who recently I'm going to put it seems to ghost me probably by this time thinks that I'm ghosting him, It's a good idea one last chance to try and salvage this. But he has a very fulfilled life so I am just an added distraction. Also at my age I've lost the ability to make friends and I haven't found out why yet great video though.

Had a great friend/fellow coworker of 35 years who ghosted me. Yes, a "lifetime" friend. Suddenly, his communication kept getting further and further apart, after almost daily before. I began to wonder what was going on, and I started questioning him. He always blamed it on being "so busy lately". At first, I kind of accepted that, but it became chronic and even more time between our get togethers. I even would go out of my way to help him with his home projects, just to keep our friendship alive. I began to notice he would contact me only when he needed to borrow something. That irritated me, and I mentioned it in a sarcastic way one day. That only drove him further away, to almost non-communication. I also ghosted him back, in hopes he would stop by the house one day and I could talk with him about how I was feeling. This just angered him even more, I think. So, fast forward with an occasional "Hey, how are you doing?" text about every 4-6 months these days. He sent me a message the other day and asked if I'd like to go get a beer. I said yes, but again, something came up and he cancelled. He asked to reschedule on a day I wasn't available, so another impasse. I have began thinking about the situation, and after a couple of years now, I'm not even sure I want to see him at all anyhow. I just have too many ill feelings about the way this all fell apart. I've grieved this loss for a long time, and resolved that he simply didn't value my friendship the way I did his. In essence, I would have crossed over an ocean for him, and I'm not sure he would have jumped over a puddle for me. That's a realization that stings in any relationship. You feel suckered, double-crossed, and half a fool. It's especially hard when this person claimed to be your brother in Christ so many times in the past, and is a leader in a huge local church. If I had done something so egregious in our relationship, biblical principles say he is commanded to at least speak to me about the offense. He has not, and I'm not sure I even care any more about mending anything with him. Feedback appreciated!! Thanks.

Friendship I had with a female co-worker who I valued very much slowly come to an end. It's as if she changed when she's around other people and doesn't really associate with me much more oftentimes I find myself talking to her boyfriend to find out everything that's going on just to get some low-key jealousy comments back from him. So in order for me to fix the relationship with her or I have to get involved in their relationship and that's just a thing I won't do. So unfortunately I had to cut my losses and cut ties with them.

Only old person I listen to

they weren't real friends to begin with. The benefits of growing wiser.

This is true, but it's surprisingly sad. Ghosted, for no real reason. At 62, i always thought we would be talking ever old times...

I've known my best friend for 11 years and sonce 2020 he keeps ghosting me. The most recent time he ghosted me for 4 months and came back a few weeks ago, and he's gone silent again for a whole week. I'm tired of always being the one at fault. I almost ended my life an hour ago but decided I'm committing to making myself better. I'm tired of always being blamed. If i ask him what i did be says he doesn't want to talk about it. He's emotionally abusing me.

I go with ‘there are eight billion people on this planet, most of whom don’t speak the same language as me and who are from different cultures to mine. I know at least some of them would be able to see eye to eye with me, so why stress over people who move on for whatever reason?’

You are very wise!

I’m not even be 50 and I may be 2 years late But I needed this so much thank you

If you have been ghosted, you may be the problem. Are you constantly complaining about people and things? There's only so much negativity one can tolerate. If your friend reduces contact with you, it might be because they're too polite to tell you they're sick of your attitude - learn to take a hint.

This video has helped me alot, I'm going through a tough time and this is just what I needed! ❤️ You've got yourself a new Subscribet ❤

I was ghosted after a death in the family, by someone I thought was a loving, kind person. I treated them like family, to the point of helping them out financially for their pop-up emergency. They said they were going to pay me back, never did, and also conveniently exited the friendship. When I needed help, the money I helped them with was just shy of the amount I needed for an emergency myself. It was like they evaporated. I saw a few months later on social media, they were on a trip somewhere. They could afford a trip but never paid me back. Yep, I learned the hard way. My friendship was of great benefit to them, but it left me broke and broken. Red flag when you become a financial lift for an opportunist. Never again.

This just happened to me. He was my fishing buddy, until he started to make advances and inquiries to having a sexual relationship. I politely declined with good reason, of course and he simply vanished..guess that saved me a lot of trouble, headache and misery…🤷🏼‍♀️

Love your advice. I’m 59 and am a late starter (had my first pregnancy/twins at 46). It takes a while but I do it. I am building a RUclips channel and it is a Herculean effort but I don’t want anything else. I don’t tell anyone my plan except one or two people. Age is an issue, for sure, but it’s also an advantage. I’m wiser and more mature. To age is to know yourself and there is nothing better than to truly know yourself.

I'm 39 but this is the channel for me =)

I learned that lesson late (in my 40's).

As a therapist, I hear often how difficult it is for adults with grown kids to make new friends. Thanks for addressing this topic !

Yes, life is too short to waste on fake friends

Asshats don't like to see you doing well. I had one turn on me this weekend. It does hurt. I thought 🤔 back, it seems anytime I was doing well that friend was an asshat to me.

I thought the video was on a loop because you repeated the same idea and story three times...

Good epression. Yes, I've seen that movie several times in my life. No BS.

Not everyone mellows as they get older

Good to watch this,as I don'feel it just happens to me!

It is great your commitment from 50 to 75, very reasonable. My dad is 81 and very active.

Sometimes you'll find it's actually a covert workplace bully , spreading gossip to elevate their status.

Thanks, that helped!

It worked like magic! Although we are not in talking terms but things are resolved. She admitted her priorities have changed. We ended on a good note and my heart feels so much lighter. Thank you so much!

Man you just made my day 🎉 Thx 😊 & God bless you 🌟 👍 💪 🙏

5:07 true

Love this video Inspiring stuff 👏

My best friend of 25 yrs is ghosting me and it hurts like hell, as I don’t have friends. My ex boyfriend who cheated on me also ghosted me and felt like he did not owe me an apology for how he has hurt me. Guess I will live the rest of my life alone. Thank God for my animals 💕

I am retired. Had a friend for 15 years, that got married (which is great), and pretty much ghosts me now. And he lives 15 minutes away! We were "Full Time Friends", always talking on the phone and doing things together several times a month. Now, I hear from him twice a year, via a awkward phone call, and I never hear ONE peep from him over the last 2 Christmas;thanksgving;new years.

Thank you for this video. I’ve retired from educational administration after 36 years and have decided to pursue standup. Your video was encouraging, and resonates with me in a powerful way. Thank you!

I had a friend of 20 years. We talked every day, I was there for him during his divorce, when his mom died, when he got fired, just everything. I had a fairly easy life so there was not much of a reason to be there for me. And then things changed. My wife and I separated and I was devastated. While I am usually a very manly man, I was just broken ... he got kind of annoyed at me as I wasn't the fun person to hang out with. One evening, he said let's just hang out and 'get you better'. He gave me advice about what I should do but I wasn't receptive, I was just broken. I cried. And then it happened, after 20 years of friendship, he got up, said "I don't want to deal with this depression bullsh**", shook my hand and left. That was the last time I ever talked to him. I called him the next morning but he didn't pick up, instead he just sent a hurtful email. How I should stop whining and clean up around me. I was just flabbergasted. Of course I pulled through. After I got a divorce, I found a new girlfriend, my job was great, my career skyrocketed, made new friends, etc. The moment he must have found out that I am thriving, again he started reaching out to me. First through old mutual friends and then texting me as if nothing ever happened. I am disgusted. How can someone be so cold, cruel and disgusting? I of course didn't reply then anymore. I honestly don't understand what makes him better than a Nazi or cockroach... how could he have slept at night? Leaving when i was crying after I helped him though his struggles? How can someone live like that? I am so happy that he is out of my life, forever. While he may try to contact me again, there is no chance ever that I could reconcile.

what about a friend who totally ghosted me who live in the same place in the same students building and the two of them do that to me.. we're not children but my friend does this now and I see her alot in the street or in the building and I'm feeling little hurt like we have been friends for a year and now it's overwhelming me.

when I don't hear from them, I just let them keep going! I'm not chasing anyone down and I know I did nothing wrong. This is the 2nd time this person has done this to me and she admits she was wrong last time - yet is now ghosting again! I deleted her number without saying a word and she can keep staying GONE. She has issues and I'm not bothering with her anymore.

I got really sick and almost died back in 2022. Since then I’ve been ghosted by one of my best friends from childhood. Someone I never thought would do this to me. I’m still recovering from the trauma of almost dying, I’m still in constant pain and discomfort, and my recovery is ongoing. My friend who I thought was one of my forever friends, in ghosting me, they’ve broken my heart. I’m utterly destroyed and shocked by this. When you get sick you soon find out who your real friends are. It’s very crushing and I’ve stopped trying to make contact with her now as she has made it very clear she wants nothing to do with me. Mourning the loss of a long friendship like this is soul destroying. I have no idea why she suddenly stopped caring about me. It’s humiliating to be ghosted like this when you’ve been so ill. I’m trying to focus on the brilliant friends who have been there for me and very supportive, but I’m still crushed by the loss of this friendship. I can’t even be bothered to text her to ask why. I’ve just accepted the situation and I’m trying to move on but it’s hard to accept when a former bestie just ghosts you like this.

Spot on!

Its so funny how a friend who you used to exchange I love you's can just drop you without any explanation and keep going without a second thought

I’m the friend that pulled away because of issues that came up that I’m not ready to discuss yet. Especially since it’s with a new friend that I would have to tell.. yep I agree sometimes this is definitely a reason y someone can pull away and the other person wouldn’t even know why.

Yes agree , being ghosted 2x in not even a ueat by same person, bye bye person ... even after telling me what a good friend we are , still ghosted me bravo, not impressed, but I am not the one that will miss our conversation... will see when that hapoens when the person starts begging for attention. .....never did anything to anyone, at this point

Hi Thom thank you I feel better now I know I messed up I will try one more time if she ghosts me again we r done.😊😊😊

that last advice is Gold!

I was ghosted by a girl friend recently, and firmly believe she was social climbing with our friendship. (She has so many business ventures going on) It hurts so bad to be ghosted without explanation. People certainly have the right to do what's best for them. I tried communicating to clarify what happened. No response. And I have absolutely no idea what happened? I have to make peace with her decision. I'm wondering if this is a pattern for her? We'd been friends for 5 months when the ghosting happened. As you mentioned, some people cycle through friends.

I’m going through this.

I had this happen a couple of years ago. I was in Vegas with a friend, we were going to go out that night. He just got all weird and accusing me of things. I thought he was on something, but he said that he wasn't. I got scared because at one point during our interactive I thought he might hurt me. He was phyically bigger than me. Its like some switch in his head flipped. I tried reaching out to him a couple of times via text, with a little response but then the last time I sent a message I got no response. I still don't know what happened that day, which for me the not knowing is the worst part of it. I don't believe I did something otherwise I would have applogized for it.

Yup, that is why I have dogs. A friend that ghosts you is no friend at all.

That's why it's not worth being friends with anyone. A dog is loyal humans aren't worth the effort.

I would much rather be ghosted by someone then have them explain why they don't like me. They are ghosting you because they are no longer interested in a friendship with you. Their reason does not matter. It's their business not yours. They are sparing your feelings by not giving you their reason. If someone no longer wants me in their life, I don't need their negative opinion of me. I will just notice that they have stopped calling. Get the point............and move on. It hurts. But their "reason" is sure to hurt you much worse.