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I think a mature man would understand that if a woman leaves, she saw you and didn’t like it. By the time she left she’s done. Even if she gives you another chance it will not be the same as before. Men need to stop damaging relationships and expecting to get the same woman back

42:56 I literally saw this happen in real time it was so AKWARD 😂 Cus it was his guy friend that stole her less than 15 minutes. Her and the guy that took her attempted to act funny towards me. I had to check them like I’m not a push over like that guy act correctly please.

The worst part is I am so busy and have so much I’m trying to accomplish and do but when I was in a relationship I put it all on hold to nurture that. I thought it was what required. 🤦🏽‍♀️ Now I prefer to be alone again, it’s less stress, I can do me and I’m so happy! People ask me if I’m in love I am so happy. I don’t know if the joys of a relationship are as amazing as the joys of being by myself.

I really love you too ❤

5 boundaries you must set with men : * 1) no freebies ! (emotional and physical freebies / gf treatment) - remind youreslf at the beginning that he s a STRANGER - if he wants to convince you otherwise => he wants to play with your psyche (love at first sight, disney princess syndrome etc = manipulation tactic) - if you refuse to give freebies, you enable the men to do their actual job which is PURSUE you (as they should purrr💅) - them leading doesnt mean your job to aim towards the direction and control the speed is over! * extra tip : pace yourself and be patient ! - if he gets annoyed or becomes manipulative that means that he wants to take advantage of you - "the men in your life that are trying to take advantage of you they will always be upset / react negatively to you taking your time, pacing yourself, setting boundaries and waiting to analyze sitiations before making decisions" - Tomisin - the longer she waits and analyzes him, the worse are his chances to be successful in taking advantage of her (because she realizes he s a bum early on) * 2) time is money ! - your time is very valuable to you, you do not sit around and "go with the flow" with whatever comes your way - you have to be very intentional with your time : if they think you do not take your time seriously they will WASTE it! - when you dont take your time seriously guys dont even have to fool you, you have already fooled yourself. you become a gold mine for bums like them, and it is not their job to make you aware that you are wasting your time (which is money) - YOU are the only one that loses when you re letting bums waste YOUR precious time * 3) you need to learn how to be a drill sergent ! - "men are always going to come into your life and TEST YOU. they want to test to see if you are someone who can be emotionally broken. if they can take advantage of you or get you to do something that you said you weren't going to do." - Tomisin - at the beginning you are going to be setting the foundation for everything else in the relationship with your behavior - set very clear boundaries from the beginning and REINFORCE them later on - basically train that dawg ! punish bad behavior, reward good behavior (pavlov that mf) - there are consequences to their behavior - you give them only 2 options : he either shows up as you expect him to show up as a man (and you get access to me) OR HE CAN CAN F OFF - use access to you as a leverage - this earns you RESPECT from men. men despise you for letting them walk all over you and feel disgust because you dont stand on business - being a drill sergent wont feel good, but a person who is serious about you will have no problem with you setting and reinforcing boundaries * extra tip : give stories about "the graveyard" - the guy who tried to bullshit his way into your life, and the consequences for him trying you => moral of the story : if he tries to act up, he will end up like that guy : no access to you whatsoever - use storytelling to subtly give hints about what is off limits for you - make sure to make it sound like a horror story too ! - bring them up from the first date and keep giving them during the next dates too * 4) let them know from the first date that they are not special - "you are not that special that you can do whatever you want in this relationship and get away with it. if you do something to me, if you disrespect me, if you cross a boundary, if you go too far, you will not be able to just come back" - no amount of money, muscles, good looks etc will ever make you take this man back if he has disrespected you ! - if he fucks up, he gets treated the same way as other people have been treated before him - he needs to see that you actually do what you say : when a girlfriend disses you, she gets cut off - be a fair judge : a fair judge would never give a sexy man a lesser charge just because he s sexy. the fair judge will give the same amount of time in the joint that he gave to other criminals before, for the same crime * 5) let them know that your life / world doesn't stop just because you either come into it, or you leave it - when men meet you, they will try to exercise their power : he calls you at inconvenient times (knowing damn well you have important things to do the next day) to see if you are willing to accept to lose sleep/money/time because of them - we are NOT door dash ladies - they MUST plan and schedule ahead of time in order to get access to you

You are a breath of fresh air ✨️ thank you.... I embrace and practice all your ideas.... I feel sad for the women who resist..... a high value woman who wants a high value man... will be able to filter out low value men easily and quickly by applying your processes... thank you 😊

This is my situation all the way. Can you please tell us if an how this can be turned around. 🙏

SCAMMY MEN

55:00- Goodness I made that mistake with my 2nd husband. I was in a bad place in my life. I was doing the most. He was a stray dog looking for a home and a meal.

Hello, My name is Martha, I was Born in Poland and live in Germany an so I am sorry for My englisch😊 I am not an native speaker. Despite that, I love to watch your Show. I am a divorced and Single Mum of 2 Girls and a Teacher. This year I turned 40 and accidently found your Podcast. I just want to thank you for your work. You actually changed My life. I startet to do me, My hobbies, My life, My friends, My work (which I love)… just me. And I am persued from 3 Men at the Same Time including My ex Husband !!! BUT thank you I dont even care 😂 and all I did ist enjoying My life and doing NOTHING else 😊 If you are once in Hamurg (Germany), I would be glad to you and your Accompaniment some touristic Tour 😊 Your Fan, Martha ❤

The fans are bipolar. The other day he was thirsty and people LITERALLY sent you money to coerce you into getting your water which was upstairs in your gym bag and no one had a problem when you did it. Noooww it’s..”it hurts our ears when you drink.” Pick a struggle and stand 10 toes down ladies. Damn! 😭🤣😒

59:32 oh you trying to get someone kilt.

I'm sorry for a 24 year old, she is pretty dumb. No boundaries, no sticking to her goals, any smooth talker can basically talk her out of her panties - I have no idea how she managed to hold on to her virginity that long. Sorry girl - think of my as your auntie from Germany! I think if you had sat down and read your message before you send it and imagined your best friend is telling you all this - you know exactly what to do, and would have walked away from this - or better yet - not engaged in the first place. You are lucky you have not been SA'd or worse. You are just the "virgin notch" on his bucket list, and with the luck you're playing with - you'll get knocked up in the process or catch some STDs. Be smarter - I know you can be! I really think our girl does not get much attention from men for whatever reason - for her to get suckered in by a guy like this. Make up your mind - if your virginity is this important for you, then preserve it at all cost by making better choices. You know guys like this type - assuming you'll ever get to marriage in the first place, will make your life a living hell! If you want to have a sex life - then go and have a sex life. Get on contraceptives, stock up on condoms and get it out of your system so you can clear your head and get back to your actual life goals. Oh wait - that doesn't work either - especially not with your first love affair and the guy you lose your virginity to - you'll get attached one way or the other, courtesy of oxytocin. You're screwed one way or the other... Be smart and make better decisions...

1. Solving your problems. 2. Shared activities/experiences 3. Fun for all.(puts his happiness aside, for yours) 4. Patiently allows you to be you. (he wants to discover you) 5. Second brain ( asks opinions,he trusts your hudgement ) 6. Being protective. 7. He wants to learn from you.

I don't have 2 hours to listen to 4 things. Thank goodness for the comments. they deserve 100x likes

Now CiCi....

Men only marry for social status, for the benefits that a marriage brings to them and to spread their dna. And for that they need a traditional woman who has qualities like being a virgin, feminine, faithful, soft, homely. Basically the exact opposite of the fun girl. But they LOVE the fun girls and never actually give them up even when married. Dude dating sites are filled with married men ready to cheat

I LOVE YOU ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

1:29:06 👏

Facts. No one (man or woman) wants a partner who is too combative but no one wants a pushover either. It’s a delicate balance. A smart man will also not jeopardize his relationship and his access to your pineapples.

the cheesecake factory example lololololol

I LOVE YOU!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤

You know what tomisin* Keep making those mini skits It eye opening on how fool i was 😂 ! Feels like healed and fun just by watching it .. You saver !

😂😅 “why am I whispering “?

Thom♥️💯 facts , u young women are truly blessed to have this man tell you everything that goes on in a man's mind n at my big age we had nobody givin up the game. actually experienced every single thing that he's talked about. Where was this guy in my day.

Man! Even the Christian men cannot behave!

Trauma at 50!??? Do you know you have 30 minutes ???

You are a genius❤ also can you do a show on story time examples. I can’t seem to get down the right thing to say. Also the feedback loop is so important, I would be so happy and so appreciative and thought he knew that but later he told me he didn’t I’m still learning and trying to figure out appropriate ways to reciprocate because when I turn that part on I can end up doing too much.

Your advice works too well.....lol guy told me i ❤ you after date #1

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They will try to get the easiest sex always . It’s our job to respect ourselves. I am Pacing it because he has not earned the sex from me. I was at a guys house at a gym pool party and I saw another side of him and I lost interest!! I told him “good riddance…” he said I’m cold blooded lololol. Bye 👋 Losing interest is forever!

“Give a man everything he wants and at that moment everything is not everything.” - Immanuel Kant You give him what he says he wants and then he will start complaining because you arent doing something else. He will move the goal post and next thing you kno you were on earth and now your living on Pluto

I agree SheRaSeven he says that we should be extra grateful and feminine and kind when a man does something that we like because it creates a positive reinforcement loop and not enough feminist do this. They’re too mean and all the time and you don’t have to be always perfect, but you need to be nice when you need to be nice

Wisdom

They tell u to speak up and be clear but they're not clear themselves 🙄

Great insights, very intriguing thanks

Tomisin i’mma try and keep up with your videos, love the work you put out there for us we learn so much!🙏

😂 men with game are gonna kill you trying to do this

That is exactly what happens to me ! Lady’s pay attention he is absolutely on point

What about saying: "your happiness is my priority"

I love this guy!!!! This is my first time hearing the discord session. I was confused like “WHAT TIME IS IT??!!!!” 🤣😂😂😂😅🤦🏿‍♀️. I love it here. 🖤

You can absolutely drink water!!! Just mute the mike when you gulp. That's it, it's courteous. There is no need to take offense to it. It's just feedback.

Ofcourse, men have feelings ❤ I ❤ men

My ex did the standing up for someone for a girl friend, he told me he got her a job as well. After this I friend zoned him but then he told me she was just a friend. Weeks after we broke up he started liking her pictures. She’s his dream girl, I should have trusted my instincts on that one. It would have saved me so much pain. How do we handle men who say they used to have feelings for a woman who is still a somewhat distant friend. They don’t talk all the time but they are friends and he goes to her when making important life decisions. If that person doesn’t want them, do we continue?

lol I actually like hearing you drink water, it feels like I am about to be hydrated 😂 Asmr Classical conditioning I guess😅

1. 8:24 Use texting as a scheduling tool only 2. 11:30 make the date all about him. Be quiet as a church mouse and ask him questions about him. Yes it Fred’s his ego, feed it. 3. Make him jealous. At a party talk to other people act like you’re having a good time. 4. Inspiration: 🦾 1: is inspired by the way you live your life. 🦾 2: he is inspired to be a better version of himself

Extremely abusive and demonic. That’s what this is he’s explaining.

I thought that a guy speaking of his past relationships is a red flag.

I think he categorized me as " one night stand " but IDC. I didn't sleep with him and will not but he still sticks around asking to hang out. I hang out with him in public places but when its time to ask for the goodies, I bounce 😂

As a man I can tell you that none of this will work if that man is extremely attractive, we have too many options so we don't care if you text back or not. As a matter of fact it might backfire on you and get you ignored