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Hi @khushbootiwari844, Thank you for your question! As you watched this video and are asking this question it seems that you perceive there is a problem. It also depends how long you have been together with your partner, how much their actions are affecting you and what those are. I would recommend setting boundaries. First of all you should sit down with your partner and have an honest conversation about this. If you haven’t already. Explain how you feel. If your partner has a habit of tagging along to everything with you, specify that you need space. Be clear about what you’re comfortable with and what you’re not accepting. Also observe your partner's reaction to this. If they act as if they don’t hear you and you give them some time to prove that they respect your boundaries, yet that doesn’t happen it might be worth thinking about whether to stay or not. Does the relationhip give you energy or take it away? I hope this will bring some clarity and positive changes in your relationship. Take care🌺 // Sofia Kiwi

@@sofiakiwi1997 really grateful for your advice! Keep growing and spreading awareness<3☺️

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Thank you for the comment! 😊 I am happy to hear that you find this video helpful. Regarding the ex, she most likely will return as manipulators love playing their games so remember that your boyfriend should stand strong. Take care ☀️🌺

Hi, @AyukaXD! 😊 Thank you for the comment and for sharing your experience. You are right that a lot of people have narcissistic and manipulative traits but it becomes a problem when those qualities are dominating. Also I want to point out that manipulative and narcissistic people are experts at being subtle. That’s usually how they start out and it’s the reason for why it’s easy to get deep into a relationship with them. This person you are talking about probably came back because you were his energetic supply. Manipulators, abusers and narcissists have a tendency to try and reunite with their victim. Unfortunately it’s tempting to give them a second chance in hopes that they have indeed changed or that things will be as great as they were in the beginning of the relationship. You are totally right that it’s not okay to manipulate others and it’s great that you have realized who this guy was. You unmasked him. Bravo! 🎉 I know that memories about this situationship and the very fact that it happened to you can sting but I sincerely hope that you have cut all ties with this person. It’s for your own good. Anything he said or did was not your fault. It was HIM not you. Sending you a big hug 💕

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@papercoolcat Thank you for your comment! ☺ I am happy to hear you found my video helpful. First of all, I want to applaud you for ending it with this person!! 🎉It's so easy to blame yourself after being in a toxic relationship. Manipulators are experts at guilt tripping and putting the blame on you for their actions. Anything that person said or did to you is NOT your fault. I sincerely hope you will feel better soon and most importantly don’t leave any ‘’window’’ open. Block, delete, mute. Throw them out of your life completely and don’t doubt that you made the right decision.❣ Sending you my virtual hugs 🌺

@@sofiakiwi1997 You are too kind. Thank you <3

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@noorsajee7376 I am not sure I understand your question right but people are different. Some men like younger women and some like older. It all comes down to what every person wants and prefers ☺

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@johnrainsman6650 Thank you for your comment!🌞 Tension in the workplace and with a specific colleague is unpleasant. Usually you spend a lot of time together that's why it's important to deal with it as soon as you regognize something isn't right. Clearly you are affected by your colleagues behaviour so trying to ignore it would only make you waste more energy on overthinking. I don't know how often you work together or if you have other collegues. Then I would try to talk to them as well. Ask them how they percieve this guy. Maybe he treats everyone like this. In the end the only way to get some clarification is to confront this guy. Of course you shouldn't ask him ''Why don't you like me?''. This phrase points at you seeking his approval. Which you might never fully get and you don't need it. It's important to understand that there will always be people that like us but also those that for some reason don't. My advice would be to try and talk to him. You don't have to be buddies but it's good to find out what this is about. Keep me updated on what you decide to do or if the situation changes somehow .Take care 🌺

@@sofiakiwi1997 Thanks. I'll talk to him tomorrow.

Well, I talked to the guy (let's call him Tom), and he explained why he's mad at me. I was on a hypnotist show about a week ago, and he was in the audience. It turns out, I said some beIittIing things about him. The hypnotist asked me to share a complex philosophy I have, and I said that hard work doesn't always make people smart or noble. And I used Tom as an example. See, I talked about how he was a slow learner. How he went to a small charter school and not the local public high school. How he graduated at 20, not 18. How he didn't have a driver's license, still lived with his mom at 28, and seemed incompetent to do things by himself at work. I told the hypnotist that some people are smart and hardworking and thus become successful; some are smart but lazy and thus don't manage what they _could_ (like getting good grades). That some people are hardworking but not smart, like Tom. Oh, he's a very hard worker, both at catering and school. He actually graduated at our college in 2021. He stuck around at work while finding his career. Thing is though, he hasn't found it, and I concluded he wouldn't. That catering was best for an unskilled guy like him. Tom reveals I said that onstage. I figured pretty much anyone could graduate at college, because if you just work hard, you can pass your classes and eventually get a degree. Didn't mean I thought Tom was _smart_ though. Just hardworking. Apparently I said Tom's only strengths were his choices--dedication and effort. Said the rest of the crew here were much better than him and had more brains. I said the words "incompetent" and "inferior" matched Tom. After he explained everything I said, I told him I would never _willingly_ say this stuff, let alone to hurt him, and that I was merely in a trance. But he said it didn't matter, because I still thought little of him. That I thought he was "practically a Ioser, with only his diligience going for him, no natural skills," quote me onstage. Tom's switching over to this cafe on campus. He doesn't feel comfortable working with someone who doesn't respect or believe in him. He's not mad at me for what I _said._ He's mad at me for what I _think,_ no matter the lack of intention. And you know what? He's right. I do think he's less/lesser. I do think students/graduates from his old school are inferior to the ones from the bigger school. I do think students with learning disabilities and/or in Special Ed are intellectually below. I do think it's "just wrong" that Tom graduated from college three years ago and still hasn't gotten his career, that he still lives with his mom. And I can't simply change the perspective; it's *_automatically_* in me, glued inside. It's like you don't specifically know why you're more attractive to blondes than brunettes, you just are...or why you like one movie series more than another, you just do. *_Automatically._* I don't like this about myself. Tom said it's possible to be an asshoIe and disrespectful in private, and I see what he means.

@@johnrainsman6650 Hi John! Thank you for the update. It’s good that you talked to Tom. Now you know the reason why he is acting this way. I don’t know if you said Toms name or if you just mentioned so many details that he figured out you were talking about him. Also I am wondering if this hypnotist show was organized in the university or if it didn't have any connection to it? The reason I think about it is if you could suspect that Tom would be in the audience, in that case giving him as an example was playing with fire. Otherwise it was an unfortunate coincidence. Also when it comes to speaking about something in public you have to be very careful with what you say. Especially nowadays when the majority of people have mobile phones and can record an audio or video of certain moments. Even if you don’t mean to hurt anyone it could still be perceived as a violation. It’s true that as you said that some people are smart and hardworking and thus become successful; some are smart but lazy and thus don't manage what they could (like getting good grades). I think that you should have talked more in general or tried to be short with it. Giving many details and potentially mentioning Tom’s name (I don’t know if this happened or not) was crossing the line from giving an example to a personal insult. The thing is, all people have a right to have their own opinion but it matters WHAT you say and HOW you say it. It’s also important to remember that you never know what someone is going through, what battles they fight and what sacrifices they have made. You say you were merely in a trance but hey, to me it sounded like you were very specific about describing Tom as ‘’incompetent’’ and ‘’inferior’’. Tom seems like a nice person and hopefully he won’t hold a grudge against you. This is a lesson for you to be more careful with what you say. If you had been talking to a trusted friend in this situation it would be one thing. Discussing this publicly and speaking in detail was what became the problem here. Finally, it was good that you brought this up. Because if you didn't realize this was hurtful for Tom, now you know it. If you haven’t apologized yet you should do that. If you have, great! I suggest you move on and keep this situation in mind. Try to be more thoughtful of others' feelings in the future and remember that you don’t have to suppress your opinion just make sure it doesn’t sound like an insult. I wish you a nice day. Take care🌞 🌺

@@sofiakiwi1997 Wait, hold on, I'm totally confused. You wrote _"You say you were merely in a trance, but hey, to me, it sounded like you were very specific about describing Tom as incompetent and inferior."_ I don't see your point. Are you suggesting I wasn't in a trance? Because I truly was. And Yeah, I said this very specific stuff in the trance, to describe my complex philosophy, with Tom as the main subject. This isn't about filter or tact; that would imply free-will. It was hypnotic control. I can't be careful with what I say under hypnosis, if that's what you were suggesting. If I'd have known what I was gonna say, I wouldn't have gone up on that stage (which was indeed at the school, yeah). Tom said I used his name (which isn't *actually* "Tom", remember) and recalled my words in my trance. He wouldn't make any of this up. You ever told someone, "Read my mind"? Well, everything Tom claimed I said...well, it IS what I think. Again, "read my mind." That's enough evidence. And I _know_ his anger is genuine. What do you mean by I should've talked more in general or tried to be short with it? How was I crossing the line? Do you mean when I was on that stage? Again, it was hypnosis and I spoke my mind (complex philosophy) in a self-uncontrollable trance. Hypnotists can make you say what's on your mind; they have the control. Of course I apologized to Tom. But Tom knows it doesn't change the way I feel about him. He said, "John, I can't work with someone who doesn't respect me. There is a _difference_ between respecting and appreciating people. You appreciate my hard work, but you don't respect my skills or brains, because you don't think I have them. You think I _just_ have my diligence as a strength. You think I'm Mr. _'Gee...I don't get it.'_ You think I'm weak, or at the very least, weaker than the people around me. I won't tolerate that view." And like I said, Sofia, I do think that, honestly. I always treated him with respect, sure...but on the inside, I have none for him. It's contradictory: I appreciate him, but I don't respect him. And I can't change it on command/by free will. Like I said, the view/feelings are automatically glued inside of me.

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Thanks a lot 🖤 I will reach out ​@@sofiakiwi1997

@mamun3192 Hi! Thank you for being so open and leaving a comment 😊 You should absolutely NOT destroy yourself!! Everything you describe in your comment I felt too when I dated a narcissist. It’s what they do. The best thing would of course be to keep as much distance as possible to your girlfriend. If you are still in a relationship and feel like you can’t or don’t want to end it for some reason you should learn to protect yourself. I want to remind you that everything bad you have ever heard from her isn’t true. Narcissists always focus on your shortcomings and are experts at finding new flaws that are probably very insignificant or weren't a flaw to begin with but the narc made it into your flaw. Try to imagine you have this shield in front of you everytime you hear negative comments or mean words. In the tug of war the narcissist will always win so don’t try to fix her as you said. You are right about the fact that it will be a waste of energy. Remind yourself that the problem isn’t you. I decided to leave two links to videos here on my channel that you might find helpful. One is about rules of behaviour with a narcissist. The second is how to recover from narcissistic abuse. If you haven’t seen them yet I recommend you to do that. 🌺🌻 Link to 10 rules of behavior with a narcissist ruclips.net/video/Ox8UIjeMYv8/видео.html Link to 6 ways to recover from narcissistic abuse ruclips.net/video/zZu8jMoEBG0/видео.html Take care// Kiwi

@@sofiakiwi1997 wow, it’s amazing. I broke up with her five days ago. Now, I am in the trauma bonding period. I always felt like I have been mentally abused. Thanks for your support take love 🖤🖤

@@mamun3192 I am so happy for you!! 🎉🎉 You took this big step to actully free yourself from this toxic union. Good job! Now, don't let her convince you to give it another chance. Often narcissists return. Mine did. This is the only time when you should remember all the bad things that was going on in the relationship. Remember it and don't let history repeat. The best way is to end communication, no matter how hard it might be and block this person from all social media accounts. Be strong 🌞💪

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